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Only one way to say it: I AM SUPER SHY!!! when someone i don't know comse up to me and says hi (kid or adult) if they older than me, I freeze up. If they are younger, i don't. I guess thats because I'm older......
Even older people (people in their 60's) make me shy, really shy.
Some things though, like the cashier at a resturaunt, im not shy at all. I doin't get it.
NOw, to the question:
Are there any ways I can help myself be less shy around new friends/people?

A lot of people are shy when they are younger,
because we dont know the person thats talking to us, and it makes us so uncomfortable so we dont know what to say.

See I used to be shy too, but I loved meeting new people, so if they talked to me, I was as nice as I could be back to them!
Force yourself to atleast say hello back!
And ask how they are doing, and then the conversation will ease into getting easier and more comfortable :]

i broke up with my boyfriend of like more than a year and he got really upset. i told him that it wasnt his fault i just didnt think we had the chemistry. so was it wrong to break up with him weither he still loved you so so much? ill rate plz answer ♥

No it wasnt wrong.

Its better that you broke up with him because you didnt have feelings for him, and just leading him on.
That would have been worse off.

theres a girl im friends with, but i can never keep her enertained its weird.

what should i do?

Ask her what she wants to do?
Go shopping, go out for lunch,
take a hike somewhere, go to the beach,
to a quiet lake/pond.
Go buy a bead kit for her,
and make necklaces, or make something for her.
Watch a movie, got to an arcade.
..etc :]

I swear my mother is really hurtful I can't take her anymore. I feel so offended by what she does. WHy can't she just leave me alone. I hate her. I just feel really annoyed by her and I don't even have anyone to talk to

I dont know why some mom's are like this.
I mean its totally tearing down their kids confidence and its just not nice to be yelled at constantly and put down.
Try talking to your mom like this:
always say "I feel" not YOU MAKE ME FEEL!
but "I feel that everytime you put me down, it REALLY hurts my feelings." or whatever she says.
Sometimes people dont realize when they are hurting other peoples feelings.
If you need someone to talk to Im here!
Kaylehmae - Aim
And my msn and yahoo are on my advice column :]

i'm 13 female and my boyfriend quinn is 16. this friday he wants to have sex with me. i think we're moveing way to fast because we've only been dateing for 6 weeks! i scared of what might happrn if i do have sex with him! will hurt? should do it?
i told him i'm way to young! but he said i wasn't i don't think i'm ready. i told him i wasn't ready. by the way he asked me if he could finger me i said no. but i really don't know what that is so could you please tell me?
i need to know should i have sex him or should i say know? i love him but i really don't know what to do ! thatnk please helpE

Oh dear!
I really think you are going to fast, you've only been dating for six weeks? And your boyfriend is 16? It sounds to me like he's trying to use you just for this.
There are tons of things that could happen if you have sex at this age. Well you lose your virgiinity, you could get a numerous amount of STDS (sexualy trasmitted diseases) and some are still uncureable today beacuse there is a growing population of them, of new ones they arent sure how to treat yet. And if you dont know how many other girls your boyfriend had slept with, the possibility of getting an STD is endless. I've never had sex, but from what I've heard it does hurt, quite bad. And that its awkward, sex isnt like on tv. Its not hot and heavy, or all that moaning and groaning. Sex is something you should save for something you are absolutely sure about them (when you are married). Atleast in my opinion, marriage is best. The main point, sex is very awkward for the first time, and if you;'ve never done it, it will be painful/awkward for you. But if he's done it before he wont seem as nervous, and thats not right. I highly suggest that you DONT DO IT, your too young, and I forgot one of the biggest things to mention that could happen, you could get pregnant, even if you havent ever had your period, its still a possibility. And never have sex until your sure you can raise and support a baby. If you cant then theres no reason tohave sex.

Dont let him pressure you into having sex. You are too young for sex, but he only says your not because he wants sex really bad it sounds like. Its a good thing you said no to him fingering you too, because there are so many STDS you can get from that as well. Fingering is when a guy sticks his fingers up your "area".

