Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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About two weeks ago I started realizing things my father was dOing that made me believe he was cheating on my mother. About 3 days ago while he was bringing me to work He told me he had something to tell me "I'm gay" Was one of the things and "Ive found someone else" Was the other. He hadnt told my mom at the point I was the only one who knew.
Today He told my mom and as you can tell now the house is on edge. I don't Know how to handle this and Would really like to find others who can relate to me and help me work through this but I've searched online and I cant find anything. Could you help me please! (link)
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Well I thank you for coming to me, and I will try everything in my power to help you.
First, it is completely understandable that your family life is on edge. And your mom may have trouble dealing with this, because I am sure she is in love with your dad, and he is discovering a change in his sexuality, its okay, its life. However, your mom is going to need time to digest this shocking news, so I would suggest being there for her, and being very supportive, she needs it.
The best thing I can say is that even though you may be having trouble accepting this or comprehending it, it is reality, and your mom is probably very confused. I would give it a couple days, and when you have a chance, I would take her to lunch, and maybe discuss the situation, see how she is feeling and offer her as much support as possible. I know this is a delicate situation and I wish you luck with dealing with it, but just give it some time, and be there to support both parents, it must be difficult.
Best of luck,
let me know if you need anything else. :)
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I just got 2 gerbils. Both males. Ones the dad of the other one. What are some cute names form books or movies or whatever between father and son? Or at least 2 guy friends like starky and hutch or something (link)
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hmmm...
ward and beaver cleaver (Leave it to beaver)
ward and wally cleaver
Alan and Cory Mattthews (Boy meets world)
Alan and Eric Matthews (Boy meets world)
Nemo and Martin (finding Nemo)
harry and Dixon(90210)
I am going to go think of some more. Ill let you know what i come up with.
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here is my dilemma. basically, i'm a pretty average guy. i'd say on on the shy side and i'm not that cocky or anything. in other words, i dont' try to draw too much attention to myself usually. my issue is that i have some attractive traits. like, i'm a funny guy, a good listener, i'm artistic, poetic, i play guitar very well, i'm an excellent cook. i have all of this positive and interesting things going on about me but i don't know how to let girls know. i'm not the kind of guy to randomly blurt out stuff or try to be a show off. to me that's in bad taste but i still want people to know what they are missing out on. how do you let someone know what you are into and what you are about without seeming cocky or seeming like you are bragging? any ideas would be appreciated. (link)
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You don't have to talk about it to be cocky or anything. Like if your talking to friends and someone mentions something about playing the guitar or song, its okay to talk about playing, a few of my guy friends play the guitar and we all have fun listening to them play, they aren't cocky about it at all. The have confidence which is awesome and sexy, and its so cool to know more than one side of them. You have to put yourself out there, I don't mean like sexually, I mean just by being yourself and saying hey this is me. I'm not saying to walk up to every single person you see and be like "hey there, i play the guitar, and i rock" just the next time someone is talking to you, talk about your hobbies and what you like to do. There is nothing cocky about showing your true self. Just be who you are. You do have some attractive traits, so next time someone talks to you, its okay to talk about yourself, as long as you ask about them too. :)
Good luck,
and playing the guitar and being able to cook, hmm..thats pretty sweet, im not gonna lie. lol
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Over the summer, this guy and i were friends with benefits. i know friends with benefits are never a good thing but anyway.. a friend of mine told me he had been dating someone. So i stopped talking to him to get him out of the picture. Well, i haven't talked to him in about 2 months and he texted me tonight saying that he missed me and how he wanted me to come over soon. I don't miss him, just doing things with him. I asked him about his girlfriend and he just said "yeaaah we can keep it between us" so i said umm ill think about it. so should i do it? i don't know the girl at all that hes dating so i wouldnt feel bad at all about that. (link)
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Quite honestly if you know he has a girlfriend, that is just abad idea, altogether.
