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Q: I am writing a short story and it involves someone who stole from a store at the mall. So I wanted to ask some people anonymously:

Have you ever stolen something? Why? What was the motivation behind it? And how did you feel after you did it?

Thank you so much!
I only recall stealing a crayon from the crayon box in kindergarden. Because I wanted it and it was the only one that had to repeated copies. I don't think I regret it but it didn't motivate me to steal at all afterwards though. I think I learned that you can get away with it, but it doesn't mean that you have to do it.

I know this girl who shoplifts jeans from the mall. I guess she has a point- they're at least $35for a pair and that is for one day - what else will you wear for the rest of the week? But she shouldn't because I view her in a completely different way now. Why not get a job? She came back this year with new nice extensions and I just don't know what to think anymore.

Your actions are individually your choice. Only you can truly decide.

Q: I know I'm crazy! :P

I was thinking about chips the other day and how they're made. They're just like seasoned, salted, dehydrated potato slices, right? So, can I make those at home some way or do the factories do something special? I was thinking it would be so cool to make your own chips and I'd LOVE do to that if anybody knows how...

THANKS ADVICENATORS!
Of ocurse! If you watch the Food Network, they make it at home all the time!

You just peel, slice with a peeler, place on a baking sheet, and season! Thsi way, it's mroe nutritious and you can control how much salt, etc you're putting.

Here's an easy link to show you how:
http://www.ehow.com/how_4469210_home-made-potato-chips.html

Good luck!

Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!
It really depends exactly on what the content is that he posted on that Facebook group. Maybe he really loves your relationship and wants to share some things with other people (bragging rights), but felt embarrassed when you found out (is he an outgoing type that talks about his feelings freely?).

OR did it have very inappropriate content that you and he should SOLELY know of?

Either way, my answer remains the same. Relationships are built on trust. if he's hiding something from you, then I'm sorry but there'll be more things he'll be hiding from you as the relationship progresses.

Tired of giving him chances? YOU take on the authority and confront HIM about it and he better give you an answer or else!

I can’t tell you whether to stay with him or not, but you need to solve the Facebook problem first and THEN go on from there.

I hope things go well!

Q: alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :)
Personality I wouldn't go for that trend. You wouldn't believe how many people make up lies to fit with the crowd but don't actually go along with it. I would say you lying about it is better than doing it. What if you got pregnant while trying to fit in? You'll fit OUT!

And the number one thing I tell others is: if you're too embarrassed to go buy a condom on your own, then you're not ready for sex.

Q:
Everyone hates me and makes fun of me. I hate going to school even tho I make good grades. I have no friends and everyone uses me. My acne is ruining my life. I don't like looking in the mirror because I think Im so ugly. I have scars and red bumps on my face from acne. I feel Like i have the worse acne ever. I have never seen a person with worse acne than me. I need a quick way to get rid of my acne. I'm nice to people and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I haven't done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I don't give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, this year I hated my first 2 classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Ive tried neutrogena, Pro Active, clininque, putting egg on my face and all kinds of masks and a lot more. none of it works. My doctor says its hard to find a dermatologist that will take my insurance and they cant find me one. Its embarrassing that I have to go to school with a huge red bump on my face and pp staring and laughing. Im going to be a junior next year and I dont want to be miserable again. I trie to cover my face with make up and it does nothing and sometimes it makes it look worse :'(.
YOU are an absolute sweety! I know what you mean; sex ed, etc, they always tell you that it's normal for teenagers to have acne but in high school, I swear it was just me and one guy and occasionally people will have ONE zit and it'll disappear the next day!

I know it's really hard and that your self esteem may be lowered and possible anxiety increased because every time you have a presentation, it feels as if people are starring at your acne and not at the presentation you worked so hard to get a perfect mark on.

I even volunteer at the hospital and a LONG time ago, when it was time for me to leave, I heard someone call me pimple face and I can't honestly tell you how long I cried when I got home.

Remember though, karma always comes back. My relative always called me ugly and stuff because of my bad acne. They always tried to give ME tips and asked if I washed my hands and stuff. DUH! I hated how such a clean freak I was, yet they talked to me as if I'm some dirty person just because the things on my face weren't pretty. But now my face is clear (stress pimples hear and there) and guess what? They're facing their own troubles and my cousin is now facing really bad acne in her 20s and is constantly whining to me and asking for tips since I'm now "the master".

