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frienship/guys
hey im 16/f, and i ahve guys come up to me liek all the time and ask for liek advice and stuff ...and a few of the s guys i have liked.. how can can i become sum1 tehy liek instead of turning out to be..oh she is like my sis...or she is my best friend....i relaly want to find sum1 to do stuff with and just haev a good time ..and all my friends have boy friends and i feel left out liek all teh time because tehy have som1 and i dont. HELP
~aM
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It's true that "I see you as just a friend" that kinda thing is an excuse that is used because the guy isn't into you, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or annoying or whatever, it's just that you don't have what the guy's looking for (which occasionally/often includes being okay with sex very quickly into the relationship :P ). It's sometimes true, though, for guys you've been friends with a *long* time.
Alright, there are two things to work with this.
One was already suggested...you're friends with guys who just don't look at you in a sexual manner. You need to bring the sexual part into the equation. Now, you don't need to necessarily outright flirt, but making sexual suggestions or jokes about them and other people is a good way to start. Over time, change the subject from them and other people to them and you. This'll at least make them consider it, and if they kind of like you, they'll start to look at you in a whole new light. And then you can always ask them :P
If guys asking for advice about girls just plain pisses you off because they never look at you that way, tell them so. Tell them that you think it isn't fair because you don't have a boyfriend. Insist that if they want your advice, they should at least try to help you find a boyfriend you can do stuff with too ;)
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you've got yourself facing the wrong way.
you're already there.
they like you so much that they come to you for ADVICE! many guys are extreamy hmm., like secretive, about that kind of stuff, they dont tell just anyone, let me tell you. i know plenty to tell you that. you should feel good about that too! Also, they may just want to be good friends, but friendship is the biggest step to love, you'd probably- you know it too- would love to be bestfriend with someone before dating them. Also I am bestfreind with my boyfriend, and its great! :) I know that alot of my freinds would love to be bestfreind with their boyfriends too. I think that you should be able to go to your significant other, if you will, with anything, and most people cant do that!!!!
GIRL YOU'RE SO LUCKY!!!!!!!!!!
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Hope I Helped-
Always There;
*KeLs*
P.S.= If You Ever Need Advice, Leave One In My Inbox. :-) Kels
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Guy friends asking for advice is not a bad thing. It shows that they trust you with their problems and that they feel comfortable enough with you to tell you anything. From personal experience it's better to be really good friends with a guy before going out. Do you happen to like any of these guy friends? I'm sure one of these guys likes you but is just to shy to say anything.
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hey i had the same problem. You just gotta find a guy that will accept you. I ono bout you but I was "one of the guys" because I liked sports more than shopping, but I finally found guys that loved that about me. You could try flirting with the guys you like or being flat honest and tell them that its hard on you for htem to as about all your friends and stuff when no one asks about you. Find a guy you really trust and talk to him about it. He might be more helpful! I hope I helped somewhat.
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