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My name is Cordelia Moore, and I'm a twenty-one year old Air Force wife living in England. I pride myself on intellect and am interested in many subjects, including Theology, Mythology, Psychology, Philosophy, History, Geology, Culture, Geography, and Literature. I am employed with the base Arts and Crafts center, and love to express myself artisticly. Some of my favorite aesthetic mediums are photography, scrapbooking, painting, drawing, mould pouring, stain glass windows, writing, and web design. I am a cat person by nature, and have two little felines name Sage and Eris. I enjoy helping others, ask a question get a sincere answer.


Why did I choose the username Nyx? Nyx is the ancient goddess of Night in Greek mythology, daughter of Chaos. She is a primal ancestress, and mother of many deities by Her brother Erebus (Darkness). Her children are for the most part dark sorts and include the Moerae (the three Fates), Nemesis (justice and divine retribution), winged Hypnos (Sleep) and His brother Thanatos (Death), Moros (Doom), the Keres, goddesses of violent death, Oizys (Misery), the Hesperides who guarded the golden apples, Deceit, Friendship, Old Age and Eris(Discord).


She was depicted as riding in a chariot, trailing stars and bringing the night, and accompaied by Her sons Hypnos and Thanatos. She could be helpful or harmful to mankind, bringing either sleep or death. Nyx had prophetic powers, and gave them to oracles from a cave. She was older and more powerful than Zeus, who deferred to Her wishes.


advice

okay well me and my friend *alexandra have been getting close lately because ive like been giving her massages and shes been like tickling my arm and all of the sudden the other day we were sitting there and we just kissed, and now everytime i seee her we go up in my room and like make out.. the only thing is IM a girl, and im scared.. but i reallly like her and i was wondering if any of you guys know anything i could say like hey you want to play this game and have it be something that we can both enjoy some what sexually? sorry if your grossed out but im scared and i really want to satisfy her. thanks..

There's no shame in enjoying what you two shared. And I dont think you should play games to get more sexually involved. But I can understand where you might get a little scared wanting to take this a little further. Will she get angry? Is she not into girls more than make-out buddies? However there is only one way to find out. I suggest that next time you two make out, massage her breasts a little. If she returns the action, or seems to enjoy it, maybe slud your hand down her pants to finger her. Depending upon her reaction with that, just take it from there. That's how all sexual encounters should start... not by playing games.

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the guy i like on myspace posted this :

If you're a girl, title this "boyfriend application" and if you're a guy title it "girlfriend application". Repost this and see who's eligibe to be your special someone. Have fun!
Send it back if you think you could get the job... :)

BASICS:
Name:
Age:
Location:
Height:
Hair (color):
Eyes:
Piercings/tattoos:

OTHER:
1. Where would we go on dates?
2. Who are three (or more) of your favorite bands/artists?
3. Do you drink/smoke??
4. Do you like the rain?
5. If so...would you play in it with me?
6. Do you like movies?
7. If so would you stay up and watch them with me all night?
8. Could we cuddle and just fall asleep together?
9. Would you kiss my forhead
10. Do you play an instrument?
11. If so...what?
12. Would you call me right after we saw eachother to make sure i made it home alright?
13. How would you rate your hugs from 1-10?
14. Favorite body part on a girl?
15. What would you say is the best thing about yourself?
16. Do you have any reps (ie: heartbreaker, slut)?
17. Would you give me kisses just because?


What Would You do if...
I cried:
I said I liked you:
I kissed you:
I was hospitalized:
I ran away from home:
We got in a fight:
I got dumped:
I pissed you off:

What Do You Think Of My...
Personality:
Eyes:
Face:
Hair:
Clothes:
Voice:
Humor:
Choice of music:
Manners:
Friends:
Decisions:



Would You...
Be my friend:
Tell me the truth no matter what:
Buy me a birthday gift:
Lie to make me feel better:
Spread rumors about me:
Go out at 4am to get me chocolate:
Keep a secret if I told you one:
Loan me some cash:
Hold my hand:
Keep in touch:
Make me a snack:
Try and solve my problems:
Love me:
Makeout with me:
Hold me in times of need:
Ditch me:
Use me:
ask me out:
Date me:
kiss with me whenever you had the chance:
Hold me and make my problems go away:

im not sure if i should answer it or not.. he just got out of a relationship and i dont kno if i should answer it or see if he answers mine. if it helps im 14/F

Do you know this boy in person? If not, then I wouldn't even bother filling it out, because relationships online(especially for teens) seldom work out. If you do know him in person, then I would say give it a shot... I mean, what is there to loose?
[EDIT] There should be no ackward vibe between you two... especially if he's putting that 'application form' on his xanga. And clearly he is ready for another relationship if he's posting this as well.