Easier said than done, but you've got to let your personality get through. Don't know your real personality because you've been feeling so bad about yourself? Well, it's time to really get to know yourself and then take it one step at a time, like smiling once at somebody for one day, or saying hi, etc. Maybe people don't know anything about you, and that's what kinds of pushes them away from you (I know that some of my friends have a fear of clowns because they don't know what clowns are ACTUALLY thinking).

I had a classmate that wasn't my friend but we talked more casually than I do with others and she said that I'm so quiet and sometimes it intimidates people or that it seems like I want to be left alone. I definitely did not know that I had that coming from me.

Sensitivity is such a big issue and it still continues to be, and it will be a big issue for me later on in the medical field. I just wanted to let you know that in high school, there are a lot of idiots that take your things simply because they're too dumb to get some themselves and because they know that you won't mind (or do mind but do not seem to show it). You've got to take some and loose some.

It was hard for me, but now I've come up with a limit, like who I'd actually act like a bitch to. If someone takes my pencil, I remind them to return it. Sometimes they’ll try to "forget" so they can use it for the whole day, but if I remember before class is over, I'll ask them for it back (they didn't even say thank you!). If I forgot to remind them and they do not give it back as part of their responsibility, I simply say no next time and tell them the next time they ask that they should have had one themselves. And I've never heard anyone call me a bitch but if those guys did, of course I'd care but after a while, probably not because if you think about it, you're working your butt off and what are HEY doing? Nothing.

Maybe someday, they'll be working for YOU!

School honestly sucks and doesn't give you the real impression on life. When kids cheat, they're throwing away their chance to gain knowledge and yours is only increasing. One of my teacher actually asks us to raise our hand if anyone ever copied off of us during a test before or if we ever saw people cheating during a test. A lot of people raised their hands. When asked who reported it, no one raised their hands. That's the ironic thing about high school. You know it's wrong but you don’t' act on it. That's something we all need to work on when later on becoming a parent or a Good Samaritan.

So hear is what I've learned. I actually had a gigantic pimple right on my nose in grade 4, and the acne bloomed in grade 5. In grade 4, I caked my nose with makeup to hide that one pimple, which I think made it worse because I would reapply and not even wipe off the first alter in the first place, which probably helped the clogging and later on triggered the acne. Neutrogena sucked BIG TIME and it burned so no way was I going to use Pro Active. I've been on Differin Top 0.1% since grade 4 and I don't know if that's the reason it worked (my doctor continued to tell me to use it even though my acne was getting worse...strange I know. What's with him promoting this product so much?) but it's eventually gone away now. It could also be my use of birth control for the acne too. So I guess to shorten it up, your face may not be in great shape right now, but don't try to hide it. Try to let it shine the best it can (no make up, but always apply a moiurizer+sunscreen! I use Olay Complete All Day Moisturizer with SPF 15, but if you're staying outside for more than 10-15mins, I suggest you put something on with a much higher SPF). Worry about something else and let it take care of it itself.

High school sucks but I always hear about how great university is. Join clubs and sports for YOUR interest, because college and universities look for that stuff and they will not take the excuse that your acne has affected your life because of it (even though it's true). You've got only one chance with certain things. Done let your acne get in the way.

So keep your head up, and continuing standing strong. Being hurt is part of growing. Growing is painful but HEALING is growing. You've got to let it go (counselling? Diary?) because they don't know that you have a grudge on them and when you hate on them, the only person who's getting hurt is you.

If you want to talk, simply ask for my email when you ask me another question on my profile. I hope this really helps you!

Q: 14-female

so the other week i had a dream i was pregnant and i obviously wasnt cause it was a drea but ever since then i cant stop thinking about being pregnant an sometimes i tend to sick pillows up my jumper to see how it feels to have a baby bump. is this normal i dont know what to do help ?
I'd say it's very normal. Your maternal instincts are developing. Have you gotten your period yet? maybe it's a sign that it's coming.

Q: i have a cow lick in my bangs wat are some things that i can do to smoothe it out or fix it,
You can always rub some sculpting wax in it =] hope this helps!

Q:
How do you convert a picture that you edited or made in Adobe into JPG format?
If you're saving it, Click on File > Save As > and a box will pop up.

Under "File name", it should say "Format". Just click on the scroll down arrow and click on JPEG. Then, click the "Save" button =]

Or if you already saved it but want to change it into a JPEG format, open it up on Adobe and then click on File > Save As and continue from what I instructed and save, either replacing it or as a different file.

Hope this helped!

