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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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My friend is having a family crisis and her life is falling apart. I've tried comforting her, since I know how it feels. I feel so helpless, though, as if I could do more to help her. Should I call to make sure she's alrite or just give her space? I'm so worried about her. What should I do to help? Thanks in advance.

I would give your friend some space. Tell her if she needs to talk, you're there for her. If she needs somewhere to stay, your door is always open, and if she can't sleep, you'll be there on the other line with her until she can fall asleep no matter what hour it is in the morning. Just let her know that you're there if she needs you, and leave it at that. If she wants help, she'll come to you. Until then, there's nothing you can do. This is a personal dillema that only she can do something about, but she doesn't have to face it alone.

hey i am 15/f and i am a really depressed person i have a really really low self esteme and i don't know why i mean i am not ugly but sometimes i feel like i am and feel that i can't go anywhere because of the way i look i feel like i would look grose to people even though there is nothing wrong with me and alot of people like me and alot of people think i am really pretty but sometimes i just don't see it
can you help me find someways that will help me see that i am not ugly
how can i look at myself and actually like the way i look for once

When you're 15 years old, you're almost never going to like how you look, act, talk or dress. Nothing is good enough for you. And that's fine. You're 15. Things don't have to click yet. Life at this time is about fun & being spontaneous & random. When you're a teenager, life is about finding yourself & finding out who you are. Every week I change my mind about myself. I change my mind about my look, my career path, my clothes, my personality, everything. And it'll probably never stop until I'm older & wiser.

Like you, I like the way I look half the time. The other half I'm critisizing everything about myself & talking down on myself. Sometimes I think I'm pretty, sometimes I think I'm ugly. Sometimes I think I'm fat, sometimes I think I'm skinny. My thoughts are forever changing. And it's just because I don't know who the hell I am yet. And I've still got plenty of time to figure it out.

Try not to care what other people think of you. Nobody's opinions matter. If you wanna dye your hair purple & get 10 trillion piercings because that's what you like, then do it. If you wanna be a teacher & dress like a teenager at the same time, then do it. Do what makes you happy. Do what makes you feel comfortable, and don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something. When you stop caring how other people look at you & what they think about you, you'll be much happier.

How do i change the background on my view more pictures?

You'd have to know a ton of HTML to do that, and I unfortunately don't know how to do it.

Maybe use google & find a code?

i have lipstick i like, but it never stays on. is there something i can put over it (like a lcear gloss, etc) that well make it stay on longer???

I would try the lipglosses & lipsticks that are meant to stay on all day. If you can't afford them, then just reapply your's when you see it's fading.

Hey there,

Tomorrow's my prom night, and I'm really excited.
Of course I want to be dancing with my date, and I'm confident enough that I don't mind if I look like a loser, and I know I'll get out there and actually dance.

Problem is that I never really got any good. I still dance like a white boy.

Are there any general tips I can be thinking about when I'm out there, just for casual hanging-out dancing?

Thanks.

Just work with the rythym, or just wing it. I'm sure she's not gonna care how you dance. It's prom. Everyone's gonna be having too good of a time.

how can you search for someone's name on yahoo! mail? this girl wants me to send her something but i totally forget her email address- i remember it was at yahoo mail though. PLEASE HELP!

Ask her what her email is again.

i love my best friend [aka. Barley] but she's so annoying..what should i do? HELP!

Tell her how you feel. If she's your friend, she'll try to fix it. If nothing changes, drop her.

My mom said sometimes I act ditzy, or dumb. but i don't. i'm just being silly. thats how i am. i make jokes out of everything, and i smile alot and talk alot. and i was telling my mom, how this one girl, got like all mad because i dno whatever i said, and she told me that i have to change how i am around certain people. but i'm having a hard time agreeing with that. like why should i change who i am, just to impress someone? or anything? shouldnt i be who i completely am, all the time. i dont think its right that i should have to, be more quit, or not laugh as much or whatever, just for someone to like me.

what do you think? do you think im being wrong about this?

In a way I agree with your mother. There's a time to be goofy, and a time to be serious. When you're applying for a job, you're obviously not gonna be goofy, same way you wouldn't be goofy if you were at a funeral or a hospital. It's not to change how you are for people to like you, but to know when to be serious & when not to be.

I can not figure this out it's n cute is what we aim for, theres a class for this!

this is a party with out the people

this is a show without hte sound

this is a dance without the steps,

now I gave you the clues so guess what I found

Shaant's writing is always really hard to figure out, and some people never really do.

Basically when you think about it, a party without people is nothing. A show without sound is boring. And a dance without the steps is walking.

I don't think there is a riddle behind it. I think it's just a lyric.

