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My friend Alex (male) was dating this girl who was a year younger than him. She was a freshman, and he was a sophmore. He finally got sick of her and he broke up with her. No one liked her at all, she was a slut, the ugliest girl he has ever dated, and a bitch. She played a joke on him and told him that she was pregnant. She wasn't even planning on telling him until a month later that it was just a joke. So, he did the dumbest thing he's ever done: he got back with her. Every single one of his friends freaked out on him! And he had this in his info: to everyone againsts my decisions , i cant make everyone happy and i wont , i gotta go with my heart , and i wont ignore it anymore. He told me after he had broken up with that girl that he had found this amazing girl and he said that she was perfect in every way except for the fact that she lived an hour away. Lord only knows what happened to her. He knows I can find him a decent girlfriend! This girl is no good at all. She's always hitting on his best friend who happens to be my boyfriend. What can I do to convince him that he's making the wrong choice? He's going to ruine his life with this girl! Please help! I don't go to the same school as my boyfriend Alex and his bitch and a half girlfriend. But they all do. (link)
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You can try to sway him, but don't expect him to give in easily or at all...he still has a lot of his life left to be single, it won't kill him :P
However, the best thing to do is sit him down and explain how you feel about the whole thing. About what she's done to him, about how she really doesn't love him and is likely to cheat on him the first chance she gets, about how much you just hate her. And just ask him to consider it, beg him to understand.
Beyond that, there's not much you can do, besides give HER a chance to cheat on them.
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Is it neccesary, in Witchcraft,or Wicca, To cast a cirlce even while doing a simple spell??Please answer, i need help. (link)
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Circles serve several purposes, depending on which religion you're practicing.
In Witchcraft, a circle is not absolutely necessary but is always helpful, and encourages the success of a given spell. Covens also increase the power of the spell, naturally.
In satanic practices a circle is necessary to retain the summoned demon, to protect you from harm as it is contained within the boundaries of the circle. You can look on the internet for suggested binding agents, they usually depend on the specific demon and purpose.
For Wicca, spells are not used as often and the Wicca oath to not harm others prevents most of the reasons people want to use spells in the first place. Wicca doesn't have a set ritual for its spells, as they vary from person to person and are based more on putting as much feeling into the spell as possible. The use of circles, covens, chanting, etc. serves as something you can use to help magnify or channel your feelings.
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i have a friend who is always complaining of being fat, but she isnt and she always says that no guys like her or will ever like her and all that is not true. she is a great girl and i love her to death. what can i tell her to make her realize that she is fine the way she is and someday she will find someone it is just a matter of time? (link)
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You should also check for anorexia and bulemia - don't be nosy or obvious about it, but if a sign exists note it - and if you see anything that suggests she may have either, consult with her parents about it. Both eating disorders are horrible things to leave unchecked, and she could start at any time as long as she views herself as hopelessly fat.
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I am at the end of my rope, I have been married almost two yrs to my High school sweetheart.(after a 18 yr seperation since high school)She has two kids age 13 and 10. I have two boys age 12 and 9. My problem is this, Her children disrespect me and lie to me and get away with murder, while I make my kids respect her and do what they are told. Her son 10, has A.d.d and cried to his dad so much, that he was taken off the prescribed medicine. His father was too proud to accept the fact that the boy needs the meds to concentrate. He repeatedly says this to his son until he is unbearable. He cried and cried to get his mom to stop the medicine, Because he didnt need it. He was an A student until a month or so ago, when his dad decided that he didnt need it. Since then the child is unruly .whiny, moody, throws temper tantrums, and lastly his grades have already dropped. Yesterday i checked the kids grades on the Internet, and he wnet from all A's to a D+, C, and a couple B's. He threw a temper tantrum, when told he was now grounded, and then blamed the teacher for his grades. He looked his mother in the face and screamed at her" you made me take medicine that I dont need. All while crying and throwing a fit. I said to my wife, if that isnt his dad talking i will kiss your a$$. I was the one reprimanded by her for saying that to her, not her sons bad grades. She then coddled him the remainder of the night. Herelies the problem, He calls the other kids names, he tattles, he Lies to my face, and He comes out smelling like a rose. He was grounded from his game boy, his brother asked to play one of his games, he said no, until i stepped in. The previous day he was allowed to play my other sons game boy because he was grounded from it for a bad grade. His mother made my son give him the gameboy because he forgot his at his dads house, yet said nothing when he wouldnt let the youngest use his. A little later the yougest son(of mine) said your being a jerk, and was immediately told to go to bed. Unlike her children, My son immediately complied and went to bed in tears. I am at the end, i just cant deal with this crap no more. I grew up with a step mother who acted the same way and it makes me sick to see my kids treated that way. My wife refuses to see this and it is ruining my marriage. Please Help. The question is How do I make my wife see this is going on, and stop it before its too late. (link)
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The other advice is better than I would have given, but I want to echo something at least some of them have said.
