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This might be a little long since I'm giveing you background info.
Ok, This girl named Dee (fake name) needed a friend at the time. I decided to take that role in her life. Every day there would be something new, example: "I hate my life", "Nobody likes me", "My stepmom did ______________ and made me __________". And it never ends!
So one day I decide to break the fake friendship tie that I had set up. And I went through with it. The thing is that she keeps coming back. She tries to be nice to me, says a perky "Hi!" everyday. The reason she does that is because she thinks she can fix it, but its way to late for that.
My question is: What can I do so that I have no kind of contact with her?
The only way is to be upfront and honest. Apparently she didn't get the message the first time you tried to break things off with her, so it looks like you'll just have to sit down and tell her that you don't think your friendship will really work out.
Is it normal to think your boyfriend is going to break up with you? I don't like being online because most of my relationships ended that way and I'm afraid of getting notes... My other two relationships were pretty bad and I dunno...Am I too paranoid?
If your boyfriend is giving you obvious signs that he's not interested in your relationship anymore than its possible that it just not paranoia. But if he's acting normal maybe you are just paranoid. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, and hopefully he'll be able to reassure you that your relationship is just fine.
every time i like some one and then they start to like me i dont' like them anymore... i dont know why but i think im afraid to fall in love because i went out with some one before and then he broke up with me and broke my heart and then thats when it all started.. i dont knwo if it's a case of really bad hard to get.. or i am scared.... i need help! :-(
You have to start to trust that all guys won't try to break your heart. Take things slow with a guys and make sure that you really get to know him and that you trust him so that you won't have to be worried that he'll break your heart. But remember there will be heartbreaks in love you just have to learn you pick yourself up again and try again.
ugh what if your like best guy friend in the world is your best friends boyfriend, but he thinks youre wicked hot.
He wouldnt do antying with me, but what if i wanted to make out with him REALLY badly . eek but everyone loves him, but we are REALLY close
I think you shouldn't do anything that would jeopardize your relationship with your best friend. You should tell him that you guys should calm things down and continue to remain friends.
* Sorry i took so long to respond.
I think this guy is really hot. He's in 11th grade and very preppy, I'm in 9th and well... average. We've never spoken or acknowledged each other, but I figured that it would be cool to become friends with him or make an attempt. Should I try to approach him to be FRIENDS ONLY (I don't want to date him. I mean he's really hot but it's no way possible.) but I'm not sure if he may be creeped out. If I should try to approach him, how should I do it? All of my friends say go and talk to him and become friends, so does my little sister, but I'm really shy and I'm scared that someone as hot as him might not want to be friends with someone as average as me. So I'll be "rejected" in a sense. Advice? Realise we've never talked, we have made eye contact before in the band-room so I can't say he doesn't know I exist haha. But yeah.
I def. think you guys should talk. Find a common interest you both share and just walk up to him in the band-room and just talk to him. I think its better to try to talk to him than not trying at all. If you do get rejected than he's a big jerk and you can do better than him. Just have confidence when you talk to him and be yourself, and you guys should become friends.
ok well last night i went somewhere and after, i went to this guys house.. we were alone and stuff and we did some sexual stuff... but like i mean i have a boyfriend... and i totally hate myself for doing this to him... i dont want to tell him, but what if someone finds out and tells him...help?
Maybe you should tell your bf first, so you don't have to be stressed about worrying if someone else told him. Plus if you don't tell him the guilt will probaly catch up to you and make you feel really bad.
For anyone that has been to prom, or is attending prom, or even knows about prom, what do you do? from beginning of all it until the end? I heard something about the grand march.. whats that? and what do you do?
Prom is like any other school dance. You sit down at your table for a while and eat or w/e and then you can just dance and have a great time. Then there's a time where you have to be quiet so they can announce the new prom king and queen. and that's basically it.
