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Lesbianism
On Valentine's Day, I got a note in my locker that had a poem in it, and it was signed Secret Admirer. At first, I thought it was just this guy, right? And I go around laughing about it. And then I get a second note today, which tells me that the person is a girl. She says that she really likes me, but if I don't like girls, no hard feelings. I know who it is, because I asked a couple people and I just got this feeling. The person who wrote it is a really close friend of mine, and I feel awkward around her now, even though she doesn't know that I know. What should I do? And I can't even rule out the possibility that I might be gay, even though I think I'm straight. I might be bi. I don't know. What do people think?
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Well no offense, but im sorry i cant tell how you feel about yourself because im not you. So dont go around asking idiot questions bout how your suppost to feel or some crap like that.
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You never said you didn't like *her*. Think about how you feel about her; coming from a person who's experimented with homosexuality, if you think she's kinda hot, this is probably the best time to find out.
You never know for sure unless you try it; I don't care what anyone says. You have to be honest with yourself when you ask if you like her sexually and get a "no way"; does that come because you really don't like her that way, or because lesbianism is such a repellent thing to most people until college?
I applaud your open-mindednness in this situation. It's really your choice, but if you're inclined to try, go for it. Either way be honest to her about the way you feel, and the awkwardness should disappear. If you're both too shy to make the move, but want to, and you're into drinking, have a night somewhere private, just the two of you, and the alcohol should help loosen you a bit.
Sex with someone of the same gender can be an amazing experience, because they almost always understand you a lot better than the other sex, and feelings run a lot stronge...plus, between girls, the sex is really really nice *grins*. It also makes for a really trusting relationship that you may be glad to have.
But she's okay with it if you're not into her, she said so with the letter, so if you really aren't then just tell her and help her with the crash she may very well feel; you are really close friends after all. Don't let it drive you two apart; stay close and honest, she may really need it, you may be the only person she really trusts with her homosexual urges.
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well if its your friend maybe you should tell her that you know and you dont feel your ready to experament with girls yet.and if shes your friend she should understand that and she wont hit on you. but if you tell her you might be open to experament with girls just tell her to take it slow and easy because your not sure what you wan to do.
hope i helped in some way
allie
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just go right out and tell her that you know-and you don't like girls. in fact, it's not even necessary to tell her that, just that you don't like her...not like that anyway. and that it's got nothing to do with anything but the fact that you don't see her as anything more than a friend. basically what you would do with a guy you don't like- this shouldn't be too different.
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If you don't have feelings for this girl, then you aren't a bisexual. It's alright to feel awkward, since your close friend wrote this note. You definitely need to talk to this girl and tell her that you don't like her and you can do this by writing her a note back or emailing her. You aren't a bisexual because like you said, you can't rule out the possibility thinking that you are one. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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if u dont feel atracted to her then you rnt bi and are strate but u need to tell her you kno it was her and you dont like her that way but no matter what you will always be her bes friend. but being bi well there is nothing wrong with that i didnt think i was bi but my friend asked me out and i said yes, just to expiriment, and turns out im bi, so its up to you
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You and your friend should meet up somewhere quiet where you can be alone to tlak.You should first ask her if it was her who wrote the note to you,dont jump to conclusions,even if you do have a gut feeling that it might be her.If she admits that it was her,tell her exactly how you feel.If you wish to just remain friends,then tell her that.If she doesnt understand or give you the space that you need,then shes obviously not a good friend.
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I suggest you leave a note somewhere that she can get it without knowing that you know its her. write on the note that no, you dont like girls, no hard feelings. and she ever has to know you know its her. thats the most polite thing you can do.
~ANGE
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