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HEY THIS IS HAILEY! I AM 13 AND I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE. I'M ALSO ON THE BETA CLUB, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER HAD STRAIGHT A'S; I GUESS THEY JUST LIKED ME. I HAVE 1DOG, 2CATS, AND 1PARAKEET. I LOVE TO GIVE ADVICE BUT IF I DONT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, OR WHAT U WROTE, THEN U JUST MIGHT HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE ELSE. NOW U KNOW A LITTLE BOUT ME, SO START ASKING AWAY!
~~~~~~~~~HAILEY~~~~~~~~~~

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Why when a 17 year old says she has fallen for a older guy ( over 20 ). People say go for it or wait till your 18?

But if a older Guy ( over 20 ) Said i fallen for a 17 year old everyone says grow up & date someone your own age?

I think everyone kind of thinks that anyone younger than they are are immature, anyone older are either cool or totally rude. I think this because last year I was a 7th grader and I kind of envied the 8th graders near our classrooms and liked almost all of my classmates. Now I'm an 8th grader and the 7th graders are soooo immature, they're just little monsters.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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what is the beta club? and what does it do

I'm not 100% sure because I haven't yet had that class. But from what I learned from the school site members on the beta club will meet every second wednesday on each month and talk about the fundraisers and projects they will have. To get on the beta club you have to have straight A's; I didn't last year. They can throw you out of beta club if you haven't been making service points, have a certain amount of unexcused absences, or if you have bad behavior.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~
P.S.
Being on the beta club looks good on your school record.

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what does the school do if they found out that you skipped a class or something??

Matters what you did or are planning on doing. Last year I skipped gym at least for 8days in a row, and we only have gym 2 or 3 times a week. But we were acting like morons because of course the cameras caught us and we had gym again the next nine weeks. So I'd say they probably check with the office to see if you were checked out, then call home, and if they say you should still be at school you'll probably have ISS.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~
P.S.
If they catch you it will probably go on your permanent record. Which isn't a problem for me cause I'm on the beta club, I don't know how. But if you are caught, so what?

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I'm moving from a really small school to a huge public middle school (7th grade) and i am so worried about not knowing anyone. and cliques will have already been formed. Plus i have acne do you think that will lessen my chances of making friends?

Matters who you are trying to make friends with. People who care about who they are seen with most likely will ignore you. People who don't care will help you and be your friend. If you want to be friends with the second type of person just say hi to someone and introduce yourself (it would help if they have a cool bag or shoes ask them where they got it, or ask where so-and-so's room is).
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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I want just wondering what everyone notices first in both the opposite and same sex. I want to know what to spend more time on so people will notice me. I don't want to say if I'm male or female because I want to know what both sides think. Thanks.

When I look at a guy the first think I take notice of is his face. First I look at his hair to calculate the last time he washed it. Then the eyebrows, does he shave them (gross)? Are his eyebrows bushy, small, or barely there? Next I look around his eyes and then at them. I look to see if he wears eyeliner (makeup is for girls), then I look at his eyes (are they misterious, sad, mad, or happy?). Finally I look at his chin and cheeks (does he have dimples, does his chin go outward or lie flat?)
I know you didn't ask but the second thing I notice is his smell. Did he use deodorant (hopefully so)? Does he use cologne?
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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im going in to my sophmore year and we got our schedules yesterday. last year i got in a big fight w/ one of my best guy friends, he blocked me on aim and swore hed never speak to me again (the fight was over something stupid that makes absolutely no sense so im not really mad at him) anyways, i was talking to some of my friends and they told me that hes in my chemestry class. what do i do? i have about 3 other friends that i kno of in that class so its not like ill be forced to speak to him but do you think i should say anything to him? or just let him stay mad at me. i hate that we arent talking weve known each other since 6th grade! thanks so much

Just say sorry to him before class starts, that way he can think. Sometimes it's best just to say sorry, even if it was over something stupid.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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I really want boys to find me attractive.On myspace no boys ever leave me any picture comments, but they leave all of my friends comments even if they arn't really all that attractive. I have the personality, but I just need help finding a look for me. I want boys to notice me, and actually say I'm pretty. I'm thinking about changing my hair color. I'm a brunette right now, so I'm probably going to be a blonde. I'm prep and wear A&f and Hollister because I like the store so please no lectures. I need you guys to help my find a new look. I want to change my hair, (any popular hair styles would be appricated.) I want to wear make up that will bring out my features, like what kind of make up would make my eyes stand out more and appear bigger? I just want boys to actually think I'm SOMEWHAT attractive for once. What kinds of clothes should I wear to make guys think I have a nice body, but not appear slutty and what colors attract attention? So basically I need help to do with my hair, make up (especially eyes and lips) clothes, overall appearence and anything else that attracts guys. Any help would be appreciated!

