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hi. i'm 17/f and I can't kiss. whenever i kiss anyone i always end up wet all around my mouth and this really turns guys off. how can i avoid this as its really getting me down. help!

Start off with a normal kiss, not too firm, not too aggressive. Closing your eyes is optional.
In mid kiss, gently open your mouth and softly nudge the other persons mouth open using your tongue.
Again, not too aggressively, move your tongue inside the other persons mouth and playfully touch their tounge.
As the kissing gets going saliva build up can be a problem, don't forget to swallow.
Make sure you keep your tongues relaxed but your lips tight (saliva again), you don't want the kiss to turn messy.
Tips:
Don't forget to breathe.
Since French Kissing is "wetter" than other kinds of kissing it is a good idea to start with dry lips, don't lick them first.

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My guy friend and I do this think where when we're bored, we can ask each other anything and the other has to answer. I'm all out so do you guys have any REALLY good questions? We're both 18. ex. What's the most embarrassing thing you've done in bed?

1. What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you while having sex?
2. Ever been caught by they cops?
3. Who's your favorite superhero?
4. If your grandma, bestfriend and the love of your life were all drowning and you only have 1 preserver that will save them what do you do?
5. Tell me your deepest darkest secret?
6. Do you masturbate? (guaranteed laughs lol)
7. If you were stranded on a deserted island and could have 2 things what would they be?
8. If you had to choose between Pamela Anderson or Angelina Jolie who would you pick? (fake blonde with fake evrything else vs. natural beauty)
9. Clothes hot out the dryer or somewhere on the floor?
10. What song best describes me?
11. Ever looked at porn?
12. If you had to pick between a McDonald's burger flipper or a Wal-Mart greeter what one would you choose?
13. What's the most gross thing you've ever done?

Welp I'm all out lol this was harder than I thought it'd be! Have Fun

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My boyfriend, well currently ex, cheated on me a few months back. We were dating for over 1.5 years, almost 2 so when I found out about it, I broke up with him.


I really wasn't planning on getting back together with him because I was really hurt. Besides the cheating however, I thought he was amazing.


Yesterday he came over to get me back. When we first started dating, I used to make him these cute little signs but I always thought he just threw them away. Well he kept them ALL! :D He made then into a book type thing and showed it to me when he came over. There was at least a 100 of them!


I thought it was the cutest thing ever! So it made me think about taking him back. What do you guys think? Does everyone deserve a second chance?

Looks like he took alot of effort into making that thing to show you how much those little notes ment to him. Yes he screwed up big time but I think you should give him another chance. You said besides the screw-up he was an awesome boyfriend. Take him back but just keep your eyes open ya know. Let him know this is his LAST chance with you. Remember this: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

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I am 20, a little athletic but i could stand to lose 20 pounds (i'm just a shade under 6' tall, 221 lbs.). I show everyone respect, I'm always referred to as a 'great friend' or 'like a big brother', but no matter how much i try i cannot get past that image. i'm either not seen as a date-able person or everyone i try to get close to lies and leads me on instead of telling me the truth and letting me know why they're not interested or what i was doing wrong. Am i doomed to be forever in the hell that we guys call the "Friend-zone"?
Any and all suggestions are welcome, but I have had enough 'help' from other guys. please understand that i'm looking for the female's answer to my problem.
thank you,
Confused-&-Sad

First off, your height and weight, don't even worry about that. My husband is about the same height and weight as you and I think he's sexy as hell! Now, moving on... A woman, within the first several minutes of meeting a man, is open to having an intimate relationship with him until certain faults emerge in his personality. In that case, that man would be mentally categorized as a "friend" rather than a lover, i.e. put into the friend zone. The key element is that, once there, it is almost impossible for a man to get out. So what your trying to accomplish here, is to NOT be stuck in the friend zone in the first place.

