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Ok so as i said in the last one me and boyfriend have been dating for two months as of tomorrow. But i have kinda been worried that I have low key been cheating. Like there is this one guy at my school who i think is hot, but i don't flirt with him or anything i just think he is cute. So i don't think that is cheating. But another thing is that these two guys in my class like to touch my butt and it doesn't make me uncomfortable, so i don't care if they do it. Is that considered cheating? And lastly before i started dating my boyfriend,he had told me he liked someone else ( unknowing that i liked him ) and i think that i am starting to have feelings for one of the guys who touch my butt all the time. I haven't and wont do anything about liking him ( meaning i wont flirt with him or anything) but i feel really bad because i love my boyfriend and he has told me he loves me. And i would do anything for him. I don't know if i have been cheating but i am trying hard to cover up those feelings for the other guy and focus on my main guy (link)
Absolutely. I strongly believe that if you are allowing men to touch you in ways only a boyfriend should. then you should consider how serious you are about your boyfriend. I strongly believe that if you are finding comfort from other men's touches other then your boyfriend then that is not okay. By allowing these two guys to touch you, it is telling them that you don't respect the foundation of a relationship. and you are telling these men that it is okay to touch you inappropriately even if you are in a relationship.
I would advice putting space between you and these two men. and absolutely no touching! at lease until you figure out who you really want to be with.

If you really love your boyfriend, you would not let others touch you in the way that you are allowing them too.
It is extremely unfair to your boyfriend to keep leading him on when you are not sure that you want to be with him.

Another thing to consider is that you may be interested in this other guy, because he is off limits. and is mysterious. What does this guy have that your boyfriend doesn't? Is it because your bf is not doing something that you wish he would.. (Cuddle more, talk more.. etc)

Think over all your feelings and think over all of the pros and cons before doing anything.

Good luck!





How do I encourage my boyfriend to get his grades up (link)
Well the best way would be to talk to him. Advice him that this life is not for throwing away.
good grades means better opportunities in life.

From a collage aspect, if and when he decides that he want to go into some collage programs for degrees or schooling in general.. Some programs do not allow you entry unless you have a minimum average %.

School work can be hard to focus/study. Find ways to encourage him. Rewards are a great incentive. or cooking him a fancy meal if he improves his grades.

Good luck!


There is a guy who went to school with me until last semester (he graduated early) who's a year older than I am, and we started talking in school alot at the end of last year. Since then, he'd come up to say hi, give me hugs on occasion, and try to scare me by coming up behind me in the hall while I wasn't paying attention. He'd also ask me to sit with him at lunch when we had an altered schedule and we happened to have the same shift, and (sorry this part is misplaced) we' talked quite a bit at his locker and on the way to our different classes. Since he graduated early, I hadn't seen him since first semester until he came a few days ago for a senior awards assembly. I didn't even see him because I was worried about being late to class, but he saw me and said hi, and opened his arms for a hug. He was still hanging around at lunch and asked me to sit with him, but while I sat and ate, he only talked to me once to ask how I was, and then, without ever lookong at me he talked to the underclassmen boys at the table with us. Maybe he was just a little nervous , I don't know.. So from what I've been able to tell you, do you think he likes me? He's a real sweet guy, and I really do like him, but I don't ever have much luck, and I don't want to jump to conclusions so I need another opinion... Thankyou! :). *Also, sorry for any typos* (link)
I kind of think he is at least a little bit interested. He hugs you in public, He asks you to sit with him and his friends. That is huge! But don't push on to strong. Ask him to hang outside of school maybe? go bowling or something like that. I would say that him not talking to you much in front of his guy friends is just him being a normal guy. Guys don't want to come off too interested in front of their friends. They like to be mysterious.

I would advice getting to know him more.

Good Luck!!


today i got a detention for cheating on a test.this is the first time i got detention.my mom expects good grades from me and will be pissed the f off.what do i do!!! (link)
What you have to do is understand what you did was wrong. and obviously there will be consequences for your actions. And if you have a heart to heart conversation with your mom and explain that you know what you did was wrong. You cheated because.. and think deep. Why did you cheat? was it because you didn't feel you studied hard enough? was it to take the easy way out? once you have thought long and hard about why you did what you did,. you will know how to move on from this, and not do it again.


