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Mental/Phyiscal Abuse
Ok well I really need help. My dad is all the time mentally abusing me. He has said I dress like a slut, act like a slut, wishes he never had me cause my actions come off as slutty. He has a daughter as a slut. All of this he has said to me. Also he has stuff like I will never make it when I grow up, and saying that I am sloppy, and filthy, etc. Plus my older brother is all the time bullying me, saying stuff like how "fat" I am, when I know I am not. Plus recently, he smacked me across the face and sprained my wrist. I have gotten into fist fights with my older brother (who is 17 btw, and I am 15/f) And its just, I dont know, its so unbearable. I can live with my mom in yanceyville, but I would have to go to a different school, but my best friend whom I am very close to lives here as well as my boyfriend who I have been going out with for 7 months. It's just I dont know. My life is here, and I cant handle moving. What do I do? If I tell then my dad will just deny it, and it will be his word against mine, and of course he will win as always, then it will be worse when we get back home. What do I do? I have to stay here, but I cant handle all the abuse. Thanks so much in advance.
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You could always tape or video record your interactions with your dad or brother for evidence. What you can do is spend more time in another environment if you feel that moving is definitely not for you. What I mean is if you do not really have a curfew and you're not grounded, spend your time out of school somewhere else like the library, or partake in school activities so you won't have to be home as often. Do homework at your best friend or boyfriend's house. Or have them come over. If they do your brother and father will probably be on good behavior so you do not have to suffer for that while. However, you still have several years of high school ahead of you so it may be best to take action now or else the abuse will just get worse. Good luck with everything.
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Aww I am really sorry about your family abusing you like that, that isn't right. At all. Period. I don't care if you think people will believe your dad over you, you really need to say something. Talk to your mom or a trusted adult. If you know or live in this situation and you do nothing about it, you are only helping it happen again. So my sugggestion, is to talk to someone, and maybe try family counseling. SOme kind of counseiling for your dad, your brother and you. That is the first step to sloving the problem, is actually acknowledging it and taking steps to correct it. IF not you may have to move with your mom for a while, but don't worry about that until the time comes, talk to someone first.
MY family has has anger problems and so family counseling helped in my case, for the most part. We went to see a pyschologist to help sort out the problems, things got better. And they will for you too. :)
Good luck, and don't let your family insult you, you are beautiful. Ignore the name calling, it isn't right.
<3 Jeannie
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Have you told your mother about this abuse? Talk to her and be honest. If this doesn't work talk to a school counselor. Your safety is the most important thing and your friend and boyfriend will understand that. No one should be in an abusive environment. If you should be hurt again, and let's hope not, have your friend take pictures and report it to your counselor and your mom. Never keep quiet about abuse.
Good luck!
L.C.
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