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Shy @ School
I try to be myself in school.. but after getting advice and stuff, i still cant. if im not comfortable, then i kinda freeze or beocome kind of like.. twitchy a little. then like little things happen like me getting up to get a paper, and i dont want to do it, cause im feeling uncomfortable, then i end up embarassing myself.. well in my opinion. i mean, i believe that i like myself.. but i dunno what else i could do to get more comfortable. picture everyone in underwear? not so funny. uh.. treat the people as family? i guess so.. i've tried it but it kinda doesnt work. im more outgoing and stuff when im at home or not working.. sometimes i appear to be serious and really shy when i know im not like that. i've had this problem for like a couple years now.. i'm 13 in middle school. ehh.. any advice if there is any to solve this problem? thanks if you do :)
Also, when im outgoing like in school or something, then sometimes i get a little too carried away, cause maybe im trying too hard when i am, or something. how can i learn to control it without being too out of line or too.. in the line? like, with still having my dignity and stuff. :/ HEEELP!
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I used to be like that, like sometimes i didnt (sometimes still do if i dont feel like trying) have fun around certain people who i may not know very well and theres a lot of them. I know how you feel. This year i got like a bajillion times better and i think you can too.
You just need to remember that you are a pretty, nice, funny girl. (Unless you are a guy because you didnt say. If you are a guy i feel really bad now) Just be how you are around your closest friends and have fun. When you think something funny, say it. Don't be shy. Just remember that you have nothing to worry about.
About the sometimes getting out of control part.. just watch yourself and be careful about how crazy you get.
I hope I helped, if you have any more questions you can ask them.
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I was like this 12-13 and right now im 14 and my first impressions are very quiet and shy.
I would hardly say a word in school but around family i was so much different.
I realized not to care what people think.
Maybe you're like that because you are more mature than them and you see them acting immature and feel like oh you have to say stupid things so thats why you feel like you're trying to hard.
If you get anxiety and twitch up like that.
It's just your nervous system because you get all uncomfortable and nervous and makes you get sweaty hands sometimes or twitchy.
You will open up as you get older and especially when you go to highschool because you meet older mature people
Just don't care what people think be yourself no matter what.
You only live once so live it while you're young
If you die tomorrow.
At least you would have lived my life.
Hope it helped sweetie :D
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I am the same way as well. But I think that almost everyone goes through that at some point. You may not know it, but everyone feels uncomfortable one in a while. There are somethings about every person that they don't like. But the important thing is to realize that it doesnt matter who you are or what you look like. Every person is different. If we all had to look the same things would get pretty boreing.
Everyone has this bubble around them, and we have to work to get out of it and live life to the fullest. Some people are naturally open, but a lot of people have self confidence problems, and can't seem to leave that bubble. I'm one of those people.
So as far as solving this problem, that is a hard one. Don't be afraid to join all the clubs, even the ones your friends would make fun of, answer all the questions the teachers ask in class, even if you are just guessing. And if you say something funny and everyone laughs, think what the heck, everyone likes laughing, thats a good thing then.
Last week I went to a camp with a bunch of people I didnt know, and I went into it thinking that I was going to have a horrible time, and I did until I finally let loose and had fun. I didn't make any new friends, but I had a lot of fun, and next time the situation comes up, I am going to try to stop worrying about fitting in and try to worry more about having the most fun I can.
I hope that you get a chance to go through something like that, and maybe it will go better for you (you will make friends etc.) so I guess All I'm saying is, you have to think less and smile more, because whats the worst that can happen? Like I said, I'm not completely done making the transistion of confidence, but I dont think any one is. I Hope I helped. Good luck bursting out of your personal bubble.
Angie91
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hey, if you can kind of relate to what im saying then thats good.
Im the kind of person thats loud, but once in a while ill be shy. If you're not confortable around the people at school, then just do things to make yourself comfortable, and dont worry about looking like an idiot infront of ppl. Trust me it looks worst to not try at all because of embarassment or being uncomfortable than giving it your all and not doing so bad, even though u look like an idiot and do good. If you're around people that you can have fun around your just going to look back on this like it was no sweat.
Im thirteen too, but when i was in gr.5 i remember not doing things because i felt uncomfortable or embarassed , but now that i think about it , if i went and did it id only have more fun. It'd be a gain not a loss. I was young, and ten years from now you'll probably be like "i was young" too.
hope i was a help. :)
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Oh my gosh I am the exact same way. Im 14 but its like the weirdest thing I hate it!!! At home when my friends come over and Im all energetic and stuff and they always say "Wow youre crazy at home" hehe. Anyways, I have gotten a little better this year just cause Ive made some good friends and stuff. But one thing that helped me is to think that everyone of these people are just people, going to school, or doing their job. You don't have to look a certain way or whatever cuase honestly noone cares how you look. They care about how you are. Okay sorry if this is so long but oh well. Like last year I was friends with this one girl and she like wanted me to be a certain way or look good for her other "bigger, more popular" friends. I went through pure torture last year for that. This year I decided to just be myself, and I just wear whatever I like and want, and act my own way, and life has been better than ever. I have tons of friends, Im doing great in school, and best of all It is sooooo much easier to talk to people. I dont always feel lower than everyone else.
Anyways I guess what im just trying to say is that you will look alot better to EVERYONE if you just dont try to look a certain way. Hope I helped, and again, sorry for it being so long!!
Ace
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