1.) He won't tell her so obvisouly he is just using you.
2.) Think of how hurt she would be if she found he was cheating on her with you.
and 3.) What if you were the girlfriend, how would you feel being cheated on? You probably wouldn't like it.
I know you may miss doing stuff with him but sex can be really degrading, would you rather just be fwb or would you rather find a great guy out there who loves you for your personality rather then your body?
You deserve great things, so next time he calls you or whatever think about that and how his g/f would feel. I've seen friends get cheated on, its not nice, and it does hurt. Please think of that b4 you do anything.
Good luck,
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heyy.
so..i've got a very confusing problem..
so there's this guy..and at the begining of the year, he told me that he liked me, but i wasent allowed to date him, cause he's older than i am. so..we stayed friends, and we decided to see how this all turned out..well, i started to REALLY like him latley..and i cant tell if he likes me still or not..so im going to explain his behavior, and you see if it seems like he still likes me or not...
okay..so, he still waits for be after 1st hour to talk to me, and he talks to be in between the classes that we see each other. and sometimes he dosent really talk to me, he might just tap me on the shoulder or something, or tap me on the head. and he kinda puts his head down like he's shy. my friends regin and cynthia sometimes watch us while we talk in the mornings. and they said EXACTLY this " the way he look's at you is amazing. he looks you up and down, like he's protective of you. like how edward looks at bella." and then my friend harrison says it looks like he's in love with me. haha. but then sometimes..it seems like he wants nothing more than to get away from me. like he dosent want me to talk to him at all..he'll just walk by me..and sometimes he'll look at me as he walks by.
my friend samantha said that it seems like he likes me..but he dosent know if i like him..so he dosent really want to do anything about it..
but im not sure..what do you think?
thanks for all your help (:
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It seems to me like he does like you, but the best way to find out the truth is to just ask him. He seems like a nice guy, and if he thinks you arent interested, he may just move on, so if you want him you need to tell him and see how he still feels.
Good luck, I bet you guys will make a cute couple :)
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honestly tell me if im fat,
raelly, if you say i am i wont get mad, but anyways if you did, i couldnt care less because i really want honest opinions.
http://s474.photobucket.com/albums/rr105/minamala11/
click both pics (link)
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No you are not fat. I promise I would tell you if you were. My stomach looked like that, I did some situps and I felt more comfortable once I toned my weight, I can't tell though if your weight is toned, it looks like it is.
But anyways you look fine, you are not fat at all, I promise :)
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really, anybody. I just need someone who is willing to listen to me "complain" about school and people and work and life in general. I understand if you don't, but I feel like I can't talk to my friends about it because they've heard it all already. I can't keep holding it all inside, because I'm going to blow a fuse soon, and I'm afraid I'm going to lose friends in the process. I need to get stuff off my chest, so if anyone is willing to listen (more like read, whatever) I will be forever grateful.
17/f (link)
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Thats why I am here, if you want to talk send me your email when you rate me, and Ill send you email.
:)
Jeannie
I love listening to ppl, so feel free to email me anytime.
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im 19/f and have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. We've had sex quite a few times but we just had a very intense talk recently and he has decided that we won't be having sex until my views change. Im personally against abortion, but thats just me. Other people can do it, I just wouldn't be able to handle it. When we have sex we use condoms and Im on the pill. He's just so worried that something will go wrong and i'll end up pregnant and we both arent ready for kids. I just don't think its fair that I have to change my beliefs to make love to my boyfriend. We're pretty much 100% safe. If anything did go wrong, I'd pick up some plan B the next morning. He's just so afraid we'll be that unlucky 0.1%. I don't know what to do... (link)
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Honestly, I am against abortion too. And good for you that you have your own beliefs. But those are your beliefs and NO ONE should be making you change them. I understand that you love your boyfriend and want to have sex with him, but what you believe is your choice and he needs to understand that. I know you both aren't ready for kids and it is good that you are almost 100% safe, but there is always a chance of getting pregnant, big or small. My suggestion, is to be straightfoward with him. Tell him that prolife is your choice and he needs to understand that. B/c if he loves you he won't put you in a position where you have to change what you believe in, thats not right.
