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Hey there!I'm Meg(or Megan).I'm 13 yrs old.I live on beautiful Cape Cod(except when it's the summer,and the tourists come,LOL!).I love to give advice,and my friends say I'm really good at it.My friends came up with this crazy idea that I should go to this site and give other people advice.Whaddya know?I love it!I also think it's good practice,because I want to be a child phycologist someday(I know,isn't that wierd?I'm already starting to think about the future!)I also love music.I mostly listen to Country music like Kenny Chesney(isn't he so hott?),Big&Rich,Gretchen Wilson,and Rascal Flatts.I also listen to some alternative like Weezer,Hoobastank,Jack's Mannequin,and Simple Plan.I know,those are two totally diverse genres!Remember:If you need some good advice,just ask.I will usually get back to you in a day.

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My friend is doing drugs a lot. She smokes weed every day and does ecstacy a few times a week. I have talked to her about it a lot, and she's not going to change. I don't know if I should tell her mom or do something else. So what should I do?

Yes!You definatly need to tell her mom.It's important that she know.Then,she could get help for her daughter.Just tell your mom,and have your mom call her mom or something.Hope I helped!

-Lady M ♥

This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.

My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.

thanks.

You are certainly not a bitch for not wanting to be friends with this guy!He cheated on you,and betrayed your trust.You're not the bitch,he is!You were right to say that if he wanted to work things out,he would have to do it in person.If he's not going to do that,he's not going to be a good friend anyways!You deserve the best,and he's definatly not it.

-Lady M♥

lately ive been so self concious about my nose.i think its really big and is the only thing that stands out on my face. everytime i talk to someone i think they are staring at my nose. im not gonna go and get plastic surgery or anything but is there anyway to boost my self confidence?! im 15/f and not to sound like conceited or anything but alot of people say im so gorgeous and i just dont see it! ive never had a boyfriend and i WAS crushin on this really cute kid but now he has a really really pretty girlfriend. im jealous. for some reason im jealous of so many girls! i know people have said just say your beautiful or name off your good traits but thats not gonna help ME and i know it. ahh any other suggestions? thanks.

Everyone has something they are self concious about(for me,it's my arms.lol).It's normal.Even the pretty girls get self concious,trust me!Just see it like this:Your nose makes you unique.I know that sounds lame,but it works.also,alot of people have it worse than you.Some people don't even have a nose!It makes no difference what size nose you have.The size of your nose won't get you more friends,a boyfriend,or happiness.The thing that will get you all this is confidence.I know you are really upset about this,but just remember:You aren't the only one going through this!

-Lady M♥

Well, my situation is as followed.

I have two best friends. One of which I dated, and we broke up. Now my other best friend whom is a girl, always thought my boyfriend was hot and lusted after him.

I trusted both of them completely, and not even a month after we broke up they had sex. Well, If one of them would of told me - it would of been nice but I found out thru HER ex boyfriend, and only because there was a pregnancy scare.

I feel betrayed because she promised she would never do anything with him, and I am still in love with him and she knew that when she did what she did.

He's away at basic in the army, and I had to deal with her. Her response was, "It's in the past, I cant do anything about it now." and her explanation for the event happening was that He started it, and she said (I quote) "I'm a ho, It's in my blood. Someone wants to hit this, I let them!"

I don't know how to deal with this situation. I didnt deck her like I wanted to, but I stayed over at her house and chilled that day because I wasn't sure how to react. Now she calls and I don't want to anwser her phone calls...how do I deal with this?

She seems to feel no remorse for it.. wants to be friends still..

But I know I can't just go on without having my say in it or else I will always feel bitter.

Yes it's in the past but the consequences are NOW.

I need help right away!

Sorry to say this but:She deserves to have the cold shoulder from you.She had sex with your ex not even a month after you broke up,and that's just not right.No one's reason should be,"I'm a ho,it's in my blood.Someone wants to hit this,I let them!"That's just foolish,and dumb.This girl shouldn't even be considered a friend.You should definatly talk your "friend" about this.Tell her how you feel about it,and everything else.

