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i seriously am going to eat myself to death.
i am getting fatter everyday
right now it 11:07 , its a thursday night
I just ate a footlong sub!
and i wasnt even hungry
I keep going and going,
this weekend i have a family party
and im going to keep eatnig!
I do not know what diet to go on.
I am like 20 lbs over weight , not good
IT DEFFINTITLY shows !
I need help loosing belly fat.
and thigh fat.
Please list tips
oxox

I answered this questions that is similar to yours, so please look at this. It has tips on exercising and such. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536463

other helpful things
http://www.wikihow.com/Stay-Healthy

I would say that you will have to control yourself and put ristrictions on what you eat. It will be hard, but once you do it, it will surely benifit you!

Best of Luck!

okay, so i have this friend, i just met her this year. anyway, she doesnt feel good about herself at all and she always things like \"omg, i am soo fat\" and she always says that all the guys like me and dont like her and blah blah blah. i never tease her and i always try to help her but she always disses me and it bothers me. i defend her alot when people tease her but she always goes to my bf ( because their close friends) and she tells him that i am being mean to her. this week was the worse week ever because everytime she saw me and him together holding hands or whatever she would get pissed and she would tell me to stop. i told my bf and he started to see the picture. i havent talked to her for a few days. what should i do????

I would say give her time. Let her do whatever she wants. If you leave her alone for awhile, she might realise that she was wrong. If she keeps it up then tell her "dude, chill out. calm down. you're being way to self concious, no one cares. Stop making such a big deal out of this." It seems to me that she needs to hear that.

im writing a thank you card to my cousin and his girlfriend. they got me these earrings (they are college kids so it wasnt anything AMAZING)also i wanna thank them for coming to the little party cause it is always nice to see them. i also wanna say that im excited for this summer so we can get together and go on my grandparents boat and go to vermont (where they live) cause we had fun last summer.

i just wanna write it so it doesnt sound corny...

how about

"Hey, How are you?
Just wanted to thank you for the gift (loved it) and for coming over.
See you this summer (it should be fun)."

being short and sweet should do it. Also using everyday words would make it seem normal and not corney.

Okay- I am a junior and I want to do early admission which the deadline for is November 15,2008. I have always been great academically but I haven't really participated in sports. I do everything else from clubs and volunteering but no sports! I am scared that I won't get into college with out any. I tried to do track but my depression and failing grades got in the way. I need to know what can I do to get a greater transcript.? Should I join any activites over the summer and besides school( i live in Chicago, so if anybody could find me some- I would be happy)Or should I wait and do some in the fall for the first three months? Plus how do colleges know we participated in sports anyways?

Hello fello junior,

If you aren't in sports, it no biggie. Looks like you do just enough to participate in other clubs and activiteis. Just have some community service in there. If you have good grades, and are showing that you participate in other things then it should be just fine. But if you are still unsure, then you can always go to your counsler or the career center in your school to find out for sure, It's more likely they will be able to help you further.

my name is april and i am 15/f and i really some help on how to get a boy to see me the way i see him and i really like him but i cant tell if he likes me or not i dont think he has a girl friend.but i would really like to get him to notice me.we talk and all but we dont talk enough to know each other.and i dont get to see him that much but i really need some advice.please help me.

p.s. please please please help me

april

how to know if he likes you
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Guy-Like-You-%28Especially-Made-for-Pre-Teens%29

how to get him to notice you
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Notice-You

most important is just to get to know him, talk to him, have fun with him.

what is the difference between .com .net and .org

?

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=difference+between+domain+names

14/f okay so i've been depressed and cutting myself for like almost a year now, and about a month or so ago my parents found out, so they put me in therapy and stuff. so now my whole family knows about me (mom, dad, sister, 3 brothers, and step-mom). plus my 2 best friends no. every second of the day my family stares at me and comes in my room like every five minutes to 'check up' and its so annoying! i have no where i can go to be alone and it's like i'm trapped. everywhere i turn someone is trying to get inside my head and asking how i feel and its just so annoying. a couple months ago i tried to commit suicide and obviuosly failed and no one knows i'm suicidal accept for my 2 best friends, my parents think im fine. i lie to my therapist every time i go saying i didnt cut and that im fine but i'm not! all i can think about is going home and cutting and i always fantisize about dieing. its sickining and i hate how all i want to do is die and im afraid that i'll get really mad and actually do it and succeed this time. i have no where to turn and i just need answers. please help.

okay, that's where you are going wrong. Your parents are spending good muney sending you to therapy because they care about you. But, when you lie to the therapist, there is no way she can help you. Isn't that the point? Talk to your therapist and open up to her, if you want you can tell her to keep it confidential.

One more thing, your therapist probably knows you are lieing. There is a reaosn your parents check up on you and thats becuase the therapist probably told the that you aren't making much progress. If you topok the help from the therapist, then they might start trusting you more and knowing that you will be okay.

:) best of luck!

