I'm a 21 yr old female college student, currently studying astronomy-physics. I also enjoy writing, and I love dogs. I don't know what I'm doing with my life, but I have experienced a lot of life.
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I really want to start losing weight this summer and start now. Theres a problem though , i cant get motivated to get up and actully do it. How can i motivate my self . Alot of people say buy a ofit you really want to fit in but see that doesnt motivate me. Please give me some ideas on how to get motivated. I cant join a gym eather just incase you need to know. Thanks for the help.
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I answered a similar question earlier. You can see it here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538662
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my boyfriend gave me genital herpes and I asked him to go get checked out and he pretended to get checked out. I asked him over and over did he get checked out and he finally said that he didn't go. And he keeps saying that he didn't give me the STD, but I know he did. What do I do? (link)
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You can't do anything. You can't make him go. If he refuses to be responsible for his and your health, that's his choice. He's probably just scared to know. If he doesn't care enough about your health to find out though, then maybe you shouldn't date him. If you know he gave it to you, that's all that matters. If you are uncertain, then that is a different story. Even then though, you can't make him do what he doesn't want to do.
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what should i do if my parents get me really mad and start yelling at me for nuttin? my parents think that my lil sister is more respondisble cuz she lies and she gets away wit everything and i tend to cut my uppper arm and that but i dont know wat i should do instead of cutting my upper arm can u tell me wat i should do? (link)
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When you get really angry, try getting some paper and writing a long rant about it. Use derogatory vocabulary (ie plenty of cuss words) and write until you have nothing left to say. After than, burn the paper. It's like burning away your negative emotions. It helps me feel better all the time.
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Could you please suggest a healthy day's diet...I am having trouble knowing what I should eat. (link)
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As much fruits or vegetables as possible. Some meat (if your not vegetarian/vegan) and some carbs. Avoid sugar like the plague. Try eating stir fries. They're fun to eat and cook.
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hey katieee
im a 16yr old girl andd..
so im not THAT unhappy with my body, but since summer and swim suit season is just around the corner, i want to have a body that im really happy with. but the problem is, i belong to a fitness center and im a varsity cheerleader, but i have no motivation to stop eating and not be so lazy! i love food and i feel like i never stop. its gross but i cant help it- its like an obsession?! how can i get mysefl motivated to stop eating so freakin much and work out? also what are some good workouts that i can do to tone my stomach and inner thighgs?? THANK YOU SO MUCH!! (link)
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Its easier to get motivated to work out if you do so with a friend, or a group of friends. Why no get a workout buddy? You could schedule dates to jog or bike or work out together. It's easy to convince yourself not to work out when you do it alone, but if a friend is doing it with you, it makes it much harder to back out of.
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is there a way to download google earth on xubuntu oor linux ive tried before but it came up as a binary file and didnt work when i tried to open it (link)
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Did you use a terminal window to open it or just tried clicking on it? Look up how to open binary files in a terminal window on xubuntu online. You could also use apt-get, or see if the download menu in xubuntu has google earth.
You could also try this, but I don't know if it will work on xubuntu. I know it works on regular ubuntu. Type it into a terminal window.
This makes the file executable:
sudo chmod a+x Filename.bin
This runs the file:
sudo ./Filename.bin
If you already tried this, and it doesn't work, see what type of Google earth you downloaded. Was it for windows or specifically made for Linux? Windows binary files don't always work properly on Linux, and it may need other programs like Java or Flash to run. Also, try looking up "downloading google earth on linux" and see what comes up.
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ok my ex bf that i still like a lot just toldme he loved me but the bad part is he is going out with one of my close friends what do i do? (link)
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Why do you need to do anything? He's dating someone else. If he wants to get back with you, he will dump her on his own. Otherwise, stay out of it. Why cause trouble?