SO just talk to him and see how it goes, good luck with everything, and no one can change how you feel about life, only you can, your in control here. :)
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i realized something...and i know you all will probably say just be yourself, but the thing is im not that funny or outgoing enough to be myself around new people. its very strange...if im not intimidated by someone or if i dont want to really impress them, then i can be myself and i end up being pretty funny and they like me. i can be a hit in a group pf people that , i dont wannna say it like this, but in a group of people i feel superior to...not really superior...but thats the only word i can think of. like if i feel i dont need to make a good impression, i usually do.
problem is i cant do that with everyone, especially people im nervous around, or i feel will judge me. not that i care what they think. at least i dont think i do. but idk when im with funny people that are super outgoing i tend to hang back...or i dont know what to say. i feel that whatever i say will be lame, and i dont have the courage to say it. and when i do, it ussually IS lame. i have such a hard time opening up to people that i dont know. why is that? truth is im just not that funny but i hold back a lot too and so i end up looking boring in a big group... my voice get lost in the crowd, and i usually have to repeat things twice before anyone hears me...
can anyone help me out on this with some insight. if youre outgoing, please tell me what do you do to be a success in a big group of funny people?
THANKS!!!!! =) (link)
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Honestly what I do is I don't think about impressing them and being just as funny, I just kind of chill with them and if I think of something to say I say it. Don't think about making an impression b/c then you will just freak yourself out. HOnestly, I know how annoying it is when ppl to say just be yourself. All you have to do is just look for ways to add stuff. You know you are funny and outgoing, and let that show through, w/o being intimidated, b/c if you show you are intimidated by thinking it, others will pick up on it too. Just act the way you do around the ppl you feel most comfortable and see how that goes.
Good luck, let me know if you need anything else :)
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my friend rob posted a bulliten on myspace saying that he was suicidal again. and he said that he had a knife and a lighter in his bedroom and he wasnt afraid to use them, he also said that meybe he'd add a rope in to and that he wasnt afraid to kill himself. should i tell someone? if i do, who do i tell? will he hate me? should i talk to him first?
he's a good friend of mine. i dont wanr him to die. please help me. (link)
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Honestly you need to say something, find him in person, and talk to him about whatever he is going through. Also you may want to talk to a guidance counselor at school, that way if more than one person talks to him people can get through to him. If you reach a hand out to him, my guess, is that he needs help and will take it.
Also, if you know someting is going on, and you do not do anything about it, you are only helping it happen again. Please talk to someone and him, b/c you just might save a life.
One thing I learned if you stand for nothing, youll fall for anything, so stand for him, stand up against his suicidal thoughts, and pull him out of this. Your his friend, being a friend is a powerful job with a very rewarding experience. Protect him by being there for him.
Good luck with everything, let me know if you need anything else :)
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So I've had an eating disorder for almost 4 years now and I'm trying to recover. I was in the hospital for 9 months this year. Before I left I had like a natural high. I was feeling so good about myself and not worried about my weight and I knew I was healthy. About a month after I got out all of my problems came back. It was really hard because I gained 30 pounds. I'm 5'7 and now weigh 120, which I know is "healthy" but I want to be less. I know I can't lose weight though because I will never lose enough to please myself and I'll just cause myself to relapse. If I don't restrict/purge I harm myself in other ways (cutting, popping pills, etc.). I feel like I have no one to talk to about it, besides my therapist..but I want a friend I can go to at any time and talk to this about. (link)
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Hi there, I understand what you are going through. With our society the media basically glamorizes thinness and weightloss. I know you want to lose more weight. But there is honestly nothing wrong with your weight. My doctor told me I was borderline aneroxic b/c I was so underwweight the beginning of highschool. I just didn't want to gain weight, b/c I felt like everyone around me was thinner or prettier. Its been 4 years and I know that you can base yourself on other people. You are beautiful and healthy and you will continue to be once you can beat this horrible life altering eating disorder. I feel bad for you being in a hospital for nine months, but if you don't get help this can happen again and again. And the self harm I wish I could make you stop somehow.
