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Relationship Blunder..
Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly..
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ok if the guy really likes you he will remember
just talk to him as if its not on your mind and if he brings it up say yeah that would be great
hope you the best ♥christina
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Honestly, i would back off from him. You dont want to seem really desperate. I hope this isnt the case, but maybe he just wanted to chill with someone for the day and didnt really think you guys would hang out again. If I were you I would either not mention anything until he does or ask if he wants to hang out one more time and if he makes an excuse up be like "alright you obviously dont want to hang out anymore so fine"
See what happens if you dont talk to him first. Maybe he really was busy and hopefully soon he will initiate the conversation and want to hang out.
hope it goes well!
-melissa
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I would give him enough time to rest and ask him about it in the late morning or even in the afternoon. I think that it's totally fine to ask him. He sounds like he will give you an honest answer and not get mad, even if he still is tired. You might come up with some suggestions of things to do together that don't require a lot of energy, like watching a movie or taking a walk together. Good luck, hope it works out!
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well to me it sound's like he is loosing interest in you. my advice is give him a couple day's to come around. if he doesn't talk to you in a couple days then he is probably giving you the hint he doesn't like you. it's happened to me before and i felt really bad. you might of came on too quickly. :/ idk? hope i helped.
k'laaa
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No I don't think it is wise. I think he is trying to "nicely" tell you that he is not interested. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings and that is a good thing. Sort of, because it is not what you were hoping for. And that is how it goes sometimes. You were both hopeful for a different outcome. But as it turned out, he found that he was not as attracted to you as you are to him.
Believe me, if he were, he would be moving heaven and earth to spend time with you, not making excuses and being polite. Don't worry, you'll get another chance with someone else.
It know it's hard to be patient
Michele
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Yes. I think you are jumping the gun too quickly. If he needs time to rest, then give him time to rest. Relax. Don't take it too hard.
I know you must be thinking that he is making up excuses not to meet you right? Come on, have some confidence in yourself. He came down here not just to see you, but also to see his family and prolly settle some of his own matters. Seriously, don't worry. Let him contact you by himself. You should ask him THAT qn only if he didnt meet up with you at all by the end of his one-week stay.
See how things work out first cos once you say the wrong thing, you can't take it back. Good thing you asked me first!
Maybe he wants to see you on the last day of his visit? Maybe he wants to meet up with you tomorrow? Who knows? If things have been going great between the both of you then I doubt he'd do anything to ruin them.
DON'T WORRY!!
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You ARE pushing it a little bit. You are making yourself seem eager.
Call him up and just talk to him. Dont ask about doing anything with him. Just have causual convo with him. Like Oh I was just calling to see what you were doing.... Something of that nature. If He really wants to spend time with you he will say hey lets go do something.
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To me, it sounds like he probably is interested in spending time with you to some degree, but 1) is busy with his family and other stuff you have to cram in a short visit home, and 2) isn't making you a priority. You've put yourself out there a couple of times by asking him to do something. Since the last time you said anything you suggested he rest, I would say you should either email or message him and say, "Hey, I'd still like to hang out if you can find time while you're here! Just let me know when is good for you!" And then leave it at that. You've then put the ball in his court, and if he doesn't make time for you, you've done all you could to let him know you are interested.
I don't know that much about him, but if he has a lot of friends and family he hasn't seen in a while and is only there for a week, and he's only known you online and met you that one time, it's possible the time you had on Sunday is all the time he'll have for you. Usually people we've known longer tend to be a priority. So pay attention to the clues he gives you (is he brushing you off, or truly just very busy with other people?), and take them at face value.
Good luck!
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