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taking breaks

Question Posted Sunday October 2 2005, 12:59 am

Well me and my girlfriend have been going out for a month and a half, and I really have fallen in love with her. She says she has too and I believe her. Now shes says though that she wants to take like a break for maybe about a week. Now during this break were suppose to be pretty much still going out, but with like no strings attached. She wants to make sure that if given the chance we wouldn't do anything with someone else or we could and see if we still felt the same way about each other. I understand why she wants to do this becuase we've both been done wrong by other gfs/bfs. She just wants to make sure the relationship lasts before diving in head first. I agreed to do this, but still want other people's opinions.


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RockStoleMySoul answered Wednesday October 12 2005, 8:38 pm:
Hmm. Well this is a tricky one. Well, it definetley sounds like you two are totally smitten with each other. But, yes, there is a but, dont take this in the wrong way, but she might not be willing to make a commitment.

You need to sit her down and ask her "what do you want out of this relationship" and if you like her answer, then you continue being with her. IF it doesn't satisfy you, then you keep it at a permanent break.

You need to find how she feels about this realtionship.

Good luck buddy!

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SQuiRToFLeMoN answered Sunday October 2 2005, 6:34 pm:
this break could be a good thing. it can show you if she is really in love with you or was just loving what she had. also it will give you a chance to straighten out any doubts you might have. if i were you i wouldnt worry because they say absence makes the heart grow fonder

hope i helped you

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xxxxxx answered Sunday October 2 2005, 8:07 am:
I'd be careful with that. Taking breaks could only make you fall apart even worse or it could be an excuse to do something stupid. I suggest that if you really love her, dont let her slip away. If you need a break for whatever reason, thats good because at least you are being mature about it and trying to work through things. But remember, taking breaks could make you grow apart. Good luck with this!

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vilelove answered Sunday October 2 2005, 5:18 am:
Hey. Well it seems like a good idea and it's not like weird or suspicious since ou have good reasons to do this. I personally would like to try to it too myself if I was getting too emotionally envolved with someone before taking it any more deeper or serious. If you don't feel uncomftrable with this then I think it's a good idea. Since you guys both love each other I'm sure things will be good. If by some weird reason something weird and unexpected happens... maybe it was supposed 2 happen... not necessarily so you guys will break up... but maybe so you guys can overcome obstecules or something. But it doesn't seem to me that anything is likely to happen (especially not in a week). Well it's cool and I'd say go for it. I don't think you have anything to loose (in your shoes most people would but since you guys love each other I know you don't).

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sillyrob answered Sunday October 2 2005, 3:25 am:
Wait wait wait...

...not only are you absolutely in love too early, but she ALREADY wants to take a break to test it? It sounds fishy to me. I dunno, it doesn't seem like you guys have been together long enough or had much in this relationship to need this. I'd say keep a close eye on her.

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tina answered Sunday October 2 2005, 1:14 am:
i think as long as you 2 are both okay with it then its fine and see how it goes. i wish you and your girlfriend the best

love tina

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