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Okay, my boyfriend's mom had a stroke and is in the hospital. She's not expected to make it much longer. Every time he calls me, I have no idea what to say to him. I can't really give him advice, and I don't want to say "everything's going to be okay" because clearly it's not. Any ideas on what I can say to him? I can't go see him and just comfort him because he lives a few hours away.
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Just make sure that you are really supportive, encourage him to talk about his feelings, ask him how hes doing and if there is anything you can do, he knows you have know idea how he feels, and doesnt expect you to give him advice, but he will probably need a shoulder to cry on once in a while and when he really needs to talk try your hardest to be there. Kids who have to go through the death of their parents are often very emotional and need some help, you just need to be there when he needs that reassurance.
Remember you arent a therapist or anything, you cant be held responsible for getting him through this, but you can deffinatly help, and I think that, that is important thing for you to try if you can. Anything you can do to support him will help. Good luck, I hope that I helped.
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Say this word 4 word:
"Everthing IS ok.Just don't fret about.Try and think Happy thoughts.And pray and ask that your mom is protected.Remember,it IS ok.Everything's alright,everthing's alright.It'll be ok.You'll make it passed this.Just pray."
Hope i help! :]
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Just listen. Listen and encourage him to talk about it BUT don't overly ask about it. If he wants to talk, let him say all he wants. If he doesn't, change the subject. He needs you right now and later on, he'll appreciate everything you've done for him. It must be incredibly hard to watch a mother die and you being the girlfriend, he feels that you will listen and understand. Let him know how you feel about the situation too and tell him how you wish you could be there for him.
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Just tell him that you love him(if your comfortable with that) and your there for him...its hard to comfort someone in a time like this and I'm sure he will understand why you dont have much to say =[
Be a good listener...maybe him telling someone how he feels will make him feel better. Tell him you wish you were there, but above all just be a good listener.Dont try to tell him you know what hes going through...these kind of situations are different for everyone and he might not take it very well.
Hope you find a way to comfort him <3
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