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hi my name is Becky. i am 14 years old. I have gone through some rough times myself and I hope I can help anyone that might need it. If you're looking for a straight up answer or just someone to listen to you, i'll be here. :)

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killing animals, then skinning them for furs/coats/jackets etc. is wrong. is it still considered wrong if you keep the animal until it grows old and dies and then you skin the animal to make a new jacket/coat/etc. ? i'm really curious.

i think that skinning animals for their fur when they die is not wrong and you know they had a long life and their fur will be around for a long time almost like they are still alive. ( i know thats kinda cheesy but its kinda true). hope i helped ♥

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This is going to sound crazy, but I get so grossed out when I'm on my period. I can't take looking at all the blood. It makes me gag and stuff. What should I do?

i kno its pretty gross but its part of life and you have to live with it. but one way to decrease the sight of blood is to wear a tampon. the tampon will not leak to much and you wont have to see the blood when you take it out and also you should remember to take it out every 6-8 hrs and dont wear them to bed Hope i helped ♥

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what's cleavage?

cleavage is the size of your breasts hope i helped ♥

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i want my hair shiny and nice like on the comercails any tips?

you could use VO5 silk shampoo and conditioner and it will get shiney. hope i helped ♥

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okay so hers my story me and my sister are going swimming and i have my peroid and i was wonderin is'nt water supposed to stop the menastraul flow????

water doesnt stop the menstral flow completly so i would suggest you wear a tampon when you go. hope i helped ♥

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What is novacaine?

if the dentist has to do something to your teeth that will hurt they inject novicane into your gums and it makes that part of your mounth numb. hope i helped ♥

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My best friend is really pretty and always gets guys. Yesterday me & here were hanging out with 3 guys and one of them liked her and had his arm around her and the other one was pretty much all over her and sent her a message on myspace that night that said, "Youre really pretty. We should hang out soon - you me and dave." And he totally didnt include me. I asked her if I seemed weird/annoying because I usually act ditzy around guys and she said that I did great and that I was not ditzy at ALL. If I was so good, why arent these guys giving me the time of day?? I know Im a really jealous person and Ive already talked to my mom and best friend about how I feel about the situation. What do I do :( Ive never had a boyfriend and its starting to bother me because every guy likes my best friend..

its totally not your fault. the guys are the problem. they are just too caught up in your friend to notice you but pretty soon they will love you too. dont feel bad. just be yourself and get the guys attention. i know this will work. hope i helped ♥

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Okay, so at night when I'm trying to sleep, my left thigh just will not relax no mattter what position I'm in. It's not really tight, but it's just distracting, and It keeps me from going to sleep as fast as normal. This has been happening the past few months. Any ideas about what it is and how to make it relax?

this could be RLS or Restless Leg Syndrome you should see a doctor and maybe get a perscription medication. hope i helped ♥

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can you give me a few ways to start conversation?

-starting it

how can you talk to someone thats walking?
[i see people i would like to talk to but they're walking =\]

you could start walking next to them and say "hi my name is ________. whats yours? well nice to meet you _________." and then see how that goes. hope i helped ♥

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I got my first period yesterday and when i look in my underwear they were all ruined because of the blood. So I was wondering what am I supposed to do every month on the day when the period starts and I look in my underwear and they are alll ruined or they leaked to my pants to make sure I can be ready for it without wearing a pad 24/7?

ok well you could wear a pantieliner a couple days before you think you might get your period and see how that works. to get out the blood soak your underwear in cold water and soap. hope i helped ♥

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hey i know this is a really weird question but i just got over a small yeast infection and i have these little red bumps on my vagina and its still kind of red down there...idk what to do is it part of the infection or what?!! help! i try to wash really well down there!!!

it could still be the infection or the kind of soap you use could be irritating it. try not to use fregranced soap in that area and be gentle when you wash it. hope i helped ♥

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Okay so here is the deal. My dad is a very strick parent, especially when it comes to me and boys. 15/f Many of the boys in my grade are scared to call and come over my house for that reason. Also, a lot of boys have said to me that they would go out with me if my dad was not as tough. It bothers me that my dad is interfearing with my sexual and social life with boys. Not to be cocky but i am a beautiful thin girl who many guys would love to be in a relationship with. I dont know if there is anything i can do to help the situation. My dad will not give in. Do you guys have any helpful words for me? oh and its not like on the level of sex or anything. just holding hands is not in the question. I really need help and have been dealing with this problem for the past 3 years of my life. I just need some comforting words