If you have ever read any of my old questions about someone calling me constantly last year! This is another question I don't remember if it's about the same person from the last or not. Anyways I have this friend who calls me all day every day to talk about the same damn thing . Every time she calls its to talk about her boyfriend or relate everything to her boyfriend so now I avoid her calls because I know what the outcome of the call will be. When she wasn't dating this boyfriend she was calling to talk about how she likes this guy who is now her boyfriend. Before that she used to call me about her ex-boyfriend (who was her boyfriend at the time, she broke up with him in March and started talking about a new boy that same month and started dating her current bf in June) then sometimes she would call to talk behind one of my friends backs and how she flirts with her current boyfriend. I am getting sick of it! I'm tired of talking on the phone with someone who only talks about only one freaking topic and every time I try to change it she relates it back to him. I like texting better cause you can ignore the text and reply when you feel like it but with her if you text her it's an invitation to call me, I'll be out with my family she will call, I'm out with friends she calls, I was at work and she called, I was at the doctors and she called, I went on a school trip in May and she called (my friends on the trip were like "does she usually call you this often?). I was at a job interview and luckily she didn't call during it but she called as I was leaving it, I'm writing this because she just called me 5 mins ago and I'm getting tired of it trust me she will call again in an hour, so basically how can I get her to stop calling me so much? My other friends say she calls them too but not as much as me (link)
First off, you should openly discuss with her how this is making you feel. explain to her that you love talking, but it can not be about one thing. And when she talks about her bf all the time. it's redundant. I would try to openly talk to her about how your feeling, and that you are finding this behavior to be not cool. maybe she needs a face to face confrontation.


Especially teenagers. People claim that teenagers have fast metabolisms, but I was pushing obesity for all of my teen years, despite eating healthier than everyone on my high school varsity sports team. I'd have junk occasionally, but my peers would have junk all the time and still be skinny like reeds. It made me have terrible self confidence as a teen, my goodness.

I'm now in my early 20s and now weigh less than I did for most of middle school, through adopting a vegan diet. The crazy thing is that I now rarely exercise, too, so the whole conventional idea to exercise off weight tricked me all along. I want to pick up exercising now for my health, not as a way to get skinnier, as I was able to lose 40 pounds through veganism and literally just walking on a treadmill once or twice times a week.

I just don't get why people assume everyone has fast metabolisms as teens and if that's the real reason why those girls (not just white. also indian (the skinniest indian girl i knew ate the most junk food. i sat with her at lunch), african-american, latina, etc.) are so skinny as teens.

Answers, anyone? I've tried googling this and can't find a clear answer. What makes someone even have a faster metabolism than another? "Genes" isn't enough of an answer. I want a deeper answer.

To bring up a famous example look at Kendall Jenner. She's much skinnier than Kylie, who is also tall, despite both of them likely eating similar foods. Even before becoming a model Kendall was reed thin. I went through her insta today and her earliest posts show the most unhealthy food next to shots of her flat stomach.

For me to have a normal BMI I literally don't eat any oil, added sugar, or salt. I cook most of my meals, buy mostly organic, and generally eat high carb and low fat. so to see some other skinny person eat cheetos and pizza like it's no big deal rubs me the wrong way, because that would blow my body up. if i eat pizza at a restaurant (unless its raw vegan) i'll just bloat up from the salt feel gassy from the fat content. i know my health will be better, from more fruits an veggies, but still.. (link)
First off, everyone's body is different. Not all Teenagers metabolism is fast. some are slow, some are medium fast. There are so many different varieties Just like how many different body shapes there is in the world.

As for Kendall. I guarantee that those celebrities have fitness trainers. even if they say they don't they do. There are certain things you can do to speed up your metabolism. One of them is eating 5 small meals a day rather than 3 very large meals. so Breakfast, mid morning snack, lunch, mid afternoon snack, supper and evening snack.