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my cat is breathing hard and his mouth is partly open. and hes just lying on his side a lot! he went into the bathroom and just layed there under the sink for a long time. is he dying? or is it because of the hot weather? When my hamster was dying, she was just lying around and breathing hard. please answer imidiatly. i love my cat.

When felines get over worked, or extremely hot they pant, just like dogs do. I've seen it many times after I've played with my cats(getting them to run after a string to fast too long), or when it's really hot in the house. They are just out of breath or finding it hard to breath at these times, and need to pant to get enough oxygen. Now, it isn't like regular dog panting with their toung hanging all the way out flopping around... but sometimes their little toungs do stick out and curl upwards a little.

By the sounds of it, your cat is just extremely hot... they like to lay on tiles, and glass when it's hot because those surfaces are much cooler than carpet or blankets. Make sure your cat has plenty of cool water, perhaps get some fans going in your house if you don't have AC.

And keep an eye on him. If his behavior changes dramatically(like if he has a hard time using the potty box, or if he seems to be experiencing pain when walking, or when you pick him up) call the vet right away and explain the situations to them. When I lost my little girl she would only move five feet before laying down again. She would whine and cry in pain. And whenever I picked her up she would cry. Cats are like children to us... we don't ever want to see them in pain or discomfort, but there is very little you can do about the heat. Give your little man my love.

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I'm about to move into my first apartment and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas for how to decorate it.

Well, that's a little tricky. Most landlords wont allow you to paint the walls. So you would have to get into contact with them about what you can and cannot do. However, there many other ways you can decorate an apartment without painting: cutrtains, furniture, rugs, pillows, bed spreads, and other small little knicknacks are great.

It's really quite hard for me to say what you should put into your apartment, first of all because I don't know a budget you have in mind, but mainly because I don't know what styles you like, and what color schemes. However there are ample amounts of web resources that can help you with ideas.

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i am 13 and i am gay i dont know how to tell my parents that i am i dont kno if i should just drop it on them one day or if i should let them down gently...see my parents and the rest of my fam think i am little mr. perfecto cuz they cant see anything wrong with me i make straight a's and i have lots of good christian friends (that by the way kno that i am gay) everyone in the entire world knos about me cept my family.................. i have to turn into i different person when i go hope like puting on a mask temperarily for every day for the last 3 years i dont kno how else to explain it!!! hope u understand and can help me and give me tips and things to let them kno i am serious and i dont want to get any mean stuff from people soo please help dont make fun thanx love sethers

Perhaps your parents know, but are in denial? A lot of parents are like that. However, if you come right out and tell them, then it's out on the table. There's no reason to be hiding your true self, especially from your family. I suggest you ask them to sit down, and talk to them in a polite and mature manner. Tell them there is something very important that you need to talk to them about, and then tell them that you are attracted to other males.

They might scream and yell, they might ask you to change your sexual orientation... but they will always be your parents, and you will always be their son. They can't disown you at thirteen for being gay. Just let them know that you need their support and love now more than ever. And tell them that it was very mature of you to bring this up to them now. At least now they would know that you shouldn't be allowed to have other males up in your room alone with you(as most parents say,"No member of the opposite gender in your room with the door closed").

I hope everything turns out alright.

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Hey! I need some help! My boyfriend can express his feelings to me, no matter what. But, when I really want to tell him how much I love him etc. I tell him in a letter or an email. I just can never seem to get it out. Any suggestions. I NEED HELP! RATE HIGH

You know, I am the same way... only with emotions of depression, anger, or saddness. For some people it's just hard to express emotions verbally... we feel safer when we write it and they read it elsewhere. Let it start getting to the point that you write you love him, and have him read it in front of you. Once you get used to that, then perhaps trying to say I love you over the phone. And once you're used to that(knowing you wont get hurt by verbally expressing it to him while not in person), then give it a try in person. But don't just jump in head first... you'll feel like your choking. Always wade into the water slowly when you're nervous.

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I have an interview tomorrow afternoon at United Colors of Benneton. I was wondering if anyone could provide some quick guidelines for what to wear. I do not own a suit. Tips regarding hair and makeup would also be appreciated. (I am female, by the way.)

You want to look sharp, and professional. Statistics show that when you wear red you demand respect, and you catch the eye of interviewers/teachers/whoever. But don't over do the red, lest you look like a popsicle! LOL.