But there's still hope my blue-balled friend. just jokin' lol tryin to lighten the mood :)

One fatal mistake that I think a lot of men make is not putting enough time into the flirting process. There is an expression about not letting on that you like a woman because women like a challenge, but I think to be a little more specific, women will start wondering whether a guy is interested, and the more time they spend wondering, the more time they are thinking about that guy, and therefore the more interested they become. Men should spend more time talking to women and calling them, but avoid being too forthcoming right away, give it a couple weeks, too short of a time to be friends, but long enough that she feels comfortable and has had her interest sparked. Women read romance novels and watch cheesy movies because they like the idea of the building romance. It's a big turn on.

When you're asking someone out, it's painfully obvious what's going on. Get to the point. Say hi and then ask. Your avoiding the friendship only zone before she can even think about sticking you there.

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i heard that you can get carpal tunnel from masturbating. is this true?

Yes it is true. Carpal tunnel syndrome is known as a repetitive stress (or motion) injury, meaning it results from a movement done over and over. Certain masturbation styles certainly qualify: Anatomically, the carpal tunnel literally a tunnel between the carpal bones, through which nerves pass is located in the wrist, so it's possible to develop carpal tunnel syndrome if your wrist bones are moving a lot when you masturbate. If you're experiencing tingling or numbness during or after masturbation, I suggest changing your technique slightly so you aren't using as much wrist action.

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How far up is your hymen ? And if you finger yourself could you be able to feel your hymen with your finger ? Please answer

Many people are under the impression that the hymen is located within the vagina. It is not. It's part of the vulva, the external genital organs. The hymen is a layer of tissue, just like the tissue around the opening of your vagina that partially conceals the vaginal orifice. You may or may not have one, most females do. The hymen is named after the Greek God Hymenaeus -- the God of marriage and weddings, FYI.

Tampons, fingering yourself, Horseback riding, bicycling, high jumping, or gymnastics can all cause you to loose your hymen. Yes you are still a virgin.

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okay.. so my hair is curly/wavy by nature
so when I go to school I always straighten it in the morning.

BUT now we have this school fieldtrip thing, means we go camp in tents for 5 days.

normally I was my hair everyday, But if I now was my hair I get curly/wavy hair because I can't bring my straighter along.

ARE there ANY other ways of straightening your hair without using an straighter or blow-dryer.. because I can't use like.. 'machines' if that makes sense..

REPLY PLEASE I RATE 5'S FOR ANY GOOD ANSWERS!!

FIELDTRIP IS TOMORROW
thanks!!

You could buy a straightner that is battery operated or buy pantene Pro-v for frizzy, dry, unmanagable hair and get out the shower and rub in from root to tip Pantene Pro-v Anti-frizz Serum, I swear by it.

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how can you play "hard to get" with a guy i mean i kind of know the concept of it but i really dont know how to do it! like could you give me examples or something that would be playing hard to get!? thank you!

1. Don't make yourself too available. It's important that he feels he has to work to see you. Space phone calls a day or two apart. When you make plans, always tell them that you have a lot going on, but you may be able to find time in your "busy" schedule for them (even if you're an unemployed slacker, make something up like plans with friends). This makes you seem less available and your time more valuable.
2. Don't be too difficult. If you're never around or available, he might lose interest and decide you're not worth his time.
3. Don't call him very often and never to just talk.
4. Return his/her phone calls. Guys and girls both hate it when you don't call them back.
5. Don't give him any extra attention. If you're hanging around a bunch of people, spread your attention all around (don't completely ignore him though).
6. Don't give up your life. Hang out with friends. It's attractive when you have a life of your own.
7. Be sweet. Just because you're not laying on the sugar doesn't mean you can't be sweet. Compliment him on little things or just give him a smile just meant for him.
8. Be friends but be careful not to start a brother/sister relationship.
9. Have an aura of mystique. Mystery, in addition to being attracting, adds challenge. Don't tell him everything about you right off, keep it somewhat of a mystery.

Hope this helps ya'...

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i think my hair is falling out!! im only 13-but i can tell.my mom wont believe me-but i noticed!
please..is there anywhere i can go to get this checked? any kind of help is appreciated!

