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If you download music on limewire how do u put them on a cd from there cause i dont no how and i need 2 no soo


ill give 5's if u anser

it's good if you have Windows Media Player.
that does the trick.
you should download it if you dont have it
and if you have it, read the instructions :)

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I'm a 16 year old girl who's been dating this guy I'm fully in love with for around 7 - 8 months. We're both still virgins but we've talked about losing our virginity to each other. Neither one of us has EVER did anything sexually with another person, so I'm pretty sure neither of us have any STDS or AIDS. So far, we've experienced everything but sex with each other. We've considered all the risks & have thought long and hard about this, but mind you, we are prepared and we do have a brain unlike half the teenage population. We both know that we are fully ready to do this in our minds & hearts. But, I have a question. Even though, we aren't married & we're gonna lose our virginity to each other.. and though we've been together for a while & are planning on beging together for a long time after this (possibly even marriage later on, but you never know what may happen).. do you think this is okay? Like sometimes it worrys me because I know in my heart that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but we've talked about it & with our friends as well, and we all figured out that if you ask God for his forgiveness, he will accept it. I just want opinions on this.. do you think it's okay to have sex at 16 if you're mature & ready enough? I mean, what's the point in waiting until you're married? I know one reason is because it can be a sin and then another is because there's a possibility of having a baby, but if you're sexually "safe" with condoms & birth control, then you're chances are very slim to none for having a child. So any opinions or thoughts is welcome on this.. don't be afraid to express how you feel, it won't bother me. Thank you all very much! :)

I agree with you completely. I feel the same exact way with my boyfriend. I am madly in love with my boyfriend of 10 months, I would never leave him for another guy, I would do anything for him, and vice versa, but we've decided to be chaste, not only for the religious reasons, but also because if you start having sex early in a relationship, it can change things. If you get emotionally attached, and God forbid, one of you are unfaithful, think about how heartbreaking that could be. Also, if you have sex, it can get old/boring, and I dont want to sound weird, but your marital sex life can be, well, boring. Its good that you'd use condoms/birth control because that shows you have sense unlike most teenagers. If you are SURE you can handle the consequences, then I guess you're okay. The only thing I have a problem with is that you assume that God will forgive you. That means that you are PLANNING to sin, which is the definition of a mortal sin, so how could you be sorry and rely on God's forgiveness, especially if you're doing it purposefully. Remember that sex is a promise and a bond. I'd love more than anything to share that with my boyfriend, but I'm not sure if I can handle it yet. Believe me, I know how it feels, I'm just dying to make love to my boyfriend, but we have the REST OF OUR LIVES to do that. Why rush? Think long and hard about your decision. If you'd like to talk more about this, IM me, my screen name is on my page. I hope I didnt offend you or anything. Good luck :)

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When I was younger, I was a gymnast. I quit gymnastics and started karate, and doing other things. When I became an actual cheerleader, [I started cheering again in second grade], in about 8th grade I started tumbling again. But I'm scared to try anything. What do I do??

You should take a class just for tumbling so that you have a spotter. I'm sure you still have your backhandspring and everything. If youre still scared you should try everything on a trampoline. It helps to get your form back to the way it was. Remember, if you want to try something new, jump as HARD as you can and keep your arms straight and use all the power you possibly have. good luck :)

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Well me and my girlfriend have been going out for a month and a half, and I really have fallen in love with her. She says she has too and I believe her. Now shes says though that she wants to take like a break for maybe about a week. Now during this break were suppose to be pretty much still going out, but with like no strings attached. She wants to make sure that if given the chance we wouldn't do anything with someone else or we could and see if we still felt the same way about each other. I understand why she wants to do this becuase we've both been done wrong by other gfs/bfs. She just wants to make sure the relationship lasts before diving in head first. I agreed to do this, but still want other people's opinions.

John
Age:16
Gender:male

I'd be careful with that. Taking breaks could only make you fall apart even worse or it could be an excuse to do something stupid. I suggest that if you really love her, dont let her slip away. If you need a break for whatever reason, thats good because at least you are being mature about it and trying to work through things. But remember, taking breaks could make you grow apart. Good luck with this!

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There's this guy from work, and I'm pretty sure he likes me and/or is somewhat attracted to me... we're going to go and see The Corpse Bride about two weeks from now.. and he kissed me.. I just want to know how I can make this not just a 'friends with benefits' type of thing. How do I get him to officially ask me out, or tell me his feelings for me (whatever the heck they are..)?

