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a lot of my friends have drifted away. what are some activities/ things i can do to get them back and let them know i still care?

Something similar happened to me not too long ago. My best friend who I went to dance class with, quit, so I hardly ever see her anymore. She has a job and is really busy and everything, so it felt like we were drifting apart. But I talked to her about it on the phone, and she felt the same way, and now we're trying harder to make plans together. Try that, hopefully things will work out. Good luck! ♥ Erin

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Right well we got a swimmin pool built in our school last month and when the girls are on their periods they aren't allowed to sit out but are forced to use tampons!!!!!! I haven't been on since it was built but oomg. I am so scared. I have never used a tampon and I'm never GONNA so don't suggest I do. Isn't it like illegal to force us to use tampons or somethin? My friend even got her rents in about it and they still made her use tampons!! What can I do on swimmin days that I am on? I'm not using a tampon but I'm not standin in the changing room arguing bout whether to use one or not with the PE teacher its embarassing!!

Hey, you might not want to hear this, but using a tampon is actually very easy. If you go to http://www.beinggirl.com, it explains how to do it, and it is very easy. If you still don't want to use one, I wouldn't worry about it too much, because when you're in the water, your period stops temporarily. I'm not sure why, but it does. I think you should be fine. But if you're still uncomfortable, I would suggest skipping the swimming days, although you might get in trouble, I don't know. Sorry, but I hope I helped a little. ♥ Erin

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my pet cat is in heat can somebody help me...

This happened to our dog. We got her from an abusive shelter. When she stopped having puppies, they didn't want her anymore. : ( So we took her home. She started to be in heat near the end of July. There's not that much you can do about it. We kept her in the hallway. We blocked off everything else, so she couldn't leave. It took her about 3 weeks to stop. We tried putting a kind of diaper on her, but she kept taking it off, but you can try that if you want to. We talked to the vet about it, and they said that after she's in heat, we would have to wait about a month to get her fixed (she's actually getting fixed this Friday). So you'll just have to wait it out and get her fixed in about 2 months. Also talk to your vet to see what they recommend. Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

P.S. Remember to clean after it daily, or it WILL start to smell, trust me!!!

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my boyfriend abuses me. but its only because i killed his cats. yes i did, and ate them. and i am scared to dump him bcause he will kill my dogs and they are a big part of my voodoo ritual. i used the cats for sacrafices. what do i do? yes i am a little wierd i guess....but i need hlep.
thanks shawaka

I'm having trouble deciding whether this question is sincere or not, lol!!!!

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Thanks for your advice it really helps to have a third party when this stuff happens not a question just a ty
TOm

Your welcome! If you need anymore help, just ask! ♥ Erin

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Okay well im not sure what i am doing for halloween yet...I have been asked by about 4 or 5 differnt people if i would go out with them on halloween...I never said yes to any of them yeat and i dont kno who to go with....i was thinkin of just stayin home and not goin with any of them caue i dont want anyone to get mad at me...how can i choose??

(FYI they all hang out with diffent groups of people so i cant go with all of them together..)

It's hard being popular...haha, just kidding. I don't think you should just stay home...what fun is that? I think you should either pick the first person who asked you, like the other person said, or pick the person you think you'd have the most fun with -or whoever has the biggest neighborhood : )- Just tell the other people that you have other plans, I'm sure everything will be fine. Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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Ok my girlfriend and i dated for 8 months. We brokeup about a month ago. Tonight i threw on my game face and "madeout" with a girl. I feel so guilty because im still in love with Kate. Any advice you could offer would help me out, i guess my quesiton is should i feel guilty?
Sincerly and thanks in advance
Tom 18/m/va
tlm285@email.vccs.edu

Well, that kind of depends. If she broke up with you, then no, I would not feel guilty. If you broke up with her, then maybe. It's good that you're seeing other girls. That will help you get over her. If you do feel guilty about it, then that's ok. That feeling should go away over time. If you just can't seem to get over her though, then I think you should talk to her about it, and hopefully you'll have a second chance with her. But before you do that, try seeing other girls and then see how you feel after that. I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out ok. Good luck! ♥ Erin

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i have a toothache and is there anyway i can get it to stop hurting before i get to the dentist?