Perhaps put your hair up... it looks a little more professional and respectable. As far as make-up, just don't over do it. In other words, dont look like Mimi from The Drew Carry Show with her bright blue eyeshadow, and caked on mascara. Just remember to stay calm, and be yourself and you should do fine!

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Hi, I was wondering if it was safe to blow-dry your hair during a storm. My hair gets really frizzy if I don't blow-dry it as soon as possible, but I don't want to get electricuted! It's not exactly here, but to the east of me, but there's still lightning and everything. Please help, I want to make sure if it's ok or not. Thank you!!!

The chances of your house getting hit by lightning are very slim to none... however it isn't intirely a non-existing threat. If the lightning is like strobe lights going on, definatly DO NOT. However, if the lightning is not that horrible, I say go ahead... but make it as quickly as possible.

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my friend is giving me a really hard time, because i didn't go somewhere with her, she makes fun of me and my myspace http://www.myspace.com/x333333

and she makes fun of me because she really doesn't know me... like she makes fun of that i don't have a bf at the moment, she acts like my time keeper, she schedules things for me, she hurts me, and she gets me in trouble, ALOT.. so how can i make her calm down and stay the way we were or not? help mee!!

o and yeah, she really REALLY needs some help, i didnt go somewhere with her and she is like "you know what? im never talking to you, dont call me, dont im me anymore, and dont even think about me, or visit my myspace, or even look at my things, i sware to god, if you do, you won't be alive by the next day" so she really needs help, badlyy, MENTLE PROBLEMS? maybey?

x0o PLEASE HELP MEEE PLEASE!!!


form - - being bullied

She may have mental problems... but it sounds like she's just got some juvinile issues, and she needs to learn how to grow up. Seriously... ditch her. You don't need friends like that. Trust me, I know how hard it is to just stop hanging out with friends(especially in highschool), but you deserve better than that, and I'm sure you could get better than that. If you continue to hang out with her she will only drag you down, and you wont reach your full potential.
Good luck sweetie!

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okay well here it goes. Im 5'3 and i weight about 190(i know im fat) but i wanna go down to about 140. I want to loose it by Christmas. Does any one know any tips on how i can loose the weight and some exercises that will help along the way? please let me know im really want to loose weight.

This is a totally plausable goal, if you set your mind to it. There are three areas that you need to work on. First, your mind and emotional health. You need to realize that you aren't fat... and then you need to set up realistic goals to accomidate your life and daily schedual. Stick to the routine. Some people find it helpful to put sticky notes on their fridge saying,"I want to loose XX pounds by DATE, eat healthy!" Which helps them to stay away from the junk food other family members might have in the fridge. It'll be hard to convince yourself to stay away from the junk foods you like so much, or to get up at whatever time every morning to run... but you must push and discipline yourself.

Next, eating. Drink water instead of soda. One should always drink at least 8 glasses of water a day. This helps to flush out toxins and other things that your body doesn't need(and it makes your skin softer and more radiant). Try to follow the food pyramid as far as fruits and veggies go. Limit your meat and breads, and other carbs. Try to make an eating schedual. For example: Monday Breakfast, bowl of healthy-nut cereal and a banana with orange juice. Monday Lunch salad. Monday Dinner small portion of chicken breast, green beans, corn, potato. And do this for the whole week. Try to eat about 5 to 6 small meals a day rather than 3 larger meals. And if you do stick to a dinner with the family, make sure it's several hours before you go to bed. Breakfast should be the largest meal of the day, not dinner... after dinner most people laze around and watch television and then go to bed. While sleeping their food turns into fat and settles... if breakfast if your biggest meal of the day, you wear it all off with errands and other activities.

Finally exersize. Like the food... you should make a schedual for this. ALWAYS stretch before working out. Include perhaps one hour of walk/jogging. And then choose other activities as well... Monday you could go biking(which will help firm your tush). Tuesday could be sit-up and push-up day. Wednesday could be aerobics, and so on and so forth. I reccomend speaking with a live professional if you are very serious about it. Local gyms are great. However, if you want to do your own activities on your own, there are several helpful websites that can give you at-home exersizes. Although, it is much easier to follow through with self-made scheduals if you have someone to do it with.

Here's a useful link: http://www.weightlossforgood.co.uk/exercise_at_home.htm

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I'm 13 years old and I got pregnant. My friends think I'm ready to be a parent, but I haven't told my parents about it yet because they will scold me. Should I go for abortion? WIll it hurt? At least I won't drop out of school, right? I'm really at a loss! I know abortion is wrong but I hate babies! I don't want one!! What do I do?!