Why do you want to change everything for boys? Right now with what you are saying you remind me of 'Stupid Girls' by Pink. I'm not gonna help you out with anything, not because I'm mean it's because I really have no idea what you look like, but try reading cosmoGIRL!.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~
P.S.
Have you ever thought the reason boys don't talk to you is because they just don't know what to say?

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The question is simple but the answer might be abit more complex! "Is life fair"? And please no answers lile "it's as fair as you make it"!!

I was actually thinking about the same thing earlier today, we all do. And all I can say is this.. a lot of things in life aren't fair, big things AND little things. I know you don't want to hear it but life is as fair as you make it. For everything bad do something good, it doesn't matter if it's for yourself or for someone else. If it's for someone else even just a smile, a nice one not sarcastic or fake, will make their day. And more than likely it'll make yours. Sometimes just knowing that you helped someone is all you need to turn a crappy day into a good one.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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hi, im 14 and im a girl and i have been going out with this guy for almost a year, on and off, and now that we're going to be in highschool, its going to be a whole different story. this is kinda a long distance relationship and we dont hang out alot. and we are going to different highschools. and then theres this other guy. hes going to be a jr and he really likes me and stuff, and i kinda like him back but i hear from people hes a player. and i dont know what to do. do i dump my boyfriend and go out with the other guy or do i stay with my boyfriend and forget about the other guy? and i mean its kinda hard because i have toi worry about the cheating thing. and i just dont know what to do.

Do you trust you bf? I mean really trust him, we have all gone through peer pressure but do you trust him to be loyal to you? If so keep going out with him. It's hard finding a good guy.
And forget about this other guy. Players know how to get a girls attention and once they get what they want, they leave.
'How do you let the other guy know you're not right for him?' you ask; well act like you don't care about anything he says (saying things like 'Yeah' and 'Sure'). And if he asks you out say, 'Sorry, but you just aren't my type' and leave.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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well im 14 yr old female but ill be 15 in october and i painfully lost my virginty 3 days ago with a boi that i thought was 17 or 18 but turned out to be 20 or 21!! i have two problems now....

1) er'body in town keep askin me about it and sayin im bad and he really dont look like the type that would go around tellin er'body but im wonderin should i start denyin it or...what?

2)after i lost ma virginity i bleed(alot kinda) it was all on the toliet paper and dripped in the toliet but ma friend who don it twice didn't bleed like that but ma first time bleed worst them hers and it even bleeded today...and this happen 2 or 3 days ago....is sumthing wrong wit me?!? :( (and i kno its not ma period 4 sho)!! :(

Here's half of my advice=
Write normally! It's hard giving out advice if none understands a word you're saying.
My other half of advice=
I've never done it before so I don't know about the bleeding part. But I would start denying everyone when they say you are bad and ask 'What are you talking about?'.
Now here's my question. Was it safe or did you skip the condom?
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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my parents are seperatedddd and are finalizing divorce plans...i dont know who to live with when and its hard to like handle this...i know a lot of people have gone through this, so does anyone have any suggestions???!

My parents have been divorced since I was practicly born. I didn't have a say in then but I'm happy the way it turned out. (Who I ended up living with and all.) How I do it, I live with my mom but visit my dad now and then. For me I don't see him a lot of the time (which is fine by me), I think I've visited him maybe 4x tops this year. I can tell you love both of your parents 100% so maybe you could live with your dad during the year and live with your mom during the summer, or vice versa. Because it says on the papers you have to take turns being with them during the holidays, and you can always visit the other during weekends or breaks (winter break, spring break, etc.).
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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im 16/f and this guy is 14 i know age difference but i dont care..

i started to kinda like this guy before he got a girlfriend. we always flirted and he would touch me and we would wrestle and i would get on top of him but then when i find out he asked this girl out that he liked i was kinda..heartbroken

Forget him and find someone else. You don't need him. I can't tell you exactly how to get over him, everyone is different, but find another guy. Not to get your mind off him or take his place, but to make you happy and want this new guy. Someone who'll care for you, talk to you, and will never hurt you. Maybe ask this guy you want to know for help (for instance your bag strap breaks, ask if he would help), when he's done look him in the eye, smile and say thank you.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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i gess this would go in love life..well i have a boyfriend and im in 7th and hes sposed to be in 9th but he stayed back so hes in 8th and my family are fighters like gangs and stuff like that so im used to that but he is peaceful and it seen weird also hes a loner or what some people would call a loser and i think im going to get madefun of for going out with him plus hes emo and i kinda am and i cant brakeup with him becaue he has tryed to kill himself also my family would kill me if they new i was goin out with him and i feel bad that i have to keep it a secret but i really like him but my family would never alow it and so dont say talk to them im so confused i need help

Why do you care if you'll be made fun of? You like him he likes you, that's what matters. And about the parent situation.. Sometimes you have to bend the rules a little.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~
P.S. There's no reason to feel bad about lying, you're helping someone. He tried to kill himself once, but knowing you are there it'll give him something to live for.