Q: Did anyone watch the episode when Light was in confinement or whatever? Well, I was following everything that happened, that is, until I wasn't paying attention for like 3 sec, then I missed something. Did Light say something to Ryuk? Didn't he say "it's time to get rid of it."? (he was talking about the Death Note) What happened after that? I know what happened to Misa, she lost ownership of the Death Note. Did that happen to Light too? Where did Ryuk go? Where did the group of Yotsuba people come from? It's like they popped up outta nowhere in the story. If Light lost ownership of the Death Note, that means he lost all the memories of it too? (I know it's part of his "plan", but I don't get how he plans to get the Death Note back again, even though he won't remember anything... I think) Anyway, if anyone can tell me what happened in that episode, and what is going on after that, that would be greattt! Or websites would be fine, but please, don't spoil anything :|...... I'd like to know what's going on, and actually get it... Thanks!
Ok well in a flashback in the forest, Light was with Rem and Ryuk. Light created this plan that will save Misa and him. He made Misa forget her memories and loose ownership of the Death Note to knock L's trail off. Then he told Ryuk that when he said..something in the lines of "I must give away", he will give up his ownship of his Death note. Rem must find someone else to give the Death note to someone very powerful, which explains the story of the Yotsuba.

So yes, I watched the whole series and the creator was a genius! Yes, Light lost his memories but it was all his plan and will be revieled during the next eposodes. I can't really give anything away or else everything will be given away. Light's just taking his chances to save two people and trying to hit two birds with one stone.

Q: does any1 kno any hip hop or r&b songs in vietnamese???
and can some1 translate dis for me??

[Ưng Đại Vệ]
Giờ đây trong lòng em, còn yêu anh nhiều không, bời vì bên cạnh em luôn có ai kia cười đùa.
Làm sao không giận đây, làm sao im lặng đây, làm sao không hờn ghen khi đã yêu nhau.
Em ơi anh luôn yêu em luôn chờ mong em bao đêm có những lúc vì trong lòng quá ghen.
Vì thấy em cười vui đùa cùng ai đó.
Em ơi anh luôn đa nghi hay là quên anh luôn đi cho bao nhiêu nổi muộn phiền xoá đi để cả hai không khổ đau em nhé ...
Vậy nghe em, mình sẽ xa nhau 1 thời gian, mình sẽ yêu thêm một người nữa em nhé để chứng minh rằng mình yêu ai ...
Giờ đây trong lòng em, còn yêu anh nhiều không, bời vì bên cạnh em luôn có ai kia cười đùa.
Làm sao không giận đây, làm sao im lặng đây, làm sao không hờn ghen khi đã yêu.
Vì sao ta lại yêu, một khi yêu là ghen, vì sao không thể yêu khi đã thứ tha cho nhau. Rồi khi cơn mộng tan, rồi khi con giận qua, thật lòng anh chỉ muốn nói anh nhớ em nhiều...

[Lil' Knight]
Anh nhớ em nhiều bóng dáng thiết tha yêu kiều
Mình say đắm trong tình yêu thật tuyệt diệu
Khi em nhìn anh thật ngọt ngào
Khi em hôn anh vòng tay trao
Khi em bên anh phút giây tình yêu thăng hoa
Hát cho em nghe muôn vàn khúc ca em biết không
Khoảnh khắc đó, kỷ niệm đó khắc sâu trong anh bao tháng ngày hoài mong
Giờ đây trong lòng em còn yêu anh nhiều không
Làm sao cho vơi hết đi hờn ghen trong lòng
Để vơi đi nỗi nhớ em cô đơn căn phòng trống không
Em vui bên ai, đôi chân miệt mài cố gắng tìm kiếm dù vẫn biết chỉ là hoài
Khi một mai thiếu vắng em anh không thể sống sao em không thứ tha
Bao nhiêu hơn ghen bỏ qua, tìm về hạnh phúc đôi ta, tình yêu chắp cánh bay xa.

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THANKS!!!!!!!!
Most of it was translated by my buddy Cuong!♥:

Right now in your heart, do you still love me much, because next to you always have someone to smile with.
How can I not mad, how can I keep quiet, how I’m not jealous when I’m love you
Baby girl, I will love and wait for you every night, sometime my heart is jealous because seeing you smile with someone else
Baby, I’m always jealous why don’t you forget me erase all memories so 2 of us won’t get hurt.
That’s it, we will separate for a moment of time, we will love one more person to prove we love someone
Right now in your heart, do you still love me much, because next to you always have someone to smile with.
How can I’m not mad, how can I keep quiet, how I’m not jealous when I’m love you
Baby girl, I will love and wait for you every night, sometime my heart is jealous because seeing you smile with someone else
Why we love? Once we love we jealous, why cant we love once we forgive each other, when the illusion gone, when the anger gone, deep down I want to say I miss you lot