Me and my boyfriend loved eachother so much! Well.. Just to piss off my best friend he always said "I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!" to her! i started to get a little mad! Besides my best friend has a boyfriend! When i slept over my best friends house.. she said "if your bf wud stop throwing things at me at lunch..i'd actually love him!" Well My boyfriend and me were talking on-line and he said "HAHA! Elise (my best friend) finally said she loves me too!" I was soo pissed off! Then he said "It would be soo cool to have 2 girlfriends!" "what wud you do if something like that happened?" I had enough! so i dumped him yesterday! should i be mad at my best friend or should i not be? I havnt talked to her yet and she still doesnt know i even dumped him! wud do i do?
I would be mad at my best friend. Tell her that the comment she made about loving your ex was innappropiate and that it caused you to break up with your boyfriend. It doesn't sound like she intentionallly tried to break you guys up but i probaly wouldn't trust her around any of your future boyfriends
Hi, I'm going on a vaction in 3 weeks and I was woundering if you could loose 15 pounds in that short amount of time. If so can you please tell me what exercises to do.
I don't think you could lose that much in three weeks but you'll probably come pretty close to that. Do alot of run, and eat healthy foods and eat less junk foods.
i hate liars and my boyfrined lies constantly.. not so much to me.. but sometimes to me.. i cant always tell if hes telling the truth.. i guess sometimes his lies are for my benefit? we also really like eachother.. what should i do
Talk to him about it first, and find out why he does and tell him that you would like him to be more honest. If you notice he's still lieing to you a week after you talk to him, maybe you should break up with him. Even though you really like him its also important that you trust him.
In high school, we get to choose which language we want to take- French or Spanish. I signed up for Spanish, but I'm having second thoughts. I like French a lot more, but I want to do what's best for me. Does anyone have any pros or cons for taking a certain language, or just general advice on what I should do? Thanks!
You should take the language you would enjoy more because it would make it easier to learn. If you aren't really interested in taking spanish, then you shouldn't because it's generally harder to learn something that you have no interest in.
i have to do a oral presentation tomorrow and i am NOT good at this at all. when i start talking i usually forget and i dont know what to say next so i bascially stumble, so i need GOOD tips on how to focus and i do have notecards butt i cant use them alot so PLEASEE help me !!!
Try practicing what your going to say. That will help you memorize your presentation so you won't really have to look down and it will help you be more comfortable in front of the class since you already know what you're going to say. Also, when you're making your presentation try to focus on a friend or on something in the classroom to put you more at ease and so you won't be so nervous.
I was a cutter for about eh, a few months. Then all hell broke loose I was sent away, skip the drama. I've been clean for almost a year..but now more sucky drama is stirring about in my world. I've been thinking about selfharm, but I've still been clean.
Now that you ahve the background...
What can I do with all of my..'emotions'..(did that ever sound cheesy) I already am a poet and a novelest. I pound out on Bass, too...
Danke
-Mistress Maddy
Try to find a really good friend to talk to let out your emotions vocally. By writing poems and letting out your anger by playing your bass is a good outlet for you emotions too but maybe if you actually tell them to someone who cares about you, you will feel better. If you don't have anyone you trust enough to tell your feelings try seeing a therapist who's an unbiased person who will listen to you no matter what.
I have a problem with boys, none of them like me. If one of my friend's tells a boy I like them they pretend to gag and stuff. Well I was at a dance and there was this really hot boy and my friend asked him to dance with me and he said no so my other friend asked him and he said I have a girlfriend as an excuse to not make me feel upset. What can I do to get boys to like me?
Don't get too discouraged. It could be the boys are just jerks or something. Have confidence in yourself because boys def. notice a confident girl and are attracted to her. Maybe try to add some makeup to your look or something or try a new hairstyle so the guys could notice you in a positive way.
