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Hi im an average 16 year old teenage girl thats just really confused about a lot going on in her life. ive been hurt so many times before and i dont know how to handle. ive been abused by my boyfriends and i thought everything was turning around when i met my last boyfriend. we can just call him A. everything was going perfect we went out for a year and a half and i love him with all my heart. my parents did not like him though and the one night we got into a fight about it and he thought it would be better for me if we broke up for i could have a normal relationship for once...i didnt want it but yah thats what happend...ive been doing my best to win him back..but he's already going out with a girl he just met not even a week and a half ago..it hurts so bad..they leave lovey dovey comments back and forth on myspace that makes me sick to my stomach...and then she brags about how shes so much better then me..she's a bitch on top of it and im not just saying that cuz im an x girlfriend. something i made for my x, something that was really important she ruined and yah ..it hurt so much and he "yelled" at her but they are still together. i just dont understand and when i ask him about it he says he just wants to see wat will happen between him and her..did i mention shes 14..he's almost 16 shes going into highschool he's going to be a jr..he tells me its not gonna work and hes gonna be running back to me but i cant wait forever for him...it hurts so bad and it gets me so sick thinking about it..i dont know what to do will someone please give me some advice...
michelle...
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It seems to me like he's making you wait just so he has another 'option'.
And let me tell you: YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN JUST AN OPTION.
I know that it's going to be hard, but I advice you to just forget him and move on because I believe that if you got back together, the relationship won't go anywhere.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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i have a friend who enjoys making me feel bad about stuff i have no control over. She likes this kid who absolutely can't stand her because she's clingy (i'm not trying to be mean, but i just thought its good to include every detail) she's absolutely in love with him and if he doesn't answer her on AIM she freaks out with the "are you mad at me? what'd i do" etc. He doesn't like her, but he does like me, and i like him. And she just can't accept it.(i sounded like a bitch, but i didn't mean to) Well he and i talk and may date, and she's always saying things like "i don't see why you talk to him, he's an asshole, if i were you i would have given up on him" and then she tries to make me feel bad or something by saying "i really like him, but there's nothing i can do, he likes you.. it's because i'm ugly...i just wish i had someone like you do" and stuff and i don't know how to politely tell her to shut up about it already. i mean, she just is always such a downer and i just can't take it anymore! i want to be friends with her and everything, but not if shes gonna be obsessed with him and always jealous/angry or whatever. (link)
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Real friends aren't supposed to pull you Down-- they should lift you up.
I think your friend is one heck of an INSECURE gal..... That's why she's trying to pull you down. Oh, and she's a good hypocrite, too. Sorry if that's kinda mean but it's the truth. She's trying to sound pathetic just so you would just leave the guy to her. Well actually she's really pathetic.
It's already up to you if you still wanna put up with a "friend" who constantly pulls you down or not.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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I`m going to start out by saying this will be long, but thanks so much to anyone who reads this all and helps me out.
I have this best friend, Casey. Words cannot descibe how much of a bff she is to me. She knows everything about me, and always knows what I`m about to say. Were with each other 24/7 and we hardly fight. She`s practicly my sister, we do everything together.
A week ago, she got this new boyfriend, this guy that I didn't like before she started dating him. His name is Nick, he`s 12, shes 13. Casey is a virgin, he isn`t. They`ve already done sexual stuff together and its their first stupid week together.
