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tell my mom that sometimes my dad hits me
I need help telling my mom that sometimes i am abused by my father for the stupidest reasons when she is at work. I feel very shy to tell her and i dont know if i tell her that the effect of me telling her will hurt my families future. i am the 2nd oldest of 4 kids and i am the one that gets hit by my dad the most. the other sumblings rarely are touched. my dad has very vast mood swings and once he ill be very nive nad a few minutes later he is going crazy.
i dont know what to tell my mom about this.
please help me.
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the question is what kind of abuse are you talking about? Does he 'spank' you or hit, punch, or hit you with things, like baseball bats?
There's a line between abuse and discipline. Keep in mind if you feel it is abuse, you need to talk to someone. Preferably not your mother. Someone at children services or something. If you tell your mother, chances are things are going to get a lot worse before they get better. Better yet, talk to a school counselor.
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You really need to tell your mum, because she'll only find out by gettimg hurt herself.And you don't want your mum and siblings hurt do you?Then you'll need to tell her.Otherwise he'll lash out on all of you and cause serious damage.
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well, my dad tried to kill me by choking me with the necklace that i was wearing on his bed. i was scared to tell my mom, but i knew that it was the right thing to do. since my dad didnt live with us, i told her as soon as i got back from visiting my dad. she called the police and now i dont have to see him anymore.
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go have a girls day out then once like you guys are talking and stuff be like mom can we talk about dad? then tell her. <33 stay strong love.
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This is a very sensitive subject, but you HAVE to tell someone, wether it be your mom, a friends mom, or another adult. It is very important that you get out of an abusive situation immeadiately.
You can not worry about how this will effect your family, you are not at fault for this, he is, and it doesnt matter if he doesnt hit your siblings, he hits you, and thats one too many. It doesnt matter if he has mood swings you should be hit. And you're right, your mom probably has absoulutely no idea, because shes at work, but thats okay it is up to you to tell her.
I think that you should try and ease into it one day when he isnt home. Tell her whats going on, but if she denies it or starts to get upset, dont say anything more. I think that you should talk to an adult that you trust first, so that if something happens and your mom gets upset, or your father gets agressive, then someone else knows what is going on and maybe what to do.
I'm glad that you are starting to voice your fears, but a bunch of teenagers, can not tell you how to solve this situation. You need to speak to an adult about this. there are many people you can contact if you do not know any adults that can help.
You can talk to a councler at school, or look for the posters. I don't know where you live, and the resources available there, but if you live in Canada, we have kids help phone, and www.kidshelpphone.ca there is also teentouch.org. If you og to gogle and search, I'm sure you can find some resources in your area.
I realize that I didnt really answer your question, but I think that there aren't very many answers to that question, you have to say what you need to say, it depends on your mom's personality, how you are going to say it, but if you talk to your friends and talk to adults I'm sure that you will be able to find a way to tell your mom, and get help. No one deserves to be abused, and you are very strong, to be able to come out and talk about this. I wish you good luck, and I hope that I pointed you in the right direction to help you with this situation.
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He shouldn't be hurting you.
You should tell her about it.
Or just randomly ask, "Mom, why does Dad hit me?"
She needs to talk to him and yeah, he might go to some group with anger problems. He shouldn't be taking it out on you.
Don't worry about the family's future.
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ok so my dad wasnt supposed to drink but he did and i found out so i told my mom and she talked to im and then he did it again and they almost got a divorce
to answer your question just go up to her and talk to her dont be worried about your family splitting up. The first time your mom will probably just talk to him abotu it and tell him to go to some meeting abotu anger problems (nothing serious)
if he keeps doing it just tell her somehting needs to be done!!
dont worry about your family splitting up because your dad should not do this to you
hope i helped
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