jbdreamer's advice column

Okay so i've got a BIGGG habit of biting my nails! what can i do to stop? and don't tell me to put my hand in dog poo or anything like that because thats gross lol!

thankyou sweeties xo

Get a manicure and paint your nails. If they are pretty and covered in polish, you'll stop yourself before bitting into them.

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I'm a guy and 16 years old. I was just wondering if going anywhere or doing anything is ok for a first date (my first ever). It'll be this friday. I was thinking about a movie and then some dinner. Would that be ok? I'm pretty comfortable around her, but I'm not too sure if this would be better for later dates as opposed to the first one. Any other ideas or suggestions, things to remember? Are there any guidelines or rules that I should follow as the guy? It is true - guys are much more nervous than girls when it comes to this. Thanks in advance; will rate

Actually, for a first date I think a movie is a bad idea. You should do something interactive so you can get to know eachother. Not sit silently in a dark room.

Take her bowling, minigolfing, to the science museum, rollerskating. Anything that will make you laugh and can easily strike up conversation.

Don't worry, she'll be just as nervous as you are.

The biggest rule to follow - be yourself - if you can do this easily, you know the date is going well.

And have fun!

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Hi, I'm Erika, and this is the first question I'm asking on Advicenators. For my HS, we're doing an AD Sweep downtown. My teacher says we need to dress nice, sophisticated, and casual... and I'm not a very businessy type of person, so is there anything I could wear that would be, you know, "sophisticated"??? Also, we can't wear pants.

I am confused why you can't wear pants - espesially if the look you are trying to pull of is casual sophisticted. A pair of nice black slacks can look just a good as a skirt, and is much more practical. Even in the bussiness world, I rarely wear a skirt. Are you sure they just don't mean jeans or casual pants?

Wear a dark colored skirt, (or slacks if you can) and a nice blouse or sweater.

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There is a boy in my school and e sends me notes and buys me gifts and I am to shy to talk to him.

Why are you shy? You are not going to be rejected because he obviously likes you, he wants you to come talk to him. There is nothing to be scared of. Just talk to him like you would to one of your friends. I think you'll be suprized at how easy it is.

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well i am, in my oppinion, over weight, i want to know if there is a way to lose 5-10 pounds in a short amount of time, like a months (the maximmum)
are there any websites, or plans that anyone knows about?
thnx a bunch!

The lose weight quick plans always backfire. You usually have to starve yourself, and you'll loose the weight(water weight), and then when you go back to normal eating you gain it all back, plus some.

It too me 3 months to loose 15 pounds by counting calories (I ate 1500 a day). Pay attention to what you eat. A can of pop alone is 250 calories - what a waste.

If on a good diet, you should loose about 1-2 pounds a week.

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what can you do to reduce gas without medication?

Take Beano before a meal that might give you gas. It's all natural like a vitamin.

And stay away from 'gassy' foods. Onions, garlic, beans, corn, eggs and fried foods are examples.

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I have a coupon to Baker's shoe store for $20 off a purchase of $50 or more. If i buy $55 worth of stuff from that store .. do I get the $20 right then? Making the bill $35?

Yes, that would be correct.

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can you give me a list of sign that a leopard gecko is sick?

I honestly have no idea. I know nothing about geckos. Try asking on the main page.

http://advicenators.com/question.php

You will probalby find a more accurate answer by searching the web. Google search "sick leopard gecko".

Ever better, call the vet.

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After 3 years of dating my true love, she decided we needed some time apart to get our priorities straight. its going on 3 weeks, and not a day goes by without her calling me, we hang out from time to time, however, there is ovbiously no intimacy. I love her so much and I know she loves me cause she has told me. My question is, with valentines day comming up, iam not sure if i should get her the flowers and a present...I dont wanna look like im trying to push her into getting back with me, and at the same time i dont wanna look like i dont care about her if i dont give her anything...what should i do?

If you like this girl and want to be with her, then absolutly send her flowers. I don't think it's too pushy. She is the one calling you everyday.

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I just got a membership to a gym and will be starting on Tuesday. I've never tried to lose weight by going to the gym but I am trying to lose at least 30 pounds before June. Any ideas on how to approach this?? Any ideas on how to work out at the gym since I'm new to this whole thing?