I'm 5'7" 130 lbs, but my face is really fat & I look extremely ugly when I smile. Otherwise I look okay. How do I get rid of face fat??

fifteen/female, well here is my problem -
i show no emotion, what so ever it's like i can't cry when i'm upset mad ect, and i just want to cry sometimes- but i can't -i hold it in, because when i do cry i think to myself [WOW ARE YOU REALLY CRYING OVER THIS? WOW SUCK IT UP AND STOP BEING SUCH A BABY ABOUT IT BLAHBLAHBLAHHHHH!] its like that ALL the time i cry or start to anyway, and i don't like it, i don't like holding it in; it's making me become someone i don't want to be and it's driving me insane!!! i just don't wanna be that person anymore i dont wanna hold everything in side; and like i can't talk to my friends about it because i feel as though thay don't want to hear it and i'm talking to much, so really i don't know what i should do; it' has been this way for a long time a very long time and it makes me SUPER mean because i hold everything in i have no emotion really!

in all honesty what would you do? any advice would do me good work so please

You know, there is really only one thing you can do to cure yourself of this. So here is what you should do. Go into your room/bathroom/any hwere you can be alone, when you are sad. Lock the door and cry. Crying is something everyone does, just no one talks about it. Next time you feel mad/sad don't be afraid to cry. The only way you will let out all that anger is by crying. Go ahead punch a pillow. It's okay! Now, when you are done crying, you will feel better and most of your anger will be let out.

Don't that you are a baby if you cry! Go ahead and do it! THis way you won't have to hold in your anger as much and it will make you less angry all the time. :)

Can ceramic clay get soft again, after you already put it in the kiln? like if you got it hot again, could it get soft again? or once you put it in the kiln is it gonna stay that way even if you re heat it?

yeah, it's going to stay that way. It could get soft when you leave the clay figure out (before the kilm), because then you can wet it a bit. But, sorry it's to late.

it keeps saying its bigger than 15k,
but my picture is seriously tiny.
so what exactly is "15k"
and how can i turn my picture from pixels to "k's"

:)

What I did when the picture I wanted didn't work, I went on Photoshop or Adobe and changed it up. Then I saved it as a jpg. It worked. So maybe you could give that a shot.

my friend is turning 15 on cindo de mayo... may 5th. so its next week. im her best friend and im not sure what to get her. im gonna try to make a little slide show thingy with al our pictures but we dont have that many so ill just take a lot with her this weekend and give it to her late...no biggy but not i need like a material thing(s) and i have no clue what to get her cause her bf got her a necklace which she wears everyday. she has 2 rings from her grandparents that she wears everyday and i dont wanna get her earrings cause thats what she got me and i dont wanna like copy her. i want something unique but not weird and i like write her a letter every year so ill have the letter anf the video...
HELP. ps not to pricy but under 50 would be ideal.

try this, there are alot of links that might give you ideas
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=gift+to+give+friends

Okay, well this is my 4th month of getting my period. I started and it was regular at first and then the second time i was supposed to start, i went very little and only for one day. The third time, i went very heavy for 11 days. Well, it was a week after i quit and it came again. Why did it come this early. It is supposed to be 28 days and this time it was only a week until i got my next period. Is my body just trying to get normal since i just started 4 months ago or what? Any advice would be great.
Thanks.

Yeah, there really is no reason for you to worry. This is somethig every girl has to deal with and its a pain.

It will take time, don't fret.

Seriously, I got mine like 3-4 years ago and it's still screwy (it skips a month, stays regular for a while, gets heavy, all that jazz).

Have no worries. It's normal. But, it you are still worried, create a sort of calender of when you get them and stuff and show your doctor. THis way you can be absolutly sure of what's going on (although, I'm pretty sure, it's nothing).
:)

Ergh. Ive had so many questions about diets and what not, and nothings worked. It's horrible I am over weight-- BY A LOT. I'm 14, and weigh 220 pounds. My knees hurt, my back hurts, I get windewd very easily- and im tired of not being able to get these cute cloths because there not my size. I just want to be healthy [[and if I look awesome in the process thats A-OK with me =]] Im just aiming to be healthy because I have a condition of Acantheosis Nigricans and one of it's symptoms is being Isulin Resistant so if I ever become a diabetic of I think type one... I donno what to do really. I just wanna stop hurting, and feel beter about myself.
Summers finally coming, and I could go swimming in the privacy of my own pool which I hear is really good for you because it works all your muscles. Also my friend Steven who does swimming in like tournamints was gunna show me some stretches and stuff to help me. I do have support which I love- and i could walk around my neighboorhood I wont get like shot or something.
Its just, I eat when im bored even when Im not hungry. So I was thinking about drinking a glass of water before meals until I start eating less because I could probably at the moment i could like eat a whole large pizza and halfn hour later go up for something else -- yeh its that bad. Do you have any tips I could do? Like drinking a lot of water, and walking a mile a day- and 50 sit ups... Anything! Im extremely desprtie considering im like 100 pounds overweight. Its horrible I let it get this far..
So please anything is helpful even if you just wanna say I CAN DO IT lol. Im happy wiht that too. =]
Thank you.
Kate

