i hear people talking all the time about the different bases of sex. like someone will say, " we got all the way to 3rd base"
can someone explain to me what all the bases are and what they mean?
"Bases" change all the time, throughout generations, as different things become more acceptable. But generally, here they are:
First Base: Kissing
Second Base: Groping (touching breasts, genitals)
Third Base: Oral Sex
Home: Sex
Anything past second base complicates life. Make sure you're ready for that before rounding these bases. :)
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m/13 so my friend and me discovered this new way to inhale aerosols, through toilet paper to get high. i heard people do something like this as well. he said its the ethanol that gets you high. ive tried smoking and this thats all, but i like inhaling much better. he said that it doesnt do anything to you and its not dangerous, so is it? we were inhaling deodrant. it feels like your dizzy and light. i get a kinda head ache after it aswell....
Yes, it is dangerous. It can kill you. People die from this all the time. Check out this link: Dangers of Inhaled Aerosols.
Please stop doing this immediately. You have a very big future ahead of you, is this really how you want to start it?
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can I call you sweety? I need some help.. im soo lost and confused.. I dunno what to do. I feel like killing myself.. I really do.. I feel like no one loves me and wants to be with me.. I really do feel that way.. :(
I'm sorry, I'm at work and can't talk. Isn't there a friend or someone you can call and talk to on the phone?
A lesson you MUST learn: no man is ever worth your life. EVER. Lesson #2: Men are idiots. You should NEVER judge your own self-worth by what a man thinks about you. EVER. They are not worth it!
Do you have any girlfriends you can go see after work? Or family you can go be with? There must be people in your life who love you, and you must love yourself!
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What do I do? should I wait? I tried calling him.. once call blocked and he answered but whenI called with my # 3 times after he didnt answer.. I dunno im sooo upset I cant stop crying.. and im at work too as a receptionist its not good for my job or health..
help me pls. maybe u can talk to him for me.. plsssssssssssss In need of help..
Honey, you're getting a little crazy about this. You call blocked yourself to call, and then called THREE MORE times?? I am sure this is upsetting to you, but it is something you're going to have to accept. Obsessing about it is not going to change it, and calling him/emailing/texting him so much is just going to drive him further away. Yes, you need to just wait and see what he does next and start to come to terms with the fact that things are probably not going to go the way you want. Me or anyone else talking to him is not going to make anything any different.
You deserve better. Tell yourself that over and over. If you can't get yourself together at work, go home sick and cry for a day or so and get it out of your system, then you can start to move on. I'm so sorry this is how this is turning out, but trust that someone BETTER will come along. Truly. Anyone who makes you feel like this is not worth your tears. And I know that is easier said than felt, but it is true, and if you keep telling yourself that you will soon begin to believe it.
So sorry. :(
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Hey Clara,
I got an huge issue now.. I talked to him via msn and he said:
Mona says: what did I do to lose that trust?
N Sharma says: i dont think i ever did
N Sharma says: when i walked into that coffee shop
N Sharma says: saw you
N Sharma says: i thought this girl can be the one
N Sharma says: by the end of the night
N Sharma says: i didnt feel the same
I asked him if I cud meet him in person to clear any missunderstandings he said I'll try.. he said tonite he is seeing some friends and tomarrow too and saturday hes going to a wedding I said how about tomarrow before you go see your friends he said i'l try. I said well I would appreciate it if yoiu can try.. he said Ok.. like I dont get it.. maybe I gave in too easily SEX wise or the fact that I was really shy while with him. I dunno. He wont give me a proper response and I dunno wat to do. im going crazy here.. arrrrghh help me plssss.. can I call you and talk to you about this.. plsss
Unfortunately, you need to accept what he has said and move on. Do you really want to be with someone who says "I thought you might be the one but then I changed my mind?" He has told you pretty much point blank he doesn't feel the same about you anymore. What happened, happened, and you can't go back and change it now. If he is not willing to give you a second chance, you deserve better.
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i went on vaca for a week with my best frioend and i had so much fun and we met this boy justin he is 15 and i really liked him and we thought he liked me at first and then we found out he liked my best friend, julie. she liked him alot so i let her have him caz usually guys like me more.
but then when we left the beach we stayed at. we still talk to him on aim and texting. she said something to him and he got kinda mad but she thinks its worse than it is. but now he wont really talk to her but he talks to me so much. and he tells me alot. now shes convinced were going out. but i wouldnt caz she really liked him.
so now i dont know if i shpould stop talking to him to make it so we dont get in a fight.
urgh! i need help. please someone answer this.
thank-you.
and if it helps 14/f
Boys come and go but best friends last a very, very long time. If you value your friendship with Julie and this is upsetting her, ditch the boy.
