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My Best Friend and Her Crush
15/f. My best friend (14/f) has a crush on this cute guy. I think I also might have a crush on him, but I haven't told her because I don't want to seem like I'm stealing him or anything, so I've pretty much been ignoring my feelings. Anyway, the bad part is that she goes through guys like oxygen. I'm not kidding. And besides that, it's fairly obvious that he's not interested in her, and he and I share the same interests and sense of humor. Is it bad for me to like him as well, and should I just back off? Or should I tell my best friend and see what happens? I really don't want to mess up my friendship with my best friend over some guy. Thanks.
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I completely understand you like two or three weeks ago me and my best friend wanted to know if this boy liked someone in one of our classes.Anyways me and my friend had a crush on him in the same time, so we started getting angry with each other i even slap her in the face after a rumor came out that he was leaving we started being friends.But he said he wasn't leaving so we fought again at the end my friend stop liking him then he came up to me and asked me out.We don't want that to happen to you so I think you should talk to her but in a calm way a way she won't get mad and upset one day you should ask that cute boy if she likes her and if he said he doesn't ask him out,if he said yes you should tell him to tell your friend that he doesn't like her but in a nice way i hope it turns out right for everyone.
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Look, if she is your friend then a guy won't tear your friendship apart. If he's not into her then it's fair game for both of you( but not a competition). If you both like him then thats fine.You may not be able to predict what the out come might be.
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You have to think about this alot, and I'm sure that you have. She's your best friend, and it doesnt matter if she gos through a lot of guys, thats how some girls are. But you are entitled to like any guy you want. I think that you should tell her, but dont act like you are going to take him away from her, one day at a sleepover or something be like, yeah I kinda have a crush on so-and-so, tell her that you think he's cute and like his sense of humour and stuff. For right now you definatly should just back off, and yeah you could mess up your friendship if you dont bring it up in a nice way. But if she goes through a lot of guys then she may be done with him in a couple weeks, leaving you where? Then again, this may be the guy for her, you never know unless you talk to her about it. Shes your bff, she can handle it.
Boys will come and go but best friends are forever, However, you have to do what is in your heart. Good luck, hope I helped.
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is it fairly obvious that hes not interested because youlike him or would you say the same thing about his disinterest if you didnt like him.no matter..no its not bad that you like the same guy...and who say your stealing him he has free will hell be with who he wants whether its you or her or niether. just see what happens.
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It's my experience that nothing ruins a friendship faster than two women competing for the same guy. Despite how you try to rationalize it (you and he have the same interests, she goes through guys like oxygen), the question you need to ask yourself is, which is more important; the friendship or the guy? If the answer is the guy, go for it. If the answer is the friendship, find another guy.
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You have many choices. Id let him know how you feel by getting close to him. That way you can see where it goes with out pushing the relationship. If he does like you more then your friend so be it. You also can wait to see what happens between your friend and him. most likely she will lose interest in him and move on quickly. You can do both at the same time. If you two hit it off it doesnt mean you are the bad friend. It isnt your fault if he isnt interested in her. Just remember a good judge of a man is how he treats a person he isnt interested in. If he is mean to her. You may rethink liking him. If h is a good guy he will let her down nicely.
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wow..i've been through this same exact situation.. if she was really your friend,then she would just want you to be happy,you obliously like him alot,i think you should talk to your friend before making a move, but your not stealing him,he was never hers in the first place,im sure she would understand if she's really your friend,hope i helped!
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