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Q: ok im 13 and so is my boyfriend, weve been going out for over 2 months now... hes had sex with other girls b4 but ive nevr had sex b4... he wants to have sex with me really bad but he always says he understands if i dont... i kinda do tho... but then i dont... im really confuzed cuz i really lov him its just i dont wanna get pregnant and i people will find out if i have sex with him and i dont want people calling me names like a slut and stuf, at this same time im in a huge fight with some girls, but i really wanna have sex with my boyfriend but then i dont! i NEED HELP!!

seriously, i think you should wait..one of my friends had sex when she was 12, and now completely regrets it..and im sure later in life you will too. even thought you say u kind of want 2, if theres any part of you thats not ready, you shouldnt do it. if you're going to have sex with him, you should be completely ready and be ready to accept the responsiblities that come along with it (like possibly getting pregnant)..it my opinion, 13 is wayy young to do that..but if you really want to and you know your COMPLETELY READY, go for it..but if u have doubts, just wait. hope i helped!

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its a heart..is you turn your head sideways you should be able to see it lol =) hope i helped!

Q: I was wondering if u could tell me some websites to get some good midis music files off of cuz im doing somewebsite and i really want some music so could u please tell me some websites thanx

if your talking about music to download, download a program called WinMX and u can download as many songs as u want, its really easy! its www.winmx.com! try it! hope i helped!

Q: my eye has been twitching lately!! ts gotton worse!! like its my eyelid, sometimes my eyebrow, and below my eye...not all @ once but its only in my right eye...u cant see it but i can feel it..i told my mom but she didnt really think nothin of it...wat does this mean??

the same thing happened to me..my friend told me it means u need more potassium, and i tryed eating bananas nd stuff but it didnt help lol..so im thinking about going to the doctor..maibe u shuld try that 2! try going to the eye doctor..they would no. Hope i helped!

Q: I want to start wearing eye-liner and I don't know exactly where on my eye I put it - and what are the good brands. Pencil/Liquid? I'll rate you!

almay 16 hour lasting eye pencil in black..it is the BEST eyeliner ever, i swear by it!! i use it everyday, and it doesnt drip down your face wen u go in water either, it just comes right off or kinda stay there..its the besstt! hope i helped!

Q: im 14 and went out w| this guy during the school year and i still cant get over him. even when i liked other guys and went out w| them, and just recently i thouight i was over him but every time i see him i like him again,and since hes like my best friend i see him alomost everyday, do you have any advice to help me get over him?

i have the same problem so i know exactly how you feel! 1st of all, even thought it may be hard, you need to stop hanging out with him if u truly want to get over him. theres no way you'll get over him if your with him all the time. 2nd, if you still have strong feeling for him, why not go out with him again? especially because you are bestfriends. its even better to be with a guy wen you are close friends, but then again its harder to break up eventually. so, if he feels the same about you, be with him again! if he deosnt, you need to stop hanging out with him and get over him, because thats the only way...
hope i helped!

Q: My mom always complains about me never being home. She says that she thinks that i dont love her and only want to talk to her when i want something. (im sure everyone is gonna say that their mom is like that too), but are there any ways that i can 'hang out' or spend time with my mom with still being able to be as social and hang out with my friends as much as i do? please give me some ideas to have fun with my mom (i know that sounds lame) but i know it would help me to be able to do more stuff.

well, you should take a day or 2 out of your week and instead of going out with your friends spend time with your mom. im sure there are some days where you dont figure out plans with your friends until the last second. so, on those days instead of rushing out to hang out with your friends, go shopping or stay home with your mom.
hope i helped!

Q: well i broke up with my ex boyfriend twice. reason being we didn't really go anywhere with eachother or have the chance to. well after the second time we broke up, we were talking online and he was saying some pretty rude, mean things to me. i told my friends about it and none of them really like him for what he said. then a few days later, he asked if we could get back together saying how he would be a better boyfriend and stuff like that..

i have been thinking and i really do like him still, but do u think i should give him a THIRD chance?? and if so should i care what my friends say..

thanks..

really, i dont think he deserves another chance. especially if hes gonna say rude things about you! guys do that, i dont know why but they do, and the think that they can be rude to girls but get them back in a second. you need to show him that he cant just walk all over you then expect you to come back to him. if he wants u back he needs to be nice and respect you, so no matter how much you like him, dont just take him back because he says he'll change.
hope i helped!

Q: Well I have this really birth mark/mole on my at the top of my left arm, but none of my friends know about. I always cover it up with a bangage or something that sort but the only reason I do is because people used at school used to stare at it and make fun of me about it. So my question is should I keep hiding it or should I just let it be and not care about it?

you shoulld'nt care about it at all! dont care about wat people think of you. if someones going to make fun of something like that, it just shows that they are so much more immature than you. just let it all go in one ear and out the other. if it really bothers u that much, ask your parents about going to a doctor and seeing if you can get it removed. hope i helped!