However I do like talking to people about their problems or concerns. I joined advicenators because I had a problem and when other people were able to help me I decided I wanted to turn around and do the same thing. So if you want to email please feel free to, we can talk about anything you want and possible solutions to help you get your life back to where it needs to be.
IF you would like to talk give me your email when you rate me, and I will email you asap.
If you donot want to talk then I wish you a very happy life, good luck with everything, and you are a strong person, you can overcome all of this if you just believe in yourself. :)
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Ok well I really need help. My dad is all the time mentally abusing me. He has said I dress like a slut, act like a slut, wishes he never had me cause my actions come off as slutty. He has a daughter as a slut. All of this he has said to me. Also he has stuff like I will never make it when I grow up, and saying that I am sloppy, and filthy, etc. Plus my older brother is all the time bullying me, saying stuff like how "fat" I am, when I know I am not. Plus recently, he smacked me across the face and sprained my wrist. I have gotten into fist fights with my older brother (who is 17 btw, and I am 15/f) And its just, I dont know, its so unbearable. I can live with my mom in yanceyville, but I would have to go to a different school, but my best friend whom I am very close to lives here as well as my boyfriend who I have been going out with for 7 months. It's just I dont know. My life is here, and I cant handle moving. What do I do? If I tell then my dad will just deny it, and it will be his word against mine, and of course he will win as always, then it will be worse when we get back home. What do I do? I have to stay here, but I cant handle all the abuse. Thanks so much in advance. (link)
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Aww I am really sorry about your family abusing you like that, that isn't right. At all. Period. I don't care if you think people will believe your dad over you, you really need to say something. Talk to your mom or a trusted adult. If you know or live in this situation and you do nothing about it, you are only helping it happen again. So my sugggestion, is to talk to someone, and maybe try family counseling. SOme kind of counseiling for your dad, your brother and you. That is the first step to sloving the problem, is actually acknowledging it and taking steps to correct it. IF not you may have to move with your mom for a while, but don't worry about that until the time comes, talk to someone first.
MY family has has anger problems and so family counseling helped in my case, for the most part. We went to see a pyschologist to help sort out the problems, things got better. And they will for you too. :)
Good luck, and don't let your family insult you, you are beautiful. Ignore the name calling, it isn't right.
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okay so i went on vacation for thanksgiving break and when i came back my friend arial tells me hes glad ur back. and later on my other friend vacity tells me that at lunch he was hangin with other girls and that if i still like him and he may break up with me!and i noe him and i thought well maybe shes lieing,then vacity says want me to tell him its over i was like no i still have no evidence and later i call her to tell her that im going to talk to him and she says no,cuz then he'll sprend rumors.and so i tell her so hes gonna breakup wit me,but arial just told me that he said im glad im back and vacity says no she just wants you to stay together and so i dont know what to do i mean who do i belive oh and later he calls me and we just talk as usually and i guess it made me feel a bit better. so i NEED ADVICE LIKE A.S.A.P PLEASE ADVICE ERGENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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honestly, if you want the truth, then just ask him. Forget what vacity says, b/c if you want to know how he really feels, then just ask him. That way youll know the truth. The fact that she doesn't want you to talk to him about it, kind of makes it seem shes hiding something.
I would just ask him, that way youll know the truth.
Good luck, I'm sure he doesn't want to breakup with you.
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Please do not judge me.