Last night I was hanging out with both of them and Nick lit up a ciggarrette, and exchanged some pot with another older guy. He offered us both some, Casey would have taken some, but didn't when she saw how mad I got. We were way back on the golf cart paths somewhere, and it was raining, I didn`t want to be in the situation so I started crying and ran away. I was lost along the paths cause I had no clue where I was. Casey didn`t follow me, even though she promised me earlier if I wanted to leave she would come with me. Nick chased after me, blew smoke all over me, and burned me with his ciggarette to make fun of me. I ended up calling Jordan, my other best guy friend, he and his mom drove 45 minutes back into the woods to pick me up only to find I was stained with the smell of ciggarrets, and crying all alone, cause I knew my best friend was slipping away. I don`t know what to do, she used to be a good girl, she never would have done any of this. Now she won`t listen to me, at all, she said she`ll never accept any of the drugs, but I know she will, she almost took them last night and she told me "they were no big deal" She got mad at me when I left cause I was being "immature and embarrassing her" When my dad picked me up, after Jordan dropped me off at her house, he smelt me and now he thinks I`m a smoker, and won`t belive that it wasn`t me. What should I do? PLEASE PLEASE guys, I`m really upset, I`m losing her, please. (link)
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First of all, your friend is the one who's acting immature.... NOT you....
I really want to say that you should probably just cut your friendship with her, But NOW is NOT the time to do so....
Why?you might ask.....
It's because at times like this that you should be there for your friend.
When your friends take the wrong direction, you should always be there to guide them back to the Right track.
It seems to me like your friend's boyfriend is a bad influence. Oh, and not only a bad influence, he's such a jerk, too.
Talk to your friend about this stuff because she needs ENLIGHTENMENT so bad......
You wouldn't want your friend to take the wrong direction, right?!
But if she starts acting like a jerk, too, then maybe it's time to THINK things over.
As for your dad, you can tell him that some stupid jerk blew smoke all over you and that you would never smoke in your entire life.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Okay, I would like everyone to be totaly honest you wont hurt my feelings.
Do you think that it is like pathetic/stupid/weird ect. that I have never had a boyfriend before? Oh and im 15.
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My answer is NO.
Because I know people who have gotten past the age of TWENTY (20) and were never in a relationship before.
One example is my own MOM. not that she's not pretty, but she told ma that she just can't find the guy who's perfect for her during her teenage years. So she just waited, and then my dad came along, and then....that's another story....!lol!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Heres the sitch...im a 16yr male senior at my high school, and ive been BEST friends with this girl since sophmore year...problem is, ive fallen for her...hard. i cant get her out of my head, i get jealous of any other guys she talks to or who like her, and im really protective of her...but she doest like me when i like her, she said she had a crush on me back when i had a gf soph year, but now she doesnt like ANYONE. what should i do? ive liked her for two years, but she says it would be wierd to date bcuz weve been friends for so long... (link)
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I know this is a bit short, but sensible, anyway:
IT'S EITHER YOU GAIN A GIRLFRIEND, OR YOU LOSE A FRIEND.
Don't ask me why because I'm telling you, That's. just. the. way. it. is.
So you better be wise in making your decisions.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..
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I would have to agree with the others--there really is no such thing as the "right" age in having sex.
Let me tell you a short story...
(This is TOTALLY true)
I have a cousin who engaged in sexual activities at the age of fifteen. One day, her mom called my mom, crying. Mom asked her "Why?" and she told her, "Afie's pregnant....". Of course, I was sooo shocked when she told this to me. Fast forward to the present: She and her husband are separated, she has a new guy who became the "instant" father of her child. I asked her one time what's the graetest lesson she has learned from her past experiences. She told me, "If you're not ready to have a kid, you're not ready for sex."
Why am I telling you this story, you might ask. I'm telling you this because I believe that she is sooo Right when she told me that if you're not ready to have kids, you're not ready for sex.
I think what she really meant with that statement is that, if you're not ready to take full responsiblity for all your actions, then don't do "it".
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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ok so i asked a question a long time ago about my boyfriends best friend kinda took advantage of me well to day i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and he said that we needed to talk so i called him and he said i've been acting kinda shy and he said whats wrong?
and then it was quiet and he said again Your mostly shy when my buddy comes around Did he do something to you? Luckly my mom called and i had to go so i told him i'd talk to him about it later. What should i tell him or What should i do Please help me ASAP!
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You should probably talk to him about this stuff.
Remember that Honesty is VERY essential in a relationship. Be as honest as you can to each other.