On the average, normal healthy people will loose 100 strands of hair everyday. I know my brush is FILLED with it lol. Ok, so if it's not that, then it really is hard to tell you exactly what is wrong with you without knowing is it just various strands coming out (which can be normal) or does it look like this: http://www.hairlosstalk.com/research/children/step1kids.htm

There is a hair loss disease called Alopecia. It is found in kids and pre-teens. The good news about this condition is children with Alopecia will "outgrow" the condition without need for treatment. As with all forms of Alopecia, a reversal and complete restoration of hair takes time - sometimes up to a year or more, but for the vast majority of children, it will spontaneously resolve.

Now I can't classify you with having Alopecia, as I am not a Dr. and don't even know exactly how your hair is coming out like in patches or whatever.
Drop me sum feedback and lemme know. Hope this helps~

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I started my first period when i was 15 years old and i am now 18 and in between those time periods, i have only had at least 5-6 periodd. but during the early years it was very heavy. The only thing that I think that may cause the delay is me being overweight. what is wrong with me? and what can i do?

Various things can effect your menstrual cycle. for one, you won't have one unless your body fat is high enough. stress can keep you from menstruating. thyroid abnormalities can keep you from it. Obesity can keep you from it. You need to schedule you an appointment with a OBGYN. Not having your period for that long is not normal. It's your body's way of telling you that something is wrong. You never know, it could and probably is something very minor. Don't get scared and decide not to go. Alot of people, myself included have been through this. What will happen is you 'll have a papsmear done (it'll be about 2 weeks before you get the test results back) and that tells if you have cervical cancer and it checks to make sure your red and white blood cells are ok. The treatment for not having a period is just as simple as this: They put you on birth control. yeppers. It's called Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo. It regulates your period for you. You can expect to start pretty soon after taking the green pills in the pack. Hope I've helped ya'...

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if a person is bipolar how do they act..?
-thanks

They have 2 moods they go from. One is being "high on life" and the other is in a manic depressive state. Here are the differences of the 2 moods.

High On Life:
1. Increased energy level
2. Less need for sleep
3. Racing thoughts or mind jumps around
4. Easily distracted
5. More talkative than usual or feeling pressure to keep talking
6. More self-confident than usual
7. Focused on getting things done, but often completing little
8. Risky or unusual activities to the extreme, even if itâ??s likely bad things will happen

Manic State:
1. Feeling sad or blue, or â??down in the dumpsâ??
2. Loss of interest in things the person used to enjoy, including sex
3. Feeling worthless, hopeless, or guilty
4. Sleeping too little or too much
5. Changes in weight or appetite
6. Feeling tired or having little or no energy
7. Feeling restless
8. Problems concentrating or making decisions
9. Thoughts of death or suicide

I hope this helps..

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I've heard that if you get a sunburn, and you put sunscreen on wherever you got sunburned, it makes your sunburn turn into a tan. I've tried that before and it never worked.

My question is: is there any way to make a sunburn turn into a tan? Are there any special things to use? How long does it take to work?

Thank you!

Next time your out in the sun, be it your backyard or at the beach spray on a bottle of Ocean Potion EXTREME Amplifier Oil SPF4 I absolutley swear by it. I'm somewhat fair skin or shall I say used to be. You spray it on then of course, I turn somewhat red and in less than 2 days the redness is all gone and I'm tanned really dark. I love it!! Here's what the bottle looks like for future refernce: http://www.opotion.com/cart/product_info.php?products_id=75

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Why is it that so many girls freak out about their boobs being too small? I see so many questions about girls who think that because they have small boobs, they won't get any guys. That is not true at all.

But that really isn't the issue, I guess. I myself have quite the chest. I'm a 38 D, and still growing somewhat. It is painful sometimes, especially around periods, and frustrating, because it is near impossible to find shirts that fit, or decent bras.

So when I see these girls who think their lives are over because they are 16 and they aren't Jessica Rabbit, it makes me angry. They have no idea what larger chested women have to deal with! To me, it seems they have it easy. They don't have to worry about aching backs, or not being able to wear a beautiful shirt or dress because it is too tight at the bust, or too loose everywhere else.

