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Really bad acne
Everyone hates me and makes fun of me. I hate going to school even tho I make good grades. I have no friends and everyone uses me. My acne is ruining my life. I don't like looking in the mirror because I think Im so ugly. I have scars and red bumps on my face from acne. I feel Like i have the worse acne ever. I have never seen a person with worse acne than me. I need a quick way to get rid of my acne. I'm nice to people and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I haven't done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I don't give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, this year I hated my first 2 classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Ive tried neutrogena, Pro Active, clininque, putting egg on my face and all kinds of masks and a lot more. none of it works. My doctor says its hard to find a dermatologist that will take my insurance and they cant find me one. Its embarrassing that I have to go to school with a huge red bump on my face and pp staring and laughing. Im going to be a junior next year and I dont want to be miserable again. I trie to cover my face with make up and it does nothing and sometimes it makes it look worse :'(.
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I know how you feel - I had bad acne during 8th and 9th grade. I mostly grew out of it, but at age 21, I still get acne regularly, but no where near as badly. In Jr. High, I was prescribed a medication that comes as either a liquid you drink or a pill, Erythromycin. But, I didn't take it for very long because it gave me bad stomach aches, but it doesn't do that to everyone. It works really well, takes a while to take effect though. A friend of mine takes birth control to maintain her skin, it works really well for her, but again, takes a while to start working, and once you stop taking it, it gets pretty bad again. There's also a vaccination you can get that fights the acne causing bacteria, I haven't heard much about it though.
Have you tried tanning beds? Anything that can dry out your skin will help a lot, and tanning will do that. Also, straight up 100% strong rubbing alcohol - it burns, but it dries up your skin and kills bacteria. Also Witch Hazel, even hydrogen peroxide helps.
And don't wear foundation or powder or anything, that will only rub bacteria into your pores and make acne worse. Your skin needs to heal, so don't put anything on your face that doesn't help dry out your skin.
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rub some toothpaste on your face
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Gosh, I'm so sorry that people are so abusive of you!!! It's hard, because I was the same person you are. Throughout my whole life, I let people step all over me, I could never say no, and that led me to go through some horrible events in life. I wish I could just tell you "Stand up for yourself!", and that you'd do it, but it doesn't work that way. Me and you are very similar, I have horrible self esteem issues about my weight and my facial features, and I have always felt like everyone has judged me because of my weight, not because of the person I am on the inside. I just want you to know, that your HS may be like hell, but hopefully, college will be easier. In my opinion, the only reason girls pick on other girls is because they want to feel powerful, superior, and want to fit in with the cool people, so they'll do whatever to feel cooler. You shouldn't listen to all these people who make fun of you. I'm extremely sensitive too, but I always looked the other way, pretended like I didn't hear anything, and went about my day. It takes a toll on you, because your self esteem does suffer. I'm not sure if your parents would transfer you to another school, but that would be nice also. Don't call yourself ugly, because I bet you if you sent me a picture of yourself, I would say you're pretty. Plus, everyone has a different perspective of what's beautiful and what isn't. Many people would say you need to see a psychologist for your self esteem issues and whatnot, but you have to start with yourself. By not putting yourself down. Use your talents to shine. I used to write poetry since middle school, all the way to college, and that's what helped me through my bad times. Do you sing, write, paint, etc? Use it :)
DON'T let ANYONE use you anymore :/ Say NO. Do whatever it takes. It's not fair how these hypocrites want to be your friends when they need or want something, but will turn around and talk about you. Try and eat from the inside of your bookbag, only take enough school supllies for YOU. Extras? Keep em somewhere no one can ever see them. These kids see you as a HUGE target, which is why they are always after you. They see you as a supply store, deli, and a way to feel better about THEMSELVES.
Makeup will ruin your face, please don't use it! Eyeliner, mascara, lip gloos okay that's fine. But because you have severe acne, I wouldn't suggest using makeup. Hell, I don't even use a ton of makeup lol! Go on google, type in where you live, and check to see if there are any support groups you can join. You can make friends with people who know how you feel, and won't ever judge you based on your looks. That's just petty. I really hope HS goes quickly for you, and that the best years of life may come to you. Good luck, and if you ever need someone to talk to, you can count on me too :D
Uniq
P.S.- I'm sorry I couldn't help you with the acne part of your question, and that my answer is quite long lol.
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YOU are an absolute sweety! I know what you mean; sex ed, etc, they always tell you that it's normal for teenagers to have acne but in high school, I swear it was just me and one guy and occasionally people will have ONE zit and it'll disappear the next day!