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my boyfriend live's with me. i'm 16 and he is 18. yes, i know he shouldn't be living with me, it's a long story. we met when i was 14 and he was 16, a couple months after he moved in and my parents didn't have no problem, now me and him argue alot, and my mom always just happens to hear everything we say. my walls arent sound proof so she can hear what we say. i know me and my boyfriend shouldn't argue but she ALWAYS runs to my dad and i get yelled at. i'm writing this, this morning because me and my boyfriend were arguing [ not loud ]. and my mom went over across the street and told my dad, then he came over and started yelling at me. which left me crying while my dad and my boyfriend left for work. i screamed down the hall " i hate you " to my mom and she is now downstairs and i sseriously hope she stays down there.
i have 2 choices, either to break up with a boy i have a 2 yr relationship with, or keep getting hurt by all the people in my house. my mom doesn't like him because he's mean to me physically and emotionally. Q? is what would you do if you were in my place?
GET RID OF HIM! Period. You deserve someone who is not mean to you physically OR emotionally EVER. Your relationship is not normal. Is this really what you want from your partner in life? Someone who you argue with all the time? So you've been together 2 years--you're 16, that means you've got another good 60 years + to live. Get rid of him and make yourself available to a man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
My husband and I have been together for 6 and a half years. He has never once laid a hand on me, and every day tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am. We don't always agree on everything, but arguing in our house is very rare.
Find someone who respects you, and also consider just being by yourself for a while and figuring out what you want out of life. You may not feel like it right now, but you have so much to learn. Open yourself up to life, don't close yourself in with an abusive boyfriend.
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this guy who went out w/ my best friend stated talking to me when they were going out and after she broke up w/ him he was being really nice to me and a good friend but today he started being really mean and said the only reason he talked to me was because i was best friends w/ his g/f....and now im feeling really used and dont know what to do
He is a guy. Guys do stupid stuff to feel powerful over girls. Chances are he was being nice to you so he could feel like a girl still liked him after he broke up with your friend, and also to get back at her somehow.
The bottom line is, stay away from this jerk. Because he just wants to jerk you around. It has nothing to do with you or your worth or value as a person. It has everything to do with him being an immature boy. Find a guy to hang out with/talk to who is actually KIND! They are out there, I swear!
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hi theres this singlet that i like but dont no what its could its in the bow wow music clip let me hold you.thanks
Can you clarify your question a bit better? I think no one has answered you because we have no idea what you are asking for.
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HI Ms,
I have asked him before he came down if he thinks we can have something.. he said AFTER we meet yes its possible. and Im sure he wants to have a relationship.. cause I beleive he is looking for that as well. He said he liked me and that I looked much more prettier in person than I did in my pics so I took that as a good sign and I had mentioned to him during the date that I would like to see him again before he leaves.. he said yah.. so I dunno why all this.. He didnt beleive me at first that I didnt have sex b4 and when I said if u dont wanna beleive me thats your choice.. and he said afterwards that he was sorry.. I said dont be its okay..
At this point, all you can do is tell him again that you would like to see him, and leave it in his court. If you feel like you are absolutely going to burst if you don't tell him how you feel, then tell him. But keep in mind that people don't change their feelings because of other peoples' feelings. If he truly wants to pursue something with you, he will. If he doesn't, he will keep putting you off and coming up with excuses for why he can't see you.
Also, it's only been 3 days since you saw him last, so maybe today he'll find time for you.
And remember, if this doesn't work out, it's because there is someone better out there waiting for you who will be just as eager to see you as you are to see him!!!
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HI Ms,
Truth is. I really like this guy.. and the fact that I did it with him was cause Iliked him so much and I wanted him to be the first.. not because he was there and it was the right moment..but because it was him.. and I had some real attraction to him and hoped to take things to the next level. Its important to have that physical attraction to be in any relationship and I wanted to know if we really had it.. I dunno he might be just thinking that I am eazy.. which I am not. so I dunno what to do.. I dont want to sound desperate or phsy by asking him all those questions soo im confused...
Well, the hard part now is that he may not have been thinking the same thing. He may have just been thinking you were nice, attractive, and he was going to get some. Not really thinking beyond that.
What were your conversations like before you met? Did he indicate that he was looking for a relationship? Did you talk about being together in that way?
To me it just really sounds like he is freaked about being your first, and I am not sure you will be able to get him past that. I know you want to see him while you can since it sounds like he doesn't live near you, but it might be better just to back off a bit and go back to the way things were before the sex.
