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My mom won't let me wear thongs.
I am 14 and my mom won't let me wear thongs. My sister is 16 and still is not allowed to wear them. Alot of my firends wear them and some don't. Sure part of the reason I want them is because alot of people wear them but that not the whole reason. I don't want panty lines when I wear sweats of whatever. My mom has always been overprotected, she didn't let me or my sister wear a bikni until last summer. Last weekend I tried on a really cute bathing suit and all she did was say how it was to low and I need to wear something more modest or I will be sending the wronge message. She thinks if I wear a low bikni someone will come and rape me, to make a long story short she is inpossible to shop with. Anyway If I could get a thong it would make me feel that I beat my mom and won. Don't get me wrong I love my mom we don't have a bad relaship at all. It just she very religous and hard to talk to. Oh and even if I did buy a thong behind her back. I've never done my own laundry in my life so she defintly know something was up. Sorry that it was so long, guess I got carried away.
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One thing to tell you is wearing a thong is not all that. I don't think you should worry about it at all. but if you rly want to buy ome then wash it under soapy water and just be careful.
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accually you can buy a thong behind her back and you washe it under hot soapy water. unless she sees she will never know. good luck.
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my mom finally let me where them when i started highschool. and i begged for years. well i wasnt suposed to wear them till highschool but she let me before it started because i got these raelly cute white capris and they were totally see through and you could even see the thong but it was better than "granny panties". find a occasion where you HAVE to wear them so she will see that you are okay with them. like get a dress for church or sometihing where you need to wear one.. and buy the way most are hand wash only so you dont have to be able to do laundry. convince her that times have changed any thats what people where and its okay
and tell her its a fact that being raped has nothing to do with what you wear or act.. its about control not sex. maybe have your friends that wear thongs talk her into it. if she sees all your friends wear them maybe she will feel better about it
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You're 14 I'm 13 and you know maybe I'm allowed to wear a bikini but I would not go as far as a thong..maybe I guess you know it's just a rebellious age cause I know what it feels like. My grandma, who I live with and she buys everything for me, would never allow me to wear one of those and she'll really protective just like your mom! I've learnt to live with it..although sometimes I do things behind her back I realised it's so much easy just to let her have her way and wait until you're 16 or 18 to do what YOU want! And just cause your friends are doing things doesn't mean you have to be like that...or act grow up just to fit in..be yourself until you can do your own things!
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In a few years, you are going to be out on your own and able to buy whatever clothing you choose. Until then, you're going to have to
a)Abide by her rules; don't get a thong.
b)Screw her rules and do it anyway.
Then there's always option c)try to discuss it with her, but there's no guarantee on that.
Anyway, maybe you should try focusing on something other than underwear, trends and being sexy. Go to McDonald's or something.
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If your getting one because your friends have one shouldn't be your reason to wear one. Ask your mom why she won't let you wear one. Maybe she thinks that your not old enough to wear one. Your still 16. Talk to your mom about it if she tells you she'll think about it then wait and don't ask again because she will. then wait about a wekk and adk again and she'll probably let you get one.
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I think that you need to have an adult talk about it with your mom. She doesn't understand the times. When she was growing up, sure, those may have been the standards, but things have changed. Would she have worn the clothes that her parents wore? Probably not. In all likelihood, they tried to get her to, just like she's trying to get you to. In other words, she could be quite the hyporcrite. Wearing a low bikini or a thong may have given the wrong message 20 years ago, but today, it's a bit different. If you wear "granny panties" or a once piece bathing suit you are considered prude, not modest. Modesty is an attitude, not a wardrobe. Being raped is something terrible that happens more from the situation rather than what you are wearing. Again, try having an adult conversation with your mom instead of begging and whining. Have your sister help you. If both of you approached her in a mature way, she may consider your wishes. If she still won't budge, maybe you should invite her to visit your school one day. To walk around and see what kids are wearing today. Even the littlest ones. Ask her if she thinks that all of those kids are giving the wrong message or are going to be raped. Tell her that you want to have your own style and be who you want to be, not to have all aspects of your life controlled by her. If she's controlling such things as what you can wear to an unreasonable level, can she really trust herself not to try to control you in other ways too? Is she going to pick your college? Where you live? Your job? Your spouse? If she wants you to be so "safe" as to pick out your clothes for you she might as well make some of these more important decisions in your life. Eventually, she's going to have to let you go and make your own "mistakes" to learn from them. Does she really believe that forcing you to wear a certain type of clothing is going to stop you from doing it in the future? No, it's going to make you want it more. Parents are not supposed to control their teens as much as let them go and just hope that the morals that they've instilled into them throughout their childhoold can help them become good people. Bring up some of these things to your mom. They should help a little. If nothing works at all for awhile, maybe you should try talking to your grandmother about it. Grandmas can be really cool about this type of thing. She may be able to help you. Well, I hope that I helped you and I wish you luck.
PS Thongs aren't all they're cracked up to be. They're quite uncomfortable and not as many people wear them as you would think. Also, they leave even worse panty lines sometimes. Be open to the fact that if you end up trying them out you might not like them, so only get one or two to start so that you don't waste a lot of money. Those little buggers can get pretty expensive!
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I am sure your mother sees thongs as "sexy" underwear, and you are not old enough to be sexy. And if your sister is not allowed, I don't think there is anyway you are going to convince your mother anythime soon.
And in all honesty, thongs are very uncomfortable. You really are not missing out.
I often wear seamless underwear if I am worried about having a panty line. It's made out of a nylon, and is very thin. It looks just like normal underwear and is actually very comforatble. I got mine at Victoria Secret. Those could be an option.
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