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so i have a real big problem..i dated this boy for about a month and it was real intense but then he just dropped me out of no where and i was hurt and i never fully got over him so then about a month and a half passed and i started talkin to my old boyfriend and we started dating again and things were going great and then he all the sudden popped up again and started talkin to me again and i know i still have feelings for him and he told dat he had feelings for me still and now i don't know what to do i don't know if i should tell him how i feel about him or just try my best to get over him and try to work it out with my boyfriend? i really need some help if you give me good advice then i'll give good rates

I know it's hard but you have to get over that other guy. He hurt you once before, your current bf didn't. Chances are he'll do it again, you don't really want to feel that pain again do you? If you do you're crazy, and chances are he'll do the same thing again. So my advice is be happy with the person your with, and forget the other guy. But before you forget him have some self control over yourself, walk up to him, and ask why.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~

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hey
theres this calender contest thing they're doing at my orthodontist, where you pick a month out of a hat and you have to make a picture for that month that has to do with the month and braces. well the only reason i'm doing it is because the winners get an ipod, and i really want one lol. i picked january, and i have NO idea what the hell to draw. anybody got a good suggestion?
thanks

Well since January is in the winter it'd be cute if there were two kids, a boy and a girl, building a snowman with braces. There'd be a log cabin in the background, with smoke coming out the chimney, and trees coated with snow. The two kids will be smiling showing off their braces and rosy cheeks. On the bottom it'd say 'Brace Yourself For The Winter'.
Hope I helped, and hope you win!
~~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~
P.S.
Ipods rock.

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Is there anything that you can eat/drink/do to make your boobs bigger (that won't make you fat because I know gaining weight makes your breats larger)? Also, is there anything you can wear to make your boobs LOOK bigger, bras or certain shirts or layering or any tricks?

The only thing I can thing of, that won't cost a fortune, is padded bras. You can get them practicly anywhere.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~~~

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My name is Jay im actually a coulmnist on this website but would like advice from someone else for a change.

The thing is i moved to Spain 4 years ago and i fell in love for the first time and the girl is great. But now i have moved back to my home country and she has moved to another country and the only thing i have is her e-mail adress. But since she didnt even notice me when we were in the same place how is she supposed to talk to me on MSN or anything. I have no clue what to do, i cant get over her.

What should i do? Im 14 by the way.

You should still e-mail her, everyday if possible, just to let her know you care about her. I'm not trying to let you down but truth be told, a lot can happen with that much distance and time.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~~

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Hello,
I am a 14 year old guy...

...I realized I liked my best friend for the 3rd time around Valentine's Day. So, I told her that I liked her, and she said, "No offense, but you need to get over me,". Well, since then, we've barely said a word to each other. My friends have been trying to get her to say something to me, so she did after I gave her a birthday card. I asked her to talk about what had been going on between us, and she said, and I quote,
"Not to be a beyotch, but I just don't feel like talking to you. I don't think we have the connection we used to have,"
After that, I was so upset. I didn't know what do to... I'm still upset, as she now has a boyfriend who is a complete jerk to me. What should I do???

It sounds to me that she only ever wanted to be your friend. But then again with her bf being a jerk maybe she does like you, that could be why he acts that way toward you. Or he could just be trying to tell you to leave her alone. My advice is to give her some time and when she says sorry ask her why she did it.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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Ok. For around two weeks EVERY night I've been having bad dreams. And it sucks.
It'll either be a new dream, a dream I've had before, or a combination of a couple dreams.
I've had this one for 3 nights in a row, seriously. I walk into a room, and look in this mirror. And there is this half-dead ten-ish year old girl with a bloody KNIFE standing behind me. But when I look behind me she's not there, she's only in the mirror. Then there is this other one where I get put into a coffin and I'm buried alive.

So...
Would there be a reason that this is happening ??
What can I do ? I HATE it....

People have nightmares because something is bothering them, they watch a scary movie before they go to sleep, or they are thinking about something before falling asleep. I'd probably say watch happy movies before going to sleep and don't think of the nightmares.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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Lol well every time I try to clean my room, I start with one area, and put all the stuff I do/don't want into piles. But I end up having nowhere to put the stuff, and kind of leave it in a bigger mess than before! My room is a HUGE mess, my bin isn't big enough so I have rubbish on the floor and on my desk. I want to tidy my room, but I just.. can't lmso ;P Help?

Keep doing the piles but when you find out you don't have enough room put it in a different pile.
Piles:
*Trash
*Charity/Sell
*Keep
*Go somewhere else
The go somewhere else pile is for items that don't belong in your room. Then just run around the house putting things away.
Hope I helped.
~~~~~~~hailey~~~~~~~

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