Get the kid back on the medication. It's practically necessary. *No one* can control a kid with ADHD unless he's medicated, they usually are so anti-authority that you could slice them with a knife whenever they disobeyed and they'd *still* disobey. He'll also ruin his relationships at school and in general very much regret the years in his life that he was under the effects of uncontrolled ADHD; I know I was.
If he refuses to take the medicine, find some way to get it to him without his noticing. I'm not sure if dissolving the medication in anything works; ask a psychiatrist or doctor knowledgeable in that sort of thing. Don't try to force it into him, unless you can keep him still for about 15/30 minutes to prevent him from throwing it up; once it hits his system, which is pretty quick with most ADHD medications, he can't do a thing about it.
He may hate you for it, but he hates you already, so no loss there. He may never thank you for it later, but you will have done the right thing regardless.
Oh, and you need to give your kids some extra love and kindness until this all runs down. They should still obey their mom, but soften things whenever they're punished; they see how her kids never listen to you and how you can't punish them, and if you don't make them feel special for obeying you they will grow to hate the other kids and may start disobeying you also.
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Ok so I have already gone to the doctor. I am taking medicine and a mulitvitamin. I am so tired. I don't even want to hear myself say it again. I am coughing up stuff, but it doesn't seem to me like it's getting any better. The worst thing is that I cannot sing.
It's mostly congestion. I have used cough drops, Nyquil, Vapor Rub. Took 3 baths last night trying to be able to breathe more clearly so I could sleep.
If I am not better by Monday, I am definitely calling the doctor again.
So has anyone got any bright ideas to how I can feel better? (link)
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A bad enough case of congestion is almost impossible to clear up, even with medication, which sucks :/
If you have Mono, some cases last a *long* time. I had a friend who had Mono for several months, so be prepared to deal with it.
I agree that Dayquil is better than Nyquil, usually I don't need much else...to help you stay awake and bring down any fever you may have, soak a cloth in cold water and wrap it around your neck, resoaking it whenever it loses the coldness; this always works wonders for headache and fever, although it does little for congestion.
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hey im 16/f, and i ahve guys come up to me liek all the time and ask for liek advice and stuff ...and a few of the s guys i have liked.. how can can i become sum1 tehy liek instead of turning out to be..oh she is like my sis...or she is my best friend....i relaly want to find sum1 to do stuff with and just haev a good time ..and all my friends have boy friends and i feel left out liek all teh time because tehy have som1 and i dont. HELP
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It's true that "I see you as just a friend" that kinda thing is an excuse that is used because the guy isn't into you, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or annoying or whatever, it's just that you don't have what the guy's looking for (which occasionally/often includes being okay with sex very quickly into the relationship :P ). It's sometimes true, though, for guys you've been friends with a *long* time.
Alright, there are two things to work with this.
