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boys and my sexual life
Okay so here is the deal. My dad is a very strick parent, especially when it comes to me and boys. 15/f Many of the boys in my grade are scared to call and come over my house for that reason. Also, a lot of boys have said to me that they would go out with me if my dad was not as tough. It bothers me that my dad is interfearing with my sexual and social life with boys. Not to be cocky but i am a beautiful thin girl who many guys would love to be in a relationship with. I dont know if there is anything i can do to help the situation. My dad will not give in. Do you guys have any helpful words for me? oh and its not like on the level of sex or anything. just holding hands is not in the question. I really need help and have been dealing with this problem for the past 3 years of my life. I just need some comforting words
XOXOXOXOX Alicia
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Don't let your dad stop you from dating. you could be in love with a guy but not know it. Sometimes you
need to lie. Say you're meeting your friends at the mall. Or I had to stay at school today because I wanted to join some extra credit club. Or u have to do a school prodject. Plan it out. - gilmorecrazy
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Dads are always overprotective of their baby girls. And guys are always evil in their eyes. My boyfriend & I have been dating for a year, and he still gets nervous and scared around my stepdad. [he's pretty much like my real dad, so yea.]
Anyways, the only advice I can give you, is that if a guy really likes you, it won't matter how strict your dad is. That's how it was for me.
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I suggest that you speak to your dad in terms of what the future holds. Right now, being 15 years old, you are still what a reasonably conservative father might consider "too young to date".
However, you probably should make sure that there is an understanding between you regarding what you can do once you turn 16. The two of you can lay down a series of ground rules such as how late you can stay out, how far you can go, at what time you might be expected to call in, etc. He should understand that dating in high school is a necessary part of growing up. If he tries to shield you from the boys forever, you will enter your adult years without the critical social skills that you will need to form a mature relationship. Hopefully, you can make this clear to him. Part of the deal should also be that he must try not to embarass you or otherwise overreact in ways that make you feel that you must hide your social life from him. He should be able to see the logic behind giving you sufficient freedom that you are, in return, willing to be open and honest about who you are seeing and what you're doing together.
For now, perhaps you could convince him to allow you to attend a school or church-sponsored co-ed event which will be chaperoned. You might also suggest group activities, where you go out with many friends of both genders, instead of a single guy.
One thing you won't be able to get around is the idea that he's going to want to meet these guys, and some of them will be scared away. The good news is that among those who are scared away will be the jerks, the idiots, and the ones who just want to get some action. You'll be left with the guys who are determined and self-confident enough to face Dad. This leaves you with fewer choices, but higher-quality ones.
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just keep talkin to your dad about it and just tell him you are resposible and wont go that far into the relationship like sex until your seriously ready hopefully he will come around. hope i helped =] &hearts
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Hey, i have a dad like yours. think of it as a good thing... if the guy isn't man enough to call you, he probably shouldn't be with you. If he's afraid your dad will find out about something sexual you did, it's because you know you probably shouldn't be doing it. get my drift? they know your dad won't approve of what they are doing. if they are truely good, worthwhile guys, they won't have anything to hide and can deal with your father. don't have them over then... go to the movies with some friends, meet up with the guy, hold hands there. i think you need to earn you're dad's trust and stop dwelling on it. you can't change his behavior, only yours. is he always around? what does your mom have to say about this? it's mainly about trust. if you are the oldest or only girl, you're going to have to ease him into the idea of dating. it won't be easy or quick but i guess in the end it'll be worth it. <3
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