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ex-boyfriend troubles..
mkay. i don't think is going to be long but basically, my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago.
the day after i figure out that he liked another girl when me and him were starting to have problems, and was going to dump me either way. he told me that the people who told me were lying but i heard it from his best friend so i don't know how that works out.
anyways. i still like him for some reason. i don't want to, i just do. i told him this once before but he told me he doesn't think of me that way anymore. i want him too, but he doesn't.
now, i find out that one of my friend's likes him and shes trying to go somewhere with him. which sucks because i'm still not over him.
what should i do?
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To be honest, it's never worth getting back together with your ex. You two called it quits for a reason. Since he's moving on the best thing for you to do is to move on also. There's a ton of guys out there that won't treat you like your ex did! I mean he broke up with you for some other chick. How pathetic is that? You should not want to get back with him just from the way he treated you. You'll find someone else and will be happier.
Do not wallow in saddness. It'll be the worst thing for you to do. I know you might want to at one point but don't. That's like letting your ex win by you being upset. If you want to talk about it talk about it. If you want to scream about how he treated you then scream. If you feel like punching someone in the face then punch a pillow. You're going to get mad, sad, angry, and upset. There a times you're going to want to cry, and guess what? You should cry. You need to let your emotions out. But do not wallow in hurt. If you wallow you're eventually going to end up staying there. So you need to get on your feet and say, "Hey so what if (insert ex's name here) broke up with me. He's going to break some other girl's heart too. And then someone will break his. But I'm so over that."
Do something too. Walk your dogs if you have any, read, write, paint, jog, run, take up a yoga class at the gym, shop, but get out there. The perfect boy for you right now could be right around the corner you never know.
As for the friend. You know what, one day she'll get what's coming to her. It's karma. (Same thing for your ex too) How can she like him after what he did to you? I mean come on, it's obvious he's a heart breaker. Let it be with your friend and just know that even if they get together he's probably going to do the same thing he did to you.
Anyway, I hope this helps you tons. If you need anything message me. But just get out there and forget both of them. You'll get over this obstacle like a champ. :)
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Hey, I understand how you're feeling. You like him but the feeling isn't mutual. I know you're feeling like shit now and all, but you know that we can't force people to like us back. You should move on.
If you don't like it that your friend likes him, then don't get yourself involved in their business at all. Stay out of everything that goes on between your friend and him. Your friend has a right to do what she wants to do, and I know that sucks. But life is like this, it gets bitchy at times. You shouldn't brood over this matter because seriously, nothing good is gonna come out of dwelling on it.
Go out and occupy yourself. Heck care bout them. Go and exercise, play, talk to your other friends. If you really feel very horrible, write it out in a diary. Cry and let yourself wallow a little bit and then get back on your feet again. Learn to deal with frustration and sadness.
The reason why you're feeling so sucky is cos you refuse to let go. Why make yourself miserable? What good is there in holding on when it's making you feel so bad? Just let it go, you'll feel better if you stop hanging on.
Stop thinking bout it already. Occupy yourself. Force yourself to stop thinking bout the issue. I know that this is really hard to do cos I've been thru the same thing as you have. Everyone surely has at some point in the life. But do tell yourself that life is like this, it's full of ups and downs. For now, it's just a down part but you are the only one who can help yourself get over this.
Don't be sad =)
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well it's ok if your friend likes him. maybe you 2 could just be friends. try it. you might be surprised at what fate can lead you to.
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