Carbs is an item that is not good for you, too many carbs turns into too much fat.
Also take a look at how much your sodium intake is. it could be that your bloating is due to water weight.

hope this helps!
*Jasmine


Does anyone know if its okay to take a birth control pill at a different time of the day if not sexually active?
I wanted to start taking my pills at night rather than the day. The only problem is that I am worried because I have read multiple times that I have to take it at the same time of day. I am not currently sexually active, as I have just started the pill but I will be. I just wanted to switch from taking the pill in the morning to the evening. (link)
It is advised that you take it the same time everyday so that you will form regularity. As well It works to it's best ability to be taken at the same time.

I switched from morning to evening as well. It is not a problem at all. Instead of taking it in the morning, skip the morning, and take it starting in the evening, and continue to do so.



I'm already wearing absolutely no makeup, and just washing my face with very good facial cleanser and using amazing toner and moisturizer.

This makes me really happy.

And I'm doing more things outdoors which make me really happy such as reading, meditating/praying and yoga.

I was wondering if there's anything I can do to be more natural?

Also, if you have any links to REALLY good VEGAN recipes, I'd TRULY appreciate it! :) (link)
Here is a few websites for recipes:

http://www.skinny-vegan-food.com/

http://www.skinnytaste.com/15-light-and-healthy-vegetarian-recipes/

http://www.skinnytaste.com/recipes/vegetarian/

http://www.eat-yourself-skinny.com/category/vegan

http://www.skinny-vegan-food.com/

(***Side note.. I love looking at the skinny.com for recipes, they are healthy low calories. so these are similar). I do not believe being skinny is a must in our society. :)

I also use a deodorant that is way better than most deodorants sold at drugstores.. Walmart.. ext. It is from Arbonne. They are a little bit more expensive. but they are amazingly healthier and better for your skin. They are definitely worth checking out.

Hope this helps
*Jasmine


3 days ago, I woke up experiencing major pain & itching in my vaginal area, when I went to the bathroom, I seen little white scab like things stuck in the opening of my vagina. I googled what it could be & many said it was a yeast infection. I called my doctor the next day & he prescribed me one day dose of fluconazole over the phone. I immediately took the pill (2 days ago) & have not yet received any kind of relief. Now I'm questioning whether or not it is actually a yeast infection. I inspected my vaginal area last night & noticed a little bump next to my clitoris & another one inside of my vagina lip (I forgot what it's called) & there's A LOT of thick discharge. It hurt to urinate, BUT it does burn if the urine happens to touch my vagina. Is this really a yeast infection, or something worse? (link)
First thing you must know, When you google.. often times you do find the worse case scenario's. As well, we are not medical professionals, and if we say we are, it's not necessarily true, I would advise you go see your doctor. or phone them again.
however, I'm not sure where you live, but it is better to go in to see your doctor, because they can do the proper tests to find out exactly what the issue might be.

I would go see them sooner rather than later, just in case it is something a lot worse than a yeast infection.

Hope this helps
*Jasmine


I'm a female and 22 years old. This is a long question so I appreciate anyone who takes time to read this and help!

I met this guy on Tinder one Sunday in June. He was super nice and really good at carrying a conversation. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting later that day.

Once we started texting, we texted all day every day during that first week. During the first week of texting, he asked me to hang out every day but I kept saying no because I wasn't sure how much I liked him. In the beginning, I was kind of just talking to him because I liked the attention he gave me. However, over time, I started to like him more and more.

He told me the reason he kept asking me to hang out so much was because he was going out of town for a week and a half and wanted to meet me before that. I told him that we could hang out once he got back in town, if he still wanted to.

So he went out of town and when he was gone, we continued to text all day every day. We were also snap chat friends and snap chatted regularly. He would always compliment my looks, saying that he thought I was gorgeous and beautiful. We even started talking on the phone at night. We talked on the phone 4 or 5 times, and 3 of the times we talked for 2 and a half hours. While we talked about each other's lives, he always made it a point to tell me how much he liked me and how much he enjoyed talking to me. Just to give you an idea, he even said "have you met anyone from Tinder before in person?" and when I said no, he said "Well hopefully once you meet me, you won't have to meet anyone else." We had such a good time talking on the phone that I started to like him more and I started to think that I would actually want to meet up with this guy.

