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mom vs. boyfriend
my boyfriend live's with me. i'm 16 and he is 18. yes, i know he shouldn't be living with me, it's a long story. we met when i was 14 and he was 16, a couple months after he moved in and my parents didn't have no problem, now me and him argue alot, and my mom always just happens to hear everything we say. my walls arent sound proof so she can hear what we say. i know me and my boyfriend shouldn't argue but she ALWAYS runs to my dad and i get yelled at. i'm writing this, this morning because me and my boyfriend were arguing [ not loud ]. and my mom went over across the street and told my dad, then he came over and started yelling at me. which left me crying while my dad and my boyfriend left for work. i screamed down the hall " i hate you " to my mom and she is now downstairs and i sseriously hope she stays down there.
i have 2 choices, either to break up with a boy i have a 2 yr relationship with, or keep getting hurt by all the people in my house. my mom doesn't like him because he's mean to me physically and emotionally. Q? is what would you do if you were in my place?
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The answer to your question is obvious, & you know what it is, but I'm guessing you need a second opinion, so here it is.
You said your boyfriend hurts you physically & emotionally. Is he kicking your ass? Hitting you? Calling you names? Putting false thoughts into your head? Acusing you of stupid things? If so, why stay with him? I don't care if you've been together for two years. You don't deserve that; nobody does. That should be a sign to end it. I sure as hell wouldn't stay with someone who put me down about my looks or kicked my ass.
I'm not sure why you're upset with your mom though. I understand she called your dad & he came to yell at you, but she was trying to help. Instead of downing her efforts to help out, try to appreciate them. And talk to your dad when you calm down. Ask him why it's you he yells at when you & your boyfriend argue. Does your boyfriend start most of the fights? If so, let your father know so he can stop making false acusations & putting you down.
I seriously think/feel that if you break up with your boyfriend, things with your parents will only get better. Your mom won't butt into your personal life, and your father will yell at you less. And not only that, but you'll stop getting your self-esteem stomped on & you'll stop getting beat up by your boyfriend who "loves" you. Find someone who really loves you, because he doesn't. He's the source of your problems, so eliminate him.
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GET RID OF HIM! Period. You deserve someone who is not mean to you physically OR emotionally EVER. Your relationship is not normal. Is this really what you want from your partner in life? Someone who you argue with all the time? So you've been together 2 years--you're 16, that means you've got another good 60 years + to live. Get rid of him and make yourself available to a man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
My husband and I have been together for 6 and a half years. He has never once laid a hand on me, and every day tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am. We don't always agree on everything, but arguing in our house is very rare.
Find someone who respects you, and also consider just being by yourself for a while and figuring out what you want out of life. You may not feel like it right now, but you have so much to learn. Open yourself up to life, don't close yourself in with an abusive boyfriend.
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