The last couple of weeks i've been noticing that I have been eating A LOT!! now i'm afraid i'm gonna gain a lot of weight. i eat when i get home from school up till dinner and no matter how hard i try, i can't stop!! does anyone have any suggestions? if u do please help!!
when you come home from school eat a small healthy snack like fruit or something and stop. Fill the time between your after school snack and dinner with activities that you like to do. like hanging out with friends, reading or w/e your hobby is. Just try to keep busy after school so you can keep your mind off of eating. Hope i helped
hey there, some of you know that I answered a LOT of questions in this site. My friend doesnt have internet in her house so she asked me to ask for your opinion.
She likes her best guy friend, a lot, she cant stop thinking about him and she always gets upset when hes around other girls. I know he considers her as his sister, HE TOLD ME!
What she wants to do is let him realise she likes him more than a friend but I told her it would screw up everything! things would get awkward and stuff. So what she's asking is, should she tell him? Personally I dont think she should.
And she also asked why he hangs out and fools around with other girls instead of her?
I told her because you dont have the same interests and he thinks youre too calm (he told me). So do you agree with me or do you have another opinion?
I def. agree with you. Especially since you know that he only likes her as a friend, things would get really awkward between them. He only fools around with other girls because he only views your friend as like a sister and doesn't think of her as a girlfriend or anything. I basically think your right.
well my friend Ill call her *Kara* is like obsessed with a guy ill call him *Curt*. *Kara* doesnt think he likes her. So *Kara* is all depressed and stuff and thinks she doesnt deserve to live, all cuz she thinks *Curt* doesnt like her. *Kara* has asked *Curt* out numerous times, he said yes once but that only lasted a few days, all the rest of the times, *Curt* said no. Now to get to the point...*Kara* wants to kill her self and all she listens to is music about death. I dont want her to kill herself and i talk to her about if all the time. what should i do? Thanks a bunch!!
Kara def. needs help. She shouldn't deteremine her self-worth on whether a boy likes her or not. Tell her parents or a guidance counselor before its to late. She might get mad at you but that's better than having a friend that could potentially harm herself.
Well, me and my friend have been friends like forever. WE are bestfriends and our families are extremly close. Well, she has tried braking the relationship every month and 3 or 4 times a month. I am sick of it!! And starting to get sick of her fighting. She can be oh so nice and OH SO mean. We only fight online because she doesn't want to fight in person. I think she might want the relationship to end but I really don't know. She says she will always come back to me every time we fight but sometime I think she won't. I really don't want to lose her but maybe the next time we fight this may be the end to our relationship. I need some advice with that. She used to say how I get all the guys, and how I am not pretty, and also how I copy her, and junk but like I don't understnad her. I have tried not telling her more close things so if we do lose the relationship she won't really have anything to say to anyone about my secrets. But Like I need help on what to do with her.....
Since you guys have been friends for so long, you probaly just need a break from each other before things get out of control. Just kind of seperate from each other, but still be friendly. Maybe do that until you think you guys are able to have a healthy friendship.
My friend, we are really good friends, he told me that he likes me, more than a friend. I told 4 of my friends, when I wasnt supposed to tell anyone, but people have to find out someday. He got upset, so to make him feel better, i said i like him more than a friend too. But really, im not sure how I feel. Im really frustrated. I don't want to hurt his feelings...Please Help!!!
Ana
You need to def. tell him the trust as soon as possible. the longer you lie to him the more hurt he'll be. Justt tell him that you don't want things to get complicated between you guys and you'd rather have him as a friend.
I have to do a speech and presentation in English on Tuesday. I am really nervous and hate looking at people, and if I look at my friends I just laugh. However, I can't get anything higher than a B if I don't have 'audience awareness' and I have to get all A's. So does anyone have any tips on how to be less nervous or how I can have more 'audience awareness' or even how to stop myself laughing at the funny parts of my presentation?
Thanks!!
Try to concentrate on one person that seems to enjoy what you're saying. Trust me that works because it makes you feel better about what your saying. About the funny parts,if it's really funny than don't be afraid to laugh! Just don't get carried away with it just maybe giggle. Try to have fun with your presentation, because its only 5 minutes of your life! And i'm sure the other kids in your class are just as nervous as you.