Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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My friend's are into druds, alcohol, smoking ,ans sex. I'm just not interested in any of that stuff at all! I think it's just wrong, but my friends say it'll make me look cool, but, i don't think it will. I think it'll make me look stupid. I'm afraid of giving in, what shoul i do? (link)
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Good job. You're right, there are a million reasons not to do those things, but to teens like us, there are a million reasons to do them. There is no cure for peer pressure, but the best thing to do is remember what your standards are, If you dont want to do them, then don't. Ever. Never forget your principals.
Here are some things you can say:
- I have to get good grades or my parents will kill me, I can't do that if I'm high at school.
- If I get arrested my Parents will freak
-Uh.. I don't want to die of lung cancer thank you,
-I don't want to __________
-I think it will make me look stupid.
-Havent you been in Health class?
There are a million other reasons, but if you search Google there are a million other sites on peer pressure, or you can talk to your parents.
If your friends force you to do it, they arent very good friends, and they dont sound like very good influences to begin with, so if you lose them, I think you should try and make other friends.
Peer pressure is a huge part of growing up, and it sucks, but we all have to deal with it. The best thing to do is try and find someone to talk to.
I commend your efforts not to be sucked into the whole "cool" scene, there arent very many people like that. Good luck, I hope I helped.
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I try to be myself in school.. but after getting advice and stuff, i still cant. if im not comfortable, then i kinda freeze or beocome kind of like.. twitchy a little. then like little things happen like me getting up to get a paper, and i dont want to do it, cause im feeling uncomfortable, then i end up embarassing myself.. well in my opinion. i mean, i believe that i like myself.. but i dunno what else i could do to get more comfortable. picture everyone in underwear? not so funny. uh.. treat the people as family? i guess so.. i've tried it but it kinda doesnt work. im more outgoing and stuff when im at home or not working.. sometimes i appear to be serious and really shy when i know im not like that. i've had this problem for like a couple years now.. i'm 13 in middle school. ehh.. any advice if there is any to solve this problem? thanks if you do :)
Also, when im outgoing like in school or something, then sometimes i get a little too carried away, cause maybe im trying too hard when i am, or something. how can i learn to control it without being too out of line or too.. in the line? like, with still having my dignity and stuff. :/ HEEELP! (link)
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I am the same way as well. But I think that almost everyone goes through that at some point. You may not know it, but everyone feels uncomfortable one in a while. There are somethings about every person that they don't like. But the important thing is to realize that it doesnt matter who you are or what you look like. Every person is different. If we all had to look the same things would get pretty boreing.
Everyone has this bubble around them, and we have to work to get out of it and live life to the fullest. Some people are naturally open, but a lot of people have self confidence problems, and can't seem to leave that bubble. I'm one of those people.
So as far as solving this problem, that is a hard one. Don't be afraid to join all the clubs, even the ones your friends would make fun of, answer all the questions the teachers ask in class, even if you are just guessing. And if you say something funny and everyone laughs, think what the heck, everyone likes laughing, thats a good thing then.
Last week I went to a camp with a bunch of people I didnt know, and I went into it thinking that I was going to have a horrible time, and I did until I finally let loose and had fun. I didn't make any new friends, but I had a lot of fun, and next time the situation comes up, I am going to try to stop worrying about fitting in and try to worry more about having the most fun I can.
I hope that you get a chance to go through something like that, and maybe it will go better for you (you will make friends etc.) so I guess All I'm saying is, you have to think less and smile more, because whats the worst that can happen? Like I said, I'm not completely done making the transistion of confidence, but I dont think any one is. I Hope I helped. Good luck bursting out of your personal bubble.
Angie91
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I am 13/f.
5 feet
136 lbs
and i really want to be an actress/singer either on broadway or in movies or commercials. i can sing and act but iv nevr taken a dance lesson (i CAN sort of dance, with time) my family doesnt hav a lot of money, so iv only been in school plays and 2 plays at my local theatre. any good tips about how to be a star? (link)
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I would get a regular job. Its great to have an ambition to be a star, but it actually costs alot of money to become a star, and that means that you have to have the cash. Before you start worrying about classes and getting an agent and all that stuff save up a couple thousand. I know it sucks, but things that you want are always thigs that you have to work for. So start saving up the dollars, and then you can take a dance class. I would recomend finding one that is fairly basic, but that you can learn alot from. Don't take ballet right away, but tap, and jazz are good. They teach you a lot of comman steps and beef up your resumè.