I have been Bulimic for
a year or so now,
and its become so that
i have to do it, its like in my
head, i feel horrible if i eat something
and dont throw it up...
i only do it once a day but
anyways...
my real question is
does it effect your birth control???
started taking it 3 weeks ago and i take it at like 1 in the afterrnoon
and i throw up after dinner which could be anywhere from 6-9 at night...
so does this effect the pill?
like is it still affective??? (link)
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Honestly, none of us on here are doctors, so I can't give you an exact answer. But you should really see a doctor. For your pill and for your bulumia. I am not going to judge you, i promise. I know the effects of bulimia and I think you really should get help. YOu only get one body, please be careful. I know how it feels to be scared to eat something or self conscious of it.
If you would like to talk about, I was borderline anneroxic for like a year, I know how it feels to be scared to eat, so if you would to talk about it I am here to listen.
Honestly, there is nothing wrong with getting help, it just might save your life. It saved mine.
PLease see your doctor, and remember you are beautiful so don't judge yourself or try to mutilate your body, and you will be fine I promise. :)
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well i have been going wit dis boi for 6 weeks and i love and i wanna have sex wit him so bad what should i do help me pleze (link)
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Honestly only you can answer that question. YOu are the only one who knows if you truly are ready or not. I personally, think 6 weeks is too early, but that is your choice.
Just know that once you make that monumentally life altering decision to have sex, it forever changes the relationship you guys have together. Once you do it, you can never take it back. I'm not saying you would regret it, I just think that early you might. Theres nothing wrong with wating, the more you wait the more special it will probably be.
Also, people often confuse sex with love, I mean do you know everything about this guy, when you do then you are truly in love, when you are taken to a whole new meaning of life by his presence. Does that make sense? The choice is yours, and good luck, just follow your heart and trust yourself b/c in the end all good decisions are based on how you truly feel in your heart. :)
Good luck, :)
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i have been with my boyfriend for a while now and we have talked about marriege. he is my first love and i can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. we have had our ups and downs but i trust him and do love him. i just wonder if we're to young to get married. we're both 19 and are going to college. the fact that we are both still teenagers scares me. should age matter if you know for a fact its true love? (link)
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Honestly people can chance alot in a few years, but I think its great that you guys want to get married. Personally I would try to go through college first, if you can handle college and still feel the same way by the time you both graduate, then yes I would say its def meant to be. I have met alot of people who wanted to get married at 19, but after college they felt differently, maybe your love will last and if it does then go for it.
Good luck with the rest of your lives, I hope things work out for the best with you guys.
Love is hard to find, and if you guys have it then you should hold on to it, and savor every moment. Cherish each moment you guys are together. :)
All the best :)
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17/F
I was with my boyfriend, Jake, for about 9 months. We've had MANY lows and few highs, but our relationship level was somewhat in the middle. A lot had to do with the fact that I live an hour away from him, so we only saw each other about twice a week.
Well, these past two weeks we hadn't seen each other much at all. We were also hitting a rough patch because I didn't drive down to see him as often as I usually did. I went and saw him the other day, and it was him who brought up that we should break up. The break up was not bad at all -- in fact, it was probably the best break up ever -- and that's what makes it so much harder.
He wants to be good friends with me. He even said, "If I could choose between being really unhappy but dating you, or not talking to you at all, I'd stay with you because I can't stand not having you in my life." Another things he said was "I honestly might regret this in a few days, so if I call you, you can do one of two things: disregard me, or really, really, reconsider it." He said that we would hang out often, call each other, etc. He said he would start calling me in a week.
I know I was mentally prepared for it, but the impact of the breakup really tore me apart. I teared up a lot when we were talking, but I really broke down when I left his house and got away from his view. Now, I can't stop thinking about him. I think it's one of those "want what you don't have" type of things.
I'm terrified to be his friend because I don't know how to be -- we were NEVER "just friends". We also respect each other enough to give each other room to adjust before dating other people. However, I'm scared of this whole friend thing, as I just said. I'm afraid that, if we're friends, I won't get over him when I really should.