One was already suggested...you're friends with guys who just don't look at you in a sexual manner. You need to bring the sexual part into the equation. Now, you don't need to necessarily outright flirt, but making sexual suggestions or jokes about them and other people is a good way to start. Over time, change the subject from them and other people to them and you. This'll at least make them consider it, and if they kind of like you, they'll start to look at you in a whole new light. And then you can always ask them :P
If guys asking for advice about girls just plain pisses you off because they never look at you that way, tell them so. Tell them that you think it isn't fair because you don't have a boyfriend. Insist that if they want your advice, they should at least try to help you find a boyfriend you can do stuff with too ;)
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I'm dating a guy he lives in CA I live in Tx. I'm 13 he's 15. We are in a very serious reationship. WE love each other with all our hearts, but latley I have the feeling that he just doesn't care. I'm in a stage where I just stoped cutting myself and I am in desperate need of attention, I know it may sound bitchy but I need attention from my bf. Is that a bad thing. We have been dating for about 18 months. I'm not quite sure what to do. Do I break up with him or stay with him? I'm just to confused. Someone help me
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Long distance relationships are hard to keep. The simple fact of the matter is that, unless you not only mesh extremely well, really care about each other, kind of need each other on top of that, aren't sex-crazy, don't need the personal/physical aspect as much, etc...things will eventually start to fade away.
I'm not saying it's impossible or it can't work out. But if he's kind of not giving you the attention you need it's not that he doesn't care, but that the major draw may have started to fade. However, if he feels for you like you feel for him, then if you tell him what's bothering you, things should pick up again; I've always made it a point to be there for anyone I know online, regardless of how much it interfered with my personal life.
Breaking up with him would be hard on you unless you have someone else who can give you the same love and support, because at this point in time you're very much in need of someone who obviously loves you for you, and cares more about you than most anyone else. If you don't know such a person, and your boyfriend ends up not picking things up, I don't mind being that person *grins*. But if you have someone closer, that's a much better choice.
Don''t try to go without *anyone*, not at this point in time, it's very hard to do so even if you aren't emotionally high-strung.
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Hey, okay this is kinda weird for me to ask...but is it wrong for you to have a bf, or well, not a bf..but I mean at my skewl when you say bf, it's someone you just say you're goin out with, and not actually do anything besides hold hands, and im not sure but maybe kiss..at school...thats it..so is it wrong for you to have one without your parents' permission...like,i mean, not the kind where i haven't asked them cause I'm afraid of their answer, I mean I haven't asked them cause I KNOW their answer, because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way, and so at my school...and there's this guy I like on and off..and he flirts with me...and all that. but even for the future..an I asked my sister if it's okay with her anyway coz even though she's not allowed she had 2 before without my parents finding out, but she said no, it's better not to...so is it okay for me to go ahead when they've all said no, because it's not fair, and it's my life..and even though I'm young, I know it has nothing to with age, they will never let me have a bf in their right minds...i dunno...life is pretty horrible for me right now..my parents are really mean besides that too...so i'm confused. Plz help m and answer my question. Thanx. I'm really sorry this was soo long. THX (link)
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Okay, this really depends on where you live. I assume when you say "because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way," you're saying you're in a country other than America, where traditions and such are different.
There are some countries, particularly in the Middle East and other primarily Muslim/Arabic/[possibly even Oriental] nations where parental consent is required even for dating. These are usually the same nations where you can't even go out without a parent or guardian.
Assuming you're not in an overtly religious state, it's usually okay. If your parents forbid you, then it gets touchy, but it probably won't reach that point anytime soon.
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I have a math test tomorrow and I really don't understand some of the stuff! We're doing subtraction of postive and negative integers. Some examples are:
3 - (-6)
40 - (-14)
17 - 15
Can anyone please give me the answers to these problems and tell me how you got that answer? PLEASE HELP ME!!! I'll rate 5's!!!
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Here's an easier way to remember this.
What is a plus sign? It's two minus signs crossing each other, right?
So if you have two minus signs between numbers, those signs should be crossing each other; there should be an addition sign there instead.
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14/f i have trouble with cutting my self and i really dont kno what to do!!! any advice would be nice! (link)
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...I need more information. You do need another outlet, but getting out of the habit of cutting yourself is a long and hard road.
The better way is to directly address the problem that's causing you to do this, but once again, I need more information in order to do so. Psychologists are always kind of helpful, but in some situations they simply won't do because they're passive and paid.
That said, I'm willing to listen, if you're willing to talk, and I'll do all I can to help you stop this destructive habit.