By the time you get to highschool, if you save up enough money, and start taking classes, often there will be courses open to you such as vocal choirs, and Drama, as well as sometimes they have dance classes. Then from there you can speak to your teachers and get their advice.
But remember you can't becomea basket ball star the fourth time you dripple a ball, s you wont become a star the fourth time you're in a play, but if you try your hardest and keep your ears open for auditions, then people will become aware of you and your resumè will grow larger and larger. Keep those dreams as big as they are and one day maybe you will see your name in lights good luck, I hope I helped.
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I have a big problem with interupting when other people are talking. I do it to my parents, friends, and especially in class.
I don't realized I've interupted someone until AFTER I had butted in. Infact, I think I pushed my boyfriend over the edge today because I constantly interupt him and I think today was one time to many.
How do I stop this bad habit?
I've tried "Thinking before you speak" But I often forget and just keep on talking. (link)
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That is an interesting problem, I would suggest trying to just listen for a day. Try not to speak. Everytime you get the erge to say something try not saying anything. Try to listen to what others have to say, because that's very important. You need to think about other peopleès feelings, at the moment you are not you are just butting in, and as you've notices, not only do people not like it, but it isnt very poliet.
Another thing you could try is, to pretend that everyone is better than you. Pretend that you are talking to the queen and no one ever interupts the queen.
Those are just a few ideas. You should tell your parents and your boyfriend and other people you interupt, and tell them that you are aware of the problem, you are trying to fix it, but you are having difficulties. With your very close friends you can even develop a signal, like get them to touch their chin everytime you interupt, and then gracefully, attempt to finish what you were saying, apologize to the person you interupted and say:"I'm sorry, I interupted, you were saying?"
I gave you a few suggestions, but I am sure that If you explain to your boyfriend and other friends that you have this problem then they can help you figure out other ways to fix it. I am glad that you are trying to change a problem that annoys other people. It just goes to show that you are trying hard to become a good friend. I hope your friends will understand, and as well, I hope that I helped. Good luck,
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yeah well im annoyed with cause i asked her and two of my friends to come with me to planned parent hood and they all said yes but she was also was goin so she could get on the pill and today one of the friends i asked to come with ended up in the hospital today so it was gonna be me her and my other friend and wen she found out she couldnt go on the pill with out makin an appointment and she couldnt do it today she wouldnt come anymore and i thought that was really messed up cause i wanted some of my friends to be there with me cause i was kinda worried and shit and i feel happy around my friends. also wen i called to tell her bout our friend bein in the hospital she was annoyed at me for calling cause her tone was jsut like she was really annoyed like she didnt give a shit probably cause she was on the phone with her b/f cause she wasnt even gonna talk to me till i said it was bout our friend. wen me and my other friend were actually worried and on saturday i told bout soemthin that happened to me shes like i wish ppl didnt tell me their problems and shit cause it can over whelming and i was like well shit w/e i wont tell u bout my problems anymore. (link)
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Hey,
well it depends on how well you know her, like if shes been your best friend for ever and you can tell her anything, then tell her, but as far as I can see, she just seems alittle p.o. sometimes, we go through things we dont want to talk about, and then become really annoying to our friends. it sucks that she hasnt told you whats going on, but it looks like there is something bothering her. If I were you I'd give her some space, and just hope that your friendship can survive what shes going through.
I'm glad that you think its important to care about your friends, but for some people friends dont come first, b/fs and other things are more important, and you have to respect that. It kinda sucks that you feel more inclined to help her when she doesnt seem that way to you, but you just have to be that great friend, and hope that soon she will realize that you are really important to her.