Signed,
Helpless

First things first... you need to tell your parents. Yes, they will be mad, and yes they will probably scream and hollar. But you must talk to them. I can't stress this enough. Try to keep a mature and calm approach about it, even if they get upset. If they start screaming at you, dont scream and cry back. You must remain calm to work through this.

Next visit a family counciler to work through your options. You are too young to be raising a child right now... you need to get through high school first. Abortion is a choice if you are willing to do that, but if not you can always opt for adoption. There are pros and cons to every choice, and a family counciler will be able to walk you through it all in person.

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I don't mean to bash the religion, but I'm sick of it. I live in Utah, so I'm surrounded by it. And everyone is always bringing up that the religion should be more a part of the school. Well, I don't believe in any of it. Personally, I think their religion was just founded on Joseph Smith trying to steal other men's wives and get away with it. And they have a class here. How do they get away with having a religiously oriented class in a public school, isn't that infringing on the separation of church and state clause? My question is how do I deal with all of this religion when I don't want it, especially since all the guys that I could date are mormon?

Sweetie... I know EXACTLY how you feel. I used to live in Minnesota, and I'm a Wiccan. I moved to Idaho(near Pocatello, where the percentage rate of Mormons is higher than Salt Lake even!), and I had to deal with all that crap.

How can they get away with offering Mormon Seminary as credits? Because the state government is all mormon as well. Utah and Idaho are the ONLY states that can pull that kind of crap. Here's a little story about my experience in school...

I was told by the Vice-Principal of our 99% Mormon school(who btw wanted to be called Brother Bonnie) to take of my pentacle because 'We dont worship the devil here'. I calmly replied with,"Have you heard of the first amendment? I have the freedom to express myself." He then asked if I heard of seperation-of-church-and-state. I got a little more upset, and told him that he wasn't doing a good job of that, as he offers mormon classes as credits, has a mormon school/church on school grounds, and allowed students to try to convert others in the hallways. He didn't know what to say, but still told me to take off my necklace. So I hottly remarked,"M'kay... well... I'll make a deal with you. I'll take off my necklace, if you take off every CTR ring, and cross necklace in this school." He was so upset, he didn't say anything, and just left. He always managed to steal Wiccan books from my friends(which I let them borrow). And I was constantly called into his office, where he said that he should keep them. I told him he'd need to pay me $30 for the book then. And I explained my friends situation, that there was no homework, and the teacher was at her desk, and there were other students doing non-school related activities as well, and so the book should not have been taken. He always got mad at me... he got his revenge on one of the last days of school by giving me In School Suspension when I skipped on Senior Skip Day. I proudly wore my necklace to graduation to show it off to him.

You can't beat them... trust me, I've tried. But definatly don't join them. If you look hard enough you'll find a guy who isn't Mormon to date.

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I give advice on this site, and yes, I'm also a Wiccan, almost on the verge of being an atheist and lately there has been someone harrassing me about my faith, she has left 2 messages so far in my inbox, about God, and I've given her actual proof about why I don't beleive in God like that. What I wanted to know is, have I been the only one getting messages like that? Thanks.

Oh Pumpkin! Walking the path of Wicca is one of the most difficult paths to walk. Wicca is definatly not a religion for anyone, especially with the ridicule many of us face. We need to be strong though. But I just want you to know that you are not the only one who has been harrassed. So don't feel singled out.

I was told by the Vice-Principal of our 99% Mormon school to take of my pentacle because 'We dont worship the devil here'. I calmly replied with,"Have you heard of the first amendment? I have the freedom to express myself." He then asked if I heard of seperation-of-church-and-state. I got a little more upset, and told him that he wasn't doing a good job of that, as he offers mormon classes as credits, has a mormon school/church on school grounds, and allowed students to try to convert others in the hallways. He didn't know what to say, but still told me to take off my necklace. So I hottly remarked,"M'kay... well... I'll make a deal with you. I'll take off my necklace, if you take off every CTR ring, and cross necklace in this school." He was so upset, he didn't say anything, and just left. He always managed to steal Wiccan books from my friends(which I let them borrow). And I was constantly called into his office, where he said that he should keep them. I told him he'd need to pay me $30 for the book then. And I explained my friends situation, that there was no homework, and the teacher was at her desk, and there were other students doing non-school related activities as well, and so the book should not have been taken. He always got mad at me... he got his revenge on one of the last days of school by giving me In School Suspension when I skipped on Senior Skip Day. I proudly wore my necklace to graduation to show it off to him.