When we were talking on the phone, he asked me if I would want to hang out the night he got back in town. I thought about it, and told him the next day that I did want to hang out. So, we continued to text all day, and talked on the phone as well.

The day of the date arrives and we were texting scarcely. He kept telling me how excited he was to hang out and how much fun we were going to have. I decided to meet him at his apartment and he would drive us to dinner from there. I was so nervous, but the second we met, my nerves went away. We had a lot of fun on the date - we went out to dinner, then we walked around the park next to the lake, and then got some wine and went back to his apartment. We watched some tv, drank wine, cuddled, and made out. I left around 1030 at night and he said "I don't want you to go." But since I had to work the next day, I was like "I have to." So he kissed me goodbye and I left. He texted me on the way home saying "Hey I had a lot of fun. I hope you did too. Hope you got home safely."

The next day, he texted me, and things were good. However, we didn't text as much as we had before we met. Then the next couple of days come, and we start texting less and less. This really had me worried because I thought maybe he wasn't feeling me anymore. I was confused because I thought that we had a really good time on our date so I didn't know why he was texting less and less. It was 3 days after we hung out and we were texting and I asked him if he wanted to hang out over the weekend. He said that he wanted to and he could make that work on Sunday. I told him that worked for me, and that it would be a good time. He replied "no doubt in my mind it will be a good time." This gave me some reassurance.

We were still barely texting on Friday and Saturday, so when Sunday came I texted him saying I had an idea for our hang out. I told him, and he replied "that sounds like fun but I won't be able to. I'm not feeling well and need to rest. Hope that's okay, I like you, I just need to rest." So I was bummed and clearly thought he wasn't interested. However, he did say "tomorrow?" so we rescheduled our plans for Monday. Later that day (Sunday, the day we were supposed to hang out), he asked me if I wanted to go to his apartment and hang out and drink some wine. I said yes. I got to his apartment around 10 that night. Same as the first time we hung out at his apartment, we watched TV, cuddled, and made out. We did hook up a little bit further than that, but we did not sleep together. We had a lot of fun, we talked about personal things, as well as the other stuff I mentioned. It wasn't only sexual. He asked me to stay the night and told me that he didn't want me to leave. We were talking about watching Sports Center on TV and I made a comment like oh I'm not into it, and he said "get used to it because its something I always watch." He was being sweet and nice, calling me pet names like "sweetheart" and "babe." When it was time to go, he walked me outside to my car and kissed me goodbye, hugged me and said "see you tomorrow."

So Monday comes, I ask him if he can still hang out, and he cancels our plans because him and his friends got tickets to a sports game. We don't text again that day. I didn't text him on Tuesday because I wasn't sure what was going on. He didn't text me, so we didn't talk that day. So, then Wednesday, I wanted to see if he would text me, he didn't. So I texted him and he replied "Hey! thought maybe you were mad at me, you didn't text me yesterday." I told him I was bummed, and he apologized and said that he thought he told me he was trying to go to that game. I told him it wasn't a big deal. So, we talked on Wednesday and he was more talkative than he had been. However, he stopped texting me in the middle of a conversation and I haven't heard from him since. It's been 11 days. My birthday was just this past Friday, and he knew it was my birthday, and he didn't wish me happy birthday. He still looks at all of my snap chat stories, but doesn't reach out to me.

Do you think I did something wrong? Do you think it was all an act until he met me? Maybe he changed his mind? I cannot stop thinking about him/the situation. Do you have any advice for how I can move on from this? I want an explanation but I don't want to reach out because I don't want to appear "crazy" or clingy. However, at the same time, I can't help but think that maybe he thinks he did something wrong and I'm the one that lost interest. Even though I texted him later that day Wednesday, and snap chatted him twice later that week. Do you think I just need to accept it and move on?

sorry for the long question, I appreciate anyone who actually reads this and helps me out. Thanks!! (link)
It seems like he just lost interest. You have attempted to contact him with no effort returned. You should leave him in the dust. If a person does not make the effort to be in your life, then he is not worth your time.

