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help: i miss it just being us
my best friend hangs out with my other friend like every weekend or everyday and i never realy hang out with her as much anymore and i miss it just being us but then my other friend came along and just starts being her new best friend what do i do :(
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Dear sad friend,
It sure is really sad to hear about what has happened to you! Nobody would ever like their best friend to hang out with somebody else, including me!
Ok, so is the other friend good with you? How is her behavior? Is she only nice with you if she is with YOUR best friend?
By the way, Im not sugar coat things and im gonna give you straight advice!
She is YOUR best friend! And there is nothing wrong with it that you should talk to her! You should not stay quiet with this and if you do, say good-bye to your old pal!
Now all you have to do is talk out things with your bestie. If your bestie gets angry with you or leaves you, dont feel sad cuz you were her friend but she betrayed you, you did not betrayed her.
Anyways, I hope things work out perfectly!
Good Luck!
(PS: You're really gonna need it!)
Your's Truely,
Miss Ask-It-All
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The question is whether you've been invited to hang with them as a 3some of friends and whether you've chosen to ignore them. That is the best way to see both of them at once and not be missing out. I believe people can have more than one people who is a very close friend, a 'best' friend but that doesnt need to mean better than another, just different in ways that neither may have in common with you. Lets say one likes scary movies and the other doesnt. So when you want to go see the new scary movie at the theatre, you go with the one who likes that kind and perhaps the other likes swimming but the scary movie fan friend can't swim or has a fear of water. So you invite the swimming one to go to the pool with you or swimming at the lake. The other friend could go but would feel lonely watching you swim. So different is okay. You can have two best friends and so can those two. When you restrict yourself to one friend you are missing out on some things with the other. If no one has left you out or forgotton to invite you, you just need to start hanging out with both. If they are doing this on purpose, then I would follow Jasmines advice and let each of them know how it makes you feel.
If this brings no results, you may have to wait some years for each to mature and realize how to treat people better and find yourself some new friends in the mean while to hang with.
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I would be open and honest with your best friend, and explain to her that you feel like she is replacing you with this new girl. And that it bothers you that your two don't hang out as much as best friend.
Hope this helps :)
Jasmine
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