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I don't know what to do
My dad is really abusive...towards me and my mom. Especially my mom. He calls her degrading names and he used to abuse her..alot. Even while she was pregnant with me and my brother and my sister. To this day, I am almost 17 and he still verbally abuses and me also. My mom has considered divorce, but we have no money, no where to go. Today something horrible happenned and he was calling my mom ALOT of horrible words that I can't even say on here. I am afraid that when he comes home from work tomorrow that he will yell at her again..Also, I am afraid that when my siblings and I go to school, he will beat her. Please give advice.
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In this kind of situation you have to find help. I know you are probably scared to do it because you might think he might come after you, but it is either get help froom someone or have to see your mom get hurt. You could also talk to your mom when he is at work and then try to have a family member pick you guys up and run away from him. I feel really sorry for you and that you have to go threw this...From, Thinker101.
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I've been in this kind of situation before as well. And I experienced this when I was 10. One night my mom was terribly abused by my dad that we even had to called my grandparents for him to stop. It was horrible and it would also be horrible if other people experienced this as well. After that, we moved to my aunt's house. While you have the chance, run away now so you can avoid more danger and before it gets worse.Because if he continues doing this, someone could get hurt.
Take any precautions to avoid any trouble from happening. Good luck
Later!:)
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Having never been in this situation, my advice may not be too sound but the best thing I can think right now is that you talk to your Mum and you GET OUT as soon as you can. Froget that you don't have money right now. After all, think which is worse. Having little money and spending some time in a refuge until you can rent somewhere but being away from it all, or suffering continued abuse with the risk of it getting worse?
In most cases, people insist that you stand up to bullies. Not this time. When it comes to situations like this, the best thing you can do is to get away from it once and for all. I don't know which country you are in but if you are here in the UK, you can call the police anonymously and he can be arrested for domestic violence. If you are in the US, I would have hoped that the same rules apply.
The bottom line is that you, your Mum and your siblings really need to work together to get out of this awful situation. You need to work out a time to leave and somewhere to go. Perhaps you have family you can stay with? But wherever you go, it will be worth it to be out of there and you will finally get the chance to be a proper family. You will need to encourage your Mum because she may be too scared to leave. Get her while your Dad is out and tell her the detrimental effect seeing her abused and being abused is having on you all and that you all need to get away from your Dad.
I really hope that helps and I wish you the very best of luck. If you ever need to talk, please send me a message.
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I'm 41 yrs old but you just described my childhood. I know enough to realize that you have barely scratched the surface about what you are having to endure. I ended up getting my first job at 15, moving out as soon as school was out, and making many mistakes out of desperation along the way. I would change so many things if I could do it over. So this is the advice I offer to you...
1. Your Dad is the way he is because of the way he was raised - NOT BECAUSE OF YOU or your mother. The worst effect this man will have on you is giving you a low self esteme. You will probably fight with this the rest of your life because your father doesn't show you or your Mother the respect you deserve. It's up to you to break this cycle. Stay away from males like this. They will destroy you. You can't choose your FATHER, but you CAN choose the men in your life.
2. The best thing you can do for yourself is to do well in school and get into college as soon as you graduate high school. Even though my father refused to pay for my education (since it was a waste on a GIRL), I got it anyway and it was the single most important accomplishment I achieved myself. GET your degree. Be independent. NEVER depend on ANYBODY. Be strong. Be confident.
You are lucky. You are 17. Stick with school and get out of that destructive environment - but not hastily. Don't end up like your poor mom. And remember that you are not responsible for her situation. She made bad choices. Don't do the same with your life.
I truly hope you are able to follow this advice and break this abusive cycle. Wait until you meet a guy that truly respects and admires you and your accomplishments. You are valuable. You are important. And you ARE in control of the rest of your life. Stay focused on YOU and your future. Good luck! Much Love, Mrs S
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save money and leave. When hes gone just leave. if she gets a divorce then she will get most ot the money because he is abusive. Get a job adn save money and leave. Thats teh best thing to do.
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get a job right now if u dont already have one. save all the money and get a apartment for the 2 of you. When you get anough money for atleast four months rent then pack all your bags when he isnt home and leave. take the bus to work if you have to. that what i would do. Or you can always beat him to death in his sleep. Shoot.. thats what i would do to! Um i was wondering what state you live in? You can come stay with me.
LoVE KaylA
15/f
hope i helped Good luck. and god will bless you.
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i would talk to the police or someone like that and tell him or her the whole situation and about the money problem. they have to help you. you have to get rid of your father. good luck.
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