some people would suggest that you give her space and that is a possibility, but she may need you, or she may take it the wrong way. so yeah, I'd just forget about what she did and how she acted, but you have to do what you feel is right. I hope I helpped good luck
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My friend, Stephanie, called my friend, Ellie, a b*tch behind her back. Ellie asked me if Stephanie called her that and I said "I think so" (it happened weeks ago, so I didn't really remember). Now Ellie's parents did something and Stephanie is in trouble. Stephanie yelled at me and said that it was all my fault. Did I do the right thing by telling Ellie what Stephanie said? (link)
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you know, it depends on a lot of things. some people would definatly say that you did the right thing, and you may have. Because Ellie actually came up to you and asked you, it is more likely that you did the right thing. However if you were to come out and tell Ellie that she said that it would be the wrong thing. you also have to think about the context, sometimes when people are upset, they sware. I'm not saying its the right thing to do, I've been called the above before, and it sucks. But sometimes when you say something behind someones back, when you think no ones listening you dont really mean it. So I don't blame stephanie for getting mad. Shes in trouble and it is because of what you said. So next time, to avoid conflict, I'de pretend I didn't hear her, or shrug it off. It just makes things easier to not talk about it. If it was weeks ago, Stephanie had probably already forgotten about it and wasnt even upset anymore. So it kinda sucks that shes getting in trouble.
So did you do the right thing? Yes, you told the truth, but you hurt your other friend, so you just have to think for your self. I gave you a suggestion for next time, and if you choose to do that, thats great, but if not, then be prepared for more conflict in years to come, because most likely you will run into this again. It is comman for people to talk about people behind their backs, and you just have to decide what to remember and whatto forget. I hope I helped alittle.
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15/f. My best friend (14/f) has a crush on this cute guy. I think I also might have a crush on him, but I haven't told her because I don't want to seem like I'm stealing him or anything, so I've pretty much been ignoring my feelings. Anyway, the bad part is that she goes through guys like oxygen. I'm not kidding. And besides that, it's fairly obvious that he's not interested in her, and he and I share the same interests and sense of humor. Is it bad for me to like him as well, and should I just back off? Or should I tell my best friend and see what happens? I really don't want to mess up my friendship with my best friend over some guy. Thanks. (link)
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You have to think about this alot, and I'm sure that you have. She's your best friend, and it doesnt matter if she gos through a lot of guys, thats how some girls are. But you are entitled to like any guy you want. I think that you should tell her, but dont act like you are going to take him away from her, one day at a sleepover or something be like, yeah I kinda have a crush on so-and-so, tell her that you think he's cute and like his sense of humour and stuff. For right now you definatly should just back off, and yeah you could mess up your friendship if you dont bring it up in a nice way. But if she goes through a lot of guys then she may be done with him in a couple weeks, leaving you where? Then again, this may be the guy for her, you never know unless you talk to her about it. Shes your bff, she can handle it.
Boys will come and go but best friends are forever, However, you have to do what is in your heart. Good luck, hope I helped.
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I need help telling my mom that sometimes i am abused by my father for the stupidest reasons when she is at work. I feel very shy to tell her and i dont know if i tell her that the effect of me telling her will hurt my families future. i am the 2nd oldest of 4 kids and i am the one that gets hit by my dad the most. the other sumblings rarely are touched. my dad has very vast mood swings and once he ill be very nive nad a few minutes later he is going crazy.
i dont know what to tell my mom about this.
please help me. (link)
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This is a very sensitive subject, but you HAVE to tell someone, wether it be your mom, a friends mom, or another adult. It is very important that you get out of an abusive situation immeadiately.
You can not worry about how this will effect your family, you are not at fault for this, he is, and it doesnt matter if he doesnt hit your siblings, he hits you, and thats one too many. It doesnt matter if he has mood swings you should be hit. And you're right, your mom probably has absoulutely no idea, because shes at work, but thats okay it is up to you to tell her.
I think that you should try and ease into it one day when he isnt home. Tell her whats going on, but if she denies it or starts to get upset, dont say anything more. I think that you should talk to an adult that you trust first, so that if something happens and your mom gets upset, or your father gets agressive, then someone else knows what is going on and maybe what to do.
I'm glad that you are starting to voice your fears, but a bunch of teenagers, can not tell you how to solve this situation. You need to speak to an adult about this. there are many people you can contact if you do not know any adults that can help.
You can talk to a councler at school, or look for the posters. I don't know where you live, and the resources available there, but if you live in Canada, we have kids help phone, and www.kidshelpphone.ca there is also teentouch.org. If you og to gogle and search, I'm sure you can find some resources in your area.