Hey! Toothaches suck!!! Try taking some Motrin or Ibuprofin or whatever kind of painkiller you have around your house, and that should stop the pain before you see the dentist. Hope I helped! Feel better! ♥ Erin

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hi. i`m quite confuse on how to use - in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening and at night. why we use "in" in the morning why not "in" night? please explain. thank you very much.

mika

Well, if you think about it, "at night" sounds better than "in the night", so maybe that's why, because it sounds better! Haha, I don't know, good question! Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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Flirting...wow i am soo confused what flirting is and what some examples of flirting are...could anyone help me out please?

Flirting is basically like trying to let a guy know you like him without actually telling him. Examples of flirting are looking at him in the eye, complimenting what he's wearing, hanging around with him as much as possible, and maybe even dressing to impress? Haha, you get the picture. Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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how can I start lucid dreaming? (being able to know and be aware that your dreaming) it seems really interesting and i really wanna learn. websites etc.
all 5's

Hey there, I googled it for you and here's a website that might help:

http://www.dreamviews.com

Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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really long story but i need all the help i can get!

well my X-friend, sarah, has a popular friend.

well they just became friends.

heres the story:

sarah and i made plans wedensday to do something thursday, she cancelled plans saying she was tiared and wanted to rest so i can come over tomorrow and she can by hyper.

so i said okay.. shure. tomorrows fine! but my sister is going up to look at colleges and so i need to know.. around 1045 or 11? and she said OKAY

and so we had plans and i was waiting for her to get online around 11 am because thats when shes always online.. so i said to myself "oaky she must be still sleeping"

"mom im not going to look at colleges with you and melissa, sarah can probally pick me up, worse comes to worse i wont get there." they said okay and left.

s0o i waited around untill 9oclock at NIGHT waiting for her to sign on, i called her moms house multipal times (said to call her dads house), her dads (no answer)and her cell phone millions of times. with no answer.

so then she finallu signed on about 10 o clock at night.. and
i said "WHERE WERE YOU!!!"

and she said "Katies house with tori, whats up?"

and i said "dude, we had PLANS today!"

she said: "no we didnt....."

i felt her tention of freaking out because she knows we did

she said: "it wasnt offical plans!"

i said: "well yes it was u said ill im u around 11 with the time you can get picked up!"

she said: " so that doesnt mean i can pick you up!"

i said: "well yes it does it even says it!"

(i was sending the real convo)

and then i got a IM from katie, she has never talked to me Before on AIM so i was trying to act like nothing is going between us, but wait. SARAHS AT KATIES HOUSE!

kaite: hey
me: whats upp
katie: why you messin wit my b1tch?
me: shes "messin" up "wit" my "l1fely" plans!
katie: so what she wants to hang out with popular people and not people like you, who are posers and infact fake their lives second by second.
me: my life is all true, but i got to go theres a emergency in my family, bye.
katie: yep, whats what i thought, there aint no emegency in yo family cept that im going to mess you up.
Me: you rnt going to lay a finger one me.
me: i have to go bye
katie: thats wht i thought.
Katie: your just scared

then Tori ims me

tori: whats going on with your family?
me: my grandma is about to die i have to go BYE!
Me signs off at 1136 PM.

then some reason i got a message saying "your screenname has been signed on in 2 locations and youve been kicked off" or something like that.


then my friend, mike left varies of messages and caling my cell phone. saying "your online but you rnt talking to me whats up"

me- im not online im at the hospital.
him-really what happened?
me - my g-ma is teribally sick and is about to die.
him- that sucks tell her to feel better, quickly.
me-thanks but it wont happen.
him- sarah imed me saying to calm you down
me- WHAT? im not even iming her
him- holy crap shes sending me the messages... its like I HATE YOU FOR CANCELING LIKE THAT!

and so on.. please help me and tell me if shes worth the friend i should get back (tori and sarah) and maybe a new fiend katie. but i dont know help!

She doesn't sound like she is being a very good friend. GIve her a chance but keep an eye on her. If she pulls this again then dump her as a friend. Hope I helped! ♥ ERin

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i am with this guy and we have been seriously disucssing marriage. we both want to get married to each other and we want that badly. more than anything else. we are about to move in together shortly, but my question is, if we are planning it and things, but he hasnt actually ASKED me "Will you marry me" and all that shit. so are we considered engaged or what? i am a bit confused. he wants to wait to actually ask me until he can buy the perfect ring and all that cutesy stuff. but until then are we considered engaged or not...i know its stupid but i cant figure it out. i will rate all answers that i get, i promise! (except the smart ass ones)

You aren't actually engaged. If you want to move things along though ask him what he feels about getting enagaged. Don't rush it too much though. Hope everything turns out for you! Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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Ok.. i'm going out with a guy and he smokes ..

i'm 14 and he is 15. do you think thats bad?

i rate high for good answers.