Q: ok well i have this one friend well she's more like my best friend but anyways there was some bad shit going on in my family and i didn't know how to handle it and well so i cut. and i meen now she's soooo mad at me for doing that when i told her i would neevr do it again like 50 times. but it just helps you feel better! what should i do i really don't want to loose my friend anymore then i alreayd have!

your friend should be there to help and support you, i understand y shes mad, cuz ive gotten mad when my friends have cut. but, she still shouldnt not be friends with you because of it, cuz she needs to realize that shes making everything even harder for you. you need to talk to your friend and tell her that u need her to be there for you since you're going through a hard time in your life. hopefully she'll understand. hope i helped!

Q: i jest found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me with my bff should i not be her friend or dump him or do both.

both. neither one is innocent. friends are always more important than guys, so if your going to "keep" anyone, let that be your BFF, bcuz im sure she realizes the mistake she made now, even though that still doesn't make it right

Q: okay heres my story..what should i do?

i have this best friend named Jerra..and last friday we went bowling and met these guys n hooked up with them! and then she promised me that night that me n her would go again this friday with the same group of guys..and that it would be JUST us..no one else! just me n her..and then the guys! well she went to camp for a week and came back today and called me and was like "well i met these girls at camp and they became some of my best friends and they are gonna come with us tonite bowling!" i was soo FURIOUS! i started crying and everything cause i worked so hard to earn the money so i could go bowling tonite..but now my plans are ruined! and i told her that if those girls she met where there that she would ditch me and she was like "i wouldn't ditch you completely" but here's another thing..i like this guy named charlie..and me n him were suppose to hook up tonite and makeout maybe..well guess what..she's bringing his EX girlfriend! and then she told his ex g/f that i liked him and was gonna makeout with him! some best friend huh?! well i don't know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS HAPPENING TONITE! I'LL RATE YOU A 5! thanks!

at first i thought u were overreacting, cause u never no her friends could be really cool..but bringing his ex-girlfriend is just wrong. she doesn't sound like a good friend either, saying that she wont ditch you "completely"?! thats messed up..you needa talk to her about it and if she cant apologize and realize she was wrong..if she doesnt..u need to realize she might not be the best friend you thought she was. hope i helped!

Q: I'm going to my boyfriend's house sometime before summer ends..we're both 13..my parents don't know I have a boyfriend because I'm not aloud to..but I'm nervous about going over there..I've never even gone over to a guys house when were just friends with just the two of us! Does anyone have any advice for me, what can make me less nervous? I mean hes never done anything besides hug a girl..which of course was me and I was his first girlfriend, we dated before this. So I don't have to worry about him doing anything I wouldn't want him to do. I mean..im sure we're gonna kiss bcuz he said he wanted to and he said he wanted me to be his first for everything since I already was for the girlfriend and the hug..but any advice? I'll be online for a while on secretAsquirrel..thats not my normal sn but its the one im gonna be using for the time im at my friends house.

i know you're nervous, but try to calm down a little bit. especially since you know hes not gonna try anything you won't wanna do. but if he does, just make sure you dont do anything you're not ready for. I wish I could tell you how to be less nervous, but there really isn't a way. Once you go to his house once, it'll be alot easier going over again if you do. Hope I helped =)!

Q: Hi my name is jessica my friend and i have known each other since 2nd grade now she thinks i called her a jerk so now its a big fight between us i tld her sorry but she said that it didnt cut it so i really want to be friends again what should i do

i know how u feel, the same thing happened to me. if shes gonna get mad over something THAT stupid maybe shes not a great friend..she'll probably get over it soon enough if you guys were friends for that long..just give her some time and if shes STILL mad, try to have a mature talk with her about it, and if that doesn't work, its her loss.

Q: On saturday me and my b/f were suppose to hang out, but he canceled. So he said we should hang out on sunday, but he never showed up or called or anything. I tried calling but no one answered his house or cell. Should I be worried? Because he's usually on-line all the time, but lately he hasn't been. He never blows me off ever. I know he wouldn't cheat on me either, he's not that kind of guy. What should I do? Should I be worried??? Please help! :(

calm down a little..hear out his side of the story first..maibe something really important came up..just wait to talk to him then worry about it, if theres actually anything to worry about

Q: Okay there's this person who I know and like they have always depended on me for like a lot of stuff since like 7th Grade and now were going to be Juniors in High school. but we never hang out like maybe ocassionally on a friday during the school year. and like recently they called me like at 1:30 in the morining for me to come pick them up and take them to my house and I'm not 16 yet and not legally to drive but my family is out of town....so they told me to pick them up from somewhere because they did something really stupid and didn't want to risk getting in trouble with there parents...but yet me get in trouble for several things....what would you guys consider this person?

i dont mean to be mean, but truthfully it just sounds like shes using you. i know it hurts to realize that but i think its the truth. if she only calls for you to get her when shes in trouble, i guess she trust you, but you still can't let her walk all over you like that.

Q: i didnt know what category to pick , but i had got braces 3 days ago , and my teeth hurt so bad , i called my doctor and he wont b in t'll monday . can neone help me with some tips to releive the pain . it would b a big help . thankk you soo much!! i'll rate u a 5 , nethng will help riyte now

try taking a pain reliever, like motrin or tylenol. that will help but it, but not make it go away..i know its painful, but u just have to wait it out! sorry! it should get better in a week or so!