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Hi. I am from Ireland.
About a week ago my boyfriend and I were just fooling around. I was only in a bra and underwear and he in his boxers. I gave him a handjob and he came on the side of the bed in a towel about a foot away from me. He put his boxers back on and we lay together on the bed. Our hips weren't touching. I didn't think much of it.
We both washed our hands and went to eat. Later he rubbed my vagina over my underwear and I didn't really think anything of it until later that night.
I don't know when my next period should be, so I can't take a home pregnancy test.

I am wondering wether or not I am pregnant and what the chances are that I am.

There's no chance you're pregnant. You had your underwear on and he washed his hands so there's really no way.

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Today I was at this party. This guy was about to pour a drink from this bottle of soda but I was like, "Don't do that. Everyone is drinking straight from the bottle." because me and all my friends were and I took a swig and he was like, "That's cute." What the heck is his problem? Why was he being such an asshole? Or was he joking around? If it helps, earlier he had been staring at me and looking at my boobs alot like noticably.

ugh he was probably just being a horny perv. avoid guys who act like that.

♥lAuRa

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ya when i saw one of my old guy friends that i havent seen in 2 years we were just chillin and stuff and we were jokin with eachother like old times and when i was on the phone wit my 2 best buds they were sayin that he liked me and i started to laugh and i asked them what made them think that he liked me and one of them said did u see the way he was actin towards you and im was sayin that he has been always like that towards me and i wouldnt believe them because hes one of my good friends and i really didnt listen to them and i dont want him to like me so i dont know what to believe but i know for sure he doesnt like me that way but what should i do anyway?

dont do anything unless he tells you he likes you. in that case, tell him nicely that you only think of him as a friend. if any of your friends ask, say you dont like him like that. just be truthful about your feelings because it will work out for everyone best in the end.
good luck (:

♥lAuRa

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what are some other ways to get rid of spyware/adware ..i use ad-aware personal and its not working that well.. and my computer is very messed up and its even alerting me that my computer is in danger because of the spyware/adware infection.. please help!!

http://www.safer-networking.org/en/download/index.html

for spyware^


http://us.mcafee.com/root/downloads.asp?cid=11345

^for viruses. theres free services on the right menu.

hope those help.

♥lAuRa

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OMG my bf is a total dick, like after we had sex he couldnt stop talking about this girl and I was like wtf I just had sex with you and all you can talk about is another girl? I like cant believe he would do this to me! I'm in love with him!! And I know hes in love with me, how can I make him realize that I'm the one for him, I mean I've given him everything! Like before we met I was a virgin, and then he wanted to have sex so I gave in because I love him and I didnt want him to break up with me! All he talks about is other girls, and he just laughs when I get upset, What should I do, how can I make him realize I'm the only girl he should talk about!!!!

if he can't appreciate what he already has, a loving girlfriend, he doesn't deserve you. i hate to say this now that youve given your virginity to him but it needs to be said. if you didnt actually want to have sex, he shouldve respected your decision instead of bugging you about it. by laughing at you when you got upset & talking about another girl, he's disrespecting you completely. you deserve a guy who will give you his full attention & accept your choices.
you can't make him realize youre the only one for him. if he can't already realize it then he's not the guy for you. i honestly think you deserve so much better than that hun.

♥ lAuRa

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Well I know I'm putting them in wrong. I can't even get all of it in, I get like half of it in. It's my first time doing this and I don't get why it won't go in all the way!!Please help!!!

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html

remember to relax as much as possible. it's harder to get in when youre tense.

try not to take it out until it is mostly full or it will hurt really bad.

♥ lAuRa

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So I was searching around a site similar to Myspace when I saw this guy's pictures. He was in a place I absolutely love to vacation at, so I sent him a message. It turns out he goes to my old school.

We've been talking for a while, only on the computer. He keeps bringing up how we flirt, and wanting to date me, and wanting to meet me. He says it in a certain way, as if he wants to know how I feel before he asks me, but he is so obvious. I know for sure he isn't some creepy old guy, but I really don't like him that way. I guess I just can't develop feelings for a person I've met only through the internet.

He's a nice person, and I think he really likes me, so how can I tell him I don't feel the same, and I don't want to meet him?