Hun, to be brutally honest, the age difference is kinda spacious, and age doesnt matter usually until your older, like say someones is 20 and they are dating someone 25 it doesnt matter. But your still in school. And I dont think you should have sex, tell him you love him, but your not willing to do that. And if he says well if you love me why dont you do it? Say if you love me, you will wait.

And its not a good idea to have sex anyways if your this confused about it, and unsure. Once you have sex, the pressure and guilt will pile on you, and worry, especially if you werent sure but you just went ahead and did it anyways.

You'd feel pressure of what you did, what people would think if they found out, what if you were pregnant? Was what you did right? You shouldnt have done it? What if my parents find out? What if his parents find out? What if I have an STD?
What if he leaves me? What if he was just using me? What if he didnt even love me?
Its an endless list of questions, if your not sure about your partner.

You know, those are the questions you might be left answering.

I hope I helped hun.
If you need any one to talk to
Pleaes feel free to IM me,
KaylehMae

or my MSN or YAHOO
is on my advice page.
But send me an email first telling me what time to get on msn or yahoo.
I'm usually on aim 24/7

i am a 20 year old female and my boyfriend and i have been together for 13 months to the day. In all those 13 months i have yet to get him to talk to me about our relationship without him getting either aggressive or irritated or him acting silly and not addressing the issue just acting crazy. we have been into it about a certain subject lately becuase he wants to do something that is potentially hazardous to our relationship and his life and i don't want him to and won't let him do it when he wants to. he wants to fight about it but doesn't want to talk about it. how can i help him be able to open up and talk to me?

Tell him if he cant talk to you about your relationship, how do you expect him to want to [insert what he wants there] .. because you need to be on good communications about where your going with your relationship before you start doing things that could completely change it.

I went to the dermatologist about a month ago and he perscribed me minocycline 100mg before bed. when i wake up in the morning, i am so dizzy. he told me that there was a slim chance that that would happen. It eventually passes after about 2-3 hours after i wake up. im afraid that when school starts and i have to walk to class that im gonna get dizzy. i have 5 pills left until my next refill. which means that ill take my last pill on July 30th. i dont know if this would help but im 15/f. I have an appointment to see my dermatologist on august 30th. and one more refill until then. i know that when i take myself off of this medication, the dizziness will stop. So i know it wont affect me long-term. so what should i do?

I think you should be prescribed something else
maybe ask your doctor that.
Because usually people who get the rare side affects it effects them really hard.
So I would talk to your doctor about switiching the medication because its really not making you feel any better.

ok last night i woke up at about 3:30 because i heard a creaky noise and i flung up and went OMGSH!! i went to say you scared me to who i thought was my moms girlfriend and my dog but the person just turned around and looked at me like i was insane i stared at them as the faded into my door without opening it am i insane.. do i have some special power? this happened when i was like three.. i was in the bathroom potty training [ bear with me here ] && the door was open and all of the sudden a clown came out of the wall [ im not afraid of them ] and i screamed he looked at me and walked out the door and my uncle came running and looked at him or so i thought.. but i dont think he saw him .. whats wrong with me? am i just seeing this stuff and its not there do i have some power i dont know about im only 13 so it could get stronger

Well, I've never ever seen a ghost in my life.
Not that I know of atleast.
But I dont think your crazy,
I think its entirely possible to see ghosts.
I'd just have to see it myself to believe it.. you know?

But I mean if its freaking you out, try telling someone, or setting up a camera, or having a camera near you? You know? I'd be freaked out if I saw a ghost honestly.

I dont think anything is wrong with you, but dont think about it too much, or then people could be thinking you've got mental issues.

Ok. So im not quite sure if this is the right category, but... Ok, so there's this poetry reading at the library here in town and im nervous about reading my poems because my friends say they're good but I don't think so. Secondly, where can I get them published and get payed for it? I want to make money off of them and get them out there but 1)IM not sure if they're good enough. 2) I don't know the process

Well hey,
First thing dont try to get them published if you dont think they are good. It doesnt matter if your friends do, if you really like it, then go for it. Its all about you, poetry is usually personal. :)

Try googling publishing place, or talk to a librarian you know, they usually have connections. And she/he can give you the information.