(lil knight)
I miss you a lot body of a goddess
We drunk in the our perfect romance
When you look at me so sweet
When you kiss me in your arm
Khi em bên anh phút giây tình yêu thăng hoa
Hát cho em nghe muôn vàn khúc ca em biết không
Khoảnh khắc đó, kỷ niệm đó khắc sâu trong anh bao tháng ngày hoài mong
Giờ đây trong lòng em còn yêu anh nhiều không
Làm sao cho vơi hết đi hờn ghen trong lòng
Để vơi đi nỗi nhớ em cô đơn căn phòng trống không
Em vui bên ai, đôi chân miệt mài cố gắng tìm kiếm dù vẫn biết chỉ là hoài
Khi một mai thiếu vắng em anh không thể sống sao em không thứ tha
Bao nhiêu hơn ghen bỏ qua, tìm về hạnh phúc đôi ta, tình yêu chắp cánh bay xa.

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Hope this helped you a lot!

Q: Hey, i being in love with this girl for about 2 years.
she is the one i really love the most, but i dont know why, one day, she told me that we isnt meant for each other. she told me that she doesnt love me anymore. but i know deep inside she do, i never being this sad in my life before, and i want to ask, is there anyway i can do to forget about this pain?
When a girl deals with this pain, she stuffs herself while watching romance movies or take it out on things. You just have to move on, there's other fish in the sea, believe me ;)

Good Luck!

Q: So I saw this music video and I thought that it was really cool but I don't know the name of the song or the artist. If you've ever seen any music video like the one I'm about to describe please tell me the name of the song and the artist.
The video starts off and this girl is riding a bike down the middle of a street at night, she has kinda emo-ish hair. Then 4 or 6 guys on bikes come out behind her, they have like animal costume heads on. They clap and stuff and then they go back behind her. That happens a couple of times and then the guys start doing stunts. That's all I remember. Sorry that I don't have that much information. Thanks for trying to help.
There was only one video in my head when i read your description. This probably isn't it but is it Human by Skye Sweetnam?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5uMJmc2Yo4

Q: was the the juce named Tropicana called that cause it was made in the tropics? i looked for it but i cant find it. lol its extra credit in my class cause we were wondering about that.

mm that juice was tastey. now im thirsty.
There's a naming rights section in thsi article and this tells you a lot about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tropicana_Products

=] Hope this helps!

=P I just had a glass of it!

Q: I met this guy at my dads friends party. i liked him ever sense i saw him he was soo cute but i didnt REALLY like him till he was talking to my dads friends son and i saw his personality, a bit. then we started talking and i liked him RIGHT away. soon he had to leave but i asked for his number and he asked for mine. soo long story short whenever i talked to him from then it allways made me soo happy and in such a good mood he would waste his time talking to me. but you know i was allways cool about it i never called him to much or text him to much just like once in three days or whatevr cause i didnt want to get annoying. but i felt annoying when he didnt talk to me for a long while. so i decided to lay off about a week l8tr without talking to him i felt so bad i accualy screwed it up with this guy [i was THAT insucure]and accualy cried overnight. worst night ever over me not even talking to him! then i called him mad i thought i DONT deserve this! im gonna call him and figger out what the heck is going on cause he never calls me back, imagine that he didnt pick up. the next day though he texted me, and we talked and i was happy. the day after that i called and we talked. then stopped till i texted him a few days l8tr. now a few daays ago i talked to him and as allways i felt great talking to him, we talked about everything, and his friend was there too and he accualy flirted with me then . ALOT. he would tell me i was hott and whatnot and that he wanted to see me, stuff like that . i asked him why he hasnt returned my calls. his friend yelled out CAUSE HES LAZY! and he laughed on that. afew days later called again, you get the picture. he even texted me night sweetie one time. i feel it keeps going over and over he have a GREAT time talking then he dissapears on me. he gets me all happy but know later i will get in a bad mood feeling i did somthing wrong cause he never returns texts. i dont know, is he just not into me or not much of a talker or what ? i like him soo much and think of him every day. he seems into me on the phone but after that nothing. but hey if he says hell call me that night in a few he will that must count for somthing. please advice !
Warning: I am not responsible to anything bad happens because I am not one with romance >.<

OMG that's so cute xD

I think he's into you but check really well if he's a pervert or flirts with a lot of girls, you can't be sure; it's a guy of course so you have to be extra careful.

He could be like his true self on the phone (texting) but maybe he's really shy about how he acts outside in public (because that's the same with me).

