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HI Clara,
Truth is. I really like this guy.. and the fact that I did it with him was cause Iliked him so much and I wanted him to be the first.. not because he was there and it was the right moment..but because it was him.. and I had some real attraction to him and hoped to take things to the next level. Its important to have that physical attraction to be in any relationship and I wanted to know if we really had it.. I dunno he might be just thinking that I am eazy.. which I am not. so I dunno what to do.. I dont want to sound desperate or phsy by asking him all those questions soo im confused...
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Hey hey don't worry. I think he asked you that qn was to find out what kind of person you are. Before he asked you that qn, he could be thinking that you are easy. I'm being very honest here. And so, he wanted to know if you really are by asking you that qn.
THe thing now is, you don't know what he's thinking, and I don't know what he's thinking. You can always ask him to set a date to meet up. I don't see anything pushy bout that. Don't stress yourself over this. Think bout the right thing to do. Set a date.
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Ok well me and my bf have been together for 4 yrs. now and like at times he treats me really bad.. he yells at me and throws things. but then at times he can be the nicest person ever.. i am just so confused, he puts me down all the time and stuff like that. but then like 20 mins later he is all nice and lovey dovey with me. and i really dont no what to do. he says he love me but i really wounder sometimes, ive tried talking to him about it but when i do he gets mad.. what do you thihnk i should do?? (link)
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Break up with him. He's taking you for granted. If he really loves you, then he shdnt even be making you feel miserable; he shdnt just pay lip service.
I'm sorry if that's not wat you wanna know.
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Hi Ms,
I am confused about somethings..I dunno.. but on our first date,, we made love.. it was great.. it was the first time I have ever done it before and im 26 and so is he. He didnt buy into the whole fact that I had not had S** before.. neways.. he had mentioned that after having S** that how can you want to do it with me you dont even know me.. and that kinda bothered me. I told him well I like you.. and I wanted to.. and Im glad that it is with you. He didnt respond to that.. neways he is here not just to see family but for work too. He is also doing work while he is here. and I dont want to sound pushy you know and drive him away.. what should I do? (link)
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Hey, you can call me Clara.
I just wanna know, why you trusted him so fast and did it with him on your first date?
If you don't wanna sound pushy, then don't be. Give him a few days grace, or maybe at least two days grace for him to contact you. If he doesn't, then you ask him if he could set a date when you two could meet. Give it a try. Get back to me when you're done.
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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly.. (link)
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Yes. I think you are jumping the gun too quickly. If he needs time to rest, then give him time to rest. Relax. Don't take it too hard.
I know you must be thinking that he is making up excuses not to meet you right? Come on, have some confidence in yourself. He came down here not just to see you, but also to see his family and prolly settle some of his own matters. Seriously, don't worry. Let him contact you by himself. You should ask him THAT qn only if he didnt meet up with you at all by the end of his one-week stay.
See how things work out first cos once you say the wrong thing, you can't take it back. Good thing you asked me first!
Maybe he wants to see you on the last day of his visit? Maybe he wants to meet up with you tomorrow? Who knows? If things have been going great between the both of you then I doubt he'd do anything to ruin them.
DON'T WORRY!!
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I have a very strange question to ask..but please bear with me.
Let's say a guy has a girlfriend that's really ugly. And I know I'm prettier than her. When he shares her pictures and puts her pictures up and is so proud of them...does he realize that she's ugly? or is he so glad that he has a girlfriend that he doesn't care WHAT she looks like, as long as she "belongs" to him. And in this case, he thinks she's the most beautiful girl in the world?
Because it's getting annoying. This guy makes fun of my pictures, when I know I'm SO much prettier. But when he puts up her ugly pictures, he praises them. What am I supposed to say? It annoys me that he makes fun of me, when his girlfriend is disgustingly ugly.
I know it's shallow. =/ (link)
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Wow that's a pretty mean thing to say bout her. I don't think he puts the pics up cos of the reasons that you stated above.
Whatever the case is, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some people think jessica alba is hot as hell, while some actually say she's ugly. Same thing for Susan Oh. I think she looks horrid. But there are tons of other people out there who thinks she's beautiful, not in a physical way but beautiful in the way she carries herself and all.
