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i need your advice
i'm 13 female and my boyfriend quinn is 16. this friday he wants to have sex with me. i think we're moveing way to fast because we've only been dateing for 6 weeks! i scared of what might happrn if i do have sex with him! will hurt? should do it?
i told him i'm way to young! but he said i wasn't i don't think i'm ready. i told him i wasn't ready. by the way he asked me if he could finger me i said no. but i really don't know what that is so could you please tell me?
i need to know should i have sex him or should i say know? i love him but i really don't know what to do ! thatnk please helpE
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Oh dear!
I really think you are going to fast, you've only been dating for six weeks? And your boyfriend is 16? It sounds to me like he's trying to use you just for this.
There are tons of things that could happen if you have sex at this age. Well you lose your virgiinity, you could get a numerous amount of STDS (sexualy trasmitted diseases) and some are still uncureable today beacuse there is a growing population of them, of new ones they arent sure how to treat yet. And if you dont know how many other girls your boyfriend had slept with, the possibility of getting an STD is endless. I've never had sex, but from what I've heard it does hurt, quite bad. And that its awkward, sex isnt like on tv. Its not hot and heavy, or all that moaning and groaning. Sex is something you should save for something you are absolutely sure about them (when you are married). Atleast in my opinion, marriage is best. The main point, sex is very awkward for the first time, and if you;'ve never done it, it will be painful/awkward for you. But if he's done it before he wont seem as nervous, and thats not right. I highly suggest that you DONT DO IT, your too young, and I forgot one of the biggest things to mention that could happen, you could get pregnant, even if you havent ever had your period, its still a possibility. And never have sex until your sure you can raise and support a baby. If you cant then theres no reason tohave sex.
Dont let him pressure you into having sex. You are too young for sex, but he only says your not because he wants sex really bad it sounds like. Its a good thing you said no to him fingering you too, because there are so many STDS you can get from that as well. Fingering is when a guy sticks his fingers up your "area".
Hun, to be brutally honest, the age difference is kinda spacious, and age doesnt matter usually until your older, like say someones is 20 and they are dating someone 25 it doesnt matter. But your still in school. And I dont think you should have sex, tell him you love him, but your not willing to do that. And if he says well if you love me why dont you do it? Say if you love me, you will wait.
And its not a good idea to have sex anyways if your this confused about it, and unsure. Once you have sex, the pressure and guilt will pile on you, and worry, especially if you werent sure but you just went ahead and did it anyways.
You'd feel pressure of what you did, what people would think if they found out, what if you were pregnant? Was what you did right? You shouldnt have done it? What if my parents find out? What if his parents find out? What if I have an STD?
What if he leaves me? What if he was just using me? What if he didnt even love me?
Its an endless list of questions, if your not sure about your partner.
You know, those are the questions you might be left answering.
I hope I helped hun.
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