I realize that I didnt really answer your question, but I think that there aren't very many answers to that question, you have to say what you need to say, it depends on your mom's personality, how you are going to say it, but if you talk to your friends and talk to adults I'm sure that you will be able to find a way to tell your mom, and get help. No one deserves to be abused, and you are very strong, to be able to come out and talk about this. I wish you good luck, and I hope that I pointed you in the right direction to help you with this situation.
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I sit next to two really annoying kids, what should I do?
I hate them, but I don't want confrontation. (link)
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I think that you should try and ask your teacher if you can move to a different area, if you explain to her why you want to move, (s)he may understand. If you dont want to make it sound like you cant get along, you can try telling ehr that it is preventing you from concentrating. That is a good way for your teacher to see that you are dedicated to solve the problem, and she is more likely to help you change the situation. Hope I helped.
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Okay, my boyfriend's mom had a stroke and is in the hospital. She's not expected to make it much longer. Every time he calls me, I have no idea what to say to him. I can't really give him advice, and I don't want to say "everything's going to be okay" because clearly it's not. Any ideas on what I can say to him? I can't go see him and just comfort him because he lives a few hours away. (link)
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Just make sure that you are really supportive, encourage him to talk about his feelings, ask him how hes doing and if there is anything you can do, he knows you have know idea how he feels, and doesnt expect you to give him advice, but he will probably need a shoulder to cry on once in a while and when he really needs to talk try your hardest to be there. Kids who have to go through the death of their parents are often very emotional and need some help, you just need to be there when he needs that reassurance.
Remember you arent a therapist or anything, you cant be held responsible for getting him through this, but you can deffinatly help, and I think that, that is important thing for you to try if you can. Anything you can do to support him will help. Good luck, I hope that I helped.
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Ok so here's the deal, I love my girlfriend to death, and i am willig to do everything for her, and just become so sweet when im around her. Everyone says im whipped, even her, so i want to become more asertive, that way i dont look so whipped. ya know? cause im kinda worried it's annoying her (link)
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I think that you should be opinionated. Us girls have no idea what we want to do most of the time, so saying "whatever you want to do", doesnt really help. Don't fight with her, or pick fights or anything, just make some decisions. Make sure that you are satisfied with the relationship becuase if you are in it just to keep her happy, thats not good. Try and pick things that she would want to do, but are alittle unusual, because you never know, there could be something really great out there, that you want to do, but you don't tell her, so she doesnt even know about it. You may be missing out on a bunch of fun things.
It's okay to be sweet though, we like it when we are treated special, and you were probably just being teased, but you should talk to her about it, see how she feels. She may have some suggestions that are more specific. Good luck, I hope I helped.
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Ok I have a ex boyfriend..well he broke up with me 2 and half weeks ago because of some problems going on with his family..well about 2 weeks ago he started dating another girl..now that we talked this weekend he is wanting to go back out with me he even broke up with his gf... what should i do?? please get back to me (link)
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You know, it is all up to how you feel. Think honestly, hoe did you feel when he broke up with you, were you heartbroken, or was it a good thing that he broke up with you. You also have to take into consideration, why he broke up with you, you mentioned that it had to do with his family, but was it something that affects you, or did he just need some space? Consider whether or not you actually want to be with this person.
Basically it is all up to you, you dont have to get back together with him, you should only do it if you really want to, and you are the onyl one who can tell you if you really want to. So listen to your heart and see what that says. Don't feel like just because he is making sacrifices for you, you have to be with him, its totally up to you. Good luck, I hope that I helped a bit.
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Theres a formal on for my church group on the 16th of december and there are so many great people going and I know that I will have soooooo much fun but its also on the same day as one of my close friend's birthday. And they're on the same time. I really want to go to the formal but I don't want to break it to my friend. I secretly know I'll have way more fun at the formal!!!! What also is an awesome to get her? Please help, it will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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You dont have to tell her that you are choosing the formal over her, but you can if you feel right about it. Just tell her that the formal has been planned for a long time, and you wish that you could go to both but you just can't. Tell her you guys should try and plan something else, when she has a chance. But remember to tell her soon, because if too many people can't go, she might decide to reshedual it, you never know, you may get to do both!