You think his gf is grotesque. But that doesn't mean he has and must share the same thoughts as you. He may have thought the same thing as you b4 he got to know his gf. But i guess love is blind and he chose to look at her inner beauty rather than her physical appearance. If he likes to make fun of your pictures, then let him. Why bother? You know you're pretttier then ok fine. Very good for you.
You can't please everyone. Everyone has their own mouth and they're entitled to say whatever they want. They wanna be irritating and mean? Let them. What's the point in trying to argue over this issue?
The worst thing in the world is having a bad character, not an ugly face.
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yesterday and today I have felt starving 24/7 no matter what. Like i'll eat a meal, then feel really painfully starving 2 hours later. (or less)
But before 2 days ago I rarely ever felt hungry!
What's wrong with me?
this is driving me insane b/c i'm on a diet and this is making me gain weight.
im a vegeterian if that helps. (link)
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Eat in small meals. It helps you to lose weight.
If you dun like the idea of eating in small meals, then have a more filling meal such as carbo rich meal. I know that carbo contributes to body fat but having one filling meal beats a hell out of getting hungry again 2 hrs later
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i have been suffering from severe depression for awhile. after much thought, i believe it's because of some of my actions in the past. not murder or anything like that, but i have alot of shame and guilt (with myself) but cannot seem to forgive myself. i realize i am only human and i'm going to make some mistakes, but i cannot seem to get over whatever things are making me feel depressed. i have tried almost every anti-depressant, but they don't seem to work. i obviously need help, but cannot seem to find anyone who truly wants to help me. it's always a question of health insurance (i have excellent coverage) so instead of helping me, i feel they are prolonging my agony to keep the money coming in. truthfully, i wouldn't care if they were helping me. i have considered a indian medicine man and even went to a reservation in hopes of speaking with one, but it was the weekend and they were closed. a psychic is starting to look good but most are for fun. i truly need help before i lose my mind! thanks (link)
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Hey..I've suffered from depression before but I don't know the severity of mine. TO me, depression is something that you CAN cure yourself, because it all lies in your mind and I strongly believe that it IS something that you CAN overcome.
You are regretting your course of action and that's good. It is good that you are realising your mistakes. But after that, move on and give yourself a chance to change. OK. I know that I'm in no position to tell you what to do and all that because I'm not a trained therapist in this area. I don't know exactly wat are the things you have done before that made you feel so horrible. I honestly don't mind if you tell me more bout it.
If you don't open yourself up and be more positive, you're gonna sink deeper and deeper. What is done is already done. Don't let your mistakes traumatise you. Let your mistakes teach you a lesson in life. Sometimes, it's better to let go and move on and most importantly, to learn from your mistakes. You cant UNDO what you did last time, but you now now what you should DO. It's all in your mind. It's ultimately your choice how you choose to live with your mistakes. Is wallowing in depression gonna help you? Be strong. Take it like a man. Everytime you feel low, tell yourself OK I've learnt and I'm NOT going to do the same thing again. I WILL change.
I sincerely hope that you'd give yourself a chance. I'm sorry if I haven't been of much help since I might be underestimating the severity of your condition but whatever it is, remember to give yourself a CHANCE.
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But just because its a song why is everybody always like ay bay bay. Its actually kind of annoying. Just wonderiing. (link)
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Because it sounds nicer when they're singing it as "bay bay" rather than "baby"
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Any dietery options for getting rid of pimples? I HAVE HEAPS :( - if it helps in any way - im 13/m... uhmm i already have a cream - Clearasil.. its kinda helping in ways but... yeahh.. i know i should stay low on fatty foods but is there any other things i should do???
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Hey there. I had a guy friend who has used Clearasil. It does help to clear pimples but it causes his skin to be so dry that it cracks whenever he smiles.
Some of my guy friends use facial foams such as Neutrogena, Nivea (for men) and Gatsby. I don't know if the place where you live in does have these brands, but do keep a lookout for these facial foams; they're great.
As for your diet, you should stay away from oily food cos the more oil you take in, the more oily your skin will get and that's when your pimples start popping up.
Drink cranberry juice - it's good for your complexion. Eat lots of leafy vegetables and juicy fruits - I dunno why are they so good but that's what I eat for a nice complexion.
