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Ok so heres whats happening,
a little while ago my uncle lost his job, went in to depression and said he was going to commit sucide and then my friend started to slit her wrists and i'm getting scared. It's makeing me sad and i don't want to have to deal with her of even be around her cause i can't take the stress but at the same time i don't want to loose my friends.
If i don't hang out with them they will tell me i'm becomeing antisocial and thats not what i want i'm only 14 and this is way to much for me to deal with please dose anyone know what i should do? Or a way to relax
thanks,
becca
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You don't have to be around these people to help them. Tell a trusted adult, like your parents, another relative...call the police. Let people know that you know about this.
This is a lot for anyone to deal with yes, and if it causes you to be stressed out don't be afraid to remove yourself from the situation. To let go of your friend's pain, does not mean to stop caring about them. The people that are all doom and gloom all the time are energy vampires (in fact there is a book like that) They drain the life right out of you! Don't let this happen--or you will end up feeling down too!
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First off..immagine this:
you find out your friend and/or uncle commited suicice..and you told NOBODY about this. Wouldnt you feel terrible? For me, the guilt would be overwhelming. Number 1 is to tell someone about both your friend and your uncle. Tell a relative about your uncle..if they dont show signs of getting him immediate help, tell someone else..another trusted adult who wil get him help. As for your friend, tell a counselor,teacher,or parent about your friend
you said you dont want to be around her..she needs you most right now though! bake her a cake,get pictures together of you two and make a little album, make a card listing all the things you love about her, something little like that can cheer her up!
what you should do is get them help, but dont let this overwhelm you to the point where YOU are depressed also. I think once you get them help, the pressure will be off of you and you can concentrate on your social life again.
for now here are some really relaxing activities:
1) Walking
2) Swimming
3) Listening to music
4)writing
here is a stress article
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i hope all this helped a little?
<33 melissa
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All i can say is get her help. tell the school conselur or your parents. Someone your trust.
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Okay .. I'm sorry your in this situation.
But here is one thing you are only fourteen, dont let your uncle's problem affect you, dont let anyones problem affect you.
I know you care a great great deal about them, but the fact that their problems are making their way into your life, is stressing you out.
You need to find a way to help them, yet staying completely out of it. You know?
Try offering to be someone they can talk to,
or try talking to a counsular about what you can do about these types of people.
I mean depression is a seroius thing.
<3
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MY first piece of advise is to talk to your friends or whom ever is cutting their self and tell them to go see a couseler ( sorry if that is mispelled ). Couselers arent people that try to boss you around they are people that you can tell everyone to. If your friends or whom ever you need to talk to says no about going to a see a couseler then you need to take bigger steps if your really that scared. I highly doubt your friend is intentionally trying to kill herself. Shes probably just trying to get you to feel bad for her , and if she really does want to die then you need to get help for her. Tell her parents if they dont know and if they do then they need to get help. and if they know that she is cutting herself and they arent getting help then they arent good parents. If things get to out of control then you need to call the police or something.
Staying away from your friend that cuts his/her self isnt going to help. you cant handle the stress? well i bet he/her has alot more stress living then you being around them. You really need to be a good friend and help her. If he/she ever goes into the bathroom too long check on her/him. try to be around your friend alot and explain to her. Ive been through this stage before where i wanted to kill myself , so it would be easy for me to talk to your friend. So just try to do the things above. and i hope it all works out for you and your friend:]
&&heart's;;kayla
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First you need to find a way to relax. What do you enjoy doing? shopping? watching tv? sometimes just sitting on your bed and relaxing helps. So once you are relaxed, you need to help your friend. You cant leave her if she is hurting herself. This is when she needs you the most. Talk to her. Ask her to talk to a responsible adult. I hope this helps. email me if you need anymore help summergirl21192@netscape.net
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