How can I keep from being so angry with them? I know that they don't understand, and I know it isn't worth fussing over, but I just can't help it.

Thank you all so much!

LOL! I definatley feel ya' on this one. I myself have a DDD cup size and it sucks!!! Every night my hubby rubs my back cuz I'm in so much pain... all the super-cute shirts I see my friends wearing, I can't. Or better yet say you find a shirt that does fit in the top part...you take up so much more fabric at the top that the shirt is too short at the bottom. We'll never understand why they complain and they'll never understand why we complain. SOME (not all) of the members of the not so well endowed see it as they can't get a bf because they have small breasts. We have big breast and dont even want em lol. I bet if they could have a whole week with big tits they wouldnt want em anymore. Any maybe...just maybe if we had a A-cup just for a week we would decide we really didn't want that either.

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Hey i was just wondering if anyone knew of a good example of a halfhead and a fullhead of highlights...i cannot seem to find a website or picture that really shows the two styles.
-THANKS A BUNCH =)

Here's a webiste for ya' with tons of hair that is nothing but highlighted!

http://images.search.yahoo.com/search/images?_adv_prop=images&imgsz=all&imgc=&vf=all&va=highlighted+hair&fr=slv1-msgr&ei=UTF-8

Half done highlights page: http://www.virtualhaircare.com/virtual%20salon/salon%20services/Choosinghighlights.html

This website just shows how you can have natural highlights:
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art26088.asp

Sorry I couldnt be of more help... I tried!

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ive heard that if you can wear a tampon comfortably it means that your body is ready for sex is that true?

Nopers. Wearing a tampon comfortably just means you have put it in the right way. Only you know when your ready to have sex.

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13/f.i know that no parent is perfect.i really love my mom.she did a lot of sacrifices,she works hard for our living,and even though she dosent cook much,she still does a lot for the family.but what really gets my nerve is when she calls me a b*tch.and she calls me that everytime i do a mistake,minor or major.but i don't think i deserve being called a b*tch.i try not to do anything wrong.its just not fair.don't get me wrong,my mom's really nice.but everytime she calls me that,it really hurts,badly.and i want it to stop.i also want her to stop saying bad words in front of me and my little sister's faces.problem is,i cant speak up to her.i can't tell her how i feel.i just can't approach her.she really loves my sister and i but it hurts when uses words that are not meant to be said,especially to my four year old sister.i really wanna work things out.but if i can't tell her how i feel,how am i gonna work things out?
thanks so much in advance :)

-LiZ

The most logical answer your going to get from "us" is telling you to tell her how you feel. That's the only way to let her understand how it hurts you when she says things like that. My advice to you is to print your question out and slip it under her door when she goes to sleep, she'll wake up and see it and read it. The things you have said will make her smile when she see's that YOU ACTUALLY THINK that she is a very good mom, that you love her bunches, and how hard she works to take care of yall and all the sacrifices you know she makes for the family. Plus, you get to tell her how you feel without having to actually say it! You dont want to say mom you suck all you do is cuss as us! that'll get you no where fast cuz then she'll come off all defensive. Telling her or shall I say letting her read what you have wrote sounds alot better because your are pointing out a fault of her's but not in a bad kind of way, your letting her see that besides her cussing, she is a awesome mom.

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I need some help wit a essay that I have to write, its 250-400 words on how to save money or anything finicially that will help teens. I don't have a clue where to start, can someone please help me.

Wow this might be a hard one. My advice to you, read from letters portraying headlines about spending money or saving money and get your ideas from that. Good Luck. Example:

When I was growing up, my mother often quoted William Shakespeare's "neither a borrower nor a lender be." Wise advice, if you can stick to it.
Nowadays, borrowing to buy a home is considered by even the most conservative financial experts to be a good move, but spending is a big problem, as evidenced by the millions of Americans who are in debt over their heads. Nowadays Shakespeare might be more likely to advise us to "neither a borrower nor a spender be."