Get your friend something that shows that you really know her. Something that has to do with an insider that the two of you have shared, or something that she has complained about wanting for the longest time. Think back as long as you've known her, and if you just can't think of something, money and a card always works too. But if you do that, you should make a homemade one, because that shows that you actually worked hard for it, you didnt just grab one off of the shelf at some store. - Or - you could buy lunch one day, when you two hang out. That would be good, if you buy her a small gift. It's hard to tell you what to get when I don't know her, but I think if you really think about it, I'm sure you will be able to find a great gift that she will really charish. Good luck, and have fun at your formal.
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14/f. I babysit this adorable boy who is about 3 i think and he is so hyper and stuff! i usually babysit him at night, like i put him to bed and stay there for another few hours. i am usually only watching him for about 3 hours and then i sit there and watch tv when he goes to bed for the other like 2 hours until the parents get home. they just told me to put him to bed and then i could help myself to anything to drink and watch tv and what not, but i just feel bad when they come home and im sitting there watching tv. i dont know why but even though they told me i could i feel like i shouldnt be. like basically they're paying me to do nothing. before the kid goes to bed i always am playing with him and i dont ignore him. i just feel bad. should i do something differently? or is it ok to still sit there and do nothing when they get home even though i feel bad? please help i am babysitting for them tomorrow night. thanks! (link)
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Oh yeah, for sure, its fine to do that. But I know how you feel. I babysit alittle girl, and often her mom doesnt come home untill quite a while after shes gone to bed. So often what I will do, is pretend that I am at home, in my living room. I will often watch t.v. for a bit, but I will also do homework, because then the parent knows that you didnt abondon the kid to do homework and stuff while he was awake. Remember though, You need a brake. It is just time for you to relax, don't feel bad if you lie down, or watch t.v. or hang out. If you weren't there, they couldn't go out. They are Probably really thankful of you. I hope I helped.
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my nephew constontally hists his sister what should I do? (link)
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You need to give him a time out of what he's doing. But the way that you do it may very depending on how your aunt disiplines him. (e.g. time out, go to his room, etc) The reason that time outs work is because it helps the child cool off, and realize that what they are doing is wrong. but if you let it keep happening, then he will eventually think that you cant disipline him, because you aren't his mom, but you are the one in charge and he has to know that you're the boss.
Don't worry about his mom getting upset about you disiplining him. Just dont hit him or act physically or anything. and you should be good to go. I hope I helped. Just remember. stay consistant, and also, he's just a little kid, he may say he hates you, but he doesn't. Good luck!
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I'm a 15 year old girl from Ks. Ok, so my mom is gone on business for 2 months, and I am left at home with my 3 lazy bros. My dad always tells ME to do everything. I'm always the one to clean, cook, do the laundry etc. Any advice on what to say WITHOUT sounding disrespectful? I need advice ASAP! (link)
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Ok, well you could try telling your dad that you aren't going to do all of the work, but if that doesnt work, because I know if it were my dad, it probably wouldnt work, but you can also try to do a few things around the house, and leave a few things for your brothers. if they really need it done, I'm sure they'll get off their lazy behinds and fix it. Do the improtant things in your life first, and then try and do somethings for them, but remember that is okay to say that you have other things to do besides house work. Part of the reason he is putting all of the work on you is because you are a girl, and he can trust you to do it, but he is probably pretty stressed, and he can't deal with things not getting done on time, and by telling your brothers to do it, he probably gets lazy answers where as you probably actually try and do what he asks. I still think you should try an tell him how you feel, but in some cases it doesnt work, so my best suggestion would be to think, there are only a few weeks left till mom comes home. its probably really hectic for him too, so just keep that in mind. good luck, I hope this helped.