15/f. (He's 16.. if that matters..)

That's tough. You need to know what he's thinking first. Find out if he likes any other girls, is dating other girls, or kisses other girls while being with you. If you are the only guy he's seeing, then more likely than not, he will want a real relationship and none of the friends with benefits nonsense. I know that from experience and seeing it all the time. You should talk to him to see how he feels about you two if it seems like he's not going to any time soon. If thats too hard, get a friend or someone to ask him what he thinks. And if its too hard to say it in person, do it online, at least you'll know the truth. Good luck with that!

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Hi, I'm 16/f and I was raised a Catholic. A really close friend of mine is like.. TOTALLY religious. He's completely devout to the point where he considered being a priest. lol, anyway.. he told me to read this chastity booklet called "pure love" a while ago (www.pureloveclub.com is the website for it) which I did. I was shocked at reading it. Apparently, not even french-kissing should be done outside marriage. I find this ridiculous in a way, and wonder whether any of this has a biblical basis.

My questions are: Should I tell my friend I read the booklet and give my opinions on chastity? Would it damage our friendship?

Secondly, and more importantly, is chastity really necessary? Is there anywhere that states that french-kissing out of marriage is sin? Why do they believe this? I realize that pre-marital sex is a sin, but kissing? Even light touching? Is this all necessary? I am against pre-marital sex (for my own reasons, not for religious reasons) but don't understand why they are so hell-bent against other things.

I hope I haven't offended anyone who is a Catholic. I respect anyone's religious belief, but I always question everything in life. :) I'd appreciate a totally unbiased answer. Thanks a bunch guys!

I'm Catholic, I go to a catholic school, and we have people come in to talk to us about chastity all the time. They said the same thing- nothing beyond kissing (peck) should be done outside of marriage. They said french kissing is a sin because you are sharing the breath of life that God breathed into us as we were created. I understand that, but I still think thats ridiculous. I can understand No intercourse, no oral sex, and no inappropriate touching... but no french kissing?

This is how I see it. In the Bible it says no premarital sex before marriage. But in the Bible, does it state that french kissing is a sin? I don't know if it does or doesn't. But if it doesn't, then its just a stupid rule that the Catholic church made over time. Then again I could be wrong, and it may say it in the Bible but I'm not sure. It just makes me mad the fact that NO WHERE in the Bible does it say women cannot be priests. Its just a rule they made up many many many years ago. Back then, priests could marry too. So you never know.

I suggest telling your friend your oppinion if it means that much to you. Ask him if the Bible states that french kissing is wrong. Afterall, we all know that God inspired humans while writing the Bible so they wrote what God wanted to say and ONLY what God wanted to say. And even if french kissing it technically wrong, explain how its not as bad if you do it with someone in a serious relationship, and not casually while being drunk at a club.

You havent offended me, dont worry :) and I hope you can use my counter example!

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how does sweating make you lose weight?

If youre going out to jog, wear layers of sweatpants and sweatshirts so you sweat more. It'll make you dripping and drenched with sweat, and that helps you lose weight. It's a good thing to do, just not in 90 degree weather. Be careful!

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I just started my period and i have a very difficult guesion to ask every1....
WINGS OR NO WINGS

i rate high

WINGS!
because when I use pads without wings, it bunches together and you bleed off the pad and onto the edges of your underwear. Not a good thing! the brand Always makes good ones in my opinion.

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i've decided to start scrunching my hair, but see..my hairs really really curly, so if i let it dry naturally it juss poofs & i can't seem to get the 'wet look' & i'm not totally sure what to do, so if anyone has any tips er anything to help, its an easy 5 =)

thanks!

I have the same problem! Scrunch your hair when it's wet. Use gel and then hairspray. Sometimes only hairspray is needed, but if you want the wet look, go with the gel. Also, if you hair is poofy, use a de-frizzer or a hair syrum! :)

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i want a flat stomich...i know to exercize and stuff. But about how many caleries do i stick to eat day?

there are lots of websites that will calculate how many calories your body needs, according to your weight. once you know how much your body needs, eat 400-500 less. Say if your body needs 1,600. try only eating 1200. good luck :)

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hi. i never excericise. i don*t play sports, i don*t run or walk much, and i don*t work out. but i realized that i really want nice abs, so i*m trying to come up with a plan for me to do a number of crunches a day for 2 months to get nice abs. so far i*ve decided to do 50 crunches every night and 40 every morning. do you think that i*ll have abs in 2 months? if not how many should i do then?

yes thats pretty much enough. my cheerleading coach who also works at a fitness center wants us to do 300 a week. basically 100 every other day. and she said do all 100 at once cause it works your abs harder. dont forget to stretch afterwards. try to alternate your exercises. dont just so situps, try a whole bunch of other things and do them different every day. good luck! the way youre going, youll definitely get abs!