What are the best ways to get over a breakup? (link)
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The best way to get over a break up is time. If you guys were really intense, it may not be the best idea to just be friends, b/c that will make even harder. But I can see why you are scared to be friends with him, and it may be really hard, im not going to lie to you. But if anything give it s shot, if worse comes to worse, you guys can take a break from the whole situation until you both have started to move on, then be friends again. I understand why you are sad and everything, and I am sorry you guys broke up, it is hard. But not allowing yourself to move on is even harder.
Just go out and do things don't just sit at home all depressed, go out with friends and live your life, you can handle this and you will be okay.
Sometimes if you wirte how it makes you feel, that is a cathartic way to realize any heldback emotions.
Just give yourself time and live your life, that is how you move on. If you hold yourself back and just stay at home, you will never move on. ITll hurt at first, but thats how it is. Just try to be friends and don't worry about it, just give it a chance, and see where it goes.
Good luck, and I am sorry again about Jake. Things will get better soon, I promise. :)
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14-Female-5'6 5'7-220 pounds
Okay, so last week I was on the phone with a friend of mine Steven, and he said that if I lost weight and started straightening my hair I would be 'wickedddd hott'. Well I said that even if I did all of that he still wouldn't be-- which he didnt like but he had no right to say that to me. Well, my weight is a problem. I don't just have a little ponch- no im clinically obese.
Well I was told a good way to start is figure out why I eat, and I know why I do. Like every teenager Im unhappy, my parents fight constantly and I never see my Mother. I eat emotionally, to fill somekind of void. Sometimes I do it out of sheer bordom too. I am now recognizing when that is, but when I do it's like it doesnt matter I'll do it anyway.So I have to stop that.
I don't want to set a goal really, because for health reasons I should litterally lose like 90 pounds which is so overwhelming... So if I take it step by step, I was thinking like 20 pounds.
Money is a huge issue at the moment. We can't afford anything diffrent then what were getting now. Which is like cube steak, rice, and some kid of canned veggie. So I was wondering how much I should eat, and how much I should exersize. I can't do push ups in general so that's out of the question. It's weird my arms, and legs are tiny, like abnormally for my body. Its my belly, my thighs are becoming an issue but Im an xl[[sometimesxxl]] and size TEN in jeans. over the summer i went from a size 16-18 to 10. but nothing in my stomach went. How many sit ups should I do. And if I walk it would have to be around my neighborhood which is a circle. [[we know that 3 times around=One Mile.]] But it's getting cold.
I really wanna do this. and not for Steven because I honestly couldnt care what he thought. But we had this thing at school where everyone was like whats one good trate about someone. and we had to go ina circle and everyone said my best trate is my personalty, and confidence.
I DO NOT HAVE CONFIDENCE.
Ariele said she would kill to have the confidence I had. How I can walk around and act like I own the place. Say the speaches I do, and just not care what other people think.. Im glad I fool them so well. It was strange to have people think Im confidence when I know for a fact the very little self esteem I have..
anything you guys could say would be amazingg thanks for reading all of this. (link)
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Honestly confidence begins on the inside, you have to feel good about yourself. And you can too if you believe your weight is a problem. My grandpa eats to fill a void which is bad. You know their are different diets out there, I know nutrrisystem works, b/c I watched my grandpa lose a ton of weight very healthy.