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17/f - My boyfriend (15 yrs old.) broke up with me a few days ago because he said he didn't want to be in a relationship right now because a few months ago he got out of a 2 yr relationship with a girl he loved that cheated on him with his cousin and bestfriend. We didn't go out that long but I ended having strong feelings for him. He wanted to be friends but it bothered me too much. I think he only wanted sex and I'm still a virgin and I don't want to have sex yet. Anyways, I was on the phone with him yesterday and he was kidding around alot about having sex with me and being friends with benefits (which I seriously DON'T want). I got really pissed off and hung up. So he called back and told me he wouldn't kid around with me anymore and then he told me he wanted to be honest with me and tell me something and said he had sex with this girl on my bus twice! Once, the week before me and him started to go out and wednesday (2 days after he broke up with me)! I was crying and my friend that was over asked if she could talk to him and she did. When she got off the phone we talked about him and everything. She went through almost the same stuff I had to go through and told me I should stop talking to him and maybe be friends with him later when I was ready. I know it's a good choice and I called him and told him I didn't want to be friends right now and he said ok and we hung up. I'm just so heartbroken and a part of me wants him and a part wants me to forget him and move on. I'm also thinking he might have cheated on me while we were going out but I don't want to find out even he did. My questions are: Do you think it's a good thing I stopped talking to him for now? Should I move on? Or be friends with him? How can I make things easier for me not to get jealous seeing him with other girls and help me move on? Also, the girl he had sex with has A BOYFRIEND!! Don't you think it's wrong since he had to deal with his exgirlfriend cheating on him so why would he let that happen to another guy?! Ughh seriously I just need some advice and opinions on what to do. Thanks and sorry it's so long. (link)
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I do think that it is a good thing that you stopped talking to him. He needs to learn that he cant control you, and you need a few days(or weeks or months or however long) to calm down and get back into a good state of mind. You should move on, it sortof sounds like you were the rebound girl, and that all he wants is sex, adn if he's getting it from someone else... then he doesnt need you, which is wrong. you deserve better. he acted very immaturely, and I think that you dont need him as a friend right now, friends dont act that way, maybe in a few months he will smarten up and you too can be friends again, but I doubt that actually dating him again would be a very good idea. I think that you need to look for another boyfriend, or atleast spend time with other male friends, because if you dont, girls tend to believe that men are all alike, and you shouldnt believe that all men are like that, because I'm pretty sure that there are alot of better guys out there who would love to be your friend or boyfriend. and as far as the last part, I think that is the reason that he slept with that other girl, he was angry with the girl that cheated on him, and was trying to get back at her through you (I know that makes no sense, but guys are very complex... and they are also not complex at all. which is probably even more confusing, but thats okay, all girls get confused by them sometimes). I think that you sound like a great person, and that you should go out and have fun with your friends. try your hardest to get your mind off of your ex, and also congratulations on standing up for what you believe in, friends with benifits is a tupid idea if you ask me. I hope I helped, and good luck moving on.
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Okay, so I have a lot of friends who are homo or bisexual. A,B,C are gay D,E are bi and F is lesbian...but C doesn't really matter right now.
A who is in my grade likes B who is in a grade above us. Well, A thinks B is cute and the thing is that creeps me out. It's not the guy on guy thing it's just the friendon friend thing. A likes to get into guys pants and A might persue that with B and that would be just BLEH. D and E went out and broke up and E talked a lot of crap about D whent they broke up. Now E and D BOTH complain about one another at me and it's getting really annoying. E still ilkes D but thinks D hates her. D doesn't care and is HORRIBLE at keeping relationships. E wants to ask D out agian but every one of her friends hate E..including me. Then there is F whom I dislike and she likes D and D leads her on and F takes it seriously and that just grosses me out sinc\e they're best friends, D is being slutty, and F is following..and F has bAD hygene problems.
So what should I do wiht A and B? B doens't know any of A's thoughts. A thinks B is cute and wants to get in his pants. Both are my friends. And D and E...E thinks I'm not her friend for not giving her D's email address. And E wants to go back out with D who isn't ready to come out of the closet yet. And E has the biggest mouth. How can I keep D and E seperated?? I don't want D going through all the crap she had toput through last year! And F...goodness. What shall I do with her?! (link)
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well that is very interesting, and also very confusing. I think that as their friend you have to be supportive of all of their choices.
It is okay for your friends to like each other, you just have to accept it. A can make her own decisions as far as dating and "getting into guys pants" As far as D and E, you should let them sort out their relationship all by them self. Especailly seeing as they have already dated and broken up. Just let them choose their own paths. If E asks for D email address, give it to her. she probably just wants to talk. And you shouldnt be the one to stop that unless D specifically asks you not to give it to her. and for F, if she likes D she likes d whatever, just let her be that way. you cant stop the way your friends are going to act, you can have your own opinions, but you cant judge them, they are free to do what ever they want to. Just be nice and let them make their decisions, good or bad. I know that sounds like it doesnt really make sence, but you have to realize that they are never going to learn if they dont try things out. and then eventually they will get hurt and realize that they cant do that. They will learn whatever they learn, buy conequeneces beheld apon them. It is your job as the friend to be there when they need a sholder to cry on, but not to be the one to do everything for them, or they will never learn right? Good luck, I hope I helped alittle bit.
