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Is she okay? Suicidal?
My friend has been having these dreams about her friends dying. She's told one of them. He didn't die, but 2 others did. I don't necessarily think it's her dreams...but maybe fate's telling her something.
Rachna is my friend with these dreams. We're both very good friends with Alex, a boy who asked me out and I said yes(Rachna likes him too, but claims she'll get over it).
So, it started last night. She was IMing me telling me "he's dead." I didn't know WHO was. She said, "I killed him" and I got a little frightened and asked who. "Ishan" she said. Ishan is like one of the closest people in Rachna's life. She claimed it was her dreams who killed Ishan.
"I had a dream and maybe if I just told him he wouldn't have died" she was hysterical between sobs. "I told Alex and he didn't die. I didn't tell my cousin and she died." I felt very sorry.
We stayed up for hours and talked about how she can't change her life and attitude. Rachna's Goth, and she's saying "I'll act all happy and wear pink every day".
Especially since we made a deal saying Alex didn't like me and if he did, I'd have to be a Barbie at Rachna's wedding.
Apparently, there's no wedding. Because "Before I ever find love or get married I'll kill myself and be found in a box on the streets".
Ishan was in Ireland when he died (got hit by a drunk driver), and Rachna was in New York. What could she do? Call Ishan and say "Hey I had a dream you were gonna die, stay away from the streets, k bye"?
Thing is, Rachna won't let me tell Alex and she won't tell Alex. But since Alex is my really good friend I just kind of have an urge to tell him.
Rachna's last words on AIM was "I'm sorry Jordan, I really am" and she signed off.
I haven't slept well last night at all, and I feel so terrible. Damn these drunk drivers, causing so many people misery!!!!!
I don't know what to do next. Any advice?
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i think maybe these dreams could mean that she's afraid of losing these people in her life..i dont have enough information, but maybe an up coming event in her life or change is about seperating them. and maybe she's not telling the whole story. try asking her about whats shes afraid of.. ask her how she ends the dream.. and maybe in real life, she really does want to tell someone something important.. but it's really hard to...and i don't mean about your gonna die thing probaly something else..like some kind of love thing .. well i hope this is good advice, let me know :)
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It's not her fault. Tell Rachna that. A lot of people feel like they are somehow responsible when someone dies, but that is because they miss them or feel guilty about something that wasn't resolved, like a fight or something bad they said. I think she'll be okay when she realizes that. Hope I helped.
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I have studied Dream Interpretations and from what I know it just means she is going through some kind of change. Whether in her personality or a subconcious change she is unaware of. But all it symbolizes is change. The only way she or you need to be worried about death dreams is if they are really peaceful. Usually if you have a death dream and it means you or someone is going to die it will be peaceful. Usually if it really is a death dream there will be blue, to white lights, and she, or someone will be guided across a bridge. There are occasions when it isn't but that is SUPER rare. It sounds to me that if she talked to someone like a therapist, they could find out how to get rid of these dreams. Her therapist can help her with whatever change she is going through; to make it easier.
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I see why you feel so terrible about this.But,you did nothing to start this.I think the first thing you should do is tell someone about these dreams that Rachna is having,and what she told you.She needs help(I'm not trying to be rude).Tell your parents.Then,tell them about telling alex.This might seem like a little much for you,but you need to tell someone.
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"To dream about the death of a loved one, suggests that you are lacking a certain aspect or quality that the loved one embodies. Ask yourself what makes this person special or what do you like about him. It is that very quality that you are lacking in your own relationship or circumstances. Alternatively, it indicates that whatever that person represents has no part in your own life. "
"On a negative note, to dream that you die may represent involvement in deeply painful relationships or unhealthy, destructive behaviors. You may feeling depressed or feel strangled by a situation or person in your waking life. Perhaps your mind is preoccupied with someone who is terminally ill or dying. Alternatively, you may be trying to get out of some obligation, responsibility or other situation."
This must be hard for her. If dreaming about friends dying isn't enough, some actually have died. It's pure coincidence they happened to die after she had these dreams. and it's vital she understands that.
Dreaming about death signals a change in someone's life, or is signalling life is in need of a change.
Dreams are complicated, but once interpreted, alot turn out to reveal deeper meanings that person is feeling. She might not even be aware of her feelings, and this is the only way they are coming out and becoming known - through dreaming.
It is quite a complicated matter. But explain to her she needs to think beyond her dreams and realize they mean different things. Death isn't a bad thing to dream about. Infact, it is very common.
But at this time in her life, let her know you are there to talk. and reassure her again it's not her fault.
Hope all works well.
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