I doubt he thinks you are easy, I am thinking he thinks that you are ready for something he is not. Guys just move so much more slowly than we do, sometimes you have to slow yourself down so that they have a chance to catch up. If you pour your heart out to him now, he's going to back away even further. Express to him that you really hope you can get together again before he leaves, and then see what happens.
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me and my cousin have bee best friends since we were babies and we didnt really hang out much in our old town but we moved to north carolina and we hang out almost everyday now she gets realy mad at me for the stupidest things like going out with a guy she likes when she has a bf or me telling her to stop lieing and she always lies to her bf i mean she loves her bf but she told him she made out with a random guy, why would anyone tell their bfs that? i just need help should i keep being friends with her or what i reall need help
Your cousin sounds 1) immature and 2) jealous of you and 3) in need of extra attention. Your best bet is to start cutting back on your time with her, because she is not going to change just because you tell her she's annoying. You'd do her a favor to say, "Um, Suzy, do you realize that when you do that it really bothers people?" My guess is she'll just get mad at you, but at least you will have tried.
Keep in mind that the more you hang around negative people, the more it rubs off on you and you begin to act the same way. If you do decide to keep hanging around her, be very aware of your own behavior. You've seen the things she does that you don't like, keep yourself in check and make sure you don't pick up her bad habits. If you can, try to find people to hang out with who have qualities that you admire, the type of people who you want to be like. What you've said about your cousin makes me think she is NOT the type of person you want to be.
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Hi Ms,
I am confused about somethings..I dunno.. but on our first date,, we made love.. it was great.. it was the first time I have ever done it before and im 26 and so is he. He didnt buy into the whole fact that I had not had S** before.. neways.. he had mentioned that after having S** that how can you want to do it with me you dont even know me.. and that kinda bothered me. I told him well I like you.. and I wanted to.. and Im glad that it is with you. He didnt respond to that.. neways he is here not just to see family but for work too. He is also doing work while he is here. and I dont want to sound pushy you know and drive him away.. what should I do?
Well that is a lot more info! So, I can guarantee you that he is feeling an EXTREME amount of pressure about being your first at 26 years old. I'm sure in his mind, because you waited this long, he probably thinks you were waiting for "the one" and that now you are going to want him to be a serious boyfriend. As a 26 year old guy, he may have had sex on the first date before, but with girls who think of sex as something casual.
What made you have sex with him the first time you met him, having never done it before? Were you just ready and there he was, cute, nice, good prospect? Or did you meet him and think, "Wow, this is really the guy I want to give this to, I can see us together for a long time!"?
First, prepare yourself that this may not develop into a relationship. If that's what you were hoping for, then I would stick with my advice from the first email and give him one last opportunity to see you again and leave it to him. If he doesn't take you up on it, then he is probably not prepared for a serious relationship with you and you would be better off to begin your search for someone who is.
Second, if you really were just ready and had the opportunity and took it, and it wasn't as big a deal to you as he probably thinks it was, then tell him that. You could email him and say, "Look, I've thought about it and realized that you are probably feeling a lot of pressure after me telling you that you were my first. I want you to know that by having sex with you, I wasn't thinking that we were all of the sudden going to get married. I've enjoyed getting to know you over the past month or so and the moment just seemed right. I'm 26, I was ready, you were there, it was nice, that's that. I know we've only met once, but I enjoyed the time we spent together, and would like to see you again, no pressure for anything more than having a good time. If it goes somewhere beyond that, that's great. If not, then at least we've spent some fun times together."
I'm guessing what you're feeling is not that you'd just like to have fun with him, but at this point, if you do want to see him again, you need to take some of the pressure off of him. Chances are this will be a summer fling, but if you can brace yourself from that and learn from your time with him, then you'll be fine.
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I wanted to get my hair cut/styled and my mom would want me to get it at Walmart, but I don't want to :[! (No offense but I think it's a pretty lame place to do it at) So I was just wondering where's a good place to get a haircut/hairstyle and where's a bad place. I also want to know if Walmart is a good/bad place to do so. If you have gotten your haircut/styled at Walmart please feel free to share your stories and make any suggestions! (I'd probably want to do this at the mall at Regis, Trade Secret, or the JCPenny salon....)
If you want something trendy but not too expensive, how about looking into local cosmetology schools? A lot of times the apprentices (the people in training) will be less expensive and there will be someone who is experienced making sure they're not messing up your hair.
In my experience, of the less expensive places to go, Regis usually has good stylists. Another suggestion would be to ask your friends or classmates with hairstyles you like where they got their hair cut. It's always good to know someone who has been to your stylist so you know what you're getting yourself into!!