You're lucky if your guy stood up For you and didn't rush into conclusions because this only means one thing: he Loves you no matter what.
But you know, I guess he'll understand AND he SHOULD understand the situation so if I were you I'd EXPLAIN everything really well.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Whenever I drink soda, (I only drink diet), when I swallow it after the first few sips, it burns my stomach really bad. What's wrong?? (link)
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You're probably acidic. I suffer from the same thing, too, so I suggest you stop drinking carbonated drinks because it really "burns" your stomach.
But one question, though: are you on a diet? As in the "Operation Starvation" type? Because I noticed you said you only drink diet soda and I thought that you might be the type who doesn't eat. If this is the case, then you are soooo Wrong in drinking soda with an empty stomach because as we all know, soda is an acid and if it doesn't have anything to "burn" in your stomach, naturally, you will suffer from burning sensations there!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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I've been dating my bf for almost 2 years. We get in fights easily. He has this thing where he is very immature and when people get mad, he still does it, acting like a 6 year old. I get tired of him quickly, but I know part of it is because I've been dating him for so long. I don't know what to do, because I love him to death. I don't know if I should keep dating him, and keep arguing.. or try someone else. What seems right here? (link)
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Just a question: have you talked to him about this stuff already? Because if you haven't, I advice you talk to him first before REALLY taking some action.
But if you've already talked to him about this, and he still acts like a child, read on....
If you're no longer happy, then I think it's time for you to gather your thoughts and think really hard if you still want to be with him or not. Remember that if you're in a relationship, you're supposed to feel HAPPY, not Bothered or something like that....
Also, if you already Can't stand his immaturity and if you think that you deserve better(well, we all deserve the Best,don't we?), THINK.
But it's all up to you if you still want to keep your relationship w/ this guy and stand his childishness OR break up with him and find someone who REALLY deserves your love.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is? (link)
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Dearie, let me tell you one thing: If you think the guy you love is cheating on you, he IS.
If you're wondering why I said that, it's because you wouldn't even suspect that he's cheating if there's NOTHING suspicious. Also, more often than not, our so-called "woman's instinct" is correct.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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hey guys well imma a well spoken person and well i hav a huge crush on this one guy ~n~ like well when i am around him i get really shy and i have butterflys in my stomache and when i am about to say something i have nothin to say....how do i stop bein shy around him?? and how can i make those butterflys stop holdin me back??
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Confidence is the key.
It's pretty normal to get butterflies in the stomach whenever the object of our attention is around.
But a little--no, make that just 'plain' Confidence can go a long, long way.
Try to act casual around him as if you have 'nothing special' for him. Try doing this for several days to 'condition' yourself. And when you have already mustered the courage AND the Confidence, start a little conversation with him.
Then make it longer on the next...
and the next....
and the next....
;)
Who knows? He might just have a 'thing' for you, too....;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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what's the freshman year is like? because im going
to high school next year and im scared and yeah (link)
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Gosh....you gotta love high school. I had the best--and not to mention the worst--days of my life over the past three years(i'm a senior right now(i live in a tropical country that's why school already started here)).
I was really nervous during the first day of my high school life because I was sooo afraid of change Back Then. But once I have dealed with every change that was in font of me, I started to embrace--no, make that LOVE-- change!
I would say that high school may seem like a jungle at times, but you would really enjoy it once you have fully adapted to the environment.
In high school, you will meet the BEST people that will be your Real friends forever, but be ready to meet the WORST,too.
Remember to keep an open mind and have fun making new friends!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?
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Remember this: It's true that guys get attracted to a girl's looks at first, but it's their personality that keeps them hooked.
There are a Lot of girls who are pretty don't really have the personality to go with it and there are only few who have really, really great personality. Be one of the few.
You said that you're not the prettiest one around but you have a great personality.... I guess that's enough for you to attract boys. Just wait for the 'right one' to come along.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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iight I'm a guy and I have this bestfriend which is a girl. And in this friendship is like no other friendship. She gets jealous when I talk to girls and vice versa. We have arguments everyday like we're a real couple. I'm confused, are there hidden feelings or what is going on? (link)
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From my point of view, i think there are hidden feelings somwhere.....