I've been friends with this girl since third grade. This year, well, let's just say I learned who she REALLY was. (She told my best friend's boyfriend that they were a lesbian just to get him to break up with her cause she liked him. She also went on that same girl's screen name and cussed me and alot of other people out.) Me and all of my friends are s-i-c-k of how she treats us, so we're all trying to just back off from her. She also drinks, so we aren't even allowed to hang around her in the first place. She keeps coming out of no where (I don't even know where the hell the stalker is coming from) and interrupting me, yells about how we didn't wait for her, then asks us what we're talking about. If we don't do something with her, she freaks out. She's been pissed off at all of us each at least once every day for the past two weeks. She was going through our purses today looking for notes when we weren't looking. Isn't that like a little bit obsessive? GAH! How do I get her to leave me alone?!

Wow dude, if I was friends with this girl I would've hit her already, but that's not the solution I'm giving you.

You & your friends need to tell her exactly what you think of her. Tell her you're sick of her shit, she's annoying & you don't wanna be friends with her. She's evil, kaniving, backstabbing & obsessive.

It's rude to drop her, but enough is enough. Cut her loose.

im a 17/f. Basically i knoda just miss my ex. what shout i do. I broke up with him

If you broke up with him, you must've had a good reason, no? Try to remember why you did it & then dwell on it. If you think you made a mistake & you still miss him a lot, then talk to him. Tell him you made a mistake & you miss him. And then see if he's willing to try things back out. If he's not, then you've gotta accept the fact that this was your bad, and that you need to move on.

Just a bunch of random questions...but someone please help.

a) How do you make-out? All my friends tell me it just comes naturally but i just don't get it.

b) How do you give a blow-job//hand-job?

c) Does sex//fingering//eating out hurt?

[A] When kissing, you open your mouth & put your tounges in each other's mouths & move it around. Basically, you massage their tounge with yours. I'm not sure if that's what you're looking for, but your friends are right. Kissing does come naturally.
[B]

Click search.
[C] Sex is going to hurt the first few times basically because your vagina has to stretch in order to fit the penis inside of it. If the guy is going super fast, it's going to kill, so make sure he goes nice & slow. Fingering doesn't hurt unless they're scraping you or shoving their finger in you all super hardcore. Sex/fingering should feel good. I've never been eaten out, but I'm sure it doesn't hurt since it's their tounge..

I am a bit nervous, and I hope someone can help me. I have never had a regular period, I don't know why, but it's never the same time of month and sometimes I skip a month. So I never really know when it is going to start. Anyway, last night I went to the restroom and there was a little blood, just a few spots. I just thought I had started, though it was weird because normally when I first start it is heavy. Well today, I haven't bled at all. What could that have been? Is something wrong with me? I have heard of girls spotting before, but I don't remember the reason and if it's even close to normal? Thanks anyone who can help me : )

I'm not sure how long you've had your period for. Whether you've just started, or been on it for a while, so I'm not sure. I know spotting is very much normal & it's nothing to worry about.

I know that when you're pregnant & you spot, it's a sign of having a miscarriage.

okay.. im so pasinate about god and im 14. I love talking about him and i want to live a god centered life. I go to church but everyone in my youth group goes to have fun with everyone and flirt with eachother which is annoying because none of them like having serious convos about god and make christians look bad. I want to find a good group of chrstians to talk to about jsut everything and kinda like have them as a support group to encourage me to continue living for god. but i feel so lonely all the time like no one really wants to live for god at this kind of age. my mom tells me i have a old soul so it will be hard to find friends that are intrested in that kind of stuff. but it really sucks.. how do you think i could find some people to just fellowship with... and actrually live the christian life and spread my faith with people who actrually care to answer those questions!

Spreading faith is hard. Nobody likes someone else's beliefs shoved down their throats, and no one wants to talk about God ALL THE TIME. I realize you're looking for kids your age, but most kids your age aren't into that stuff. They're all about being athiest & bisexual because it's the new "cool" thing to do.