-Lady M♥

God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?

Your not a total selfish jerk for doing that!You just wanted some change....there's nothing wrong with that.The "ditchng your friends part" is not being a selfish jerk either.I do,however,think that you should have a talk with your old friends.Just tell them you wanted some change,and you did it!Don't be suprised if they don't listen to you at first.They'll come around.

-Lady M♥

hey im new here & i cant fine any cute backgrounds on this site i like. does anyone know where i can find one?

http//www.stardust-designs.com
They have some really cute backgrounds!

Okay, well tomorrow my best friend & I are going out to a really fancy restaurant for dinner and then to the Ashlee Simpson concert. But, I dont know what to wear! I cant change clothes because thats too hard and I need to look first dressed up then casual. Any suggestions for an outfit thats dressy but still looks casual or vice versa?!

You could wear a pair of dark wash jeans,and a cami with some dark jewlery.

-Lady M♥

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My friends don’t have that much self confidence. They always ask me how they can become more self acceptant, and to be honest I have no idea what to tell them. I have very little, maybe even no self confidence. I always feel like my friends are better people, and I know that’s wrong. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others because they are not perfect (no one is), but I can’t help it. Last year everyone told me I was a little “look-hard.” Basically meaning I was ugly, and people always told me how I was not a nice person... blah blah blah. This year though, I have people telling me how “gorgeous and beautiful” I am, and how I have such an amazing personality. How can that change in over a year, I just can’t bring myself to believe what the others are saying. How can I have more self confidence and help my friends have more also? I want to be able to help my friends, but at the same time, I need to help myself too. ♥

You shouldn't really care what everyone thinks of you.But,the best way to be self-confident is to be positive.

i know this boy seen 4th grade. we was good friends all. in 5th grade we went together and when i went to a differnt school we started to drifted apart. im in the 8th grade know and he's in the 10 we use to talk and then all of a sudden we stop, for what reason i dont know. we didnt break notfin off. well i moved on and started to meet new people. all of a sudden he called my cell and leave a message saying i should meet him tommorow. and now all this question running through my head. i think the reason he want to meet me is to get back on track with our realationship , but he may just want to use me for a back up girl. i guess my question is that should i meet him or not.

The only thing I really can say:Listen to your heart.If you want to get your relationship back on track,go.But if you think he's going to use you,don't go.

Hey,my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is ruining my life I know that she is 88 years old,but I don't think this is an excuse for what she is doing to me and the rest of my family.my granny tells me that iam to fat for my own good and talks really bad about my mom and my sisters.on my 17th b-day she made me cry becouse she told me that my mom didn't love me or care about me.I know it's not true,but it still bothered me that my granny would say something like that to me her youngest granddaughter.my 36 year old cousin helped me feel better when my granny made me cry.my granny also tells my aunt how to do things in her own house even though she is 68 years old and she stands over my couse like a hawlk while she folds dirty clothes.If I don't make my bed or fold my dirty clothes she yells at me what should I do.I have to deal with this every weekend all weekend and Iam fed up with her nonesince what should I do?

Does your mom know your granny is saying all this?If she doesn't,you should tell her.Then,ask your mom to talk to her.Maybe the two of you could come up with a plan so you don't have to be around her(like,being at a friends house).Hope this helps.

hey, im a 14/f. 7 months ago, my boyfriend & i had sex. & now im pregnant. my parents kicked me out of their house & now i am living with at boyfriend's house. his parents are really supporting us with my pregnancy. my boyfriend says that he is gonna take responsibility for me & the baby. he is 16 years old & he has been workin two full time jobs. so he works all day. we are saving money for our new apartment that we are going to move into next month. i was also working a full time job, but now i had to stop because of my pregnancy. we are saving money to buy clothes & furniture for the baby. the baby is healthy & we are really excited. my bf asked me to marry him, and i said yes. we are getting married next month. my parents and his parents are going to help with the wedding. the thing is that im worried he is going to dump me. just like in movies. i know this is reality, but i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. he is really sweet, hes happy & everything. he is always telling me how much he loves me & our baby & that he is always going to take care of us. he is really responsible. i say he is the perfect daddy & husband. he already started buying clothes for the baby. i just want to know if there is any chances he might dump me. thank u for your advice.