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how did you go about your college essay? What kinds of things did you write about... if you cant give me that, then could you possibly give me advice on how to go about writing it? (link)
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I wrote my college essay on my love of creative writing, since it's a personal activity of mine and not a club or "official" extracurricular activity, so their wasn't anywhere else to mention it. I know another guy who wrote about racists leaving a burning cross on his lawn, and how he came to forgive them. Basically, chose something simple, and something that tells more about yourself that isn't apparent on the rest of your application. You could write about how you said no to drugs or saved a cat from a tree. Don't repeat what they can see on your application-that is the kiss of death for college essays. Just choose something simple about your life, and write it the best that you can. And make sure it shows more of your personality in a positive way. Don't write a sob story about how your brother died or something. And if you went on a community service church trip to Mexico, DO NOT WRITE ABOUT IT! Colleges get a million of those. You want yours to be unique. Once written, have many people edit it for you. Rewrite it, then send it in.
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Hi, I am going to a be a university student this year, and soon I will be meeting my advisor to plan out my schedule. I have been advised by some friends to take A LOT of classes, so I end up with about 20 credits a year, and by others to take only 13, or 15 credits, so I won't kill myself.
I will do anything to become a lawyer, so if it takes 20 credits I will do it. But I don't want to burn myself out and then find out it would have been OK to take 15.
Is there a recommended number for pre-law students? Thank you. (link)
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I'm an astro-physics combined major and a math minor. I took an average of 18 crd. every semester and my friend who is an astro-physics combined major with a double major in math took 20. From personal experience, just let me say, DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! I will be a senior next year, but I am very burned out right now. My friend is burned out too. We are both managing, but if I could do college over again, I would not have done it. Being a lawyer is not worth losing your sanity over. Overloading on credits can also lower your GPA because you can't dedicate as much time to each class. It's possible to take that many credits, but only if you sacrifice free time and social time. I would say take between 15-17 credits the first semester of your freshman year, and if you think you can handle more, then go for it. Test the waters first. The number of credits you take won't increase your changes of getting into Law school. Think quality, not quantity. Focus more on GPA and activities. This isn't high school, where all the overachieves like ourselves took the hardest and most classes we could. It's very different. Try doing an internship for a law office. And PACE YOURSELF! Don't push yourself really hard your first two years only to end up burned out like me.
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I would like to know what subjects I need in order to be a beautican and where I could go study,how many years does it take and what qualifications i need in order to apply for a job? (link)
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You will want to go to a Cosmetologist school. I think it only takes like 2yrs, then you get certified. After that, you just apply to hair/manicure businesses, just like you would for any other job.
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so, this is gonna sound really stupid, but i've been wondering ..do you pay tuition before the college year starts or do you have to have the money by the end of the year? (link)
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They usually have you pay at the beginning of each semester. They don't have you pay tuition for a whole year, just a semester at a time. If you are low income, schools will sometimes come up with an alternitive plan where they break up your payments into smaller amounts that you pay throughout the semester.
BTW: There are few stupid questions that people ask, and this isn't one of them. This is an intelligent question. Don't put yourself down...
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Hey,
I've been on and off with this guy since last year. I really like him, like to the point where I honestly cannot think of being with anyone besides him... at least not for awhile. We flirt a lot and I know we definetly have something, but everytime we get closer and it seems like were about to "go out" or get serious he freaks out. He backs away, its like he's afraid or something- idk what to do. I want to be with him so badly, but at the same time I wonder if he's afraid of relationships in general... or is it me he's afraid of?
- helpless (link)
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I think you hit the nail on the head by saying he's afraid of relationships. (I don't think he's afraid of you.) Just be upfront with him. Tell him you would like to date him, and if he seems afraid and says no, ask him if he's afraid and talk about it. Reassure him that it's okay for you to date him.
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okay.. so i dated this girl for not too long of a time, like less than 3 months but i just got tired of being with her [and he was kinda an asshole- not really to me but to everyone else] after we broke up she was really upset & overdramatic about everything. Its been over a month now and we still don't talk. I don't really want to be friends with her because after we broke up i realized how much she lied to me while we were together.. but i really can't take how weird it is around her & not talking to her. what should i do? should i make an effort to become friends with her even though she seems to like hate me for breaking up with her & she's really not someone id love to be friends with? she also seems to think that if we are gunna be friends i need to initiate everything because I broke up with HER. i did try once, online.. the only time we've really talked since the breakup but it seems like to maintain our friendsship, ill need to do most of teh work.