Below is a link of a question I answered similar to yours. The advice goes for both. So check that out.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536463

here is a link for what to do about emotional eating
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Emotional-Eating

And I really believe you can do this! You seem motivated, you have support, and a start on a plan to get this done, which means the only thing left is to start! Now, start soon and don't give up! The real results come later then you will expect, but they will be results that you will be happy to keep!

other helpful links
http://www.wikihow.com/Start-Your-Own-Exercise-Regimen-and-Stick-to-It
http://www.wikihow.com/Start-the-Recommended-Workout-Diet
http://www.wikihow.com/Use-Exercise-to-Help-You-Lose-Weight
http://www.wikihow.com/Exercise-to-Become-a-Better-Swimmer

Best of luck to you! I have faith in you! You can do it! Good luck! :D

I need to get out of swimming in my gym class.
I can't swim, and the pool is disgusting.

Any suggestions besides a doctor's note? =/

The thing is that only a doctors note will be good.

Now, if it was for a religious reason (that's how I got out of swimming), then you religious place would have to send a letter with the offical letterhead.

They have gotten very particular about this now and are so much more strict.

I would suggest that you talk to the gym teacher to get you into the easy swim class (if you school has one) for beginners. And the pool problem , well just shower. Maybe you could switch periods around and have gym last so you can go home and shower.

Sorry, I can't help much, but schools are requiring more than just a parent note nowadays. :S

So for my video productions class i need to make a commercial and i picked mine to be on nascar but i have absolutely no ideas. so any ideas would be great it can be funny or serious but i'
d rather it be funny

*Ainne thinking of ideas*

1)if you have those mini-cars (like the toy ones) and a toy track, you can show the cars speeding down those, and say something like um "Nascar, fast in toy or in real life" or "Only a small Nascar can go this fast"
2)this guy with really stiff hair that doesn't blow in the wind in a normal car, but when he gets into a NAscar car his hair goes all wild and free, "With Nascar, you can truely feel the wind blowing through your hair!"
3)do a funny song
4)do something totally random and say nascar at the end of it

sorry, can't come up with more, I hope I helped or atleast sparked some ideas. :)

Any further questions on this and I'll be happy to help. Maybe then I'll have more ideas. :)

have fun.

ok so like this is really embaresing but seriously i like brush my teeth like 4 times a day, cause for sum reason when i brush my teeth and floss and use mouthwash about 30 minutes later they feel dirty again my mouth feels dirty and my breath smells! idk what should i do? i was just at the dentist like a month ago and he didnt say anything was wrong.. is there anything i can do to help my breath and teeth? pLease help k thanks! =]

well, try brushing your toungue. Alot of stuff gets caked on you tongue and that causes bad breath.

Also, if you have braches or expanders, that is a good cause of it too.

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Bad-Breath

also, the more you say rinse with mouthwash, the more the germs in your mouth get used to it. So tyr to turn it down a notch and stop worrying so much.

also consider buying those minty breath sprays that are very cheap in drg stores. they should help.

does cellery burn calories?

try this

Hi there, I'm a senior in high school and I'm about to make the first big decision ever, where I want to go to college. I live in San Antonio, Texas and I got accepted to UTSA (in San Antonio) and ASU (in San Angelo about 3 hours away).

I have a scholarship (2,000) to ASU and I have no scholarship at UTSA, but I'm afraid to move 3 hours away from my parents. I'm really stuck between these two choices and I have to make up my mind soon.

So, with that being said.. if you could choose, would you go to UTSA and live with your parents? Or, would you go to ASU and be three hours away from your parents?

Thanks!

Well, first of all, do you need that scolarship badely? Like would it help you out alot or would it not matter? If that scholorship does help, then choose that.

Also, look at the surroundings before you choose. Do you love the location? Which school will help you in your future.

This is a decision only you can really make based on your preferences. I wish i could help, but this is something that only you can decide.

Good luck!

hey! i was just wondering i'm kind of new to this and i don't really know how to use a layout on my advice column or how to decorate it.

advice appreciated! thank you

ok, personaly my favorite layout is the "Your Space' one. It takes up the whole screen and uses up all the space very nicely. http://www.advicenators.com/style.php
it's the second one under "Approved Public Styles"

now, the colors are something, that take a while. Don't be afraid to experiment with it. It takes time to get the hang of it. try the "Automatic color scheme buttons" to see what colors in general you prefer. Just make sure it is easy for the people to read.

for cool backgrounds go here http://www.wicked8ball.com./
it has some relly great still and animated backgrounds.

Advicenators provides some too http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php

Don't worry if it looks bad when you start. Trust me, it took me a while before I got my column looking nice, beforse it was not so good. Try and see what you like. Also visit other columns for ideas (but don't steal their setting completly!).

have fun.

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