I think the problem here is that you're both too scared to talk to each other that much in public and have eye contact. It's easier on text message right? That's why when you stopped calling, he doesn't phone back until you call or if he has the guts to start calling first.

I think that you're over-exaggerating this about the texting and responding. And maybe for sometimes why he doesn't respond, yeah, maybe he's friend's right, maybe he is busy.

It's just like some people these days. Students are working so hard they don't have time to play on the computer anymore or go on msn, same thing.

I think it can work out, these things don't happen overnight.

Good luck and hoped I helped!

Q: If you cut, will you go to hell? or can you ask God to forgive you?
I seriously don't think you'll go to hell. It's commiting suicide that will make you go to hell, you're not dead yet.

God forgives everyone =]

Q: how do you add color to a sucker if you have a black&white picture.
can you do it with using,
"Microsoft Picture It! Photo 2002"
it came with our computer, as you can tell, in 2002.
i have a picture thats black and white and i wanted to add color to a sucker or my eyes?
can i do it with this?

or do i hafe to get that Adobe Photoshop?!
ah helpp i dont know.
I never heard of the program you said but I have Adobe Photoshop.

What you would do is select the Sucker around with the "Eclipse" or CIRCLE tool.

Use the Gradient or Fill Tool and select a colour.

Change the MODE to COLOUR instead of NORMAL.

And you're done =]

Hope I helped. If you REALLY want it but you are unable to with your program, I could do it for you.

Q: how do i get on myspace from school? it's blocked and everything but i want to get on from the library. xD please help.
I suggest you control yourself there. If some lady is in a bad mood that day and you're caught using it, you might get your login removed.

It's better to NOT go on myspace at school and still be able to use the school computer for school work and such then getting your computer account deleted or get suspended.

I'm sure you already go on enough at home so don't go crazy.

Q: 13/F

Yes, I want boxers for beddy time! I can't find a site with the right ones. This is gonna sound probably stupdi and weird, but I want PJ pants and boxers with Naruto on them. Like, the characters and stuff! Especially, Itachi ones, so could somebody help me find a site with these items? And maybe a site with Itachi sweaters? Thank you, un!!!!!!!

--Izzy Uchiha! ^/_\^

p.s you may call me weirdo, if you like either way, I'm ok with that, un!!!!
OMG LMFAO! I'm a huge anime fan but even I wouldn't go ALL that way LOL GOOD FOR YOU!

You could search it up on the internet if anyone is selling it. I high doubt it..but there's machines that can put a picture you want on clothing. I don't know where they are though..hope I helped

Q: i've been using certain dri for like a month already and i've been putting it on every night.
but it's not really working. you can still see my sweat stains the next day...is there something i'm doing wrong?
i apply it at night but it says that i should only do a few strokes..like how many strokes is that?
and it's really really ichy so i scratch my underarms does that affect it in any way?

please help
There's nothing wrong. It just doesn't work and you need to talk to your doctor about using something else.

Few strokes is prob 3 but hey how much you need on is your choice, unless it's like dripping off your arm or something, then that's way too much.

Try NOT to scratch your underarms. I understand that it must be really itchy because it's closing your pores in your armpits.

I don't think this could effect it unless you scratched it while it's still wet and didn't dry yet.

Good luck!

Q: okay so i'm getting ceramic braces in like 3 weeks..and my mom was telling me theres a chance i will have to wear the headgear/neckgear thing...will i?? i know some people get to choose if they want to wear it at day or night..
but will i have to wear it in the day like during school?
I don't think I ever heard of head gear during the day, that's just stupid.

Head gear are for people with an over bite, if it's even a line over a certain number say, 5cm, then you have to wear one.

I had to wear it once. ONLY for at home and while you're sleeping.

If you wore it during school that would be so bad and if you play sports with it on you'd have one painful face right now.

If you got anymore questions feel free to ask =] Hope this helped!

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After a two year hiatus I am back! I've been on this site since 2006 and things have changed far more greatly since my bright days in my younger years. I've battled with anxiety and depression and I've gotten through it. My life is merely a survival story itself and now I simply want to help others, being grateful for everything I have and simply because I CAN.

Hello you can call me Hitomi^-^
Being a nurse is my passion so feel free to ask me anything and I will try my best

I'll answer every question personally given to me, if you're serious about it.

I am of faith but will not preach in my answers unless the person who is asking for advice is very obvious of being of faith.

Sometimes it is not about getting through the obstacle, but to stay positive within it. Sometimes you are placed somewhere dark so that you can shine to others even brighter!

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