Always drink at least 2litres of water a day. Keeping yourself hydrated prevents pimple outbreak.
Cleanse your face twice a day - once in the morning, once and night. Mask twice a week - spread it out, dun mask on consecutive days. Put moisturiser after you've cleansed your face. Don't stay out too long in the sun because excessive exposure to the sun causes pimple outbreak. Keep your hands/hair off your face cos your fingers/hair have bacteria on them.
Lastly, go see a dermotologist if you have to. WHY? Because your face will DEFINITELY clear up after consuming their medicine.
All the best.
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ok well, i got kicked in the ear ( i was in the pool) and now it feels like it has a bucket full of water in it and it wont come out. it feels like its all swollen up and it hurts all the time. i mean like really bad. it's like a throbbing pain and if i touch it it just makes it ten times worse. it drains water sometimes. should i go to the doctor? what should i do. how long does it take to heal??
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Ouch... Hey I hope you'll go see a doc asap cos it's quite difficult to deal with hidden injuries.
As for your ears: get a piece of tissue paper, create a sharp, pointy end and gently put it into your ear, slowly advance inwards and the end of the tissue will help absorb some of the water inside. Keep doing this and it'll help to drain out most of the water within.
I hope you do feel better now; do see a doctor.
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If you ask someone out, and they say no, what do you do next?
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"It's ok. You'll love me one day"
Just say "ok, its alright. I'll see you around ya"
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Okay, i'm trying this new thing were everyday i think of the good qualities of myself. And it seems to be working, i am more confident in everything! So then everything is great, until i get to school. I Love my friends. But all they do is put themselves down! One of my friends the other day, all she said almost all day was "Im Fat. I need to lose weight." and i kept telling her she doesnt. But when she keeps saying it, i feel the need to put myself down aswell, like say, "No your not, i am". And i want to be able to stop doing that. I dont know if this question makes much sence, but i tried. What im bascially saying is, How can i get myself to stop putting myself down infront of friends who put themselfs down.
lol that didnt make sence XD (link)
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Putting yourself down isn't the only way to make them feel better bout themselves.
You should teach them to be confident, the way you taught yourself to be confident. Making people feel confident isn't bout comparing yourself to the others and trying to outdo one another. If you were to see putting yourself down as a way of bringing up their self esteem, then you're only helping them momentararily. Once your friend mixes around with other people, she'll start complaining again and wat you did last time will encourage her to expect that the others should also put themselves down in order for her to feel better. I know this sentence is a bit long and hard to swallow. But I hope you get what I mean.
You have to tell yourself first that by putting yourself down infront of them, only makes them feel better temporarily and what's worse, it makes you feel even lousier.
Next time, rougly ponder over what you're gonna say when your friends start putting themselves down. Tell yourself not to degrade yourself infront of them. While pepping them up, if you feel that you're gonna start degrading yourself again, then keep quiet. Don't say anything. Silence is golden at such point in time. Keep encouraging her and tell her, if she feels fat, do something, complaining isn't gonna get her anywhere. Tell her what her good qualities are. And keep reminding her of those qualities instead of bringing yourself down everytime she feels sorry for herself.
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I was just wondering about what the style today is for guys for body hair i.e. chest hair, happy trails, leg hair, facial hair and stuff like that. (link)
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There's no definite style for guy's body hair, just preferences.
Happy trails are the most I'd go for. I like clean cut guys. You can try lasering off your hair. But then, it's expensive. Just leave it as it is. Some girls find hairy chest a turn on. Don't remove your pubic hair pls. Just cut it and keep it in shape from time to time with a pair of scissors. That's all. Why bother so much.
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mkay. i don't think is going to be long but basically, my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago.
the day after i figure out that he liked another girl when me and him were starting to have problems, and was going to dump me either way. he told me that the people who told me were lying but i heard it from his best friend so i don't know how that works out.
anyways. i still like him for some reason. i don't want to, i just do. i told him this once before but he told me he doesn't think of me that way anymore. i want him too, but he doesn't.
now, i find out that one of my friend's likes him and shes trying to go somewhere with him. which sucks because i'm still not over him.
what should i do? (link)
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Hey, I understand how you're feeling. You like him but the feeling isn't mutual. I know you're feeling like shit now and all, but you know that we can't force people to like us back. You should move on.