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This is a no brainer. Don't be friends with someone just because you feel weird. You can talk to her if you have to or if she talks to you, but don't put effort into it. You don't need to do anything.
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So my friend is starting to hang out with this girl i really hate. the hate part goes a long way back but i just know that the girl she is friends with now is so mean to both of us. Last year she called her and swore and was making fun of her and i stuck up for her. Now she is blowing me off. I told her that i really hated the girl and she blew up at me saying stuff like while shes my friend now so back off. And when another one of my friends went out with this boy who she did not like she told it to her face. and i mean bad! What should i do?!?! (link)
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There isn't anything you can do about this. I know this isn't what you want to hear. You probably want things back the way they were, with your best friend back and the other friend not dating a jerk. Unfortunately, you can't change other people's minds. I would just wait it out. Your friends will probably realize their mistakes eventually, and when they do, they will want someone to turn to for comfort from their hurt feelings. You can be there to comfort them (don't say "I told you so"...) and restart your friendships. What ever you do, don't keep trying to get your friend to leave the girl you don't like, and don't try to get your other friend to leave the mean guy. That will only make your friends resent you. Just try and tolerate it, and wait for the situation to change.
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ok so a while back, i asked my boyfriend if he'd have sex with me and it kinda drew him back, and he didnt say anything. it kinda hurt, cuz im allergic to rejection. :(
anyways, he told me later that week that he wanted to try again so i know hes interested. but the thing is i dont really know how to get it started. i dont like any type of oral sex and the only foreplay ill try is being felt up. but i really hate my body. im not fat or anything, its just im FLAT. i have no bust and i hate taking my shirt off. so im just asking, like, how would that work in bed? and ALSO, what would i need to do to ask him? and how do i prepare myself? thanks! (link)
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I don't think you are ready for sex unless you like your body just the way it is. You need to learn to love yourself. Also, understand that intercourse alone usually doesn't lead to an orgasm for a woman, and in order for you to have intercourse at all you need to be aroused and relaxed, and if you don't like foreplay, and if your apprehensive about your appearance, that will be much less likely to happen. Learn to enjoy talking your shirt off when you're alone. Go to bed completely naked-no pajamas, underwear, or anything. When you get used to that and learn to like your body, then you will be better prepared for sex. It sounds like you are using sex as a way to reassure yourself that you're beautiful and wanted by someone, but you don't need sex for that. You already are beautiful. This web site is amazing. You should look at it:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/
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I like breasts a lot and well im supposed to being a guy well my girlfriend lets me suck hers. Were both 16 and shes like a D cup i was wondering if her breasts are supposed to have holes in them or do they form when you are preganant and if she does have holes will liquid come out in my mouth? if so what is it? and if not is it just air im sucking and is it pleasureable? (link)
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Her nipples should look just like yours do except she has breasts underneath. Liquid will not go into your mouth. It is like giving a hickey on your arm, except better. It it usually pleasurable. You could also have your girlfriend suck on your nipples. It's pleasurable for guys too. Only do these actions if your girlfriend agrees to it though. Communication is important.
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ok i dont know what sex, blow jobs, vagina, and cum and sperm is but i do know what a pnis is ... so tell me what it is please and also what is a dildo? what is a condom? what is a vibrater? what is a breast? and last but not least... i know what hormones r and all but i am sorta confused... i know i am ready for sex so don't tell me i am not or i will hate you i am horny and my friend says i need sex (link)
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Look at this website. It will tell you everything you need to know.
http://www.the-clitoris.com
PS You should masturbate and get good at it on your own before you have sex. In other words, you're not ready until you know all the info. Your sex drive has kicked into high gear, but your rational and emotional mind has yet to follow.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now, and we just started having sex. we're both new at it so it's good but like, i want his eyes to like roll in the back of his head and blow his brains out. can anybody help me? thanks xoxo (link)
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By sex to you just mean intercourse? If you haven't done oral or anal sex yet, I would try that.