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Ok, I met this one guy online and my one friend showed me who he was and showed him who I was. And we've been talking online for a while now. I was talking to him a while ago and he was like dropping hints that he liked me and stuff. And then his one friend was telling me about how he always talks about me and everything. He asked me to go out with him and I told him I didn't know, so now everytime I talk to the guy that likes me's friend he asks me to go out with him. The guy that likes me told me that he really wants to talk to me in school, but he likes me to much and is afriad and I dunno why. I don't want to talk to him at school until he talks to me. I still always talk to him online and everything but I don't know what to do about him. He tells my friend all this stuff like she's so hott everytime I'm gonna go up and talk to her I lose everything I was going to say she is so beautiful. I was thinking omg when she told me that and I didn't know what to say. He still hasn't talked to me, and I don't know what to do! Someone please help me! (link)
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My suggestion would be to make the step yourself. You seem to be fairly outgoing, but even if you're kinda shy, you should be able to take the step because you aren't so obsessed. He'll calm down over time, but at this point he'll be almost incapable of taking any risks associated with you because his mind can't cope with getting rejected by someone who's so important to him.
If you DON'T want a relationship with him, then tell him so, and do explain why (truthfully why), preferably in person but online if you have to. You'll be talking solely online for awhile, but eventually he should relax and you'll be able to talk in person.
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I have pursued modeling for over a year now, but lately I don't really know if I want to become a model. I am 5'4" to begin with. My height discourages me a little,but I feel likes it's more than that. Am I just trying to get validation for my looks? I don't know if modeling is even my style. I like to pose and take pictures, but I don't know that I want that instability w/ trying to break into the industry and trying to get discovered. I really need help. I don't know what to do. I don't know what I would do as a career. I am F/21 (link)
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The basic problem with trying to break into the model industry with a significant disadvantage - such as your height - is that most established people in the industry, those who make the choices, see so many potential models go by that they simply discard anyone that doesn't fit ideal characteristics; it helps narrow things down and still gives them enough models to still have to make harder choices.
Simply put, it's going to be very very hard to find a place that'll accept you as a regular model. When someone designs clothing and makes a piece to be modeled, they rarely make it for someone as short as you; the clothes won't fit well without alterations, which causes headaches for the agencies. Moreover, the whole beauty component of the model tends to include a somewhat tall woman.
I'm not saying it's impossible, I'm saying there are serious roadblocks that you will have to fight constantly if you continue to pursue the path of a model.
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I'm not even sure if I'm allowed to post these type of questions on this site... but... what they heck...this is actually an english-y type question... you see, I was just wondering... there's this quote that I heard and liked the sound of, but I dont really understand it... maybe some adults in here (or some really smart teens) could explain it to me please... *batts eyelashes*?? anyway, the quote is... "All is fair in love and war" please answer... i know this is a boring question; i rate high!!! (link)
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I could give my interpretation, but people have already done that. So I'll give you the expert's interpretation, based on its origin and its use in popular culture.
ALL'S FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR -- "The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war. The proverb has been traced back to John Lyly's 'Euphues' (1578). First attested in the United States in 'Horse-Shoe Robinson' (1835). The proverb is found in varying forms. The proverb is frequently used to justify cheating." From "Random House Dictionary of Popular Proverbs and Sayings" by Gregory Y. Titelman ( Random House, N.Y., 1996).
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My best friend in the world asked me to our Junior Prom. I have a HUGE secret crush on him too so I'm really happy he asked me. I have no idea if he likes more than a friend or not, but I guess that's beside the point. Anyway, We've been best friends for abbout 6 months now. He asked this other girl about 2 months ago who he liked and at the time they were kind of "together." She said yes but then about 2 weeks later they broke it off and she got another bf and then she nvm about going to Prom with him.. Then about a month later he asked me.. I dont know I guess I feel like his "back up" or his "second choice" because the first girl who he liked said no... i told him how i felt and he said that it's not even like that.. He said that ofcourse his first choice would be like his gf or a girl that he's "intimite" with. He said that if that didn't work out he'd only want to take his best friend, which is me.. What do u think.. I guess I feel like this only because i really like him.. If i didn't like him more than a friend then I probably wouldn't feel this way.. What do you guys think? (please don't say that I should tell him how i feel because I would never. In his eyes, we are like brother and sister.) Thanks! (link)
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*nods* Hmmm...well, here's my thinking. Suppose, for a minute, that he had no girlfriend when he started thinking of who to ask for prom. Unless there's something that I don't know changing things, he would have undoubtedly asked you.