If you don't want to go on a diet system, just cut back on what you eat. Stop eating to fill a void, instead if you feel empty go do someting that makes you happy, like listen to music or write a poem, or read a good book. Habits are hard and overpowering, but they must be broken. YOu have to get away from the constant eating b/c that is hurting your metabolism. If you just stick to eating fruits and vegteables and meats and cheese, you could honestly knock off your weight, I promise. I stay in shape b/c I choose to eat fresh fruit and veggies. Junk food is okay for you once in a while but not at constant. And you should do some form of exercise like walk a half a mile a day, believe it or not, that will help you get into shape really well.
what it all comes down to is just eating healthy. And be confident, because you are beautiful whether you weigh 220 lbs or 104 lbs its on the inside that counts. And I am sure you bring happiness to those around you, so don't obsess over your weight, just cut down your eating portions and you will be fine. I promise :)
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I am a male, 36 yrs. old. I move into a neighborhood about 5 years ago. My wife and I got friendly with another couple in the neighborhood. A few months went by, going out drinking, restaurants, movies etc., we were hanging out with this couple alot. Anyways one night i was on her couch and myself and Mrs. X were just sitting there. We notice that her husband and my wife were flirting in the kitchen and then they would disappear for a few seconds and come back. the next week end was a New Years party and I was out by a deck fire and Mrs.X came over and sat on my lap and we began to kiss, I told her that i was married and she said it was ok that her and wife decided to wife swap. It seem fun at first and went on for over a year, almost every weekend. My wife decided she had enough, she probably seen the chemistry between myself and Mrs.x, anyways its been almost 4 years now and I am still with Mrs.X only they do not know we still see each other. I fell in love, love like I never felt before. I found my soul mate and she says she found hers. I just cant take the sneeking, lying and fighting anymore. we also have 3 children a piece.This story cannot be told in 2000 characters but i could sure use some advice from someone who is willing to hear the whole story, thanks for your time. (link)
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Honestly, I am not one for adultery, and I have learned in my short time that honesty is the best policy. IF you found your soulmate, you really need to talk to your wife, because sneaking around behind her back, isn't nice and its just don't seem fair. I wouldn't mind hearing the whole story, and I would love to listen and help you out anyway I can. I just think you should be honest with your wife, b/c if not this can destroy your family with your wife and 3 children. Be fair to her, before things do get worse. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I just don't like seeing people get hurt, and I know that the truth hurts but its the best policy.
So if you would like to talk about this, by all means give me your email and we can talk about it. Thats why I am on advicenators, I love to help people. :)
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Over the last year and a half one girl has basically ruined my life. She has assaulted me twice (ruined both grad events so far this year) and turned everyone against me. I don't have many friends, I can't go to parties.. it's just a bad situation. I didn't do anything to deserve this. I FINALLY told the principal last week because of the last assault (I am pressing charges) and now she has been expelled (the school board, not the principal.. she has a bad history as it is).
Except now her friends are all trying to make me feel guilty. They're telling me she is dropping out (not finding another school even though she has that option) and she is going back into using hard drugs. They're telling me about how she has no home (lives with a friend) and now no chance to get an education. This isn't my fault. I didn't tell her to ruin my life, I really didn't. I haven't said anything back to her friends. They're trying to pressure me into telling the principal that she needs to come back to our school. I don't want her back! I don't want this pressure either though. What should I do? Thanks.. (link)
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Honestly. You do not need to do anything. She chose to ruin your life and to get expelled and to do drugs. You should honestly just ignore her friends, b/c they are just going to see how far they can push you til you break, stand tall and ignore them.
Obviously she did something bad to you b/c you are pressing charges, so don't worry about it, let her be someone elses problem. You cannot blame yourself b/c the life she chose to live, she has obviously had many chances, and many opportunities to change her life, and she did nothing of the sort, so just leave it be. This no longer has anything to do with you. I know you don't want this pressure, but just stnad against it, and be nice and positive to the ppl around you, why? b/c if they see how nice you are, they will be nice back, and ignore what she said to turn them against you. You have to show people that you are a good person, b/c actions speak louder than words. Do good in the world, b/c you won't always be in this same position, so help the ppl around you and be the best person you can possibly be.
Good luck with everything, you are a good person and good things will happen to you. Also another quote, "If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything" So stand up for yourself and your decisions against her friends, b/c they are not worth your tears or anything. I promise :)
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