The most I can tell you is to try getting up a support group at your school for kids are as passionate about Christ as you are. If nobody joins, it's not a loss nor a failure because there are always adults willing to have a good conversation. They get lonely too because kids are too busy with their friends to give adults a chance.

ok, me and my used to be best friend were best friends for 2 years lets call her jess. I know that's not terribly long but it was for me because i never really had a BEST friend like her. She was like a sister to me. Anyway, i started being friends with this girl, lets call her Jill. Ok, anyway, me and jill would talk everyonce in a while, but then we started being better friends and she would sit with us at lunch.I was still very much friends with Jess. Anyway about a week later, i got a boyfriend. I was hanging out with him sometimes, Jill sometimes and then Jess sometimes. Jess has/had a lot of friends, and i've always had to deal with her hanging out with other people i'm not completely fond of, which was ok, i didn't really care that much. Through the whole thing i really tried hard to keep jess from feeling left out, but there still wasn't as much attention on her as normal. Then, she just stops talking to me alltogether. For about three days, then she talks to me and says do you still want to be friends? Like im feeling left out and stuff. and i told her that i really want to be friends with her, i'm just getting other friends too. So that was ok, and she started talking to me again, but still not as much as normal. Then one of her good friends went on a feild trip for this special class she takes. That day, we were like we used to be, best friends. Then, her friend gets back and she totally ignores me again. So, i tell her when we get off the bus that we need to talk and that i would call her. So i call her that night and say "i really need to know what is going on. it seems like you dont want to be friends with me anymore" she just says i dont know, then says she has to go. So, i get on messenger that night and finally just ask her friend what the heck is goin on. She is like, well she doesn't want to be friends anymore. Well five minutes later Jess gets on and i say, Why couldn't you just tell me? she is like idk. and then she says this girl kelsey is telling her all this stuff that me and Jill are doing on weekends and stuff (which i found out later she was lying) So like this whole week she's been totally ignoring me and i've just been hanging out with other people, but she pretty much took our whole little possy/clique thing withher, and sits there and talks crap about me with them all the time. I'm wondering if i should talk to her anymore (i tried to talk to her but i just got yelled at for asking her friend what was goin on) and try to work it out, or just find new friends and move on. I'm sooo mad at her and it seems like she is just a heartless coward.

If she was your friend, she wouldn't be your friend when it was on good timing for her. She would always talk to you and always hang out. She would be a good friend. But she's not. Instead she gets mad when your focus isn't constantly on her & she stops talking to you altogether because she feels left out. On her part though, she talked to you about it. Most girls don't do that. They just completely stop being your friend with no reason given.

Keep hanging out with who you want to, and stop being friends with Jess. She's fake, and she's shallow. No good for friendships. You've got a boyfriend & new friends, you've got what you need.

Ok so there is this guy i like and we've known eachother for 1 month.We talk all the time on the phone and just now are starting to hang out in person.He said he likes me alot and would date me.I've been totally ditched and forgot about by two guys and i told him that i didnt want it to happen again.He told me that he will never forget about me and that yea there will be a few days we dont talk because we got stuff goin on but i will never forget about you.He was like im not like those guys and i go well thats what the last guy said about the first and he says just trust me i love you.and thats the first time he said i love you.but anyway with what i just told you how long do i have to wait for him to ask me out?

-sierra

I agree with the girl below me. He said he likes you & would date you, so ask him out.

okay... so i cant tell if im pregnant or not.. im afraid to go take a test so im just wondering what are some signs of beign pregnant.. i havent had sex.. but me and my boyfriend did other stuff and i cant remember if we were as careful as we should have been.. like if he touched himself and then he touched me ... could i really get pregnant like that? i havent gotten my perid yet but i am very athletic.. i feel fatter and look rounder.. but that could just be my mind.. i dont know...
im really stressing out..
please help....
if you need more info askk me please...

I doubt you are, but if you're scared, then taking a test would be the best way to find out.

My school is totally infested with lice. I've gotten checked and I've been found clean, but I obviously want to stay that way. Can you help me find some products or anything that can prevent me from getting lice? I want to repell lice, I don't want to kill them. Thanks in advance!

Wash your hair every other day. Lice love both clean/dirty hair. They like dirty hair so they can hide, and clean hair so they can move around. You don't wanna have exactly both.

And maybe it's best you get future work & whatnot & don't come to school so you don't get lice.

Can anyone give me short, cute quotes for aim?

for example

Friends are like jello..
there's always room for more
- Full House

thanks :D

Go to www.wittyprofiles.com

They have a ton. =)

i dont know if she loves me, but she is still tied a bit to her old relationship, saddend by the rare phone calls of an old friend.

she makes moves towards me, says she loves me sincerly somtimes. given me head, made out with me

yet somtimes i think she is thinking "I dont want him to be in ove with me, because i truly dont love him"

but does she really think that way? is she really in love with me?

i was in love with her, untill i realized that i might need to get over the whole "love" things and lets just be amazing friends

HOW DO I ASK HER, i really cant just say, do you want me to love you? because that is to weakinging on my part. i have already appeared alot as the quieter more submissive friend, but i am not. so i cant ask her "do you wajt me to love you"

please help fast!!! thank!! you!!

She might not really love you & might just be using you as a rebound guy. The best way to get to know this is to ask her. Just come out & say it.

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