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13/f.i know that no parent is perfect.i really love my mom.she did a lot of sacrifices,she works hard for our living,and even though she dosent cook much,she still does a lot for the family.but what really gets my nerve is when she calls me a b*tch.and she calls me that everytime i do a mistake,minor or major.but i don't think i deserve being called a b*tch.i try not to do anything wrong.its just not fair.don't get me wrong,my mom's really nice.but everytime she calls me that,it really hurts,badly.and i want it to stop.i also want her to stop saying bad words in front of me and my little sister's faces.problem is,i cant speak up to her.i can't tell her how i feel.i just can't approach her.she really loves my sister and i but it hurts when uses words that are not meant to be said,especially to my four year old sister.i really wanna work things out.but if i can't tell her how i feel,how am i gonna work things out?
thanks so much in advance :)
-LiZ
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you could write her a letter and then put a picture of you and her in an envelope of when you were a baby. it always works for me..... and in the letter you could write something like:
dear mom,
remember what life was like before we knew all those words?????
or something like that
hope i helped xoxo
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The most logical answer your going to get from "us" is telling you to tell her how you feel. That's the only way to let her understand how it hurts you when she says things like that. My advice to you is to print your question out and slip it under her door when she goes to sleep, she'll wake up and see it and read it. The things you have said will make her smile when she see's that YOU ACTUALLY THINK that she is a very good mom, that you love her bunches, and how hard she works to take care of yall and all the sacrifices you know she makes for the family. Plus, you get to tell her how you feel without having to actually say it! You dont want to say mom you suck all you do is cuss as us! that'll get you no where fast cuz then she'll come off all defensive. Telling her or shall I say letting her read what you have wrote sounds alot better because your are pointing out a fault of her's but not in a bad kind of way, your letting her see that besides her cussing, she is a awesome mom.
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You really do need to tell her how you feel.
A lot of times parents don't even realize what they are saying hurts their kids. They get so used to saying those kinds of words they just sort of pop out of their mouth!
I'm sure if she knew they hurt your feelings she would try not to say them. Wait until sometime when she is in a GOOD mood and bring it up. If she is mad at the time it will just make her madder.
Just say something like 'mom, can we talk abut something that is bothering me?' and talk about it.
I am sure it is just a habit and not something she is doing to be hurtful on purpose. :)
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