Aw well you should aim to tell him in the nicest way possible. If he really likes you, making him sad will happen inevitably. Maybe say something along the lines of "I think you're a really cool guy, but I just don't feel that way about you." Telling him you don't like him as more than a friend is better than leading him on. Good luck & I hope all goes well.

♥ laura

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okay so I have known this girl (my best friend) for years we are both 17 and almost 18 and latley she has been totally ditching me, and this guy I have liked for many years just home because he moved for 2 years and now she tells me she likes him, and whenever we hang out she'll say how she got to spend so much time with him or whatever it really bothers me though what should i do, is she jelous? and also when people give me compliments she tries to tell me that they didn't mean it or it isn't true!! HELP.

Since she has recently started acting that way, you should talk to her about it. Tell her you don't like the way she is acting. Just give her a chance to get things together. If she continues the jealousy, maybe you two should take a break from each other awhile. You also might want to talk it over with the guy you like, to make sure he understands.

♥ laura

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i have been with my boyfriend for 5 months but we are not together officialy itis supposed to be a flig but i realy like him and he admitted he has slepted with other lasses since we have been together i want to finish it but dont know how to or what to say but i realy like him and dont want to loose him but i dont him making a fool of me any longer plz help i will rate.

he isn't worth your time. if he's been with other girls while you're dating, he obviously doesn't respect you enough. you deserve better...dump him. don't feel bad if he's sad because he's being an idiot. i doubt he'll even care that much though. i mean, look at how he's been treating you.

♥ lAuRa

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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do?

Just tell him you're not ready and you don't want to have sex. If he still tries to force you after you talk to him, dump him. A relationship isn't just based on sex. If he thinks it is he's got a lot to learn. He's not worth it if he dumps girls for not getting sex.

♥ lAuRa

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My oyfriend keeps pushing me in having sex, but i'm not sure if i should . i am not sure if im ready to have a really committed relationship. What should i do? please help! P.S. i'm 17 years old

Honestly, if you aren't 100% sure you're not ready. Tell your boyfriend you aren't ready to have sex yet. If he truly cares about you he will stop pushing you into it. If your boyfriend continues to try and have sex without you wanting to, break up. If he wants you and not just your body, he will stop. If you let this go too long it may turn into rape, which is not good considering he's your own boyfriend. Good luck! I really hope he understands your feelings. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Can one find love online? Even if the lovers are separated by hundreds of miles? Explain.

5's for all quality responses because this is your opinion and you therefore cannot be wrong.

Hmm, that is very much debate able. I believe you can find love online. When you talk you can tell that you share that same interests and seem to make a connection. A person's personality can show through when you are talking to them. Sometimes you can feel the chemistry without being with the person. It's just there. If it's true love I'm sure that the two people will eventually be together, regardless of how far apart they are now. =)

♥ lAuRa

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My boyfriend is moving and I really really like him, and we have been going out for 3 years and I wont see him anymore should I break up with him or not!

If you still like him then don't break up with him. Before he moves find out ways to keep in contact with him and set times on the weekend or some time to see each other (if he didn't move too far.) Talk to him about it. If he still likes you, just try your best to keep in contact. You have been with him 3 years so I'm pretty sure you can trust him. Long distance relationships can work if you really try. Maybe one day you'll move in together. =)

♥ lAuRa

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what are the benefits of waiting for marriage? for those of you that are, whats your reason? it could go either way so let me know what you think.

When you wait...
~You're giving your body to the person you truly love.

~There's no risk of getting STDs or AIDS.

~Birth control and condoms don't have to be used.

~A baby is an exciting thing in your life and you are able to take care of one.

~There will be no regrets about who you had sex with.

~It's a lot more special because it is your first time with someone you love with all your heart.


When you don't...
~Your partner might break up with you. That can seriously stress a person out when they've had sex with them.

~You're risking STDs that could kill you and cause trouble the rest of your life.

~Birth control and condoms are necessary.

~Some people think sex is like taking the next level in a relationship. Often times, this means quite the opposite. It can really hurt you emotionally.