First,I just want to say congatulations!although it's impossible to tell if he will dump you,I don't think he will.He sounds really committed,and happy.I wish you both a happy marriage.

My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"?

This must really annoy you.I know how you feel.Just tell her she said she'd already go with you.But if she still keeps doing this,maybe she just isn't a real friend.Don't ignore this,it will only get worse.

I'm not a good friend. I don't do it on purpose but I let friends go easy. They like, move to a different school and we say we'll stay in touch...but then I don't call.

If friends want me I'm like there for them and all but I dunno I find it hard to meet new people and speak to them cos I'm quite shy so I'm losing friends and can't make new ones so I'm left out a lot and feel very lonely.

What can i do to get new friends and be better at keeping the old ones?

You're not a bad friend,you just don't know how to make/keep them.The best way to make friends is to talk to them.Just start a small conversation.It might be a little hard for you because you are shy,but just try it.You could also invite someone that you want to be friends with to go somewhere with you.Like the movies,or to the beach.

Keeping friends is a little easier.If they invite you to go somewhere,by all means go!Call them on the phone once in a while.It's harder for some people to keep in touch with friends over the summer because you don't see them at school.

Those are some things you can do to make/keep friends.Hope I helped!

there is this guy i used to be best friends with years ago. he ignored me all of a sudden, and now its weird. i miss him so much, and i have finally have come clean and told him. we are friends now, but its not the same like it used to. we dont really hang out. my (girl) best friend now is bff with him just like him and me were. they are so so close and like each other and it makes me so sad and jealous. i am tired of beating myself up just because he liek sher and not me. =[ please help me i have no idea wat to do.

This must be really tough for you.Don't beat yourself up for something that really isn't your fault.Maybe he just wanted to break out to a new group of friends.Just tell him how you feel.He can't be friends with you like he used to be if he doesn't know how you really feel.Just talk to him.See what happens.

My friend has been having these dreams about her friends dying. She's told one of them. He didn't die, but 2 others did. I don't necessarily think it's her dreams...but maybe fate's telling her something.
Rachna is my friend with these dreams. We're both very good friends with Alex, a boy who asked me out and I said yes(Rachna likes him too, but claims she'll get over it).
So, it started last night. She was IMing me telling me "he's dead." I didn't know WHO was. She said, "I killed him" and I got a little frightened and asked who. "Ishan" she said. Ishan is like one of the closest people in Rachna's life. She claimed it was her dreams who killed Ishan.
"I had a dream and maybe if I just told him he wouldn't have died" she was hysterical between sobs. "I told Alex and he didn't die. I didn't tell my cousin and she died." I felt very sorry.
We stayed up for hours and talked about how she can't change her life and attitude. Rachna's Goth, and she's saying "I'll act all happy and wear pink every day".
Especially since we made a deal saying Alex didn't like me and if he did, I'd have to be a Barbie at Rachna's wedding.
Apparently, there's no wedding. Because "Before I ever find love or get married I'll kill myself and be found in a box on the streets".
Ishan was in Ireland when he died (got hit by a drunk driver), and Rachna was in New York. What could she do? Call Ishan and say "Hey I had a dream you were gonna die, stay away from the streets, k bye"?
Thing is, Rachna won't let me tell Alex and she won't tell Alex. But since Alex is my really good friend I just kind of have an urge to tell him.
Rachna's last words on AIM was "I'm sorry Jordan, I really am" and she signed off.
I haven't slept well last night at all, and I feel so terrible. Damn these drunk drivers, causing so many people misery!!!!!
I don't know what to do next. Any advice?