I know it's really hard and that your self esteem may be lowered and possible anxiety increased because every time you have a presentation, it feels as if people are starring at your acne and not at the presentation you worked so hard to get a perfect mark on.
I even volunteer at the hospital and a LONG time ago, when it was time for me to leave, I heard someone call me pimple face and I can't honestly tell you how long I cried when I got home.
Remember though, karma always comes back. My relative always called me ugly and stuff because of my bad acne. They always tried to give ME tips and asked if I washed my hands and stuff. DUH! I hated how such a clean freak I was, yet they talked to me as if I'm some dirty person just because the things on my face weren't pretty. But now my face is clear (stress pimples hear and there) and guess what? They're facing their own troubles and my cousin is now facing really bad acne in her 20s and is constantly whining to me and asking for tips since I'm now "the master".
Easier said than done, but you've got to let your personality get through. Don't know your real personality because you've been feeling so bad about yourself? Well, it's time to really get to know yourself and then take it one step at a time, like smiling once at somebody for one day, or saying hi, etc. Maybe people don't know anything about you, and that's what kinds of pushes them away from you (I know that some of my friends have a fear of clowns because they don't know what clowns are ACTUALLY thinking).
I had a classmate that wasn't my friend but we talked more casually than I do with others and she said that I'm so quiet and sometimes it intimidates people or that it seems like I want to be left alone. I definitely did not know that I had that coming from me.
Sensitivity is such a big issue and it still continues to be, and it will be a big issue for me later on in the medical field. I just wanted to let you know that in high school, there are a lot of idiots that take your things simply because they're too dumb to get some themselves and because they know that you won't mind (or do mind but do not seem to show it). You've got to take some and loose some.
It was hard for me, but now I've come up with a limit, like who I'd actually act like a bitch to. If someone takes my pencil, I remind them to return it. Sometimes they’ll try to "forget" so they can use it for the whole day, but if I remember before class is over, I'll ask them for it back (they didn't even say thank you!). If I forgot to remind them and they do not give it back as part of their responsibility, I simply say no next time and tell them the next time they ask that they should have had one themselves. And I've never heard anyone call me a bitch but if those guys did, of course I'd care but after a while, probably not because if you think about it, you're working your butt off and what are HEY doing? Nothing.
Maybe someday, they'll be working for YOU!
School honestly sucks and doesn't give you the real impression on life. When kids cheat, they're throwing away their chance to gain knowledge and yours is only increasing. One of my teacher actually asks us to raise our hand if anyone ever copied off of us during a test before or if we ever saw people cheating during a test. A lot of people raised their hands. When asked who reported it, no one raised their hands. That's the ironic thing about high school. You know it's wrong but you don’t' act on it. That's something we all need to work on when later on becoming a parent or a Good Samaritan.
So hear is what I've learned. I actually had a gigantic pimple right on my nose in grade 4, and the acne bloomed in grade 5. In grade 4, I caked my nose with makeup to hide that one pimple, which I think made it worse because I would reapply and not even wipe off the first alter in the first place, which probably helped the clogging and later on triggered the acne. Neutrogena sucked BIG TIME and it burned so no way was I going to use Pro Active. I've been on Differin Top 0.1% since grade 4 and I don't know if that's the reason it worked (my doctor continued to tell me to use it even though my acne was getting worse...strange I know. What's with him promoting this product so much?) but it's eventually gone away now. It could also be my use of birth control for the acne too. So I guess to shorten it up, your face may not be in great shape right now, but don't try to hide it. Try to let it shine the best it can (no make up, but always apply a moiurizer+sunscreen! I use Olay Complete All Day Moisturizer with SPF 15, but if you're staying outside for more than 10-15mins, I suggest you put something on with a much higher SPF). Worry about something else and let it take care of it itself.
High school sucks but I always hear about how great university is. Join clubs and sports for YOUR interest, because college and universities look for that stuff and they will not take the excuse that your acne has affected your life because of it (even though it's true). You've got only one chance with certain things. Done let your acne get in the way.
So keep your head up, and continuing standing strong. Being hurt is part of growing. Growing is painful but HEALING is growing. You've got to let it go (counselling? Diary?) because they don't know that you have a grudge on them and when you hate on them, the only person who's getting hurt is you.
If you want to talk, simply ask for my email when you ask me another question on my profile. I hope this really helps you!
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