If you don't like it that your friend likes him, then don't get yourself involved in their business at all. Stay out of everything that goes on between your friend and him. Your friend has a right to do what she wants to do, and I know that sucks. But life is like this, it gets bitchy at times. You shouldn't brood over this matter because seriously, nothing good is gonna come out of dwelling on it.
Go out and occupy yourself. Heck care bout them. Go and exercise, play, talk to your other friends. If you really feel very horrible, write it out in a diary. Cry and let yourself wallow a little bit and then get back on your feet again. Learn to deal with frustration and sadness.
The reason why you're feeling so sucky is cos you refuse to let go. Why make yourself miserable? What good is there in holding on when it's making you feel so bad? Just let it go, you'll feel better if you stop hanging on.
Stop thinking bout it already. Occupy yourself. Force yourself to stop thinking bout the issue. I know that this is really hard to do cos I've been thru the same thing as you have. Everyone surely has at some point in the life. But do tell yourself that life is like this, it's full of ups and downs. For now, it's just a down part but you are the only one who can help yourself get over this.
Don't be sad =)
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ok i really like like this girl and she really likes likes me but i already asked her out but shes taking alot of time to say that she will go out with me and she says she does want to and she always hits at it and like kisses me on msn and stuff. what should i do????? (link)
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She's playing with you.
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i cant load my pic on this site it wont let me. it says the file is too big. can someone tell me or help me explain the steps to get it to work? i tried bunch of pics. all say the same thing! (link)
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Go to www.photobucket.com. Then when your picture has loaded into the website, right click and go to properties. Copy the URL and paste it into your profile settings in this website.
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what is the difference between french kiss and like a makeout? (link)
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french kiss = subset of making out
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hi, i really think your advice is helpful so i would love to ask you a few (hope you don't mind)
1.my boobs are a 34A i really want them to grow but how?
2.i haven't started my period i've just turned 14 can i make it start quicker?
3.i used to masturbate with unclean random stuff pens and anything thats like a penis does this affect my period from starting?
thx sooo much your answers are really helpful (link)
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Hi I would very much love to give you instant recipes for enhacing your boob size but I really have nothing to offer you. The only way to definitely increase boob size is by unatural methods; and that's by surgery.
I have heard that drinking papaya milkshake helps. And I've heard that massaging them helps too? I haven't tried it before but you can try.
Regarding your period, there's also no way to make it start quicker. As long as you have your period before 16, you're safe. I have friends who had their period only when they're 15. Why would you want your period to come faster? You like having cramps? I hate periods. Enjoy your time without periods. They're a hassle and they cause me to have mood swings and bad temperedness.
I strongly disagree that masturbating with unclean random stuff pens is delaying your period. But pls, don't masturbate with such things! Take care of your vagina! You'll get an infection cos you're introducing dirt and bacteria inside. Also, these things might scrape and damage the wall of your vagina. I'd rather you use your fingers. But remember to wash your hands first.
I share the same problem as you regarding your arms. Lifting dumbbells will help to make your arms bigger and more toned, but not fatter. For more qns regarding your arms, you shd approach Evolution. He's a certified trainer and he can help you out much more in that area.
Hope I've helped. =)
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This question is for the girls out there... My stepmom says that bras with underwires are really bad for you. Does anyone know why? (link)
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I don't think they're bad. Maybe what she means is that the wires might make you feel uncomfortable. I really can't think of anything else bad bout it.
The wires are good cos they provide support. But then, they can be dangerous if they're not sewn in properly. There was once my underwire poked out thru the bra cloth and kept poking my chest.
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I'm graduating on the 25th. i have no idea what to do with my hair. I'm asian so i have super straight hair down to my back. It's highlighted and layered and i have no bangs. My face is round and i have dark brown eyes. Any ideas? Thanks! (link)
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Big, princessy type of waves. You hair length suits tt type of hair. But since your face is round, make sure those waves start from the bottom of your ear.
I don't know if you'll be wearing your grad hat but if you arent, you can add a hair band to those big waves.
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