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So this has started ever since highschool began, I can't eat breakfast, I just feel nausia when I see food, eggs, bacon, poptarts, sandwichs. I know its unhealthy I've been forcing myself to eat breakfast now! Yesterday I forced myself to eat a poptart and I threw up, I only had 4 bites? It's almost been a month and my parents are getting annoyed that I don't eat what they make me to eat. But then at like 9:59am-12:00pm I'm starving. Why is this happening?! And I have diahhrea now, which I have no clue why! HELP!
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Hey I often had the same problem, and you're quite right, it is really unhealthy to skip breakfast. The reason why it is happening is thta your stomach isnt use to digesting foods, its been fairly inactive for quiet a few hours. I have one idea that sorta works for me. First try healthier foods, they are often easyier to digest, and less nausiating, fruits work great. try getting up earlier as well. If you are one of those people who gets up at six a.m. to do your hair, attempt breakfast then. Try to eat an apple. then at around eight try and eat something alittle more like a bowl of cereal. try to drink a few beverages as well in the morning, a glass of orange juice, milk and even another glass of juice can help you to hydrate, so even if you dont get alot to eat in, then you wont run out of energy at 10, even tho that might not be your problem, you will notice that you feel less sluggish with a meal in the morning.
Get into a habit of going to bed and waking up around the same time everyday (yes that includes weekends aswell) because when you wake up at noon on sunday and then at 7 am on monday.it really confuses your stomach. if you dont wake up at six am to do your hair, you probably should force yourself to get up early. I know that sucks, but you can always get up to take your dog for a walk, or go for a morning jog. or if you have a tredmil you can just walk in your house. If you wake up at 6 and then run for a bit, your stomach will be awake and want to eat something. These are just a few ideas, but if none of them work for you, (which is deffinatly a possibility) talk to a professional. A gym/ health ed teacher may be able to help, or you can ask your parents to take you to a dietician. I hope I helped a bit. Good luck getting you mornings off to a healthy start!
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I went out with a group of friends, one of them was a girl who knows a bunch of upperclassmen (this was my freshman year, last year). She invited this one junior named Steve. This friend, Maddy, left to go home first.
Afterwards, as we were waiting for two of our other friends to be picked up, we were talking to Steve-this was the first time I had seen him in my life.
We were walking under the stars talking, the most romantic thing ever. He was so nice, and he was so protective (we were walking around horse stables at night, and my mother is paranoid). I instantly fell for him.
Fast forward just over a month. We were at a holiday party for a club that we are both in. I was sitting upstairs talking to a friend, and he says, to me, "It's good that one hot girl is still here!" Hot is NOT how I would describe myself.
Again, fast forward, but this time about 3 months. This club that we are in had a huuuuuuge performance. My part of the club was in a downstairs dressing room, everyone else was upstairs. In essence, he had no reason whatsoever to be down there.
People saw him come downstairs, look for me, and then when he didn't see me (I was upstairs, looking for him :] ), he would go back up. As I wa coming back down and he was going back up (after my part of the performance), I stopped and asked him if he had seen me mess up that night, and he said no, bu asked m e where I stood onstage and asked me to hug his teddy bear for good luck (His part of the show involved stuffed animals). I did.
In short, I still like him, and he doesn't really like me. He is two years older (15/17) and is graduating in June. I've tried getting over him, but every time I see him, my heart melts.
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wow its really complicated dating a guy who is older than you, but I think that you should tell him how you feel, that way at least her knows how you feel. If he graduates and he has know clue that you ever felt this way then not only will you regret it, but you wont have been true to your self which is the most important thing isnt it. there will be lots of other guys, so dont fret if it doesnt work out, but I think that it is important that you be true to yourself and tell him what he needs to know. plus, its only september you have a whole year left wth him,maybe something will happen. or atleast you could become better friends. I hope it all works out good luck!
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