Therefore, he's speaking the truth when he said that she took precedence since she was his girlfriend. There's simply no choice when you have a girlfriend, and he might have actually preferred to go with you, but you won't know that because you won't ask ;x
Just go with him, enjoy yourself, and know that you two are so close at that moment in time. It's your first Prom, you should have a wonderful time, and maybe his being your date may even make it kinda magical ;)
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Since I am in 8th grade, I have recently been thinking about high school and where I will be going, what courses I will be taking, etc. Right now I have a transfer to a school other than the one I am supposed to attend because I am a 'gifted' student and the school I was required to attend before I received my transfer did not have courses that would challenge me academically. While attending this school, I have made many friends of different levels of intellegence. One of my best friends is someone I never would've met if I hadn't attended this new school. She is a major part of my life and I don't want to lose her. She has helped me through some of the roughest times in my life thus far. Lately, we've been arguing and not getting along very well, but we still manage to stay friends. I really don't want to lose her. Right now, I get to see her quite frequently because we are at the same school, but next year, I'm afraid I won't be able to have this oppurtunity. She will be going to SHS and I will most likely have to go to LHS. I can most likely get another transfer, but this would majorly upset my dad because almost our entire family for the past four generations has gone to LHS. I was tlaking to my mom about it and she said my dad was really upset. Now I don't want my dad to be upset if I go to SHS but I don't want to lose my friend if I go to LHS. The only time I would be able to see her would be on weekends and at church events. She's been here for me for the past 2 years and I'm really sick of having to lose my best friend every couple of years. The people I would be attending school with at LHS are people I was friends with K-3rd grade, but I haven't seen them in almost 6 years and that is a really long time. I don't even know if they'd recognize me. I'm really lost and I just don't know what to do. I would really appreciate each and every one of your opinions and I will rate high even if you attempt to help me. Thank-you in advance! ~Brit (link)
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Phone calls can keep a friendship pretty well, but you will lose the easier, more casual part of it that comes from having similar experiences.
Which HS, academically, is better for you, or is there really a difference? If one is better, that's probably the better choice. Usually parents aren't as heavily into the HS as they are into college, so it shouldn't break your parents' hearts if you did go somewhere else. And if it does, then they're petty, selfish people anyway :x
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I think I may have a blatter infection. This may sound gross, if it does, I'm sorry. Alot of times whenever I need to use the restroom, I feel like I need to REALLY bad. I try to go, but only a very little comes out and then I get this sharp pain near my blatter and it hurts really bad. When I wipe myself, it looks as if I was bleeding a little down there and I'm not due to get my period for another few weeks. I've been drinking so many liquids all day to try to make myself go to the bathroom, but it just makes it even worse because I still can't go! I'm going to be making an appointment with my doctor to see what the problem may be but in the mean time, I just need a heads up on what might be wrong with me. Can anyone help? I'm a 15 year old female. (link)
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It's fairly rare, but possible, that if when you go to the doctor and they do a urine test and bacteria *isn't* found, you may have IC. Again, it's rare in someone as young as you are, but it can hardly be ruled out as impossible.
More here http://my.webmd.com/content/article/12/1689_51075.htm
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i moved this summer and was really, really worried about not being able to make new friends. my friends said that i would make friends in no time, and i did. but last weekend, i called my freind, and when i said i had to go, she asks, "why?" and i told her that i was going over to my new friends house, and she got all huffy and mad. its like she doesnt want me to make friends! i dont get her! it is confusing me alot, so if anyone has any good advice, please tell me.
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She's not mad that you made a new friend, she's mad that you cut her off because of this new friend.