I'm waiting because I don't think the consequences are worth it. There's nothing special about having sex and then doing it when you're married. You could have a hidden STD--you never know. Some STD's do not have symptoms. Some STD's, heck, you can't even have babies. The fallopian tubes can become scarred. Think about it. How will your spouse react when you tell them this isn't your first time? The first time is one of the great things about being married. You share yourself with the person you will always love, not your ex who you thought was forever but left you. I've had so many speakers come to my school. All the people who had sex before marriage regretted it and wished they could take it back. But once you lose your virginity, it's gone. It's like dropping a tear in the ocean. It's never coming back. Saving sex until marriage is biblically correct. If you are religious, it would be good to follow the bible. If you still don't want to wait, hey that's your decision. If you regret it later in life..I hope you remember what everyone here said.

♥ lAuRa

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hey guys i was just wondering were i havent got nothing to do this summer i was wondering what good books i could read this summer like books you could get at a public library. Thanks for your help i really need something to do other than sit at the computer desk all summer!

Saylor

A Child Called It by Dave Pelzer
When the Wind Blow by James Patterson
A Time to Kill by John Grisham
Gingerbread Man by Maggie Shayne
Homecoming by Cynthia Voigt
How To Deal by Sarah Dessen

All these are really good books! =)

♥ lAuRa

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Does anybody know any Fruity Smoothies that are good for you, and don't have a lot of extra sugars and fats. So basicly recipes for a healthy smoothie?

This is a healthy tropical smoothie recipe I got from the magazine Cosmo Girl.
It is high in fiber, antioxidents and protein. It should help you keep energized all day.

1 kiwi, peeled and cut into 1/4 inch chunks
half a mango, peeled and cut into 1/4 inch chunks
1 cup orange juice
2 cups apple juice
1 cup extra-firm light tofu (found in the produce section)

Combine the ingredients in a blender on high until smooth (about 30 seconds.)

♥ lAuRa

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i wAnna HAve Sex WiTh MY bOyFrIend. Can U giVe mE n E tIps..cAusE iM stILL a VirgIn n I neVer gOt "thE taLk" or whatever!

If you want to have sex, you have to be 100% sure. Sex is a BIG thing. Once you lose your virginity, you may want it back, but it's gone forever. If you have ANY doubts, you shouldn't be doing it. You'll need a condom to protect you from pregnancy and some STD's. STD's are sexually transmitted diseases. Some can be treated, some are deadly, and some are with you the rest of your life. Condoms are not 100% reliable. They can break. To be extra safe, you should also use birth control pills. You can get them (I think for free) at Planned Parenthood. Like I said though, it's a big step. You are risking many things, physically and emotionally. If you're ready, please take my suggestions about the birth control and condoms. If not, don't let your boyfriend pressure you into anything you don't want to do. Please tell me what you decide to do and how you feel about making that choice. =)

♥ lAuRa

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I recently asked the question about Paint Shop Pro. People gave great advice & also suggested I try an alternative program. What programs are there that are similar?

There is Adobe Photo Shop found at http://www.adobe.com/products/photoshop/main.html

Personally I use Paint Shop Pro but I heard Adobe is a great program. =)

♥ lAuRa

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I have to go over to my grandpas, and i dont want to....any idea on how to get out of it?

This isn't what you're going to want to hear but it's true. You should go and see your grandpa. Hug him, tell him what's up, just have respect for him. You never know how much longer he'll live so you should cherish this time. After you greet him, find something to do. Bring a bag with a book, magazine, small game, sketch pad, etc. That way you will have seen your grandpa and have something to do. If it gets late and you want to leave, tell him that. Say "Well, I need to go now." You can add that you need to do chores, feed a neighbor's pet, go see a friend, etc. It is the nicest way to solve your problem. We all have things we don't want to do but at least you'll feel better once you leave. You'll know that you saw him and was nice to him even if he's boring. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Hey All! I was just wondering is there any meaning behind "X3" when people do that? is it supposed to look like some sort of a heart or something? I was just wondering because i have been seeing it alot lately in screen names ect.

thanks!
-KelZzZ-

Yes, it's supposed to be a heart. x3 If you look at it closely, you'll see it's just a unique heart. =)

♥ lAuRa

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