ok so a while back, i asked my boyfriend if he'd have sex with me and it kinda drew him back, and he didnt say anything. it kinda hurt, cuz im allergic to rejection. :(
anyways, he told me later that week that he wanted to try again so i know hes interested. but the thing is i dont really know how to get it started. i dont like any type of oral sex and the only foreplay ill try is being felt up. but i really hate my body. im not fat or anything, its just im FLAT. i have no bust and i hate taking my shirt off. so im just asking, like, how would that work in bed? and ALSO, what would i need to do to ask him? and how do i prepare myself? thanks!
To prepare yourself, it would be best to use some kind of lubricate. And feel sexy in your own skin. And make him wear a condom or something, and don't make him force you into something you don't want to do (like oral sex-you said you don't like that, you don't have to do it even if he asks). I hope I helped and good luck! [ gypsytears's advice column | Ask gypsytears A Question ]
TheFool answered Sunday July 6 2008, 10:20 pm: I don't think you are ready for sex unless you like your body just the way it is. You need to learn to love yourself. Also, understand that intercourse alone usually doesn't lead to an orgasm for a woman, and in order for you to have intercourse at all you need to be aroused and relaxed, and if you don't like foreplay, and if your apprehensive about your appearance, that will be much less likely to happen. Learn to enjoy talking your shirt off when you're alone. Go to bed completely naked-no pajamas, underwear, or anything. When you get used to that and learn to like your body, then you will be better prepared for sex. It sounds like you are using sex as a way to reassure yourself that you're beautiful and wanted by someone, but you don't need sex for that. You already are beautiful. This web site is amazing. You should look at it:
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