I'm 17/f. I'm about 5'11". I've never been kissed, been on a date or had a boyfriend. Not to sound arrogant or anything but I am pretty. I have a great personality. I feel like I'm the only girl my age who hasn't been kissed, etc. I'm afraid I won't experience anything till college. Kinda like Felicity (old t.v. show). It makes me really sad, especially when watching romance movies. Any advice?

Well you have the confidence and the looks,
focus more on yourself, not on getting guys.
And remember just because your seventeen and havent been kissed yet, its not a big deal. There are tons of other people who are feeling the same way you do!

Sometimes people dont get boyfriends or go on dates until college, when the guys have matured ;)

Dont worry about, I know how you feel about watching romantic movies and craving to have someone :( like the notebook! omg that movie makes me feel so pathetic sometimes! But yeah your not alone in feeling the way you do.
hang in there :)

Ok so heres whats happening,
a little while ago my uncle lost his job, went in to depression and said he was going to commit sucide and then my friend started to slit her wrists and i'm getting scared. It's makeing me sad and i don't want to have to deal with her of even be around her cause i can't take the stress but at the same time i don't want to loose my friends.
If i don't hang out with them they will tell me i'm becomeing antisocial and thats not what i want i'm only 14 and this is way to much for me to deal with please dose anyone know what i should do? Or a way to relax

thanks,
becca

Okay .. I'm sorry your in this situation.
But here is one thing you are only fourteen, dont let your uncle's problem affect you, dont let anyones problem affect you.
I know you care a great great deal about them, but the fact that their problems are making their way into your life, is stressing you out.
You need to find a way to help them, yet staying completely out of it. You know?
Try offering to be someone they can talk to,
or try talking to a counsular about what you can do about these types of people.
I mean depression is a seroius thing.

if u r babysitting wut r the phone #s u should have on hand

like umm dunno. ok 911. um pest control? no..um posion something or other?

i should know how to do first aid right? btw what is first aid - like help a choking person with the heimlich manuever and like CPR??

The parents cell numbers,
the number of where they are going to be,
the family doctor,
911 obviously,
Yes you should know first aid.
How to put pressure on certain wounds,
the correct way to do CPR and the hemlich manuver. (sp?)

Ok, i am the last person in the world to ever try to show off my looks or my body, and i hate talking about my appearance because i am so slender. People tell me im gorgeous, and that i'll be happy i was skinny when i was young because ill benifit later in life. Everyone tells me i could be a model blah blah . I hate it. Especially since people think models are all b*tchy and high maintanence. So one day, i applied on model search america.com, and they phoned me back and want me to go to las vegas for an interview. How do i even tell anyone about this? If i tell my friends they'll think im trying to get attention. Im obviously not gonna go , but still. Please tell me what i should do! Emma

Emma!

I think you should go. Dont let people hold you back, you have recieved a great opertunity,
if they are your REAL friends they will be so happy for you! I dont even know you and I'm excited about that, thats amazing! I really think you should take this change, you may never get it again. Dont let people talk you out of it because they think models are mean, you be the first to show them that you can be a model and you can be nice! Dont give up!

when i plug my camera in to my comp to upload the pics, a thing pops up and lets me click to upload to my comp you know. well what if i dont want to do it that way. is there another way??

There are other ways yes,
like if you have paintshop pro
or photoshop programs
you can always upload your pictures through there, just go into the program and click like file upload from camera.

I really do love my boyfriend. But, I have a feeling he doesnt love mee.. and it makes me so upset. I really dont know what to do. This guy is like the love of my life.

Somethings not right here.
Try talking to him, communication is the key and the only way you will know for sure.
Tell him how you feel about him,
and by telling him, he may say he feels the same way too. If he doesnt, he may just say he's not in love with you. So theres a chance that might happen, but if he does say that he doesnt love you, ask him what you can do, or move on with life :(

Ok im a 15/f who lives with my grandmother. I have lived with my mom for 15 yrs. My mom's house is not amusing enough for me and has no one there for me so i moved to my grandmother's house were I was closer to friends and had more entertainment. Well this summer I have been going to my dads and that is making it where I dont wanna go back to my grandma's and by the way Im going I will run out of place's to live before I even move out on my own. How can I satisfy my home life?