You know, love is territorial. And with the way she's behaving, she definitely has feelings for you.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Mike was one of my best guy friends. Our relationship together was going really good,and nothing was akward. I know that he used to have the hotts for me but i never felt the same way. Well as time went on i started to like the guy, and made the mistake of telling him. When he found out everything between us became akward. Now he has a girl friend and we havent talked in about two months!! Ok im going crazy! What the heck did i do wrong! or what can i do to make things normal between us again? (link)
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I've been witness to that kinda thing a lot of times already-- my friends telling my Other friends that they fell in love with him/her. And you know what I learned?
There are only two things that can happen-- it's either you gain a Boyfriend, or you lose a Friend.
It seldom happens that things will be back to 'normal' after that, really.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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LAtely me and my Prenets having been having some pretty big fight i just cant take any more they want me to change maybe i shoulld please help me? (link)
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You know, I can't really just dish out advice if I don't have a clear picture of the scenario. Please try to be more specific about your problem regarding your relationship with your parents.
Tell me what the problem REALLY IS and I'll do my best to help you out.
Just a reminder, though: If you know that the reason why your parents want you to change is for your own good, maybe you should give it a lil'--no, make that a lot of thought.
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13/m
Ok so, I have this problem were I might fall in love with someone very easy, and when this happens I get rejected/ heartbroken like 99% of the time. Can anyone pleas help? (link)
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That's part of the game of love.
At times, you really get hurt.
I was just wondering, what's the rush in getting into a relationship at that age?
If I were you I will just enjoy my single life for the moment.
Also, I think the reason why you "fall in love with someone very easy" is because you're not that mature yet.
Have you ever thought if what you felt for the girls you said you fell in love with was REALLY Love? Because sometimes we become victims of a "case-of-infatuation-mistaken-for-love" thingie and we end up feeling really down when we Shouldn't really!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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So i was dating this guy and we were getting pretty serious and I was completley head over heels in love with him, and he claimed he was too. EVerything was perfect. Than out of no where tonight he dumps me because he wants to date around and doesn't want to be in a relationship. What do i do?? Is he lying? i Need advice ahhhh (link)
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He's a PLAYER, dearie.
If I were you, i'd move on and just find another 'prospect'. There's definitely a lot of other guys other, and who knows? Maybe one of them is just the one you're looking for! ;)
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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So..there's this gurl & i guess we're " best friends" well like 1 min. she'll be fine w/ you and then the next she goes crazy and talks behind ur back and says all this crap about you that's not true!
I don't know what to do because i thought we were friends...?
Confused. (link)
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The way I look at it, she is NOT a REAL friend. I don't know why you even call her a FRIEND.
Real friends Never, as in NEVER, mess up with their friends' lives, especially behind their back.
Gather your thoughts and think if you want to continue your so-called 'friendship' with this so-called "FRIEND" of yours.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Im goig to a new school next year with my best friend, she is great and ive known her forever, but im a fraid that if i hang out w/ her alot that, i wont make alot of new friends. plz help!!! (link)
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Why are you afraid that you won't make other friends if you hang out with your bestfriend a lot? Is she sort of a "hindrance"? Is she possesive? Isn't she happy when you hang out with other people? If not, what are you Really afraid of?!?!
You said that she's been your bestfriend for like, Forever. And it seems to me like you are gonna Ditch your BESTFRIEND just so you can make Other friends.
Can't you befriend other people with her around?
Let me tell you a bit of my own story: I have a really wide circle of friends and I even have TWO bestfriends.Take note: my two b f's aren't that close to each other. It's just that the other one came in first than the other.
I don't know why you're scared that you wouldn't be able to make other friends with your bestfriend around cuz hey, I didn't have any problem befriending other people considering that I have two b f's.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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