XOXOXOXOX Alicia

just keep talkin to your dad about it and just tell him you are resposible and wont go that far into the relationship like sex until your seriously ready hopefully he will come around. hope i helped =] &hearts

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ok last night i woke up at about 3:30 because i heard a creaky noise and i flung up and went OMGSH!! i went to say you scared me to who i thought was my moms girlfriend and my dog but the person just turned around and looked at me like i was insane i stared at them as the faded into my door without opening it am i insane.. do i have some special power? this happened when i was like three.. i was in the bathroom potty training [ bear with me here ] && the door was open and all of the sudden a clown came out of the wall [ im not afraid of them ] and i screamed he looked at me and walked out the door and my uncle came running and looked at him or so i thought.. but i dont think he saw him .. whats wrong with me? am i just seeing this stuff and its not there do i have some power i dont know about im only 13 so it could get stronger

i think you could be able to see ghost and theres nothing wrong with that and your not a freack. hope i helped &hearts

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I have a cramp in my upper thigh and it has been there for awhile (since last night.) how do i make it go away?

well you could lay down and put a heating pad on the area and it will be soothed and after a while it will go away. hope i helped =] &&hearts

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I always striaghten my hair because it sticks up everywhere! When I went to get a hair cut the hair cut lady said I was killing my hair by doing this so much! What should I do? My hairs superrr FRIZZZAYYY

you should use a straightening shampoo maybe by the brand Sunsilk it works great. hope i helped =] &&hearts

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Im going swimming tomorrow and I just got my period! I really want to go because I made plans with guys & stuff..but Ive tried putting a tampon in and it hurts me really bad. Any advice on how to make it hurt less or how to put it in right?? ANY advice is appreciated.

relax all ur muscles and make sure you have the right size like regular or slim and using a plastic aplicator works. hope i helped =] &&hearts

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how can you tell if you have a good metabolism?

if you eat nad eat all the time and dont gain weight then you have a high matbalism which is good but if you go gain weight then you have a low matabalism which isnt that good. hope i helped =] &&hearts

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sorry about the length..
ok well i just got out of a relationship about a week ago and it was over the stupidest reason. at night he would come over around 1 and 2 in the morning and he did it alot for the entire time we we're dating bc most of the time we we're dating he was grounded and that was the only way he could get out. but then one night he told me he was going to come over and i told him that was fine but i didn't want to really "do" anything that night and he got REALLY affended but EVERY time he came over he would always want to do stuff so i just gave him a heads up beforehand so he didn't get mad when i turned him down or whatever when he came over. anyways he got PISSED and decided to not talk to me so we broke up. but during that week i kind of found another guy that i kind of might like a little bit but nothing serious. and then today i got an instant message from my ex apologizing for being a dick and now he wants to talk before school starts up again. i don't know what to do! hpoefully someone can help?
oh btw i'm a softmore in hs if that helps any..

i dont think you should talk to him b/c if he really loved you in the first place he wouldnt of gotten all pissed off at you so go wit that other guy. hope i helped =] &&hearts

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well okay. i havent been on my period for about 3 months now, and im not quite sure why. I do get stressed all the time about getting caught whenever i go out with my girls, i stress if like my parents will find out, call and check up on me.. plus i've been really stressing about being pregnant, yet my bf attempted to put his manhood inside me, yet it didnt go far at all cause i've never actually had sex..but yet i still keep thinking that i might be. Well i dunno what to do. Could i be pregnant?

plus im always irregular.. i've never in my life had it on schedule. i've had this kinda thing happen before, yet i hadn't ever done stuff with a guy or anything.. and it was for two months..

i just dont know what to do.. any advice on whats wrong?

how long can stress delay your period?

16/f

i dont think it can be stress that delays your period. some women go off amd on and get theirs emaybe every other month and sometimes skipe some months so i dont think its anything to worry about since youve nover had sex. hope i helped=]

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can you get pregnant if you have sex on your period when you dont use a condom? what are some of the consequenses? Also how long does a sperm stay alive when it is out of the penis?

i dont really agree wit the other answers because before you get your period you have a window of about 3 to 4 days that you can get pregnant because the lining in the uterus that protects the egg is fully developed & when you have your period that lining is going away and there would be nothing for the egg to lay in & be protected. and the sperm can stay alive from 5 to 7 days. some of the cansequences is that you can get an std such a herpes' & hiv. hope i helped =]

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