Well is there any way you can live with your dad instead with your grandma?
If theres a chance, then try talking to your grandma and your dad about it.
And tell them your growing up, your fifteen, and I know that you just want to get out and explore and hang out with people.

:]

i knew a girl about 3 years ago ,when i see her i used to say hi and that's it this year wat diffrent this at the end of this year ,,, i talked to her alot ,, it was nice ,,,, and at the end of this year i was going to ask her to give me her phone number but i couldn't coz her friends want her to saty with them so i talked to her for short time and i couldn't ask her for her phone number so i think i can get her phone number from some friends but i am just wonderning wat should i do after i get her phone number and wat she will say when she get massage or call from me wat is her responed for that i really like that girl alot so please can i get help,, and i am from libya ,,, so wat should i do ?

Sure asking her friends is an okay idea,
once you get her number. Call her and be like hey :) and if she wonders how you got her number, just let her know you tried to get it from you but her you never had time a lone with her, so you were shy, so you just asked one of her friends. If you like her so much, talking to her on thep hone shouldnt be that hard, talk about what she likes, ask her how shes doing, if she wants to hang out. How her summers going? Stuff like that.
:]

i flirt around ALOT but when i reallyt like someone i tend to OBSESS over then. i like them for 1 or 2 yhears before i get over them. they see this as a turn off. i dont know what to do to stop obsessing with these boys. i kno they will not like me but i cannot help myself. if you have any advice on how to stop myself from falling in "love" with these boys or on a way to help them to like me back or on how to stop myself from obsessing pelase feel free to help. thansk a million!

hailey

Hi Hailey,

Well it sounds more like your lusting, when your obsessing. Well what I suggest is, save your feelings and everything you feel about those crushes, for someone you know will deserve it. When you really fall in love. :) I know thats easier said than done, but try looking at it that way. When you start falling in lust and obsessing over a guy, remember to ask yourself why are you doing this? He's not going to like you anymore, they think its a turn off, and frankly you dont really know this guy at all enough to like him this much.

:]

I'm a bit older than the people that usually answer questions on this sight. I'm 28 and my girlfriend will be 27 in about a week.

We have been dating for about 7 months when I was in medical school in Cincinnati. I had to move to Rhode Island to start my residency, but she stayed in Cincinnati. I love her and I miss her terribly.

It gets difficult because my family is from a very traditional Indian family (Asian Indian), who do not believe in cross culture dating (or anything fo the sort). My girlfriend is caucasian. I kept the relationship secret for a while, but then I told my parents. My vacation is comign up and I want to spend it with her, but now my mum says that if I go to see her- she will not let me see my family anymore. I would be disowned. I love my family, but I love my girlfriend, and this is really tearing me up inside.

I don't know what to do, personally I wish I coudl just leave everything and everyone behind, but this is really affecting everything- my heart, mind, and soul.

What do you think that I should do?

Okay this is a very hard question :(
I'm sorry your put in this situation.
In my shoes what I would do is, go for the girl.
The companion, as long as you have friends, close friends, and are sure about this girl. Go for her, because love conqours all. I know losing your family would be devastating. But I dont understand how people can say only certain people of a certain race can love each other. Love is easy yet complex. And love is free, maybe your mom will relize eventually in time, that she made a big mistake. Maybe not, but take a chance, or let it pass you by.

Think about it.

okay I'm 14 and I have alot of stretch marks on my thighs and they are starting to get lighter as I age and everything but I'm still really worried that maybe if a guy sees them he will find it a huge turn off and then I dont know what. :[ I'm not really fat or skinny but I've had these marks since I was 12 and I'm really worried that a guy will think less of me physicaly because of them....would a guy be? My mom had alot of stretch marks when my dad met her and he had no problem but I'm still worried. Please help!

It all depends on the person,
it matters the most on the INSIDE of a person,
not the outside, but if you cant stand the stretch marks, you can buy like cocoa butter lotions that make them appear less and less :]

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