However, I do understand that getting over someone can be quite difficult, even if you only dated/hung out for a short amount of time.

I have a favorite website that is full of amazing tips/tricks and just plain old helpfulness. I think it might help.

http://healmybrokenheart.com/

Good Luck!!
*Jasmine


Hi I am a 24year research scholar at anthropological survey of india and my fiance is a phd student at cambridge university.this year after completing his phd he will join postdoctorate in texas. I want to go and stay with him but not solely on his expense. I tried contacting al most all the universities in texas for a phd seat. But none of them seem to have vacancy currently.all i need a job or university course related to anthropology. What should i do? (link)
Keep looking, I googled and if you keep trying you will find something for sure! Here is two websites that might help.

https://liberalarts.utexas.edu/anthropology/courses/index.php

http://www.gradschools.com/graduate-schools-in-united-states/online/liberty-university-online/graduate-certificate-in-global-studies-178843

Hope this helps
*Jasmine


How do I get noticed on Wattpad? I'm new. Please follow: ghostqueen01 (link)
Hey,

On the Wattpad website, it shares some tips/tricks and suggestions on how to get your work noticed.

Hope this helps

https://www.wattpad.com/1173835-how-to-write-a-wattpad-story-step-4-how-do-i-get

*Jasmine


Crystal was my dads girlfriend they were engaged to be married.while they were together i formed a bond with crystal and told her my secert she never told any of mine or asked me to keep a secert before but when my dad and her broke up he told her to not talk to me or my sister she recently got back in touch with me but asked me to keep it between us but i told my aunt because i was feeling torn and needed advice my aunt told my dad he told us both afterward that we can talk as long as we dont talk about him but shes mad at me because he found out (link)
There must be a reason that she wanted this to be kept a secret,. It may or may not be for good reasons. Because she is no longer associating with your father i would advise not associating with her either. I believe you created the bond because you were seeing a sense of family orientation but because she is no longer in that family zone, it may not be a good idea.

Hope this helps
*Jasmine


My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.






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First off i would like to give my condolences for your daughter Barb. Losing someone to a medical reason is just to awful to experience,
I give props to your wife for moving in with her to help her be comfortable in a time of great pain.

I totally get feeling empty and lost. When i was seperated from one of my exs years ago i was devistated. Thought what is life without them.. what is joy with out them.. what is the point.

Let me tell you. There is a point. She was not meant to be. Some days will be hard. Some days will be great. But little by little it will get more bareable. You will think of them less as time goes on and on.

One website that i have gone back to time and time again to getw through tough pain and situations.

Www.healmybrokenheart.com

even if you just read the emails they will help.
Good much


... and ever since my dad's been talking about him, I've felt this high spiritual connection with him. Yet I haven't even met him. But I've never felt this spiritual love for another guy before. A little while ago, my dad finally sent me a picture of him, and he's... not my type. Like he isn't... attractive. But since I feel this spiritual connection towards him, do you think if I get to know his personality (start talking to him on a daily basis) I'll eventually find his looks attractive?

I know looks don't matter, so you don't have to tell me that. (link)
It sounds like you has a lust fantasy for this guy. You are feeling fluttery, and can't stop thinking about him, but it is only a fantasy,. since you are not actually attracted to him,.
It is likely that you will not like him as he is not what you are into


So its my friends 21st birthday this weekend except I'm unsure I can go.
Firstly because she is a Uni friend and I am home to celebrate Easter. I don't drive so I would have to rely on my parents to drive me to her birthday (there and back). Something I'd feel bad doing.

Also, the party is at a Shisha bar and I don't smoke Shisha. Another one of my uni friends turned down the friend whose birthday it is, because she said she does not smoke. I have been to this bar before and have felt uncomfortable for not smoking.