Do you have a problem with him smoking? Smoking is bad but if he wants to smoke then it is his choice. As long as you don't have a big problem with him smoking though it's not really bad. Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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ok i am 5'4" and i weigh 106.5 lbs. am i overweight? is it irrational to think that i am fat???people tell me i worry too much i dont c y though.please help!
also latley i have been feeling guilty after i eat. help with that too plz.

Nope, you're not fat at all! I'm 5'2" and I weigh 98 lbs...I'm really skinny...so, you're definitely not fat. You're right in proportion. Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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im having trouble with this math problem, i dont even know where to start. im in geometry and i suck at math like very badly, and this teacher gives us these random word problems at times and i dont get this one. any help would be greatly appreciated (=

heres the word problem:
how long will it take a mile-long train going 20 miles per hour to get completely through a 2-mile-long tunnel? explain your thinking at each stef and your answers.

Ok, I'll take a stab at this. :)

2 miles is 1/10 of 20 miles, so...

I think you do 60/10 because there's 60 mins in an hour, so that would be 6 seconds. I think that's right, but I'm not sure. Hope I helped!

♥ Erin

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I am on the yearbook staff this year - and need some help coming up with some superlatives. Here's my problem - I don't want things that everybody doesn't have a chance at such as "Best Dressed" Here's what we have come up with so far

Funniest
Sweetest
Best Hair
Most Creative
Most Outgoing
Most Athletic
Best Smile
Best Eyes
Most Likely To Suceed and
Most School Spirit

Any suggestions would be nice, but preferably not ones like "Most trendy" "Best dressed" and such because thats just demeaning..

Here is what our school has:

Cutest couple
Best smile
Best dancer
Most artistic
Broadway Bound
Most Stylish
Most outgoing
Most opinionated
Most likely to succeed
Most optimistic
Most attractive
Most mischievious
Most flirtatious
Most unforgettable
Most distinctive laugh
Most musically talented
Sweetest
Best eyes
Most changed
Class clown
Most laid back
Best hair
Future Celebrity
Most school spirit
Best all around
Drama queen and king
Most Talkative
Most athletic
Most unpredictable
Sweetest ride (this one has a pic of them and their car)

Hope those helped! Good luck! ♥ Erin

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Hey I'm doing a school project thats due tomm. for math, and we have to make an If, then statement. We have to get a slogan from a store or restaurant or something, but I cannot think of anything!! Here's an example the teacher gave: If you eat Subway, then you eat fresh.

Can someone give me some slogans and places and such? You wont be doing my project our anything because we have to do alot of other things to the slogan, but I just need a slogan to start out with! Gracias!

How about...If you eat at Eatin' Park, then you will smile!! (cause it's the place for smiles, lol)

If you eat at McDonald's, then you will get fat.

Well I hoped I helped a little. Good luck with your project. ♥ Erin

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i am trying to change the color of my font in my AIM profile to a color besides the colors they offer. i found a webpage that gives you the color codes, but it doesn't give you the code to insert it into. does anyone know how to change your profile/font text to a new color? thank you

Go to this website:

http://webmonkey.wired.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/

Pick the color you want(there will be a code).

Now go to your buddylist and click My Aim at the top and then click Save buddylist. Uncheck everything except for text compostition and viewing settings. Save it to your desktop.

Now open Notepad. Go to File and then click Open. Where it says Files of type, make it to All Files. Open it, lol.

Now look where it says Text color and you'll see a code. Just change the code to the code of the color you want. Save it.

Now go back to your buddylist and click on My Aim and then click Load buddylist. Load it, and you'll have the color you want.

Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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hey i was wondering if anyone could help me. i need to find lyrics to a song for school that somehow relate to my life and are school apropriate (no swearing, etc). im a 15/f. i will rates for 5s if its atleast some what decent

it doesnt matter if you dont no me i need a song that is not a love song and could somehow relate to a teenage girls life

anything will work im desperate

Welcome to my life by Simple Plan

Hope I helped! ♥ Erin

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