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Septate Hymen
I recently (as in an hour ago) discovered a have a septate hymen. I would like to get it remove to prevent it ripping durig sex and to make using tampons easier (for 2-3 days I have to use super and it's very painful to remove it.) My question is, how do I talk to my mom about it?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Being a male I cannot talk directly to your problem; what I can talk about with some degree of authority, given my age, is how to talk to your mom.
Keep in mind one thing about parents; we have all gone through what you are going through, maybe not your exact problem but something very similar. When it comes to life experiences there is very little new in this world and explains why some parents are more strict than others. They have been there and want to prevent you from suffering whatever they may have suffered. This may be a little hard to understand but take it at face value and understand your parents are trying to protect you.
This is also the main reason children fear talking to their parents. Never be afraid to talk with your parent especially about medical issues. Never take medication that is not prescribed for you because your friend had similar symptoms and her doctor gave her this medication. While your symptoms may be the same the diagnosis could be very different and the medication could do more harm than good.
For the problem you have written about I would suggest you use straight talk, although I would leave out the ripping during sex part, I would suggest you tell her the rest. Tell mom you would like to see a Gynecologist to have the problem corrected. Mom could counter with you switching to pads, in which case you can counter with that now that you are having your periods you should be seeing a Gynecologist annually anyway. If for some reason you find it embarrassing to talk with your mother about this, and you should not be embarrassed as this is a natural part of life, then just tell mom you think it is time you saw a Gynecologist now that your periods are happening and go from there.
Straight talk is the best way to handle anything. There may be consequences for being truthful but those consequences’ are far less painful then when you try to deceive. Just remember parents were once teenager themselves and there is not very much we haven’t experienced or seen ourselves.
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