However, it is my friends 21st birthday, and I am worried not going will mean she will not come to my celebrations later on in the year.
What do i do? (link)
Well there is a few choices for you:
If you do go, you can always take a cab as a form of transportation,. or you can have your parent drive you.

Now about the shisha bar. If you don't want to smoke you ABSOLUTELY Don't have to smoke! You can go, for the social aspect of celebrating your friends birthday. That will ensure that she is wanting to go to your celebrations in the future.


HI iv gotten my period which i think it is the tuesday to the friday..i then had unprotected sex the saterday and sunday morning and after that i took the morning after pill..i then took a pregnancy test the wednesday and it showed negative..am i pregnant and should i take another 1 (link)
You should be fine, because you took the day after pill. However, be aware that the day after pill IS NOT BIRTH CONTROL. And does not protect you 100% from the sperm connecting with your eggs. I would be more cautious and be using protection,. and look into going Birth control as this will help protect you.


About 4 months ago I was 13 wks pregnant and had an unexpected miscarriage. It was days after finding my best friend since 6th grade and my childs father naked in our bed together when I came home (they swore nothing happened--that they were just really drunk and . So, I blamed the miscarriage on him. He thought that I had gotten an abortion or done something to hurt the baby (never would I have done that). Well... Long story short, my child's father & I split up and I slept with my ex 2 times. When I came back to him I told him what I had done. Well, he told me in order for him to forgive me that I had to quit my job, pack up and move to sc with him for a job offering that he had gotten... & I needed to get pregnant again. So, I did it. Well, after I got pregnant he finally told me that he had slept with my best friend. We were so close. My kids called her aunt & I was her sons godmother. We have always been so close. I even used to tell her that she is the only person in the world I would ever trust to lay naked next to my husband. We were inseparable. I'm not sure why she did what she did to me. But it hurts. I feel so betrayed by both of them. On top of it, my child's father told me that I need to come clean with whatever else I am hiding because he "KNOWS there is more"... Well, there is absolutely nothing more that I am hiding from him. No secrets. I wish there was a way to prove that to him, but I can't. Other than to continues flu tell him that I am telling the truth. I have told him absolutely everything! I have no secrets anymore and I should feel great about it. But, he is making me feel terrible... Like I am lying to him and still hiding stuff from him. He says I just need to come clean for closure or we will never move on from this and we will never be happy again. It is making me resent him as the days go by. I hate the fact that I have told him every little secret and he still doesn't believe me. I hate that he will never find closure because he has his mind set that I am still hiding stuff. I think if I stay, he will eventually cheat again because he thinks I am still hiding stuff from him. I can't deal with it again. But I also do not want to miss out on the amazing life we could have together if he would just let me prove to him that there are no secrets. We have potential to be great. A happy loving godly family who should and would be forgiven for the sins they have confessed. I don't know whether to stay or walk away. Please help! (link)
So from what I hear. He cheated on you. and some how it's your fault that he is not happy. Granted you did sleep with your ex soon after. But you were not together then. How are you to 'prove' to him that you don't have anything to hide?

No matter what you say, he will always beleive you have more skeletons in your closet because he has more skeletons in his closet.

This man is being an emotionally abusive person. He is belittling you into being unhappy saying you have to tell him the truth or else you can't move on.. Well in my opinion since you are having his baby. that's moving on.

If he can not treat you with the respect that you deserve, and forget the past. Then he is not worth your time.
I would walk away. not only for you,. but for the sake of your baby. It will be better for the both of you.


Why do girls giggle, laugh and make stupid comments when they see me shirtless? (link)
Young girls are uncomfortable with their own bodies and are still learning about the changes happening with them,. so when they see males in the same awkward moments, it makes them feel better to giggle and be silly.

I would not let it bother you, and just keep on, keeping on :)


my best friend hangs out with my other friend like every weekend or everyday and i never realy hang out with her as much anymore and i miss it just being us but then my other friend came along and just starts being her new best friend what do i do :( (link)
I would be open and honest with your best friend, and explain to her that you feel like she is replacing you with this new girl. And that it bothers you that your two don't hang out as much as best friend.

Hope this helps :)
Jasmine




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