I guess the moral of my story is, that you need to keep strong to your beliefs, and don't let anyone sway you. They are just niave and scared... and they don't know anything. The best one can try to do is explain your views to them in a polite and mature manner, and if they resort to petty sqabbling with you just ignore them. Dont give up your beliefs just because some idiot wants to harrass you. If every witch gave up so easily, then there would be none.

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Im 15/f. At the moment I'm a Christian, but I'm considering becoming a solitary witch. I've got some questions I'd like to know the answers to from people who actually practise witchcraft and aren't just writing a book

1) Do I need to start praying to the God straight
away?
2) Do I definetely need a separate altar, goddess
shrine, god shrine and lunar shrine because I
only have a small room
3) Does being a witch cost a lot of money?
I'm too young to get a job so I don't have
much money

Don't get me wrong, I really want to become a witch. It's just that the books I'm reading just aren't answering all my questions as they are written by older women dedicated to the craft completely, not a young beginner. Any sources of information or tips on becoming and being a solitary witch are also welcome.

Thanx to the moon and back xxx

Books don't usually answer a lot of questions. I'm glad you sought advice from actual people. Wicca is a nature based life-affirming religiong, just like any other religion. However, the difference in Wicca and say Christiantiy is that Wicca focuses on individualism. You worship how you see fit.

Dont start praying to some God you don't even know or really believe in just yet. Most witches(all true witches) start off for one year and one day reading, learning, and gathering information. They have no altars as of yet, they slowly aquire things for when their year and day of studying are done and they initiate themselves into the faith.

I am a solitary Witch, and have been for 8 years. I started off as eclectic(which means that I just take bits an pieces of each different wiccan denomination and form my own branch), but recently converted to Egyptian Wicca(which means I worship the Egyptian Pantheon and Religion). During your one year and one day, read up as much as you can about Wicca(including the different branches: Dianic, Kitchen Witchcraft, Green Witchcraft, Greek, Egyptian, Celtic, Gardnerian, Pictish, etc)

One book I reccomend to ANY witch(new or old) is Wicca the Complete Craft by D.J. Conway. It's brilliant, and very informative. If you need anyone to talk to further, please please please email me, wether it be any more questions, or if you are recieving harrassment in school for your religious choice. My email address is ViolentSylph@aol.com

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Im looking for a dog, and i dont like small dogs. My mom however, if like pretty afraid of big dogs, a neat freak, and cant stand dominent dogs. I really wanted a Lab or a Pit bull, but my mom says that labs are way too active for her, and pitbulls of course were always out of the question. I also really like huskies. i was wondering, do you know if they are like hyperactive and likely to jump on you like labs? i have a large back yard, and a big house.
THANX SO MUCH. i rate high.

Huskies are really beautiful dogs. I have always wanted one... however it might not be the kind of dog you want. Huskies are escape artists... and even the best cared for, best kenneled Husky may get loose, never to be seen again. They can crawl through microscopic holes, scale 8 foot fences with a ballerina's grace, break tie-out chains and slip collars so skillfully even Houdini would be amazed. Owners must build strong compounds and continually check for that tiny hole, loose fencing, or gleam in their dog's eye that says, "I know something you don't!" Remember: the term "escape proof" is not in the Huskies lexicon.

One glimpse into a Husky "crater" is enough to realize how efficient a hole digger the Husky is. Of course true to the Huskies nature, he will choose when and where to dig. This can present a problem for many homeowners. However, Huskies who do have a place to dig seem more content and less destructive. Huskies will dig and chew, outside or inside! If left to roam freely in the house, the dog can turn a neat orderly home into a housekeeper's nightmare.

However, on the plus side, they rarely bark... preffering to whine or moan. And given the proper training, they will obey simple commands and act quite respectable--most of the time. Also, they will alert their owner if there is danger present. Huskies are nomadic, and can easily adjust to new situations. However, a nomad at heart, the Husky has no fear of cars nor homing instincts compatible with our modern society, and once loose, he can easily fall prey to injury, disease, and hunger, or become a pest chasing and hunting small animals or digging in neighbors' yards. Husky owners quickly learn that, for the dog's sake, it must be confined or kept on lead at all times.

They are athletic, and need to be taken out on daily walks. They are affectionate, however they love to jump up and 'hug', so if there are small children present they could easily frighten them or knock them over.

While they are beautiful canines, I wouldn't recommend them as a house dog. And I don't think your mother would much appreciate it jumping up at her for affection(as they can get quite big). Pure breeds are also quite expensive(depending on the breed). Perhaps you should try your local animal shelter and help a dog in need out?

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