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I got her expelled..
17/f
Over the last year and a half one girl has basically ruined my life. She has assaulted me twice (ruined both grad events so far this year) and turned everyone against me. I don't have many friends, I can't go to parties.. it's just a bad situation. I didn't do anything to deserve this. I FINALLY told the principal last week because of the last assault (I am pressing charges) and now she has been expelled (the school board, not the principal.. she has a bad history as it is).
Except now her friends are all trying to make me feel guilty. They're telling me she is dropping out (not finding another school even though she has that option) and she is going back into using hard drugs. They're telling me about how she has no home (lives with a friend) and now no chance to get an education. This isn't my fault. I didn't tell her to ruin my life, I really didn't. I haven't said anything back to her friends. They're trying to pressure me into telling the principal that she needs to come back to our school. I don't want her back! I don't want this pressure either though. What should I do? Thanks..
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You are the victim here. Not her. Do not let anyone tell you different. It was her decision to be a bully and now she has to live with the consequences. Its called karma. What goes around comes around and now it has come back to her. You did nothing wrong here. She did.
If anything, I would just tell her friends to leave me alone and that she did it to herself. You do not have to explain yourself to anyone.
If they keep bothering you or bully you at all go to the principal again. Im sure he could do something about it.
You did the right thing. No one deserves to be bullied or have anyone assault them.
Good luck to you!
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Honestly. You do not need to do anything. She chose to ruin your life and to get expelled and to do drugs. You should honestly just ignore her friends, b/c they are just going to see how far they can push you til you break, stand tall and ignore them.
Obviously she did something bad to you b/c you are pressing charges, so don't worry about it, let her be someone elses problem. You cannot blame yourself b/c the life she chose to live, she has obviously had many chances, and many opportunities to change her life, and she did nothing of the sort, so just leave it be. This no longer has anything to do with you. I know you don't want this pressure, but just stnad against it, and be nice and positive to the ppl around you, why? b/c if they see how nice you are, they will be nice back, and ignore what she said to turn them against you. You have to show people that you are a good person, b/c actions speak louder than words. Do good in the world, b/c you won't always be in this same position, so help the ppl around you and be the best person you can possibly be.
Good luck with everything, you are a good person and good things will happen to you. Also another quote, "If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything" So stand up for yourself and your decisions against her friends, b/c they are not worth your tears or anything. I promise :)
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Trust me if she wanted to go bac and do hard drugs that's her problem. And I don't blame you for not wanting her back. So what if her friends are pressuring you there probley just mad the lost a friend. So ignore it. And think about it, even if you did ask the principal to bring her back he wouldn't since you said it was also a school board decision and then he'd probley question why you want her back to begin with and then your in a big mess. You did the right thing so for now. Chill. I'm sure she was bullying other girls too and those girls are probley thankful you had the courage to talk about it to the principal so you did the right thing. I wouldn't be brave enough to do that. Be proud not sad. :)
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Take a deep breath, and endure.
Her getting expelled, and even more so her choosing to drop out, is HER choice. You didn't give her some mind altering drug that made her attack you. You didn't somehow ban her from every other educational facility in the state. You didn’t shoot her up with drugs. She's making those choices and those choices suck.
However, when her friends push at you, there is a simpler response: It's not YOUR choice if she gets expelled or not. Tell them simply that it doesn't matter what you say, the school has made its decision. It doesn't matter if you want her back or not, you could go to the principal and bawl your eyes out begging for her to return to school. It wouldn't happen. It's not up to you. It's up the adults. The adults have made their choice and it doesn’t matter what ANY student says. Not you, not her, and not her friends.
Tell them that. They will still be whinny brats and they will still blame you, but they can't argue with that logic. Seriously, what kind of dumbasses think that the principal is going to listen to YOU over the school board. Hell, even lie to them and say you DID ask the principal to be lenient, but he said the rules are the rules, because that is exactly what he would have said if you asked.
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