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My best friend is really pretty and always gets guys. Yesterday me & here were hanging out with 3 guys and one of them liked her and had his arm around her and the other one was pretty much all over her and sent her a message on myspace that night that said, "Youre really pretty. We should hang out soon - you me and dave." And he totally didnt include me. I asked her if I seemed weird/annoying because I usually act ditzy around guys and she said that I did great and that I was not ditzy at ALL. If I was so good, why arent these guys giving me the time of day?? I know Im a really jealous person and Ive already talked to my mom and best friend about how I feel about the situation. What do I do :( Ive never had a boyfriend and its starting to bother me because every guy likes my best friend..
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I know how you feel about this. Sometimes guys are all over my best friend when I'm there and I feel kinda left out. But, the most important thing to remember is don't doubt yourself. Don't let yourself feel bad about this. If these guys aren't paying attention to you or inviting you, then they're totally not worth it! They don't deserve your time of day if they're acting like that. I know it's hard if your jealous of your friend, try not to let this get to you. Just keep being yourself, be confident, and smile, because guys will be less likely to pay attention to you if you are doubting yourself and think your friend is better. You're just as good as your friend. Just keep talking to guys yourself and don't rely on her to talk to them for you. Just keep being optimistic because one day you'll have a boyfriend; just be patient. Good luck. =)
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its totally not your fault. the guys are the problem. they are just too caught up in your friend to notice you but pretty soon they will love you too. dont feel bad. just be yourself and get the guys attention. i know this will work. hope i helped ♥
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My best friend is a model - honest-to-God. She's a smart, funny, kind, sweet, statuesque classic beauty who has literally turned heads a million times. Me? I'm a cruel, vindictive, non-intelligent, corny, mean, short, fat dumpling of a girl who's always in a foul mood. Everywhere we go, I'm pretty much in the background. I've never even had a boy LOOK at me, even when she wasn't around. Yet, it doesn't faze me. I know that sounds like a line, but it's true - I just don't care and never did care, coz you know what? There must be something okay about me if I still have her a best friend. Guys come in all styles - some will be attracted to looks, some to brains, some to both, some to other things. There's no *one* thing that will do it for each and every guy - your problem is, you've only met guys who are attracted to your friend. Trust me, there will be guys who are attracted to your brand of personality. It's all right to be jealous, but what I really think you're feeling is insecurity. You're thinking that what you are isn't good enough - and that's just not true. Did you ever think that perhaps guys who are drawn to you wouldn't be drawn to your best friend? Vice versa then. You can be bothered, you can be jealous - and it's hard, but DON'T let it bother you. One day soon, a great guy will come along who only has eyes for you. He won't give a care about any other girl. Just think of it this way: a lot of people like chocolate ice cream, but not every single human being on earth, just a lot. There will be some people who like licorice and you're licorice. Give it time and in the meanwhile, be thankful you have such a caring friend. Such a great friendship is not something to take lightly. Cherish it; it's worth more than ANY guy.
No problem, glad to have been of help. :)
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It's not your fault and there isn't anything wrong with that. It's the guys. They like certain types of girls and they have types. You will find a boy friend but just don't rush into it. You should be flirty and just talk and have fun. Be yourself and if the guy doesn't like you for you, he's not worth it. Being jelous is also normal. Don't feel about yourself just because some guys aren't all over you like they are on your best friend. Like I said, it all depends on the guy. I'm assuming that you're still really young so you are defenetlly going to have plenty of time mingeling (sp) with guys. =)
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