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okay.. well i think i started my peroid lol.. okay well .. i had this reddish brown discharge since saturday and now today and yesterday its been pure red.. did i start ? and its only noticable when i wipe and theres alot on the tp.. but none comes out in to the toilet .. can you explain that?

Yep, thats almost defintely your period. It starts out light flow and is usually red/brown. It won't pour or gush into the toilet. You'll only see it when you wipe. Don't worry!

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i just had sex for the first time last night, and now i have a clear, odorless, jelly-like discharge comming out. is this normal?

Yes it is very normal and healthy. It's acutally "female cum" in a way.

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PLEASE HELP ME!!!! I've been invited to a pool party, but the problem is that i've got to wear a bikini and i've noticed some fairly noticable hair on my chest and stomach and it's on ym back aswell. You can see it in the light and when it gets wet, it's REALLY noticable. Does anyone know what to do????? I will rate 5s for good advice.

P.S. I can't wear a costume, i haven't got one and it's too late to go and buy one now!!!!

I do not suggest shaving it. Shaving it will make it come in darker and thicker. I know it's painful, but you should go get it waxed or buy a waxing kit. That way the hair is taken out of its roots and doesn't grow back until way way longer. But if you can't get it waxed or buy a waxing kit between now and then, shave it for just this once.

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is it possible to be addicted to masturbating..like once a day. 7 times a week.

It's not addicting until it gets in the way of your school work and social life. If you pick masturbating over plans you had that day, you have a problem. However, it is completely healthy to masturbate everday!

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i have a big problem... i sweat A LOT!!! well, not an exceptional amount its just whenever im doing sports or like at a school dance where its really hot and stuff i sweat like on my back A LOT and then you can see it through my shirt which is really embarrasing.. and im jw wut i shuld do!! i mean i dont want a guy to ask me to dance and im sweating like so bad my shirt is all wet- thats just gross!!!

I know exactly what to do! I had the same problem. Go to your local CVS, Walgreens, Walmart, Target, and buy a product called "Certain-Dri" in the deoderoant section. It's a roll-on antiperspirant that you apply at NIGHT only, the day before you know you're going to sweat, so the next day you'll be completely dry. It's really strong and works well! Or you can go to your doctor and get a perscription for "Drysol" but Certain-Dri is the same thing and it costs about $7 at your drug store or department store. TRUST ME, it works!

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14/f
I have a very good friend lets call "steve" and i have liked more than a friend for a while now..he's 18 and i'm 14 and i really really wanna take this friendship to another level..we both flirt with each other and we've kissed each other before to..but the thing is..is that he has a girlfriend and i don't know what should i do..should i tell him how i feel or just leave it be?

Well if he has a girlfriend, and he likes you, you might as well tell him. Maybe he will end his relationship with his girlfriend, especially if he has cheated on her with you. If you kiss and flirt, it's probably a sign that he likes you. I think next time you are hanging out one-on-one, you should tell him your feelings about taking it to the next level. Just start out by saying "I really like you..." etc. It won't be hard or weird because you two obviously already have a friends with benefits relationship. Good luck!

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i'm a 15 year old girl who is friends w/ this guy whose turning 16 in a week. i dont know him that well, but he invited me 2 his party. what should i get him? (i can spend like $30)

He's most likely going to want money. 16-year-olds need money for a car and such. Or you could split up, and give him $15, and spend $15 on something small but nice.

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ok i only have a few barely noticible blackheads on my nose..i need to know the best product to use..nothing tooo costy either

thanks..i will rate good answers!

St. Ives Apricot Scrub. (medicated for acne)

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Fourteen.Female.

so last night before getting into the shower I look and my left breast has what looks to be stretch marks almost all over it [exaggeration]. My right one is perfectly normal.
I thought it was growing or something?
Is it normal?

It's pretty much normal for the left breast to be larger than the right. Stretch marks appear ANYWHERE because whatever is growing too fast for the skin to stretch. It's normal, and I have them too. So do my friends. Don't worry!

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