I see why you feel so terrible about this.But,you did nothing to start this.I think the first thing you should do is tell someone about these dreams that Rachna is having,and what she told you.She needs help(I'm not trying to be rude).Tell your parents.Then,tell them about telling alex.This might seem like a little much for you,but you need to tell someone.

I have a secret crush and she dosent know it, or at least i dont think she does, she has a bf and she really likes him, i have had a crush on her for awhile even before her bf but i had a gf at that time, should i try to go for it or leave her alone?

The only thing you can do right now is wait.You don't want to be the reason why your crush and her bf broke up.Just leave her be for now.When the two of them are over,wait a little then tell her how you feel.

my parents give me a hard time about studying..they make me feel like i'm stupid...i hate it...i come back frm school and do all my homework and when i'm done my dad is all like "go study...and i'm like i did.."i'm finished"...then he goes..."oh..so no wonder ur grades are bad"...and my mom if i ask her a quesition she eexplains it to me and if i still don't understand it then she gets really pissed off at me...she says i'm not paying attension...then my mom's friend always calls in and says my son got a 100 on this...wat did ur daughter get....and my mom's all like an 85...she sounds embarresed...so that's why i can't ever show her any of my grades that i'm proud of....or ask her any questions...that's why i always make a low A...B's and sometimes high C's...i've tried tutoring but that does'nt help...even the tutor gets pissed off at me...how can i make my grades be higher w/o getting my parents invovled???

I know this might sound obvious,but:Talk to your parents!They only want what's best for you.So it natural that they might seem a little uptight about your grades.Just talk to them.

I have a clique of 4. We all have been hanging out rather often and having fun together and a horrible thing suddenly happened...I gradually started to have a crush on one of the guys.

When I just got to know him, we both used to keep arguing and keep making fun of each other. I used to find him very irritating and I hated him a lot( and I really mean hate). He just likes to go around making fun of people and whenever he did that to me, I'd scold him.

As time passed, we talked more and he showed a little more sensitive side of him(but he's still darn irritating) and he said and did nice stuff for me which really surprised me. Like for eg, he held my hand and waist when he was teaching me how to dance a school dance. (ok fine duh I know he has to hold my hand and waist) And what the hell..I started liking him. But I know for sure that he doesnt like me. He will never like my type and he seems to be always against how i look, how i talk, how i wear clothes and he always like to tell me bout my hair being too messy, talking too loudly, watever etc. And he just always has this heck-care attitude which is like "i-dun-care-if-you-like-me-or-not-cos-I'm-not-going-to-get-a-gf-and-dun-get-me-involved-in-a-relationship". How do i stop myself from liking him? Cos i just want a nice long lasting friendship among the 4 of us. I really like this clique and I wish to get to know them more. I dun wanna ruin this opportunity to get to be closer to them. But everytime i see the way he acts, the way he walks, its just so ..*sigh*...boyish, manly and cute. I can't make myself hate him again for being so irritating because I've actually like his irritating characteristic as well. Can someone pls tell me how to stop having this crush on him? Its just a crush and i know it'll be easy to get rid of but i need help doing it. so I'd love to see wat advice you guys have to give. :)

It takes a while to get over a guy.Try hanging out with friends.Make lots of plans so you don't start thinking about this guy.If you do start to think about him,just try to shrug it off.One day,you'll here his name and be like,"who?".LOL,good luck!

Okay, does anyone know if they still sell Mini Ipods? & if so, for how much? Or atleast if they do.. & if nanos are better.. i hear they break easily. I'm getting one for my birthday. & I'd like to know which ones better. Thanks!

ipod mini was discontinued.I have a nano,and they DONT break easily.Nanos are better than minis because there are alot of updated features.

hey im 13/f
k i wanna know how to keep my clothes from not shrinking when i wash/dry them. i buy like cute clothes and then like a month later they begin to like get a little smaller and its not becuz im growin if u have anything tell me.

I hang my shirts on a clothesline to dry.You should also buy shirts that are a size bigger than what you wear.

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