Most gyms have trainers and nutritionists on staff. Ask for informaiton at your gym. This service is often part of your membership or you get a free consaltation.

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I am 14 and my mom won't let me wear thongs. My sister is 16 and still is not allowed to wear them. Alot of my firends wear them and some don't. Sure part of the reason I want them is because alot of people wear them but that not the whole reason. I don't want panty lines when I wear sweats of whatever. My mom has always been overprotected, she didn't let me or my sister wear a bikni until last summer. Last weekend I tried on a really cute bathing suit and all she did was say how it was to low and I need to wear something more modest or I will be sending the wronge message. She thinks if I wear a low bikni someone will come and rape me, to make a long story short she is inpossible to shop with. Anyway If I could get a thong it would make me feel that I beat my mom and won. Don't get me wrong I love my mom we don't have a bad relaship at all. It just she very religous and hard to talk to. Oh and even if I did buy a thong behind her back. I've never done my own laundry in my life so she defintly know something was up. Sorry that it was so long, guess I got carried away.

I am sure your mother sees thongs as "sexy" underwear, and you are not old enough to be sexy. And if your sister is not allowed, I don't think there is anyway you are going to convince your mother anythime soon.

And in all honesty, thongs are very uncomfortable. You really are not missing out.

I often wear seamless underwear if I am worried about having a panty line. It's made out of a nylon, and is very thin. It looks just like normal underwear and is actually very comforatble. I got mine at Victoria Secret. Those could be an option.

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I recently found a 2 books in my library.
I probably have them from my grandparents, but i didn`t know about them.
A friend (the same one that directed me to this site) told me they might be valuable.
The books are:
1. "Pe culmile disperarii" (On the Heights of Despair), Bucharest, "Fundatia regala pt. Literatura si arta" publishers, 1934.
2. "Cartea amagirilor" (The book of deceptions), "Cugetarea" publishers,
Bucharest, 1936
Both books are in romanian and are the first editions of the philosopher`s first books.
I`m really curious how much they`re worth.
Can you help me out?

I would bring them to a book collector/antique store to be evaluated. Check your local phone book.

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I'm 15. And pretty dumb..Not at the point where i'm retarded, but at the point where i have to go to summer school. I really want to get my permit over summer & go to this driving school, but I have summer school(I already found out I need to take it..). And everything is going to be hectic. Plus I'm about to get a job(i know right, a job at 15...but I got the hook ups =]). And I might keep that job over summer too. And i can't take the driving lessons when i'm still in the school year, because things are very busy with homework and stuff. I seriously don't know what to do. So this is what I was thinking. I asked my counsler at my school about summer school & asked if I can do independent study for the classes that I failed, but she said she WOULDN'T RECOMMEND it because kids do really bad. So this is what I was thinking:

Take independent study over summer & do my driving school and then go to my job. I know that my counsler said she wouldn't recommend it, but it's not like i'm those other students.

If you guys can help me out a bit on what I should do, and how I should do it, that'll mean alot.

Also, what do you do for independent study over summer? I've heard of the word & knew you do things on your own, but what exactly is it? What goes on & stuff?

Thanks a bunch.

You sound like you are full of excuses. If you really wanted to make it happen, you could fit it into your schedule. Driving school is only a few hours a week isn't it?

And even if you had to wait until the next school year, why can't you do it then? All the other students manage to. Why is your life so different? I managed to fit in Drivers Ed while in school, working, volleyball, and youth group.

As for independent study - I don't recommend it. I did correspondence classes, and they were some of the hardest and most time consuming classes I had. They give you twice as much work to do then any normal class because you are teaching yourself.

My history correspondence class for example: I had to read every chapter and answer every question in the book. (You know the 30 questions at the end of every chapter.) I also had work sheets on top of that. As well as 3 papers and a 2 tests. It was awful!

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16 female
My guy friend wants to have sex with me and vice versa but the only thing thats stopping us(well me)is that im a little overweight and i have stretchmarks. they're really embarasing and i dont want him to see them
is their anyway to get rid of them almost completely? will he be turned off and disgusted at the sight of seeing them? and also will it hurt reallly bad my first time?(im virgin hes not)
Pleeeze help i rate 5s! thanx

If you don't feel comfortalbe enough to have this boy see you naked, then you are certainly not ready for sex. If you can't trust him or worry that he is going to judge you, then why do you want to sleep with him?