She is kind of jealous, and you need to assure her that you'll still be good friends with her, but that there are other people you want to be friends with also, and you feel it's kind of unfair that she wants you to ignore them for her; unfair not only to them, but to you also.
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I have known my best freind for about 4 years, and we are super close we never used to fight and always agreeded on things. Now I feel like shes leaving me out purposley, and I feel like I wait all day for her to call to do somthing, and I'll do whatever she wants as long as i want to also. But whenever i cant go right at that second she ditches me. Now the littlest things get us in fights and i get mad at her for stupid things. I know that its stupid, but am I just being oversensitive in thinking shes leaving me out? (link)
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She is kinda leaving you out, but don't blame her for it, talk to her about it. People naturally drift apart over time as they mature; it's pretty much a fact of life, fighting to keep something that just doesn't come naturally isn't going to work.
You can still be friends, and you should aim for that, but it's not likely you'll do everything together like you used to. Try to get close to someone else, but don't ignore this friend, just make things a bit more casual.
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well see my brother and sister are both in college *my sister is a senior,my brother is a junior* and ive been REALLY REALLY missing them..now that they are in college im the only kid at home and i hate it sooo much! some ppl say that i need to get over it and not worry about them..but i cant help it i truley miss them like woah!!! i also have these awful dreams about ppl in my family dying..i always wake up crying and my mom tells me not to worry about it *cause i always going into her room at night and cry my eyes out* but i really cant help it..shes suggested going to the doctor about it..but i dont know if i want to..help? (link)
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You obviously spent a lot of time with them when they were home instead of at college, so they probably would love talking to you; the advice above is really good for that.
Although I'm not sure, your missing them most likely stems from the fact that they were the only people you really trusted, or they were the people you spent the majority of your time with. They left a void in your life that you have yet to fill, and you're missing them badly because of it.
The best way to solve this, if you can't talk to them or simply talking doesn't do enough because they're more distant or whatever, is to have someone else step in their place. If they were the only people you trusted, and you really don't want to see a psychologist, you can always just talk to me, since I'm always online, and I never judge ;) . If you just spent a lot of time with them, it's harder to fill that...you need to find more or closer friends, and start doing things with them more often. The relationship may not be as strong, but the important thing is that you feel wanted, and that you have people you do stuff with.
Try the advice from the user above, and take further steps if that isn't enough...
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On Valentine's Day, I got a note in my locker that had a poem in it, and it was signed Secret Admirer. At first, I thought it was just this guy, right? And I go around laughing about it. And then I get a second note today, which tells me that the person is a girl. She says that she really likes me, but if I don't like girls, no hard feelings. I know who it is, because I asked a couple people and I just got this feeling. The person who wrote it is a really close friend of mine, and I feel awkward around her now, even though she doesn't know that I know. What should I do? And I can't even rule out the possibility that I might be gay, even though I think I'm straight. I might be bi. I don't know. What do people think? (link)
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You never said you didn't like *her*. Think about how you feel about her; coming from a person who's experimented with homosexuality, if you think she's kinda hot, this is probably the best time to find out.
You never know for sure unless you try it; I don't care what anyone says. You have to be honest with yourself when you ask if you like her sexually and get a "no way"; does that come because you really don't like her that way, or because lesbianism is such a repellent thing to most people until college?
I applaud your open-mindednness in this situation. It's really your choice, but if you're inclined to try, go for it. Either way be honest to her about the way you feel, and the awkwardness should disappear. If you're both too shy to make the move, but want to, and you're into drinking, have a night somewhere private, just the two of you, and the alcohol should help loosen you a bit.
Sex with someone of the same gender can be an amazing experience, because they almost always understand you a lot better than the other sex, and feelings run a lot stronge...plus, between girls, the sex is really really nice *grins*. It also makes for a really trusting relationship that you may be glad to have.
But she's okay with it if you're not into her, she said so with the letter, so if you really aren't then just tell her and help her with the crash she may very well feel; you are really close friends after all. Don't let it drive you two apart; stay close and honest, she may really need it, you may be the only person she really trusts with her homosexual urges.
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