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Hi, My name is Racquel and Im 14. Ever since i was little i would always be made fun of. I never actually heard the rumours of what was going on, but people always seemed to hate me the next day. In grade 3, the girls would always spy on me and make fun of me. In grade 6 i actually had the courage to go to a teacher and tell them what was going on, because in grade 6 the girls were still doing that, spreading rumours and what not, the principal didn't help much. My parents were fighting and they split up so i went to live with my mom, and i switched schools in grade 7. This time is where it hit me that hardest with everyone in my grade at school. Some girl, spread a rumour about me, not sure what it was, but everyone believe it. They also thought i was weird, but i have no idea why anyone would think that, but absolutely no one would talk to me after that. I think it was just because i was misunderstood. I was really shy when i was in grade school so i wouldnt talk much. Now, im in grade 9 and these past experiences have always been bugging me. I want to learn how to just forget about them so i wont be angry or sad about these experiences anymore. Girls from grade 8 til now still bug me, and spread rumours about me. They call me there friend even if they do things like that, and they get mad when i dont hang out with them and i hang out with my boyfriend's friends. I just want to learn how to deal the past and now and not be sad all the time anymore. Do you think you could help me?
Thanks,
Racquel (link)
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It's okay to be sad and mourn your past, just don't let it define you. You can't forget your past. It's impossible. You can only accept what happened, and let the pain go. This will take time, you can't force it. Being sad isn't unnatural, it's a normal reaction to your situation. The memories will be less painful with time. Don't worry about people talking about you behind your back. If they want you to hang out with them, then they obviously like you. Just focus on how good your life is now, and if you need to cry to heal your past pain, then do it. Being sad isn't always a bad thing.
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2 years ago i was daignosed with clinical depression with paranoia. They put me on all these different medications and after a year the paranoia went away but the depression remained. It didn't help that i was also starting highschool that year. In february of 2004 i attempted suicide and was placed in the psych ward for 2 weeks where i had my medications fooled around with again. A year later and now I'm a sophmore and i can't be happier to be alive! Going through that helped me have a completley different outlook on life and made me into the amazing person i am today. I love myself and my body and i can't wait to get a jumpstart on my future. I grew up with a needy older sister so i learned early on how to be fairly independant but i'm not afraid to ask for help when i need it. I met my current bf of 10 months over the summer and i didn't expect it to go much further after summer, somehow it did. He's sweet and great but we're at two totally different points in our lives, he wants a serious "I love you, you love me" relationship and i want to live and be free and experiance as much as possible. It's been great while it's lasted but he, as usual with guys, continues to ignore the fact that i don't want to be serious! However, unlike most guys my age, he's the one doing all the romantic crud like opening doors and paying for dinner, probably because it's customary in his culture, and its nice the first few times but then gets really annoying because of my strong, independant woman roots. He's also fairly innocent [i'm his first gf) and i really don't want to hurt him because he's a great guy, he's just not for me. Another problem is that his parents absolutely love me, and i hate disappointing people. Is there any way to let him down gently? (link)
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Say that you will always love him, but you are at different places in your life and you don't want to commit to a long term relationship right now. There is no nice way to say this. He will be hurt no matter what, and his family will be disappointed no matter what, but keep in mind that he will also heal, get over it, and move on. You can't be responsible for others feelings, you can only listen to your own. You may feel bad about hurting him, but you need to do what is right for you. You can't please everyone. Although, finding a guy who wants to be serious is actually rare. Most guys aren't serious at all. In any case, you need to leave him so he can find someone who can commit to him in a way you can't.
Also, I'd like to say something else that isn't related to this question, but something you should consider. Look up Bipolar disorder. Going from being depressed to feeling great, and on top of the world and impulsive and uncommitted could be the start of a manic episode. You could be hypo-manic now. I'm not saying you will go manic or have Bipolar, but just watch for it to be safe. Mention is to your doctor also, and family so they can watch for it. You may not develop mania, but watch for it any way. It would make me feel better.
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