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Teenage Cupid in the house!
hey there, some of you know that I answered a LOT of questions in this site. My friend doesnt have internet in her house so she asked me to ask for your opinion.
She likes her best guy friend, a lot, she cant stop thinking about him and she always gets upset when hes around other girls. I know he considers her as his sister, HE TOLD ME!
What she wants to do is let him realise she likes him more than a friend but I told her it would screw up everything! things would get awkward and stuff. So what she's asking is, should she tell him? Personally I dont think she should.
And she also asked why he hangs out and fools around with other girls instead of her?
I told her because you dont have the same interests and he thinks youre too calm (he told me). So do you agree with me or do you have another opinion?
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Maybe she should lighten up and let loose a little.Then tell him I mean either way they'll still be friends right?
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I def. agree with you. Especially since you know that he only likes her as a friend, things would get really awkward between them. He only fools around with other girls because he only views your friend as like a sister and doesn't think of her as a girlfriend or anything. I basically think your right.
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I agree with the fact that you don't want her to get hurt. I got hurt and it's really bad. Tell her that he hangs with other girls, because he DOESN'T LIKE HER! sorry to be harsh but he doesn't. TEll her if he doesn't like her then he isn't worth it. Make sure she doesn't change herself to get him to like her. I did that and it only made things worse. It did get awkward for a while, but now me and the guy i liked are best of friends. It all works out for the better if you're just friends. Unless, he has other ideas and likes you too. So, what im trying to say is.. she should say. "I like you as more than a friend, but if you don't like me, then we should just be friends so we don't mess it up." not that obvious though. Good luck, sorry if i didn't, most likely, help.
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I have another opinion, she should tell him. For all the two of you know, he does feel the same way bout her, and just didn't feel comfortable telling you cuz he was afraid she'd find out, and he has no idea how she feels. Let her talk to him, bein her best guy friend, he won't do anything to intentionally hurt her, I'm sure he'd understand, and if it is a strong friendship, nothing would get awkward. Hope this helps her out! Wish her the best of luck for me!! Much Love 2 The Both Of Ya!!!
XoXo
Jessie
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Sounds like you got it straight from him.She'd be wise to listen.
I agree with you that she shouldn't tell him.It probably won't change anything and she will probably feel kinda stupid when it gets no results.
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well there 2 answers to her question one you have a really goood point because he thinks her as a sistery type but then again she also has to decide if shes ready for a change un there friendship she could tell him how she feels but then shes going to have to deal whatever happens you know stay friends or not or hey she might get what she wants and become more thatn just friends
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ok my best guy friend i love him too, i told him that i loved him alot yea things will get kinda akward but itll narrow out eventually i mean he prob. sees you more as a friend then he does maybe as a girlfriend or just friends with benifit! just pull him aside tell him you need to talk about a few things and tell him how you feel about him and imma sure he'll understand you hope i helped try it!~
kim~
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I do agree with you, you seem like a wonderful friend who cares enough about her best friend that she doesn't want to see her hurt. Wow. Ok, but, have you told your best friend that her best guy-friend thinks of her as a sister rather than something else? I know how much this might hurt her, my goodness, I know. I had the same thing going on in my life, only it was my best friend - aka - sister, who told our guy-friend that she thought of him as a brother. I know how badly the person might hurt, but I think that this might be the best thing to tell her, because once she knows this, it might help her see everything else a little bit more realistically. I could be wrong.. but it helped here. I also think that her best guy-friend should know that she likes him. Sure, it might be a little awkward, but, if she doesn't tell him, there wont be that much of a change. What I mean is, you might want to think about telling him. That way he'll know how she feels, she'll know how he feels, and then you just have to let time work it out. I know how hard it is, but it's still probably the best thing.
One thing, "I told her because you dont have the same interests and he thinks youre too calm" I can understand calm, but sometimes having different intrets can be good, because if they have the exact same likes and dislikes, they'll try and out-do each other. But it's still a must to have a common bond.. which they obviously have somewhere, otherwise they wouldn't be such good friends. Being calm is a good thing. If she wasn't calm, she might flip off the roof if she saw her guy friend with another girl, even if he was only saying, "Hi" or something, she'd still take it the wrong way. I am calm, and part of that is because I almost live in a barn.. with horses... but it's still good that she's calm. And normally, a calm girl and a less-calm guy are seen together because the girl can help bail the guy out of his problems when he does something wild and crazy. And sometimes the boy is calm but the girl is crazy.. and the guy helps the girl get out of stupid mistakes.. but you get the idea. Obviously, the guy isn't interested.. and there's not much y'all can do about it. I think you should tell him how your best friend feels, and you should tell your best friend how the guy feels... and pray about it. Sorry I couldn't help more..
-FunnyCide
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I agree 100%. I've been the who had his "sister" tell that there was a "more-than-friends" interest. We went out for a week and it just destoryed our friendship. If he doesn't like her as well as she likes him, it'll never work.
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Dear Teenage Cupid,
I absolutely agree with you. After all, why wouldn't I? Believe it or not, you seem to be holding most of the power here. You seem like a wonderful, kind, caring friend because a lot of girls would push the two together just to see the drama unfold! You already know that he just doesn't feel that way about her. I would tell her. It will sting a little but it will keep her from making a fool out of herself. By the way, the fact that he finds her a little too "calm", kind of says that he likes the drama a bit and if she did tell him she liked him, he would be inclined to draw it out, thereby hurting her even more. It's better that it comes from a friend who cares about her feelings. She may take it out on you in the beginning, but don't be too hard on her. That's just the sting talking. After you tell her, let her wrap her brain around it for a little while and then be there for her. If she continues to show interest in this guy, well then, you've done your part.
Linda
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in my opinion, i dont think that friends should become an item because it ruins the freindship you once had. if anything would go wrong, so would your friendship. often times, it never ever works out. but then again there is an occasional time when thing work out between the both of them and if it doesnt work in a relationship, they can still be friends. so my opinion on this would be if she wants to tell him after she already knows he doesnt like her that wya, then fine. but before she does decide, she should find out what he thinks of her first. and since you have already stated that he doesnt like her in that way, i say she should just try and be friends with him so it doesnt mess up the friendship they already have... but hey its her choice. if she wants to tell him so she can hear from him herself about how he feels and what he thinks about her then just let her go and let her tell him. nothing you can really do or say is gonna want to stop her from telling him, so she is going to do what she wants.
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