Please wait until you are comfortable with yourself and the man before sleeping with him - especially if it's your first time. Otherwise you will regret it.

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ok. i know this is like the third ocd post, but i have been mening to post this. what is ocd exactly? because i think i might have it.
-sometimes i make myself breathe a certain way, to like make a pettern
-i have to tap sonthing or touch it to make a noise pattern.

its mostly things like with patterns and stuff. and i cant stop it. Once, It all stopped for like 6 months, and i dont know if it was a oincedence, but in that period of time, i had stopped reading. then when i started to read books again it started up again. thanks for your time.
~Ank

If this is something that is affecting you life, then talk to your doctor about it. You can't get diagnoised here.

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So I got kicked out of my school and Im not aloud to go back there.. My mom doesnt want me to go in another town because it costs money So basicly Im not aloud to go to school anymore. I really want to be back in a school just not my old one. I want a fresh start. What should I do?

You sound under age, and if so by law you have to go to school. Your mother can't deny you an education. She either has to home school you now, or send you to another school. It's not a choice.

You must have done something pretty bad to be kicked out of school. Shape up - you aren't going to get anywhere in life without an education.

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i have stretch marks EVERYWHERE! any things to get rid of them. tell me if the things you are suggesting actually work and tell me where to get them! thanks you muchos gracias

I don't what these people are saying you can't get rid of stretch marks. I did.

I had bad purple stretch marks on my thighs after I suddenly gained weight from taking a medication. I used a vitamin E skin firming lotion twice a day for a few months. My stretch marks are gone. I got it at Target.

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well.... a few weeks ago i was scared and frightened that i got a STD cuz i had some itching and buring in my vagina .....later my boyfriend told me that his mom was a nurse and somtimes it itches cuz of fricktion and not enough lubrication... it only burns at night ...sometimes in the afternoon and right when i wake up.... ....can this be c caused by not enough lubrication or was he lying?....if it is caused by not enough lubrication how do i help to ease the pain alittle?

My guess is that you have a yeast infection. You should go see a gynocologist - especially since you are sexually active - to be treated properly.

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i think you wrong i mean thanks for you comment., but i know who i can trust and who not and also know the whole backaround you dont. That he cheated on her well sorry was not right but she did stuff what she really pushed him into. Leave his family earlier. Dude you act like he got ride of a old car. IT was his damn family not a old car.
good luck to you too

So now it is his wife's fault that he cheated?

Blaming someone else just makes it worse. Are you trying to justify the action? It was not her fault, it was HIS choice.

Have you even actualy met this women? How can you pass judgemnt on her. All you know about her is what your "boyfriend" told you.

If you were married would you rather have your husband be a cheater and stay for the sake of the family, or would you want him to go?

You are right, I don't know the whole backround. I can only give you an answer with what you told me.

Truely, I don't beleive that you can trust this man. He pushed you away - you have no idea what he is thinking. You even said last time you saw each other he seemed like a differnt person. Maybe you don't know him as well as you thought.

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I have a horrible sleep pattern. It never used to bother me much, but now the realization of how much it can hurt my body has kicked in. I really want to change it, but it's really hard for me.

12:00AM/1:00AM - 5:30 AM
SLEEP

6:25AM - 2:17 PM
SCHOOL

4:00PM - 8:00 PM
SLEEP

Then the whole cycle restarts. I really want to change, but changing a pattern completely out of nowhere is very hard to do. Any advice? I would like to start sleeping around 10:30 or 11:00, but since my body is so used to how I sleep now, those times are too early for me. Plus, I also have a lot of homework and fitness I need to fit in too. Help, please??

The first thing I would do is get rid of that evening nap. That is what is toatally screwing you up. Taking a nap every day is probalby causing you to be more sleepy threw the day. You'll do MUCH better with a soild 7-8 hours of sleep rather than breaking it into 2 shifts.

I am at my most active bettween 4-8. If I took a 4 hour nap every day I would always be tired.

And just think, if you got rid of that nap - look at all the time you'd have to do stuff.

Get rid of the nap. You don't need it.

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