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So, I gave my boyfriend a handjob and after I did it he had to "adjust himself." He didn't cum, but I am worried about precum. He fingered me after that and ahh I am all paranoid that I could be pregnant. What are the chances that I am?
Thanks.

no chance ur pregnant. dont worry

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hi well there has been about like 10 ppl in my regular group of friends and one of them and i have always been really close like best friends out of our best friends yu kno? well ya. and so well 3 of our friends became really cliquey like sleepovers every weekend and onnlyy hang out with eachother and don't invite any1 else and when ppl ask if they can do anything theyr like no and don't even invite them. but in school we are like all together. one of them is also my realllyyy close friend out of every1 and it hurts that we cant hang. and now 4 others have started a clique exactly the same as the other 3. and now the one who i am the most close with is pretty much in their clique. now i have no1 and i dont no what to do. every1 ditches me now and i dont do anything anymore...what do i do?

well i know what your going through. the best answer is to talk to them about how you feel, and if you dont want to tell all of them you should tell your closest friends. if they listen to you and understand..then things will change.

good luck

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ok. im 12. somewhat skinny, and 100 lbs. i havent eatn in about 6 days,but i drink water a lot. i want to eat, but then i feel bad and ill just make myself throw up. i geuss im afraid to eat or gain weight. i keep passing out and only a few ppl know why. help anyone?

Okay. Well I know what your feeling...trust me. I sort of went through some of what your going through now. You must first recognize that this is a serious problem and that you are destorying your body. Has your mom or dad suspected anything? If not, you must must must go see a doctor or tell an adult you trust. You NEED help. It is either get help and become healthy or...maybe die.

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so me and cody have been dating for like 20 days. and me and him are as close to perfect (probably not the best word to get my point across) as a couple can get, until it comes to hangin out. like at school hell talk to me and well hold hands and he doesnt care what his friends think. but we had vacation and we made plans 3 times to hang out, HE made them, HE broke them ..

friday he said to call when i woke up, so i did and his mom said shed have him call me. well 6 hours later .. he hadn't called .. so i called and she hung up on me .. cody NEVER called to apolgize or say he couldn't. now hes in maine till vacations over. and his fones off ..


i left him a voicemail sayin it kind of hurt my feelings (he ignored my call, like it rang and he pressed ignore, so i know he had his fone, so i know he got he voicemail) and to call me. its 2 days later and he hasn't called. but he'll call me sunday before school and apologize and have an excuse .. he always does .. and i always believe him ..

everyone says dump him .. but i cant. i love him .. i just dont know what to do without messing it up and gettin him pissed off .. HELP?!

hes a little piece of crap and you should dump him before he dumps you. i know it may be hard for you to do but you gotta do it.

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im kind of embaressed...but like, i masturbate and i think its gross and i know everyone says its not gross and its compltely natural and everyone does it and its not a big deal, but i cant help how i feel you know? but im trying to do it less like only once a week or something and (this sounds dumb) i told god that i would only once a week but it seems like i cant and i've done t like three times already and im worried im going to go to hell for lying to god...and i feel really stupid but i just wanted to ask someone...

you really shouldnt worry about it. you will not go to hell. masturbating is normal and you should not feel bad about it.

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ok well one of my boobs is bigger than the other and i herd thats normal when your developing but in one of my boobs i have like a lump its kinda big and like not too bit but like hard and soft in some spots, my friend says its just because im developing, is that true?

i would see a doctor just to make sure everything is alright.

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ok.. me and my mom aren't really close... and like when she tells me stuff like oo i need to buy u a bra or sumtin like oo lets go bra shopping i get like embarrased and she does it like in front of people... so like my friends wouldn't care to come with me cuz they would buy there own.. but i mean iim only 13.. and ive got some boobs.. but im not sure wat size.... but they are like small.. i would be no bigger than a a cup.. .and in bikini size im a medium.. so liek maybe you can tell me by that wat size i am or like wat possible sizes are small....

try a 32 A or a 34 A

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My dad is really abusive...towards me and my mom. Especially my mom. He calls her degrading names and he used to abuse her..alot. Even while she was pregnant with me and my brother and my sister. To this day, I am almost 17 and he still verbally abuses and me also. My mom has considered divorce, but we have no money, no where to go. Today something horrible happenned and he was calling my mom ALOT of horrible words that I can't even say on here. I am afraid that when he comes home from work tomorrow that he will yell at her again..Also, I am afraid that when my siblings and I go to school, he will beat her. Please give advice.

i would talk to the police or someone like that and tell him or her the whole situation and about the money problem. they have to help you. you have to get rid of your father. good luck.

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So today I took one of my earrings and started pressing it really hard against my cartilage in hopes of piercing it. (after sterilizing it, of course!) anyway, I chickened out. I want to know how much it hurts after... I want the truth! going to a profesional isn't an option. Any suggestions, comments, tips? thank you.

ok, i have my cartilage peirced and it hurts a lot.
DO NOT DO IT YOURSELF. it will hurt like hell, i'm not kidding. you will regret it so much. if you really want one, wear a fake one, they sell those. but trust me, do not do it yourself. and also, it hurt for like 8 months after its still periced and you cant sleep on that side.