It's spending, not low income, that is at the root of most financial problems. Sometimes events beyond our control can propel us into debt, like the loss of a job, the death of a spouse, or large medical bills, but let's face it: for most of us, spending is what gets us into trouble. In fact, I believe that the key to having money is learning not to spend it.

Notice that I didn't say "learning how to spend it," but rather, "learning not to spend it.
The more money most people make, the more they spend. If they get a raise in salary--they buy a newer car, or a bigger home, or a bigger, better whatever. But it's not just the big things they buy, it's all the little things they now feel they can easily afford, and those things add up amazingly quickly.

You may find that over the years, although you're making significantly more money, you're no further ahead, or you still struggle to meet your financial obligations.

The words used in the campaign against drugs also apply to over spending: "Just Say No." One of the keys to resisting the urge to spend money is to have concrete financial goals, things that are important to you. Set a timeframe and a dollar amount for reaching the goal. Then when you're faced with the temptation to splurge, think about the goal you're working towards. Visualize it as clearly as you can. See it. Taste it. Smell it. And just say "no."

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My sister just had a baby and he husband's last name is Wood. Well, my sister has always wanted to name her daughter "Holly". So we just need a few HONEST opinions here.


Do you find it tacky to have a girl named "Holly Wood?"

I love the name! I had a friend when I was younger and her dad's last name was Reighn (pronounced RAIN) and her mom named her Misty thought is was to cute Misty "Rain"...

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possibly the best subject ever for a question.

My sister shaved our dog today as he's a labradoodle and has a fairly thick coat, that was just getting unbearable for him in the heat. However, my sister being the person that she is, didn't read any of the instructions, and did it while no one was home. Now my poor puppy is stuck with a bad case of razor burn. He's been scratching at it, and I was wondering if there was anything I could use to help soothe his skin. I've looked at the pet store and most of the skin care seems centred around fleas, so is there anything I can make at home, or a people lotion that is gentle enough to use on him?

You have a few options...
1. A oatmeal bath -this soothes the inflamed skin
2. Baby lotion -it's gentle enough for anything!
3. Vitamin E -Rub into his skin, this helps heal the problem
4. Aloe Vera- Can be sued either from plants or creams -this helps soothe
5. Aveeno. Mix a package of Aveeno oatmeal bath powder with 2 cups of water, wet the dog down with cool water, then apply the Aveeno mix. Leave on for 10 to 15 minutes. Then rinse off with cool water and towel dry.
6. Petroleum Jelly -Used to keep him from scratching & excellent for sealing in moisture, which is what he needs right now.
7. *Anti-flea medicines can worsen his problems by disrupting his immune system.*
8. Add a tablespoon of vegatable oil to his dog food. (I've actually done this & it helped) It retains moisture in there skin.

Hope this helps*

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I havent had my period for 4-5 months!But im not pregnant why is this?PLEASE HELP!!!

Calm down, there are a few things you needs to consider first:

1. Your age.

If you are just starting, the first year or so, you will be regulating yourself. You may not have a cycle every month. Some girls do and some girls do not.

2. If you have had cycles for a couple of years....

If you have had cycles for a couple of years (2) and your still not regular yet, you need to look at some other areas. Are you overweight, more so than other girls your age. ?

If you do have extra weight is it central like in the belly thighs and upper back area its called central obesity.

If you get lots of headaches or drops in energy levels that are easily fixed by eating, you could have what is termed Insulin Resistance which can cause delayed cycles not always, but can.

There are many other reasons as well you could be skipping periods, if you have been menustrating for at least two years and your cycle has not regulated, tell your Mom, that is something you need to see a doctor about.

If it hasn't been two years since you have started your periods, and you are not experiencing any pain, or discharge, (yellow creamy stuff that smells yeasty) or if you are not in pain when you urinate, then I would wait.

that is if you are NOT having sex. If you are having sex, then you should definately go to the clinic and be seen. Any teen who has started having sex, needs to be seen by a doctor for birth control and most importantly to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases.

Hope this helps..

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