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which hole is the one where you put the guy`s thing in during sex?
First of all, if you do not know this, do not have sex. Then do a google search of "female reproductive anatomy," then study.
Second of all, if you are a girl, it's the one you menstruate from, your vagina. The one you put a tampon in. Again, please google "female reproductive anatomy" and study.
If you're a boy, girls have one hole they urinate from, one hole that is for sex/menstruation (her period, if that's too big a word for you), and one hole for bowel movements. The one in the middle is used for sex.
Again, please google "female reproductive anatomy" and study it. They should have taught you this in school.
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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly..
To me, it sounds like he probably is interested in spending time with you to some degree, but 1) is busy with his family and other stuff you have to cram in a short visit home, and 2) isn't making you a priority. You've put yourself out there a couple of times by asking him to do something. Since the last time you said anything you suggested he rest, I would say you should either email or message him and say, "Hey, I'd still like to hang out if you can find time while you're here! Just let me know when is good for you!" And then leave it at that. You've then put the ball in his court, and if he doesn't make time for you, you've done all you could to let him know you are interested.
I don't know that much about him, but if he has a lot of friends and family he hasn't seen in a while and is only there for a week, and he's only known you online and met you that one time, it's possible the time you had on Sunday is all the time he'll have for you. Usually people we've known longer tend to be a priority. So pay attention to the clues he gives you (is he brushing you off, or truly just very busy with other people?), and take them at face value.
Good luck!
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I think I have that cause I had a nasty odor and I douched to get rid of it
Its mostly gone right now but I read something about if you have BV not to douche right after I did and it said it can give you stronger odors and maybe even more infection.
I want to know if this is true cause I'm very scared about it I really don't want anything worse to happen
You need to see your gynecologist. BV needs to be treated with medication to be sure everything gets back the way it should be.
Douching is no longer recommended by gynecologists. Talk to your doctor about it and get her opinion about whether or not you should continue this practice.
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Hi! It's time for senior pictures and I don't know how to get my hair. I have medium length hair, brown. My hair is going to be straighten but I'm still not sure how to get it. Please help
My suggestion, 11 years out of high school, is to wear it to look nice but not overly trendy. Now when I look back at my senior yearbooks, I always think the girls that had nice simple, straight hair were so smart because their pictures STILL look good even though it's 11 years later. Those who had big poofs (luckily for you that's not in style anymore) or perms get chuckled at.
So definitely go simple--perhaps a little pulled back on the top, or just straight down around your shoulders. Healthy looking hair never goes out of style!
Enjoy your senior year!
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ok... i know i sound insane, but im 14/f
some guy i love in florida wanted to kill himself
i felt helpless and i tried to stop him. i told him i would tell my mom, but we live a good day away from him.
i couldnt do anything, i dont know if he died.
i wanted to kill myself, i love him, and i couldnt stop him.
at first, i tried to hang myself, i became shaky and delirious
so i tried to calm down, and i couldnt.
so i went into the kitchen, and grabbed the nearest pill bottle, ibuprofen.
i put the bottle to my mouth, and swallowed.
the problem is, i swallowed seven. i know i sound crazy, but ive NEVER overdosed in my life with anything.
i am freaking, because after i realized what i had done, i researched it, and it says to seek immediate medical attention... but i cant.
i worked too hard to gain trust in my mom.
its ten of three in the morning.
i am afraid of the sideeffects of what i have done...
i need to know, its still early... is there anyway i can reverse it? stop the pills effects? wash them out of my system? anything. i dont need to be lectured, i need to know how to stop this.
Seven ibuprofen aren't going to do anything to you except make you sleepy, as long as they are just regular 200mg pills. Check the bottle. If they're prescription strength, then you are going to have to suck it up and either call 911 or tell your mom.
In the meantime, eat something to help absorb the medicine, drink some milk and then lots of water to try to flush your system out.
I know you don't want a lecture, but please remember in the future that your life is valuable and you can only control the decisions that YOU make. Make good ones. You have that ability, and you can control your future.
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I have a interview wednesday, I have already had a phone interview and the woman has emailed me the documents I needed and everything. I wanted to send her like a thank you e mail but what should it say?
"Dear Mrs. XXXX,
Thank you so much for the opportunity to talk with you about (the position you're interviewing for). I enjoyed hearing more about the position and your company. After our conversation, I definitely think my experience in (this field) [or a particular skill you have that is applicable to the job] would make me an asset to the team.
I am looking forward to speaking with you in person on Wednesday. I'll be bringing the documents you sent me to our meeting. In the meantime, please let me know if there is anything else you need from me.
Thank you,
Whateveryournameis"
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