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ok im 13. i wear a 34 DD. yeah im not fat either. just huge boobs my mom is almost an E! yeah so i need help. my boobs they are big bu they kinna sink and they have the cleave i want my boobs to not sink and much and get like pushed up... my mom wont by me a push up bra either.. soo how can i make my boobs like perfect so when i wear a low cut shirt boys will ... heh you knoww..

well thats kinda dumb if ur mom doesnt buy you a push up bra. my advice...get one and dont let ur mom know.

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Does anyone know where I can post on my livejournal:Friends Only? Thanks.

xanaga? myspace?

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Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal?

See a therepist.

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lets call my boyfriend "bob" and the guy i cheated on him with we will call him "tj" anyways bob goes to a different school, we have been dating for about a week and i never get to see him nor do i ever get to talk to him except for weekends. last night i went skating and this kid that goes to my school that i like alot was there. tj just happened to finger me. anyways bob calls me today and asked me what i did last night and i tell him skating he goes i heard u made out with another guy. i say no..now im all worried that bob will find out and to make this any harder my best friend "ashley" likes tj alot..any advice ill do anything

15/f

well, if you really like bob, you should tell him the truth, he deserves to know. and as for tj, why did you do it? you like tj and bob too? you gotta make a choice on wheather you wanna stay with bob.

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I am almost 15 years old.My boyfriend is 16 turning 17.I dont get along with either of my parents. Is it normal to want to have a child at this age? I talked to my boyfriend about it he doesnt help to much. He has told me he would do anything i want because he loves me so much. I told him i think i would want to wait till i am 16 at least. At the moment i dont no i feel like i want to take hold of the responsibilty now.Ill Rate High. Please help me extra ideas etc would be help full thank you.

Well, if you are only 15, do not have a child. Personally, I think having a child at age 16 would be terrible. You are not out of school, you do not get along with your parents so they cant take care of the baby, do you have a lot of money?
Please dont have a child yet.
Wait.

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There's this guy in my History and Math class that's very popular and goodlooking. Recently, he's been acting different around me. Unusually nice. He complimented on my shirt and necklace, and asked how my tutoring was coming along, etc. He's also lately been acting really cocky, but in a playful way. I don't know if he's flirting. Does it seem so? Because I'm confused as to whether I should flirt back. He has a girlfriend, and that might make me look like an asshole (I don't have a crush on him at all, by the way). Also, if he wasn't flirting I would look like an asshole. What do you think I should do?

Well, knowing that he has a girlfriend and that you dont like him, i suggest you should leave the sitaution alone. He seems to be flirting, but remember, if you dont like him, then dont get involved.

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In the past 2 months I have gona from a 160 pound girl to a 176 pound human! IT's amazing how stress and eating is not helpin rite now! So I excersiced for 2o minutes and tried to eat right and right now I'm down to 172.8! Today my best friend told me if i keep eatin like that I will look like one of these FAT FAT FAAT girs and I really don't wana be that fat. Right now I'm planning of not eatin anything for lunch except an apple or a peach. Do you think I will get tin or slimmer...at least 160...or 155lbs in 25 days?

no! Do not just eat an apple or a peach for lunch. You need to eat meals to keep up your metabolism.
This would be a good plan for you:

Breakfast: A cup of whole grain cereal with skim milk or 1% milk. If not, than oatmeal, or a piece of whole wheat toast with reduced fat peanut butter and a banana.

Snack in between breakfast and lunch: An apple, or a peach or something like that.

Lunch: A non-fat salad.

Dinner: A lean cuisine or something in LOW-FAT.


good luck!

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im getting a treadmill soon and what i want to know is how much should i go on the treadmill each day if i want to lose my chubby stomach ? any hints

Running on a treadmill will not help you lose body fat, but will tone your legs and help your heart rate. It will not help your stomach. In orger to lose your chubby tummy, do crunches and a lot of ab workouts.

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i'm looking to tone my arms and legs. but all i have at home is 5 pound weights, an eliptical, and a treadmill. how many minutes should i do each, or like how many crunches/pushups/stretches should i do daily?

Well, if you want to tone your legs I suggest bike riding. You could bike for about 30 minutes a day and I gaurentee that your legs will be very toned.
For your arms, you could buy a chin up bar (they arent that expensive) and put it on your door. Do about five chin ups a night and gradually increase the number each night. Good luck!

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I think I am fat. I weigh about 116-120 pounds and am about 5"4. Is this overweight?
I don't have like ANY time at all to exercize, I do lose weight, but than I end up gaining it all back on. I can't wake up an hour earlier in the morning because I am already tired as is. I am busy like ALL the time. Does anyone have any way I could lose weight quickly, and wouln't take much time out of my schedual?

First of all, you are not fat AT ALL. You are perfect. Anyway, you say you always lose weight and then gain it back. That is not good. How are you losing weight in the first place? It seems like if you are just losing and gaining that you are messing with your metabolism.

Get back to me.

good luck!

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I need to start eating healthy. But it only lasts like not even a couple days. And then i just say screw it and i give up. I need something to motivate me but i haven't yet found anything. But i need advice on how to stay on a healthy diet and not give up. What foods should i stay away from? i know chocolates and sweets and other? Thanks a bunch!

I TOTALLY know how you feel. Make sure you keep healthy foods in your house, not junkfood. If you keep junkfood and other sweets in your house you will be tempted to eat them. Learn how to love healthy foods.

Sorry if i didnt help much

good luck!

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