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So there's this guy that my dad hired at work...
... and ever since my dad's been talking about him, I've felt this high spiritual connection with him. Yet I haven't even met him. But I've never felt this spiritual love for another guy before. A little while ago, my dad finally sent me a picture of him, and he's... not my type. Like he isn't... attractive. But since I feel this spiritual connection towards him, do you think if I get to know his personality (start talking to him on a daily basis) I'll eventually find his looks attractive?
I know looks don't matter, so you don't have to tell me that.
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Sometimes, the reason why certain traits about a person catch our attention is because it is part of our learning process of what we like or don't like about a person. This process is what people go through when searching for their mate/life long partner. You may not necessarily be aware ahead of time what traits you like until you experience them, see them in another or hear about them. So yes, this can definitely generate an interest in another.
The interest can be a sexual one, an intellectual one-meeting of minds, you think alike, reason things out the same way, same sense of humor, etc or a spiritual one, having close or the same passions, beliefs in deity and the afterlife, outlook on life, etc....
Loving who someone is on the inside doesnt make you all of a sudden like how they look on the outside. One does need to find a partner easy on the eyes, pleasant to look at if fate has it for you to be together with him. Remember theres whether his tastes lean towards you too. And he may be in a relationship.
At the least you may become great friends or at the most, a couple.
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It sounds like you has a lust fantasy for this guy. You are feeling fluttery, and can't stop thinking about him, but it is only a fantasy,. since you are not actually attracted to him,.
It is likely that you will not like him as he is not what you are into
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You might not like my answer, but you developed a fantasy around a person you never met, or saw before. You wrote a love story starring him and yourself before you knew a single thing about him. What you are calling a high spiritual connection, is much more likely just fantasy fixation.
If you think you feel a connection to him then you should definitely get to know him as a person—and abandon the story you have built in your own head about who he is so you can truly met the person he is without your own judgments clouding that possible new friendship. HOWEVER, you should not pursue a romantic or sexual connection with someone who you do not find at all physically attractive. That is unkind to him and to yourself.
Will you eventually find him attractive? Probably not. That is very, very rarely how sexual attraction works.
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